Second Date Update: Trial By Separation

of the services I use. I'm not gonna going to be free advertising. But we did meet online. Okay, what's the sadness you speak of? My friend? Well, you know how you can put like whether you're single or divorce. There's an option where you can put separated, and so I thought I would be honest since the divorces and finalized or anything, So I listed my status as separated. Okay, why wouldn't you normally do that? Well, I would normally

tell the truth. That's what I do. But I think sometimes people don't want to scare somebody off, you know, like, yeah, it's I think it'd be a turn off, Like people are in the middle of something really messy, like you just don't want to even swipe on them. It's like on Facebook single and people sometimes put it's complicated. Yeah, you're obviously involved with somebody, but some people think that's a turn on. They're like a disaster people you usually

want to date. Che Well, I don't know. He says that he matched with somebody that was separated too. It sounds like, yes, her name is Celia and she also had separated on her profile. Okay, yeah, she had a very nice smile, that she had big curly hair. I'm a sucker, perfect didn't think that was coming, but awesome, that's good. The hair is also a very good feature. I mean, that's it's a good start though. I'm going to change the subject to a quick It's a good

start that you guys are going through. I mean, I don't know how similar it is, but similar life experience. So you're coming in with with understanding and you probably don't feel like you have to explain a lot, right sure. Well, I mean that's kind of like prefaces into why I'm calling y'all. Um, we went on a date, and this is my first first date since the you know, well my TBX wife. Yeah, and um, she's not a couple of guys like coffee or something super casual and so

we um, you know, we gotta bite to eat. Okay, wait, what were you feeling? Like? Slow down because this is the first date out of your marriage. Let me guess. Hold on, I'm a psychic. You were nervous? No, he could have been feeling excited the money tell us, Yeah, I went all out. You know, I got dressed to the nines like Jim Carrey and dumb at dumb our tuxedo. You know that doesn't sound nervous, no, of course, of course. Yeah. You never know. You've been out of the dating game

for a minute. Maybe you just didn't read the room right anymore. Well, I mean I thought it was positive that, you know, I got a first date out of messaging someone over the internet. So I mean that was you know, my uh start. That was pretty cool. Yeah, I was good. Yeah, Well how did it go when you showed up? Like? How was how was Celia? What was the vibe? You know, aside from the usual kind of laughs and jokes, a crack,

the thing that we definitely bonded over. I would say like fifty percent of the date was our situation that led us to being separated on you know, both of us kind of talking about our personal life, you know. But that's good. That's good because normally, if you're on a date with someone who's just single, they won't relating. You wouldn't dare bring it up, you know, because you don't want to hear about it. But if you're both going through it, it's like, no, please, I need someone

to talk to about that. I guess that is key. You both have it in common so you can bond over it. Yeah, is that is that how it went? Yeah? I mean there definitely wasn't a pity party for it was like bonding. Yeah. How many shots at tequila do you need in order to get through that? But it's only like, I know, maybe one two margarita maybe? Okay, that's good. So what I mean were you able to flirt too, though? Because if you're talking a lot about you know, your exes and things, I mean we didn't.

I mean, no one stayed the night at anybody's house or anything like that. But like I said, I cracked some folks, you know, I got some genuine laughs. So I mean I count that out of flirting. Okay, why do you want to call her back. I mean, maybe this was just your practice date right before you you got a lot of i'm guessing time to make up for right now. Yeah, well yeah, why aren't you sleeping with everybody around town? Why are you sticking to one person?

I'm just saying, like, why why heard like it's your first day. Well, the first date I thought went well, so I'm figuring that, you know, I might as well before I go a fish of the sea as it is, I might as well make sure this one's off the hook. Got to cut the line that was at differences and it doesn't matter the women we didn't go to that that's well, yeah, let's get back to the date. How did the night end? You know, like I said, no, we staved anybody's house. There was no making out or

anything like that. Hug Yeah, yeah, yeah, there was a hug. But one thing that I think is kind of concern that I would say is she had mentioned that the reason of her separation was there was cheating involved, and I could see how she did not want to put out any kind of vulnerability, like, you know, to get herself her like like I'm trying to be a player, which I'm not, you know, like I'm not trying to be. My intention was to get over and go on a

second date. And did you guys make any like future plans? I always think that's a good sign on a date. Yeah. Well we didn't nail I mean we didn't nail down. It was like, hey, let's go miniature golfing, you know tomorrow. We didn't do anything like that. It was like a hug at the end of the night, and it was I was like, make sure you get home safe and then I'll see what you know. So, how was the hut? Was it like a quick hut, like a sense you along?

She smelled your hair kind of like you don't have to answer that if you don't want you smell people's hair on the first day ever. Just it was just a nice hug, right, yes, it was just I think it was a very the standard end of the night. You didn't like, rub your hands up and down her back. Details need I think you're just gonna play a song. We'll come back. We'll call Celia for you and try and get your second date update. All right, thank you? All right? Hold on, okay, second stepping back on the

dating scene after going through a failed marriage. Wow, that just say it like that. I'm just saying things are probably different than the first time around. This is not what you tell your friends if they ever call you. I'm trying to paint the scene like the people are older, the drinks hit you harder, and the hugs are standard. Nothing,

nothing less, No one telling anybody's hair. Well, that's what happened with one of our listeners, Thomas, who's currently going through a separation himself, and so was his date, Celia. So naturally they talked a lot about their situations and they were very open and vulnerable with each other, which Thomas took as a good sign. But now Celia is not responding to him, which Thomas is taking as a bad sign. It's a good, good way to do it

hasn't changed in that sense. Yeah, something's never Yeah, but Thomas, how you feeling? Man? You guys gave it quite the lead up. We can keep that music going the whole time. Help. Do you know what we never asked you is have you tried to get a hold of her? I d reached out to her, yes, but I did not receive any communication backs. And I mean, I'm calling up you guys because I feel like it went well, and so

I'm trying to figure out what what I do. Just just brace yourself here because you're new to dating and you may hear some things you don't want to hear. That doesn't mean that you're good at it. Okay, And as Brooke would say, there's a whole city of people to sleep with. Actually exactly what I would condone. Yeah, so let's give Celia call. We'll see if she answers and what she has to say. Let's do here we go, Hello is it Celia? Yeah? Sorry, I was really excited there, Celia.

I wasn't sure if you're going to answer. Hey, we're we're Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning from the radio. Hey cool, Now she's not answering a second to process. This is probably a lot, right, I don't Who is it? Yeah, we're so we're a morning radio show. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we're hoping that you'll be a part of a segment with us here called a second Date Update. Oh no, thank you. That's a no, no, no, no, Celia,

it's not a bad thing. Yeah, we're actually calling on behalf of one of our listeners. Who you went out on a date with a very hot date. Sounded like his name's Thomas. Oh yeah, okay, Oh that didn't Oh that didn't sound good Thomas. I think it's clueless because that was not a good response about Thomas. I mean, Mike, we had a really nice dinner and I was hopeful, but we kind of got into a personal conversation about our situations, our separations, our marriages and that sort of thing.

It was a big ray flag for me that kind of popped up. So are you saying just you guys discussing the marital situations was a red flag or something specifically about the conversation. Yeah, it was more. It was more specific. It was like I told him, like, basically, my situation ended because of cheating, and I was the cheater. I was unfaithful. Oh oh interesting. So he didn't share a lot of your your story at all. He just said that there was like that's why your marriage ended.

He didn't. We just assumed that it was your ex But okay, that's fine. That well, for me, the red flag was like he acted really weird, like it was just normal and he was understanding and like trying to make excuses for me and I'm thinking this guy was kind of weak. What what do you mean he was making excuses for you, Like, oh, well, I guess he wasn't paying you attention, or you know, he wanted him to be mean to you instead, or you're like the

first time. It's more like I just laid what I had out there on the table and his reaction was just a little too normal for me, Like, oh, I know him the real like, listen, I cheated and he was just like, oh, that's okay, okay, Well, maybe he cheated in his relationship too, I mean, or he's just awkward and doesn't know what to say that because he doesn't want to insult his date. He liked you, well, like, what did you want to hear from him? What would

have been a good response in your mind? I wanted him to be disgusted by it, because I think it's really horrible what I did. Yeah, was like inside he felt that way, but he didn't want to say to you on a first date if you disgust me. Plus, relationships are like really complicated, and you know, sometimes it doesn't want to just saying Maybe he's just being an understanding person and trying to be empathetic to what you were going through. It sounds like maybe you should go

out little You guys are both understanding, totally understand. Well, if you're playing the statistics, chances are she already has. So all I'm saying is like this guy, like he doesn't attack you for being really vulnerable and really honest, because that's probably a hard thing to share with you people. I would imagine you're not listening to me. I deserved it. Like he didn't even bust anything. Okay, I see what you're saying. Like he's siding with the person who cheated

rather than siding with the person who got cheated off. Yeah, not even questioning it, like got you. Maybe maybe he could yell at you now, yeah, because this would be a great chance for him to lay into you because he's actually on the other line listening. Absolutely, I think I've had enough. No, no, no, no enough. You understand he's already there listening right now and wants to talk to you. Yeah. Yeah, all right, So let me get this straight. You wanted me to be like doctor phil

or Steve Harvey or something. It just lace into you. How does that make sense on a first date? First of all, I didn't even know you were on the line. Secondly, I go for a reason, and I really don't even want to talk to you. Oh no, flying Is this the vibe you got Thomas when you guys were out? Nothing like this. This is like Medusa head. I don't know who this woman is. I'm just being honest with you. I feel like you could have at least questioned why I did it, Like I need someone to hold me

accountable for all Right, you want some criticism? Are you got my nails? Dont my nails look good? Yeah? Your nails don't look good? Do's cost a lot? Don't talk those you didn't go there? Did you like? My nails looks amazing? Okay? I think he's just trying to give you what you want there, Celia. He's not reading what she wants very well though. I mean, I will give her back if I'm reading exactly what she wants. It

sounds like you want to be punished next time. Bring an iron fist to the date and put the hammer down. This is why he practice dating more. Yeah, I have called the first person back a lot of people out till you find your right man. But he could sleep around with other people and cheat on Celia and then we could send them out on a second date. No, I don't think that's what she wants either. Yeah, I mean I could ask Celia, would you be interested in that?

Would you like to go out one more time? I'm good with him. I thought I made that clear. Yeah, you did, you did. You're very clear. It's just my job to ask. Yeah, okay. I don't know if Thomas is upset about that, though. Yeah. I'm sat about how this went, especially considering she's out of her mind. Oh now you're talking the way that she likes. Ye. Well, I really appreciate you guys having me on. But if I learned anything from this, it don't date anyone who

says separated in a profiles. I guess Broke and Jeffrey in the Morning Man. People have been saying forever that dating today is hard. Yeah. I think it's time after that call to start saying dating is impossible. Yeah, because even if you're trying to be understanding and see the other person's perspective give them the benefit of the doubt, that scene as a weakness. Yeah, and they don't like you for it. That's why this ended with no date

at the end. Anybody out there who's single, including myself, let's just all give up. That's a winning at Kay, that's so sad. Okay, I just hate a dialone. It's mad. You will find your love. You don't have to base it up this lady. This lady was a little out there, and I think what it does say is that even if you were the cheater, therese are people who will forgive you. Yeah, that was really nice too, forgiving him.

That was the problem either. I could see why she hated you thought sappy, but you know, yeppy, it wasn't sides, it wasn't. But no, look, we do want to help connect you if you still do believe in love out there, and if you do, you can always email the show. We'll call the person who wasn't calling you better