Second Date Update: What's Your Name Again?

other guys? Like what do you say? You say like, oh, I think I found your wallet. No, that's actually a good idea. Yeah, I like that something that works. You're really basic. I have a blue check mark. So people just tend to be like, oh, who are you? Don't know who I am? You can just say hi, look at my blue check mark. No, I'm just like hi this wy don't you know? You're beautiful? And then most girls will go, thanks, leave me alone. Okay, so it's working. Yeah, well,

they respond. Apparently something worked on one of our listeners that made a guy stand out to her, and now she's on the phone with us looking to get back in touch with him. Her name's Ashley. Ashley, how are you doing? Heyam, I'm good. How are you? I think I found your wallet? By the way, would you like it back? You can keep it. I'm so curious with this guy saying to get your attention, what's his name?

His name is Benjamin. We have to ask, well, I didn't meet him like on Tony, I mean him, I met him on a dating app, that's right, my bas so what did what did he do to stand out from everybody else? So basically he was talking about how like, oh I'm so beautiful, there's no ambryum, like you got to be a catfish, and so we face times like immediately it's like it's like reverse psychology. Yeah, and then you want to prove to him, no, I am real.

See look at my boot. Yeah that's pretty stereotypical. Yea. You feel like kind of negging you and and bating you into I don't know, basically talking day. Yeah. It's almost like being like I don't even want you to reply to this. Yeah, yeah, I guess I'm too competitive. So I was immediately like I would challenge accepted. Okay, that's crazy that you FaceTime? Yeah, what did he look like he's really cute, he's cold, he's got dark hair, blue eyes, like all the things I'm into. Okay, okay,

so that's good, and you know he's real too. What do you guys do for a date? We decided to go to a bar. All right. Yeah, it was great. We had a good time, but so one thing happened. It was like kind of embarrassing, but I don't think he was really upset by it. But we're sitting there talking like we've been on the date for a thirty minutes at this point, and one of my girlfriends came into the bar and she came over to say hi, and I completely forgot his name. Oh no, oh, And

it's like happens when you're mid sentence. This is oh my god, and you delight. Oh man. He must have just been mortified, Like what what was his reaction? Well? I felt terrible and I was super embarrassed that he kind of laughed it off and was cool about it, and then we just like kept going and had a really good night. He was able to brush it off. You guys, he's only thirty minutes into a date. Yeah,

but still, it's just a shot to the ego. I know, like I totally gived, but honestly, like he's the one that brought it up later in the date, like joking around. Okay, everyone was like he wait, what's your name? Again? Not passive aggressive, two really old people at breakfast, like what's your name? Who are you? He's been serious, He's like, no, what time is it? I don't know. I guess that's romantic in away? Is that how you felt about it?

I was really embarrassed at first, but then like he made me feel more comfortable and he, like I said, he poked on at it later in the date, and so I felt like it was fine. Yeah, because like I know, like I know, the rest of the date went well because after the day we left and we walked around for a little bit and then he called an aber for me, and like literally right as I was like welcome to the uber and like this is gonna sound so corny and so cheesy, and I know it,

but I swear it happened. I was looking up and it's like the clouds was just kind of cleared away and like you could see like the stars. So it was like super sweet and romantic, and like right then is when he went in and kissed me good night, oh buddy, and you like thanks Dylan, Oh my god. Well thank god I didn't call him that name, like that would have been even more affairit thing. All right,

that's sweet. I mean, like you have this sweet moment, you already have an inside joke together, Like you sound connected. I'm guessing you were totally expecting to call back from him. Yeah, And so like we've been texting and like I've been very slurty with my text and like obviously like dropping his tense. Hey, I'm definitely interested, but like he hasn't been as kind of talkative back with his text and he hasn't called me or asked me for another date.

And it's been a week now. Are you missing any teeth you could have felt with his tongue while he was in there and he wouldn't notice that earlier. Well it could be in the back brook Okay, Yeah, I mean I thought you were a catfish. You didn't have any teeth. Us. I have all of my teeth. Thank you got to the bottom of that mystery. I think he may have met somebody else or something. Maybe it was Ashley's friend that she was introduced to Oh, go to her, Dude, I definitely want to get that tea.

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We're talking with one of our listeners, Ashley, who's worried that maybe her date Benjamin is ghosting her because she accidentally blanked on his name thirty minutes into their first day. And Ashley, I know that makes you feel bad and probably kind of embarrassed, but if it's any consolation, Brooke has gone to bed with hundreds of men without ever knowing their names, So you're in really good company right now,

ash I just didn't think it was that important. Yeah, I mean, that's not why I was there, so save that for more useful information. Anyway, Benjamin was a really good sport about it, and they even had a kiss at the very end of the night as the clouds parted and the stars came out, which is why it's such a mystery why Benjamin has been kind of avoiding her, still texting, but not asking her out on another date. So we're going to help he figure out the reason

why that would be awesome. Yeah, I mean I'm just worried that. I mean, he just almost sounds like too smooth. Like that's why I think that maybe there's somebody I'll always talking about a few girls exactly, like it's just like it's too good. We'll see. I'm gonna dial Benjamin's number right now, though, and we're going to try and get you your second date Update. Are you ready? Oh gosh, I don't know. Yes, okay, yes, you're ready. You're ready? This will be good. Okay, are you sure because we

don't have to do this? No, no, no no, do it? Okay, just like all right before here we go. I'm down on the number right now. Hello, Hey, is this Benjamin? This Benjamin? Who's this? My name's Jeff from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. What are you talking about? Radio? It's a form of entertainment that a lot of people listen to and we do a morning show on it. And one thing that we do on our show is this segment called a second Date Update.

Oh oh yeah, y'all like a podcast, right, yeah. If that makes it easier for you to understand than sure, yeah, it's but something that we do on this radio podcasts. Yeah, is we help our listeners reach out to people that they've been on a date with when they can't get back in touch with them. Okay, and you went out with a woman recently, Ashley. Yeah, absolutely, Ashley. That sounds like a good memory that just popped into your head. Of Ashley. We spoke to Ashley about you, and there

were some pretty positive reviews. She says, you're a really nice guy, attractive and kind of a smooth talker. Yeah. I could be a leagues killer. Oh yeah, did you like Ashley a lot um? In the words of Shakespeare, I would say it was the best of times and the worst of times. Oh I don't think that was Yeah, that was a far reach, you know, but you ended

up going out. You must have had a good time on the date then, right, it without a doubt, man, I had a blast, you know even I even loved the part when she almost forgot my name like thirty minutes into the date. Didn't bother you, no, I mean, hey, like, you know, just were meeting people. It's not like how it used to be, just like speed dating on steroids. Yeah, the vibe is very chill. You seem very positive about everything, so I guess I'm a little bit confused why you're

not talking to Ashley anymore? All right, So here's the worst of times. Okay. So she let me know where she worked at. So two days after I was like, you know what, I'm gonna pop up on her with some roses at work. So when I went to our office talk to the receptionist, she said, yeah, are you Dave? And I'm like, no, I am not Dave. Wait is this a joke that she's playing because she's gotten through the wrong name on your date too. But it was

a receptionist that said this. So then then she went to go check and then she said, oh yeah, she already went to lunch with Dave already. Oh wow, so she had a lunch date with Dave. Yeah, And then the receptionists had this weird looked on her face, like kind of like she didn't want to tell me that obviously you're like standing there holding flowers, but you're not in a relationship, like you're both open and free to date right now. After a cletely amazing date like that,

she's the only woman on my mind. I can't like, you know, for twenty four hours later, she's on another date with another Do you that, like, Yeah, that's crazy to me. Yeah, I mean I don't know, Like it's like she could have had it planned way before. You don't really like it sounds like a boyfriend thing to take it up to lunch them. Do you think it's a boyfriend. I think it sounds like she just had

another lunch date. She's like dating right now. Well, let's just ask her then, because Benjamin, I gotta let you know that Ashley has been on the other line listening this entire time. She wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, Ashley, you there. Oh I'm so embarrassed. Oh why are you embarrassed? Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, benj them Like, I just want you to know that I did feel the same way, like accardy, you were the only man on my mind too. So so who's Dave. Yeah, Like, he's

not my boyfriend, there's nothing serious. He's just a guy. Like I just I wish you would have told me that you were coming, Ashley, to be honest. That's not good enough, man, And you gotta be a little bit more honest and upfront if you know you want to move forward or hang out with me. I mean, actually you're saying two different things. You're saying after the date, I had no other guy in mind, and then literally the next day you're with another guy twenty four hours later.

I am sorry. All of you need to get off of her back. Okay. When I met my husband, I was like seeing other dudes. I was hanging out with an ex because I had another date on the side, and like, you know, telling your husband you're the only guy that I'm thinking about right now on the very first date. No, I wasn't telling him that. Brook. She's saying that to us right now. She's saying that Benjamin is the only person that I want to see, but

I also want to see Dave. Yeah, but you can actually be out on a date with Dave and still be thinking about Benjamin, like maybe it was already planned. Yeah, I mean you could be right. The only way to know is by asking Ashley, Hey, who is Dave? What is his relationship? See just another guy that you're also seeing or is there something more? Have you guys hooked up? You don't have to get that far, but is it romantic?

You know what? I don't want to go into all kind of details about I will just tell you this and like, seas, do you not over react? But he's just sugar daddy, Like what that's all good? Okay, now it makes sense. I was worried this was a big deal. Yeah, so we're fine, okay, but listen, I just like Benjamin, like please just listening for a second. Like I feel like y'all are not getting right image of what this is. Like he to like stuff like that, like nothing else.

That's literally the extent of our relationship. Like you know more about me in the one date that we have than he does, and we have like you and I have a real connection, all right, So like so he does all that nice stuff for you, and but do y'all do anything more than it or any more stuff? I just I feel like we're getting really far away from it. And the point is that, like I care about you. Oh I want an answer to that, Oh you don't. We don't need an answer, sugar daddy for free.

But you can stop the sugar daddy and can't you can't you just like cut her off. I'm saying she could just end that and then she could be into relationship with you, Benjamin. She made a mistake going to a no sugar dating diet. You guys are making such a huge deal of this, and it's like it's not a big deal. All of my friends have these, and like it's expensive being a single woman paying for is women can't have it all. It's not like you, like, we can have somebody that we care about, and we

can have somebody that pays our bills. I wish I could have that. Okay, So what you would keep the sugar daddy and you would get you'd have it all. I mean, yeah, we can do that. Well, what do you think about the idea of Benjamin giving you both just splitting them into two people. Benjamin can be the guy that gives you things and is also romantically connected to you at the same time like a boyfriend. Let's not get too crazy. Can you do that? Like that's

a lot for one person? What do you think? I just think for me, I feel like it's her loss. You know why, because for one, I make good money. I'm a millionaire. Oh. Second point is that the first gesture I did anything nice to you to show my my romance or my positive affirmations towards you, I come to your job you with a whole Another dude, I learned on this phone call that's your sugar daddy. I'm okay at all I heard was that he's a millionaire, and then my eyes went completely blank. And I don't

know how Ashley feels about it. Ashley, what do you think now, knowing that he is an extremely successful, extremely rich guy that's also of smooth talker, would you want to see him again? And we would pay for that date? I mean, I just feel like that like solves all of our problems. Like I feel like we don't really have a problem here, Like, oh no, actually I think I think a good paying job for yourself and being an independent you're disgusting can be good on your help.

At the end of the day, Benjamin, we had a really good time together. I don't see why they has to stop. I could see why I could stop. It's called trust. I mean, look, Benjamin, she's seeing the air of her ways here. Obviously, I could see this relationship working out, especially if you're willing to pay a little bit more money on your dates. And you won't even have to on this first one because we're gonna pay for it. Come on, Benjamin, one more chance, might as

well take the frame. Come on, it'll be fine. Now we're gonna have with all your money. Remember, you're the only one that she's been thinking about since your dates. Those are her words. I'm gonna say, I'm okay, I'm not, I'm not I'm good on the second dude. Yeah, I don't know. I just feel like all really judging me really hard right now. Oh I'm not ask your daddy if you wants two babies. Jeffrey in the morning, text into seven eight five nine to tell us did Brooke

get owned or really? Okay, listen, they were in a relationship, but the sugar daddy thing threw me for a loop. Yeah. Yeah, that dude, I don't know what to do with that. I don't think any of us knew what to do

with it. But it was extremely hypocritical of her. If you ask me to literally come on here and tell us that she wasn't thinking about anybody else after their date and then within twenty four hours going on another date with a different guy a business exchange, Yeah, I mean it's lunch like, she doesn't think about other guy until her venmo goes off. Yeah, exactly, So yike. Even though we I want to say we tried, I did try. I don't think I still don't think that she's doing

anything wrong. No oh, I just think that, like it just is really complicated and her life would be a lot more simple if she just made her own money work. Yeah true, Yeah, I don't like that. But texting in seventy five nine two, tell us what you thought about the second date up date, and remember, if you want to get one for yourself, you can always email the show and we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back.