Community Equals Connection

in business. So I wanted to kind of give you like a rundown of Like, so y'all know, I went on vacation. I don't know if you know, but I did. And every quarter I try to take about a month off. So February I've been taking pretty light. And I just got back yesterday from Dubai and Tanzania or Tanzania dependent if you want to get well. Actually, I would say

I didn't go to mainland Tanzania. I went to Zanzibar, which is still part of Tanzania, and it was amazing and I learned some amazing lessons that I wanted to share with you. Actually, I think I want to call this episode It's all about the Community, Baby, because that

was the reason why I initially went to Dubai. So some months ago or some weeks ago, I had prayed and said, hey, you know, I've got such good family and friends and people that I care about in my kind of like personal community, but I had not done the work to develop a professional community, if you will. And I'm realizing all things community is critical. Like me and our producer in Minding, she and I were just talking about like getting cue leaning into our feminine and

I was like, girl, I got my lash. Lady, Hey, Jessica a Springfield spa in Springfield, New Jury. I mean the lastes be lashing, not too much. Jessicause is a queen of natural lash. So if you're watching me on video, you're like, she got lashes on exactly. I woke up like this as far as you know, right, and then I got my brow. Lady, you already know I love. Oh where's Sarah from Pharah of whole splash of what

this guy gotta shot her out? She's a sister and she is amazing, and oh what is Sarah's I gotta find it because she I like to shot Pharah out? Oh secret to plush right, So she's right here and is that Newark. I think that's New Work's secret of Plush. Her name is Sarah. Don't nobody do brows like Pharah. If you when you find someone in your community of people that you know, keep up your physical upkeep, like

you know how men are with their barbers. When you find someone who not only does the thing, but also loves to do the thing, and then on top of that, educates about the thing, that's how you know you found a winter rent a chicken dinner, honey. So I'll be talking about secrets to Plush and Pharah because I want her to stay open, okay, because I need these brows done, Don't nobody. I have never had my brows done like

this before. I've been going to the same lady Lisa and a nail salon since I was fourteen years old in Plainfield, New Jersey. Shout out to Nails three thousand. But anybody trying to drive forty five minutes all the way the plain Field to get their brows done and to get cussed out in Chinese cat Lisa, that's my own girl, But she'd be cussing me out because I would take so long. If farre is super closed. But also it's nice to support like a black woman own

business and secrets. And plus she's just really kind, really nice, does a great job. Sore on the brows. My skin been skinning lately, Okay, go ahead all over to YouTube and so like, I just been taking care of my skin, okay, And if you're watching now, it looks like I cut

my hair. I did not. For the first time, I am trying something called what are those things called the pipe cleaner curls because one thing I learned because I have a naturally long, beautiful face and with a long face, I learned from the YouTube girlies that long hair sometimes elongates your face is not as flattering. So instead I learned that like ooh, hair up, which you guys see me put my hair up a lot, or hair big to give you volume, actually is more flattering. I was

like em. And so another part of my beauty community, Leela, who does my beat whenever I'm on TV. Leila Nima, also does hair. So she came to my house before I left for vacation put the pipe cleaner. I bought some black pipe cleaners off of Amazon. She put them in.

So I'm walking like the little Literally they're almost like enrollers, but it looks really cute and then I'm gonna take them out tomorrow or she gonna because I'm speaking at a meta event meta as in Facebook International Women's Day Breakfast, so they want me to speak, okay, and so she's gonna take my curls out and do my face for that event. So I just heare all that to say

that in all areas, having community is critical. That as y'all know, I'm leaning into my feminine even more and or just in general because I could be rough and tumple tom boy, and so I have I gathered a community of people that I lean into for I just someone hit me the other day was like, I'd love to do your nails. I see you never have them done. I was like, first of all, shady, but you're right, I don't. So I had them done now, thanks girl. So community in all areas of your life is important.

So all I've been really good for the last few years of the community of my sisters and staying connected there. You know, I have four sisters, my parents who are called regularly my neighbors, Like this morning before I went for my walk, like sometimes after trash day. You know how like sometimes there's just garbage on the street because your garbage can is knocked over, and just like I hate that look. I don't want to come home and

see not a piece of straw on the ground. So I woke up this morning and I cleaned the front of my house, my neighbor's house and house across the street and put some gloves on because that's part of community. And it is not possible, especially in this day and age,

to navigate without community. And so that's what brought me to do by because I said, I prayed that I want professional community because I've got my beauty community, I've got my personal community, my family community, but I didn't really have people in the professional space that I could really go to like I used to. I mean, I certainly have some mentors, but community community. And I had my first Mastermind session at my friend's house in Dallas.

She's been very successful in business, and it was like a black girl business session. Is six of us. Let me see, I'm not gonna name names because I don't know everybody wants to be named. So I'm like r D D T me T. I feel like I'm missing somebody else. So yeah, I want to say, oh an, m okay, so five success seven of us. So seven dope black girls, some of them in the financial space, some of them not who've been slaying. And it was just it was awesome because no one understands you in

business like a sister who's also in business. I mean, we shared everything from like what's going right in business, what's going wrong, but also our personal lives, the things that we're wanting for ourselves as women, as mothers, as wives, as everything. It was just amazing. I did that in Dallas in January December, and it totally changed the trajectory of how I look at my business and even myself.

Some of the advice they gave me has just shifted me and my business dramatically in a way that's so positive and upflifting. I'm excited about. And then as results of meeting up with those women in December, one of those women had had a conference in January and Puerto Rico and she said come and so she was like, you got worried about like me and all this conference course cooling. She said, you got worried about all that, Just get yourself down to Puerto Rico. So I flew

to Puerto Rico. Some other of the women from the Black Girl we actually call ourselves. We called the Bad Bitch Collective. I think the Bad Bitch collected something like that, and so we have like a text group and everything, and so some of us came down to support her her conference. It was amazing. I met even more amazing people, two of which I'm hiring to do some like business things for me that I've been looking for, and so it was amazing to support her, but also it was

amazing to enhance my community with other women. So that was awesome. And then I got an invite to go to Dubai for another Mastermind. And at first I didn't want to go to Dubai because y'all know, I didn't have the greatest time the first time went a year or so ago for my sister's birthday. But I decided, well, I'm not going, you know, for partying. We're going to Mastermind. And it was really interesting because it wasn't black women. There was one black women there, but it was a

wider swathe. Like the woman who invited us, she's Japanese. One of the most follow up people on TikTok on comes to personal finance. I'm trying to think Ali he's Pakistani. Other one was Chinese herself. Another person he's I think Carlos is Latina. So it was an amazing group, a mixed like group of very successful entrepreneurs and to be able to kind of learn from them. So I learned a lot about some things that I could be doing better.

But also it was a great highlight to see how well I was doing, because sometimes you don't know, and just to hear how they were blown away by some of the things I'd accomplished. Because there's some of the biggest in their space. You know, if I said their name, you'd be like, what you know? And so to hear that they were like, wait whatan that's incredible. I'm like, okay, my numbers are incredible, but your numbers are incredible too. So it was just really amazing to each of these masterminds.

It was two ways. One, I love the fact that they were free. I had never paid for a mastermind. I'm not opposed to it, but a lot of folks there had paid for masterminds up to sixty thousand dollars, and they said like this is way better, you know than the paid masterminds that they've been a part of. And so what I loved about these masterminds is usually for both of them, day one, it's the day that you give here is what I know, This is what

I can teach you. And so I taught how to build community, you know, because you know I have my dream catchers, and how to build and monetize your community ethically and with integrity. So that's what I taught. And then on the second day, you got to say, here's where I'm struggling, and they got to pour into you to give you their tools, tips and resources about what you can do to make things better, I mean, And some of the feedback I got was just so incredible.

I was literally talking to my team today excitedly, like, Yo, we're switching up all these things and to take our business to the next level. And so I just share all that to say that you only can know and do what you know how to know and do, and sometimes what you've been really good at is no longer good to the world, meaning like you might do business, or you might in your job, or even skincare or health care, whatever it is that it worked once upon a time, but you got stuck there, and I know

I have and so many of us have. And you become good at a bad thing? Did you do what I said? You become good at a bad thing? And I was getting really good because I work hard at bad things and bad not as in judgment bad, but as in not effective. You know, Like when I was in high school, I used to use Apricot scrub for my skin. Remember that Apricot scrub, child, That stuff used to turn your skin up. But at the time I thought I was doing like such a good job and

my skin was glowing or whatever. That stuff was terrible for you. But as I grew and learned, I realized, especially as you get older, you really don't want to be harsh to your skin. And so the only way for me to learn that is I had to introduce a dermatologist to my team. I had to ask other people who had great skin to my team. I followed skin influencers on social media, and so I started to build my community so I can learn something new, so

I can do something new. So many of us are not getting the success, whether it's the way you look, whether it's your business where you work. So many of you are stuck not because you're not hard workers. It's because you don't have any new information. You are good at the bad things, things that maybe used to be good, no longer work, no longer viable, no longer helpful. And it's not because you do anything wrong. The world evolves

and changes and you need to as well. And before my husband passed away, I was really good at pre pivoting seeing like this, I'm working no more, or this is not going to work in two years, let's put in work now. But after he passed away, I'm being honest, I just was not. I just was not present in the business rightfully. So you know, I'm just kind of coming back to a place where I'm like in the

business now. And so normally it wouldn't have gone this far, like as far as like my business being really good at bad things, because I would have picked up on it sooner and pivoted. But I did it. But so here we are. And but as a result, I have done as much as I know how to do, and so I realized it is beyond what I know to do. It is let me ask for advice from people who are doing, you know, and inject new ideas, new thoughts, new ways, so I could become good at good things. Again,

does that make sense? I just think about that, like in all areas, like the way I used to do my brows before. I remember, like I used to be really passive in so many areas of my life, certainly not in business. But I'll give you like a beauty example, right, So I was like passive in like my brows. I would get them done. They would look cute for a week and then start to look raggedy, and then after

two weeks you get them done. Then one day I said, Tiffany, why don't you ask Pharah what is it that thing that you use in my brows? And She's like, oh, this is a penzil, this is the gel, this is the So all of a sudden, no, I'm not doing my own brows, but I would able to maintain and upkeep them longer so they look like how Farah had done them longer, just by asking what are you doing? Sis? Who are you using? Okay, I just I mean in all areas, you know, so many times we don't ask

those questions, how did you do that? What are you doing? You know? You know, what should I be doing? What are your thoughts. You know, what are you reading, what podcasts are you listening to? How are you bringing in new thoughts or ideas into your life? You know, everything from lashes right, Like I was going to this last that I really love it. I asked Leela who does my face? And she said, you know whose lashes are

actually really nice? I said who? She said, Alissa. Now if y'all know all listen, is my seventeen year old sassy pants stepdaughter. And I was like really last, She's like, yeah, I did, because Alyssa had asked me. She said, Tippy, I want to. She wanted to do her senior pictures and she wanted to get her makeup done and I said okay, and she asked Leela could do it? Aka, Can I pay for it? And I said, of course.

Plus I knew Leela is. She knew I'd rather Leila do Alyssa's makeup because she knows that have her look like the seventeen year old beautiful girl. She is not like some grown woman so light because Alyssa's beautiful anyway, right, she don't need all that? But I said sure. So she came to the house. Lida had done her makeup. I guess Leila had seen how like Alyssa gets lashes because you know, she's seventeen going on forty five, but

they're natural looking. And I didn't even know she was getting lashes uptown natural And Leila said, you know, Alisa gets lashes and I can tell by who's doing them that they know what they're doing. And I was like, really, but I could not have known that because when I didn't know and Listen was doing last, had I not asked Leela, Hey, I'm struggling with getting the right natural looking lash. Any suggestions, she said, Ask Alissa, I asked a list. Of course Alyiza knows, she said, ask my mama.

So I hit up Sean Tables, Like, girl, where did you take a listen to get her lashes? She told me Springfield spog Or hit up Jessica in Springfield, New Jersey. There was a group on and I did it, honey, like I love it. I mean, I don't want stuff of love with gas slashes. I want you to be like, are those herbs exactly? Exactly? So if you are feeling stuck, if you are like I don't know the way to go, it means that you have maximized your options based upon

your current library of knowledge. There's nothing wrong with that, great congratulations. It means you have to introduce new books, new thoughts, new theories into your circle so you can do something new. Ask The question hasis what are you for your skin? Hasis what podcasts are you listen to that really transformed the way you did your business? Hasis what books are you reading that help with your relationship? Hey? Bro? You know, like, you know, how did you get your

back like that? You know what exercises the gym are you using? You know? Are you asking for like more information so you can act upon this new stuff. So the other day I had like this like aha moment when I thought to myself, I said, because, like I said, I went to Dubai. I went to this mastermind. It was only like two or three days. And I said, I'm not flying all the way to Dubai for two or three days, you thought. So my friend who came with me, well, she was there because she's friends with

the woman who hosted the mastermind. She said she was going to go someplace after I said, girl, I'll roll with you wherever that is. So we went back and forth, maybe Singapore, maybe Rwanda, and we decided on Zanzibar, which is an island right outside of Tanzania. So Zanza Bar is part of Tanzania, but it used to be two separate. It used to be Tanka, Nika and Zanza Bar. And then they, the presidents of those two countries, sat down

and said let's be one. And so anyway, Zanzibar is an island right outside of mainland Tanzania and a friend of mine. Again I reached out to my community. I said, hey, Avida, she owns a company called No Madness, which is a She is the grandmother of black travel and so No Madness not just black people weren't traveling before, but she started No Madness right when social media was becoming a thing and really helped to elevate and expose black travel

for the amazing opportunity that it was. So anyway, I called a vita because community, I said, why should I figure this out myself? Girl Avida literally does this for a living. And I said where should I go? She said maybe Thailand Rwanda than Zanza Bar. And she gave me like these voice notes explaining each place and what I can expect. I was like, this is great. So I hit up my friend who I was traveling with.

I said, here are the three places that my friend A Vita suggested, and she said, let's do Zanzabar because it's very beachy. And I said, okay, let's do that, and we went to Zanzabar again. The beautiful thing about community is not just the knowledge, but the connection. Avida said, let me connect you to my girl homegirl that lives in Zanzibar. I said, okay, Avida, send the WhatsApp message between me and this girl named Justa, another sister, and

she said, this is Justa's website curious on Tanzania. And I said, wait a minute, that looks familiar. I went to the website. I said, I remember this lady I met Justa some years ago. She had to pop up shop in Brooklyn and I bought some African print clothing and if I remember, we took a picture Chaw. I ran to the Googles, my Google Photos typed in African print clothing two thousand and thirteen. I have a picture of me Justa and I don't know her niece or nephew,

and like taking a picture inside her apartment. I posted in the WhatsApp group. I said, oh my gosh, justa I don't know if you remember me, but I came to your house ten years ago, over ten years ago, and I told you I remember now. I told you I was going to come to Tanzania. She said, you know what she said, She said, Tiffany. I was just typing this to a Vida separately outside of this group chat.

She said, Avida, I love Tiffany. She won't remember me, but years some years ago she came to my apartment for a pop up and she told me. She was wearing her green bracelets and told me that one day she was going to be big and certain personal finance. And you look at she's done it. And she said, and here you are. Not only do you remember me, but you came with receipts with this picture. So it

was so wonderful. Just within a couple of days, planned a whole Zanza bar itinerary for myself and my friend. We stayed in Stonetown at the Park Hyatt, which is this luxurious hotel in the middle of town by all the markets and food and whatever, and then we drove to I don't even know, like what that part of Zanzibar's carter, but Stonetown is like in a town, the city, if you will. And then we stayed there one night and then two nights, and the most luxurious it's called

the Zawabi I think it was called hotel. There's only twelve bungalows and so my friend had one, I had one, and then you know, the ten other ones were rented out, I guess. So the serve impeccable, every server near your name, everything was included. It was right on my bungalow was on this cliff, and you could see the beach below sunset and sunrise was oh, just amazing. And then you

could walk down to the beach, which I did. If you saw any of my stories, I mean, you largely had this private beach almost always to yourself because only twelve people child. It was visually beautiful and stunning, and they painted everything these muted colors, so it was just

so calming and it was just incredible. And we spent three days there, two nights there, and then the next day we went to go visit the Massai, which is this amazing African tribe and got to learn about their tribe and their culture and did a spice tour, and I don't know what I thought the spice tore was going to be. Like they walked us through the woods. It was like, smell us leaf. You're like, that smells

like cinnamon, That is cinnamon. Smell this leep that smells like vanilla, that is vanilla, that is ginger, that is tumoric. Literally walking through this farm and seeing like all the spices that we love so much and what plant it actually grew from, and then the ability to buy you know, the dried ground fresh spices about cinnamon, tea, ginger tea, tumor tea. So that was an amazing experience because of what communit tea community and it was just an amazing experience.

If you ever think about thinking about going to Tanzania or a Zanzabar curious on Tanzania. She's on ig as well. But also I think that's her website shout out to justa another sister. Amazing. I just want us to understand that, like it is not possible to navigate this world successfully alone. I had this aha moment when I realized is that there are people who live in the studio apartment of their life in their head, you know, what I mean, meaning that like this limiting belief is like not me

my skin, this is just how my skin is. My mama's skin is like this. Oh you know, like this is the size I am. You know I've been tried to lose weight, or like, oh my hair just doesn't grow, you know, like I have four seeds, so my hair grows out. It'd be very easy for me must say, oh my haircrone, grow long. Meanwhile, my hair is the

middle of my back. Now, you know, like we live in this studio like apartment version of our life of limitations, and you are arguing for your own limitations and winning because you always gonna win the argument when you argue for your own limitations. And then there are some people who, by luck or advocacy for themselves say maybe there is more, Maybe there is a one bedroom of life I can live in. And they get to the one bedroom they're like, oh, this is available to me, and maybe there's a two

bedroom of life. There are some people who are living in the mansion of life, like the fullness of what life has to offer, from love to health, to wealth, to connection to family to friends. There are people who are living in the fullness of their life only because they asked the questions of how and who who do I need to lean into? My mentor said that best Lynette cowed finding Coxy. She said, so many of us are so stuck on Piggie, thinking that we have to

do the how all alone. And she said, it's not so much that how, it's the who can connect us. A Vida connected me to justa like Leela connect told me about Alyssa's last lady. Alissa told me to ask my mama. Her mama told me, Jessica, the reason why I found my brow Lady Pharaoh from Secret to Splash is my sister Carol. She came to the house, her lasses, her brows were looking amazing. We're like, where you get

Joe brows from? And she was like, oh, I found this place on groupon you know, Secret to Plush, I mean Secret to Plush and Pharaoh was so amazing all of a sudden, now me, not only me, the whole neighborhood. We all go. All the ladies in the neighborhood that we all hang out with, we all go to Phara now you know. And I just love that that like community equals connection. When I first got on TV for the first time. You know, I had never I didn't know how to get on TV. Literally, Lynette was like

my mentor. She was giving me a ride home from this event. She said, have you ever been on TV? I said no. She made a phone call to a producer at Picks eleven and said, hey, I know. I said I was going to come on next week, but I have somebody who should come on instead. Her name is Tiffany, the producer because it was her and Lynette had been doing TV for many, many years, said okay, and then she coached me that is a who, not

a how. And so we are not meant to navigate the challenges by ourselves, not financially, not personally, not anything. We are meant to live in a collective. And if you can't lean on your family, you could create your own collective. Do you speak to your neighbors? Do you join groups like there's a great group called Girl Trek where women, especially black women walk every week. So you're not going to be by yourself? Do you? Are you

a DreamCatcher? All these free groups that I have for people who are on their financial journey, the dreamcatchersgroup dot com, it's free. Are you there, like you don't have to navigate this place by yourself, and you ought not to because it's going to be through someone that you realize that there's more available. I don't want to look at my life when I'm eighty years old and think, wow, I could have had more and I was too scared or I had already I had accepted that life is

going to be less. I refuse, you know, after my husband passed away, after Durrell died, I didn't want to be here anymore, you know, I just was like, why what does it all matter? It's all going to be done anyway. And now I just realized that, like, eventually we all do go. And I don't know when that time is going to be for me. I don't know what that time is going to be for you. But in the meantime, I want to maximize love and family and life and business and health and wealth and beauty.

I want to get all that life has to offer. I do, and you can do that too. I want that for you. And so if you're not sure where to start, you know, start by building community around you. Do you leave the house, do you you know, can you work at a coworking space? You see people enough times. Hey girl, hey girl, her hair and now that's your best sie. Okay. You know, like do you talk to the cashier at the Whole Foods or the shopwright or the or wherever? You know? Do you you know, are

you part of your church group? Build intentional community and see how that totally transform your life. See how like you know, you can go from wherever you are to wherever you want to be, you know. And so yeah, I just wanted to share that community. I'm telling you, wait, give me a year. You gonna be like, oh, look at Tiffany, not even because girl, I'm fine now, but

I'm getting my whole life together. Oh. So we're gonna take a quick break and I'm coming back and do something be a oh no, we don't do b a QAUI until Friday. Well, I'm gonna come back with a brown boost brown break. We're gonna pay some bills. I am back and blacker than ever. Let's see brown boost it is time. How does a brown boots brown break? So I always forget wait it, Choe, I forgot bron Boosts brown Break. I can't remember that that on the flock manage used to here to like help drop my

memory time. Oh yeah, there you minding. My producer is like she reminded me, and now it's time to boost up. Break up, boost up, breakup, boost up? Break Are you gonna boost? Are you gonna break? What you're gonna do? What you're gonna think? Okay, am I gonna boosty or baregie? I actually am going to hm, I'm trying to think. What am I gonna do? Boot a breakoos A break? I am going to do a quick break and then I'm gonna do a boost because we got to end

in a high note, so quick break, yeah, child. It was ghetto when I came back to the OOSAF, the United States of America because when I landed in JMK, I mean I usually land in Newark because I live in Newark. You know, I have a what is it called not clear but a global entry. So it was literally minutes, you know, like they just you glide right in. But then they pulled me to the side talking about they gotta check through my bag cause I'm thinking, okay,

they're gonna open it. I mean it was a brother, he was nice, but they went through not I mean every bag, every piece of lotion, open up lipstick opened up. I was like, what are you looking for? The muffin? Man? It was crazy. I was like, I've never been. I mean, it got down to, like, you know, on vacation, I don't do laundry. I just bring if it's ten days, I'm bringing twenty days worth of underweary. So you know,

there was one of that he was opened. I said, before you opened it, I'm just letting you know those that's my underwear, do with that with the information, and I ain't do no laundry, Like how you want? That was the one bag. He was like, I'm gonna let that go. I said, yeah, you might want, you might want to let that go. I don't know. It just felt so invasive, but I guess they have to keep the people safe or whatever. I mean. They was opening up. I mean when I literally i've never seen that before,

opened jars, squeezing stuff out. He said he got a lot of makeup. I'm like, first of all, sir, mind your business is not a lot of makeup. And I was sure how I was gonna step out. He was bending up shoes, he said, because people high stuff in their shoes. And I was like, I'm glad they bring my Jordan's because you had been increasing them up. But I mean the officers are really nice, but it was just a little ghetto. You know, y'all be talking about Nork, but they don't do all that. Mm hm honey. So

that was my that's my travel break. But my travel boost is this. So for the first time, I flew Qatar Airways business class, business and first. And I had flown a lot of business in first in the last couple of years, y'all know. I just started because you know, I was like, if the flight is over three hours, then it's worth it for me, especially if it's business. And I was flying for business because I was doing

the Mastermind. It's worth it to get to pay for a business class because now that I have it to be able to do it. And so I've flown business class before. I'd even flown to Dubai before. I forget what I flew. It was like United and Luftanza Child, the airlines is ghetto because that oil money that Qatar. I was like, it was like a room. I said, this is business class. I mean it was so spacious. It's like a seat and another little mini seat. Child. I mean, they were like hear your pajamas, and I've

gotten pajamas on the airlines. But they even had like this kit with perfume and all this stuff in it. Baseball. They knew when you got on your name, if you are a woman or man, you know, basically I guess what you filled out. It's a kind of kit, like the kind of like bath kit or whatever that you had in your little room. You can actually close the door, honey. I never was able to close the door before. I mean, the menu that they gave it was like, you know,

you could eat whenever. There's no oh, we serve at breakfast at this time and this at that kind Now you could order whenever however how much youever you wanted. I don't drink alcohol, but they had all the mocktails, honey. And it was just an experience like none other. And I told myself like I want to I wanted to

fly either Qatar or Emirates because I'd never flown. And I mean to the point where there was like a separate bus, so like they will like let the plane board, and then they were like, okay, if your business class or first clars, he is a separate bus. Some people even had a car that took him from the terminal to the plane and we got to board last because they're like, you bored right when we're about to say go, I was like, excuse night. I mean, I'm gonna tell

you the risk. People are living a whole nother life. You know, I consider myself a new Roch, a new rich, a whole nother life in in actual Dubai. So I did not know this because last time I did fly business, it was just ghetto business. Apparently that when you fly out of if you're flying Emirates, Emirates actually has a VIP terminal. Listen to me, well, so you know how you go to the airport and it's like, oh, terminal one, and you go in, you check your bags, you check in,

you get your ticket whatever. They have a VIP terminal for anyone flying Emirates business or first class. That first of all, Emirates is already a beautiful and like you know, airport child. The way they treat you like an AMORTI the way they treat you like a queen. I was like, wasn't no lines, wasn't no, I mean the way they I't never seen nothing like it. And then the lounge. Hey, I said, what in the dog food have they been serving me before? And these lounges, the lounge was, I mean,

they're like you want. There was stations, an Indian station, well, an Asian station that had Indian food like Japanese and Chinese food, an American station, Arabic station, I mean, there was a spa in the lounge, places to sleep, a git, I mean it in the hotel. The airport, it telf looked like a mall. If you weren't really present, you're like, is this a beautiful high end mall? Right? And then

the business class lounge in Doha. So the way I flew, I had to go from JFK, which is in New York to Doha, which is in the Middle East, and then Doha is like a forty five minute flight to Dubai, so it was like two flights, right. So the Doha Lounge, the Qatar Lounge in Doha was spec tackle. It was the biggest WoT I've ever seen, the cleanest of I can't even it was like, I don't, I don't have the word to describe. It was a twenty out of ten.

I've never like they had like a five star restaurant there, and I was like, this is a lounge. It was so huge, so much food, so much it was beyond And what it showed me is that there are people living a parallel life. You know. It wasn't too long anger, I'll talk to teach a preschool and before that, I was struggling. After that, I was struggling business owner. It's only just now been stepping into my rich and even then, girl,

my little panties next to these people, honey, honey. But it just was the level of service that you get at that level made me feel both bad and good, like, dang, everybody should be treated like this, But the way they treat you at that level when you're in that lounge or you're flying business class on a you know, on a top airline like that, and you know, like the way you're treated, the way you're spoken to, the space that's made for you, you know, it's just it goes,

it just goes to show you have badly treated any other time. That wealth really does open up certain like levels of doors. You know. It was just a real eye opener. So I don't know if that's a boost to break. It's a boost either way. And like it's a it's a something. And I just wanted to share that experience because I said, I wanted to fly Guitar or Emirates, but Emerts was way too expensive to fly out there. Guitar was half the price, And I said,

because I wanted to just have that experience. And I had it and it was beautiful and it was amazing. I'm gonna do it again, ad jod you've ever flown guitar Airways or Emirates, let me know how. It was the one thing I heard about Emerts. This is why they charged so much, is they will come pick you up from your house and drive you onto the tarmac. Honey. But I wasn't gonna pay all that for Emirates. I said, Yah, it was too much. But yeah, it just was like

an amazing experience all around. And like I said, I am leaning in, fully leaning and fully to my feminine leaning and fully to my success. Like my condo is almost ready. When I tell you I went by the visit today, it is I can't believe that I get to live there. It looks like somebody else, somebody rich and wealthy. My sister said something funny. She said, for the first time where you live actually matches your your

bank account. Ah, it looks I told myself, I'm going to have all the good things now, you know, I don't know how long life will have me. And so while I'm here, I still look after my family, I still look after my friends. I look after y'all, you know, through financial education and otherwise. But while I'm here, I'm also going to look after myself because we are deserving of that too. That I too am part of the community.

As doctor Green, my therapist always reminds me. While we were looking after the community, Tiffany, remember that you are also part of the community. So if you need that reminder from me and doctor Green, you are also part of the community. You are worthy and deserving of all the good things. Well that's today's episode, but don't forget we have BAQA that will be on Friday. Until then, love y'all. Bye,