Second date, up date.
If you're getting ghosted by a girl, guys are kind of in a tough spot because you want to be respectful to them but also show some initiative to let them know that you're interested.
Right, And it's a fine line for sure.
At least till they filed the restraining her.
I mean, how nice is she going to know that is a line in her It's an obvious line.
I can't restrain you.
One of our.
Listeners, John, wasn't getting a text back after his date, so he got creative with how to get her response, and he's on the phone with us right now. So John, why don't you just give us the text that you sent to this girl? I want to hear only the text.
Wait, this is the text you got ghosted from.
No, the last text that you sent to get creative to get a response back.
What what did you send her?
I'm sorry, you're set up. Made me think that he was going to be outside in a bush somewhere, hiding outside of her house. Yeah, okay, Sorry?
What was your last text?
Yeah?
I said, I've noticed you're not respect Do you want to see your family again? You will text me back?
You're joking yeah, telling me you had been joking back and forth the whole.
Time, as you already joked about a missing fair.
I personally hope he's serious with it. That would show how interested he truly was.
Well, my grocery bills have gone up since her family has been in my apartment.
But but real kidnapper would not do saying.
Was it already an inside joke between you two?
That's a good question.
Uh, not exactly.
How are you not at a police stations?
Okay, maybe it was wrong for us to start at the very end of the story. Let's go back to the beginning, and maybe it makes.
Sense when the family still where they're supposed to be.
Let's start with how you met this girl? What's her name?
By the way, Okay, how'd you meet?
We were on a dating app? Not too unique.
Yeah, you told her nothing too special about you. I guess we should go out.
I mean you sounds funny like, how did you strike up a conversation with her on Tinder?
Uh?
You know what?
She had a picture of her skydiving, so I had done that in the past.
That's so relatable anytime I've ever met some of that sky dives.
And then they meet somebody else. I'm like, oh, yeah, it was your jump. It was your jump. How many hours have you clocked? Really romantically?
And I just I would never do that, Jose You do skydive all the time in your Fortnite video game out of the plane to dive in, and this is.
Different when you jump from the bus. But I close my.
Eyes still Fortnee.
We all have our interests. You bonded with CC over that. What'd you guys do for your date?
We just went off for drinks. I really wanted to get to know her, so I went to a quiet spot where I could talk to her a.
Little bit and find out about her family and where what their schedule is take.
Okay, how did drinks go?
I mean it went well. Eventually she needs to go get a phone charger for the phone is about to die. So I took her to get the charger, bought one.
Yeah. Well yeah totally.
And what's nice about that is you extend the date, right plus you're a hero.
Yeah yeah, And so of what happens She went to go to the drug start and was like sort of close to my place, So I was like, while we're here, do you just want to check out my spot and she agreed.
So she agreed.
Okay, yeah, I was driving, so I drove to the closest one by my house.
You know, I know exactly where to get a charger.
It's weird.
I have outlets in my home. Strange coincidence. Okay, so she went back with you.
Yeah she did.
What was that like?
So she came over my place and I made a couple of cocktails, you know, try to impress it with that, and then I can buy them in I.
Can make them, dude.
I am always impressed when people can make like a cocktail at home.
A yeah, that's awesome.
Yeah, And then we talked about a bucket list stuff, you know, just the deeper conversations or like what would you do.
If you want the lottery?
Right? Yeah?
Like those are fun coming well, and you guys have already skydives, so that's offul end.
You know, try to discuss which family member do you like the least, which family member is worth the most money in your humble opinion if one went missing?
Yeah, so that sounds like fun.
Okay, I mean did you yeah? Did she stay the night?
Yeah? She did, so it went well and go okay, you know she just left her charger here. So that's what I was trying to use to end back into talking to her, to.
Come back from well, maybe she's not texting back because the phone's dead.
She doesn't have the charger, do you see?
You know what, I shouldn't have committed kidnapping.
So lead us to the point of like, how did you send that joke text about her family?
How'd you get there? Yeah?
Yeah, So I sent her text about the charger and then he didn't respond, And then I just sent her another text about like, hey, what's up and no response.
Huh Yeah, I wouldn't respond to that one either.
That sounds funny.
And so then I sent her the joke one that you guys know whether.
Okay?
Yeah, and then an hour later I send another text to saying I'm joking, and then there was no response to that either.
Clarify.
I mean, I think she probably knew you were joking.
But you know, why do you even want to go out with this girl? She doesn't get your sense of humor.
We just had so much in common, We had a great time. So I'm like, why did you come over to my place if you didn't like me? I don't understand why there's so many mixed signals right now?
Yeah, use you just for the electricity in your outlets, like that's.
Pretty important. But she left the charger. Yeah, obviously wasn't that important to her.
It's almost like she was planning on coming back if anything.
Yeah, maybe, I mean we're gonna find out when we come back. We'll call CC four you make sure her family's okay, and then try and get you a second date update right after.
This would be important to confirm.
Yeah, we're just gonna check hold on second date update if you're just joining us.
Our listener, John is confused because he went to drinks with a woman named Ceci. They picked up a charger for her dying phone, and after that spent the entire evening over at his place till she left the next day. But now CEC's not responding and we don't know why. And John, in no way do I want you to think that this has anything to do with your romantic skills in the bedroom.
Okay, even though Brooke wrote.
It down on a piece of paper and passed it to me while giggling uncontrollably.
I don't want you to think that.
Even though Jose and Alexis both went online and tweeted that they think it's that. I just don't want you.
To think it.
I think she enjoyed herself thoroughly, and I think those are all misconceptions.
That's the spirit, John, don't let reality ever set in on your life. We're just kidding, by the way, just like the way you were kidding about the family abduction text that she sent her trying to get her to respond to you.
She never even gave you a haha on that line.
A risky jokes is what we're saying.
Yeah, I mean, I feel like you guys are telling him be more truthful than I was what your thoughts were.
Okay, someone's confessing a little bit too much, Okay, Okay.
I mean these are always weird ones because I honestly don't know what I mean.
We don't know what she's going to say. It could be anything.
Yeah, they would really defeat the purpose of the call if we knew what she was going to say.
Sometimes you can tell, like what someone did wrong, like this.
Could be maybe a text is a start.
Well, she was already not texting him back by the time he sent that.
I think that the nail in the coffin has already been laid.
More anti climactic.
Sometimes it's just like, yeah, I had a fun night and that's all I wanted. But in our mind, you've done absolutely nothing wrong. Okay, John's zero zero working against you right now. You're the perfect man, and I believe that firmly.
While we dial her, not do I need to pass you another note?
Keep your notes over there. Let's wait till we get her on the phone. Here we go, Hello, Hey, we're looking for CC.
Yeah, this is her.
Hey, you don't have to sound too excited. CC.
This is a good day for you because you're on the radio right now with Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Hey, Hi, oh my god, I kind of like her already.
Are you in a bad mood because something's going on with your family?
You know, I'm radioations a little weirdine.
But we're doing something maybe the clear things up here for you. We're doing something called a second Date Update, and we're trying to help one of our listeners out to get a hold of you.
It's a guy that you went out on a date with recently named John Okay.
John, who still has your cell phone charger?
John Okay, it's where he's telling you stuff that.
Yeah, okay, that's kind of something that we do here.
And the reason why I brought up the family thing earlier is because he told us about the text message that he sent you, the joke about you know, if you don't respond, you'll never see your family again, or something like that.
What did you do?
Everybody? Brook laughed the hardest in this entire room.
It was a bold move. We'll say that. What did you think when you read that, Cec?
I honestly I thought it was hilarious.
Okay, well that's true. Then why didn't you respond?
I honestly just don't want to leave him on. He's a funny guy. Just texting back, you know, even that kind of just another opening. You know, well, and that's.
A funny guy.
You're doing the right thing, because the second ul O l back, we're gonna.
Just keep going. It is.
It is exhausting.
Someone else was actually complimented as being funny in Jose even use that as an opening.
Well, don't you think that leading him on would ensue? Like going back to his place and spending the night. Isn't that kind of leading him on?
Well?
Maybe you liked him at that point.
Yeah. I mean, honestly, we had a great time. It was it was super fun. I had a lot of fun with him.
I just.
What is it? You just want a one night thing?
Honestly. The tough part is I had such a good time with him. I honestly, I was waking up in the morning and I saw that's going on some more dates. It could honestly be something like, oh my gosh, yeah, leading this guy. I really liked him.
Are you just like he's also good? I don't I don't understand.
Are you nervous because it was too good and you think you'll never be able to match that level of greatness on a date ever?
Again?
I mean, I hear that about me all the time about other guys.
So what's going on?
I honestly wish that it was something like self involved? Is that I guess? But it's honestly so it sounds like he told you that I went to his house, thought I slept over. Yeah, yeah, And in the morning I went to the bathroom and he had like one of those like fancy heated toilets.
Oh god, those are so nice in the morning.
Yeah, Why is that important that we need to know that.
So go back to the bedroom and like he's already up. We're about to probably make breakfast or get on oose our days. I'm getting dressed and I goes like, oh, like dude, I was like, that toilet is a leap. I was like, that is so awesome having a heated toilet, okay, And he said that he doesn't have a heated toilet.
Huh, what do you mean he doesn't. He was just on it.
So I suppose maybe it was hot from the person who had used it before me, But it was like I thought it was technology making it that hot.
Oh, like he had been sitting there for a while before you went into the bathroom somebody else.
I don't. I can't imagine how hot somebody would have to be to have this seat be that hot when I got to it, I don't know, y'all. I feel like, honestly awful, but it's like it's an ick. I literally can't get over it, and I feel so guilty. I'm like, I just it's not worth like hurting him and being weird.
Yeah, I'm just spending that long in there. It's like that's an I feel like a girl in your bedroom.
Yeah, but like he didn't. He wasn't even in there long.
No, not when you have a long He was.
Next to me in bed when I got up to go to the bathroom, and I hadn't seen him go to the bathroom. So it's like how long ago for just will be scolding hot?
Well, it was next to him, be a hot sleeper, like we have a lot of coul.
Rad I don't know how your ears feel if they're feeling a little bit warm right now, because John is actually on the line too, so maybe you're feeling.
That he's about a button.
Yeah, John, horri fine, can I ask you a question? Yourck is a guy using the bathroom before you? That's your eck?
Like that's not my sick at all. No, it's how hot the seat was just so weird.
Are you a sweaty guy? You run hot there?
John?
I mean I do, but like that's my butt with the assist you have like a nice, warm party.
I'm not saying that's just unsane. I don't want to hurt your feelings like you're awesome. I don't want to make you feel weird about it. I'm like, I'm the one who feels I don't know what it is it. It's like in my head, I can't like ingrained, like how hot it was? Like I thought you had had technology making your seat hot.
Oh my god, it really is a problem for you, John.
Do you ever notice that your underwear is like melting down through your pant legs.
He's like, I don't need seat warmers now you teat me like on the human torch, like I don't know, just like a normal person using the bathroom here, Like it's not I know, I just.
Feel this is what I didn't want to do. I didn't want to have to make you even like question how hot your butt was?
Like see see there's no way you can work through this, Like yeah, sure, maybe in that moment it was anck, but like what about from now on you always get to use the restroom first, you know, not like.
A good yeah, something that all relationships have to do, like schedule who goes to the bathroom when, or.
Just you know, eventually down the road you just get someplace with two toils. I don't know you already have to schedule it if you live with a man. Let's be honest, Like you guys spend so much time in there.
I mean, it does seem like, Cec, this is a lot to leave a guy who he had such a great time with, had a huge connection with. You're gonna give all of that up because the toilet seat was a little warm.
Well, now am I the weird now that I had an ick about the hot seat? Like?
I think you're overthinking this, thinking way too hard about the ick? Yeah, Like what about the good parts? What's the opposite of ick?
Like Brooks trying to solve the issue for you over here, of John, do you have any ideas, any solutions in your mind?
Yeah, I'll just buy a toil and you'll never know when I use.
It, honestly, and now you know, regardless if that's a real solution. That's funny, Cec. He's a funny guy. He's a good time Yeah, and he has solutions too to the problems. I think personally, you should see him for another date, a date that we would pay for, if you're willing to go out with him one more time.
I would very much be willing to go out on another date. Now that you guys bridge all of this, I didn't have to hide my shame.
Congratulations, John. You can release her mother now out of your customer.
I'll do it, but I'm keeping her sister.
We took a little too farther bud.
Looking Jeffrey in the morning.
It's funny.
I feel like ladies have a lot more random x when it comes to dating than guys.
It's actually funny.
Nowadays we're just in more of a power position where I think we can.
Yeah, you know, the powers gone to your It can always happen, but girls have a word for it now. I mean, if that happened to me with a warm toilet seat, personally, I wouldn't be grossed out by that.
Alexis said she.
Could understand the ick and that he's probably been on it for a long time.
Alexis likes to imagine that no one actually goes to the back. This is my topic.
Yeah, well, I'm just asking all the women out there to lower your ick tolerance. Please be a little bit more understanding of all the things that guys go through, things that we put up with you guys.
Saying that giving you theck a little bit, it's like turning me off. Yeah, it's kind of. It feels like.
You guys are just perfect, aren't you.
I don't know what they're going to call this second update if they're going to call this hot Bottom Boys or whatever it is. But you go check it out on our podcast wherever you get yours, unless you don't.
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