Second Date Update: Trial By Separation

I'm not gonna given to be free advertising. But we did meet online. Okay, what's the sadness you speak of? My friend? Well, you know how you can put like whether you're single or divorce. There's an option where you can put separated, and so I thought I would be honest since the divorces and finalized or anything, So I listed my status as separated. Okay, why wouldn't you normally do that? Well, I would normally tell the truth. That's

what I do. But I think sometimes people don't want to scare somebody off, you know, like, yeah, it's I think it'd be a turn off, Like people are in the middle of something really messy, like you just don't want to even swipe on them. It's like single and people sometimes put it's complicated. Yeah, you're obviously involved with somebody, but some people think that's a turn on. They're like a disaster people you usually want to date. Chef, Well,

I don't know. He says that he matched with somebody that was separated too. It sounds like, yes, her name is Celia and she also had separated on her profile. Okay, yeah, she had a very nice smile, that she had big curly hair. I'm a sucker pile. Didn't think that was coming, but awesome, that's good. The hair is also a very good feature. I mean, that's it's a good start though, I'm going to change the subject to a quick it's

a good start that you guys are going through. I mean, I don't know how similar it is, but a similar life experience. So you're coming in with with understanding and you probably don't feel like you have to explain a lot, right sure, Well, I mean that's kind of like prefaces into why I'm calling y'all. Um, we went on a date and this is my first first date since the you know, well my VBX wife. Yeah, and um, she's

not a couple. Of guys, like coffee or something super casual and so we um, you know, we got a bite to eat. Okay, wait, what were you feeling like? Slow down, because this is the first date out of your marriage. Let me guess. Hold on, I'm a psychic. You were nervous? No, he could have been feeling excited. Worth the money, tell us, Yeah, I went all out. You know, I got dressed to the nines like Jim Carrey and dumb at dumb our tuxedo. You know that

doesn't sound nervous, of course, of course. Yeah, you never know. You've been out of the dating game for a minute. Maybe you just didn't read the room right anymore. Well, I mean I thought it was positive that, you know, I got a first date out of messaging someone over the internet. So I mean that was you know, my uh start. That was pretty cool. Yeah. Yeah, Well how did it go when you showed up? Like? How was

how was Celia? What was the vibe? You know, aside from the usual kind of laughs and jokes, a crack the thing that we definitely bonded over. I would say like fifty percent of the date was our situation that led us to being separated on you know, both of us kind of talking about our personal life, you know. But that's good. That's good because normally, if you're on a date with someone who's just single, they won't relate and you wouldn't dare bring it up, you know, because

you don't want to hear about it. But if you're both going through it, it's like, no, please, I need someone to talk to about that. I guess that is key. You both have it in common so you can bond over it. Yeah, is that is that how it went? Yeah? I mean there definitely wasn't a pity party for it was like bonding. Yeah. How many shots at tequila do you need in order to get that? But it's only like, I know, maybe one two margaritas maybe? Okay, that's good.

So what I mean? Were you able to flirt too, though? Because if you're talking a lot about you know, your exes and things, I mean we didn't. I mean, no one stayed the night at anybody's house or anything like that. But like I said, I cracked some folks. You know, I got some genuine laughs, So you know I count that out of flirting. Okay, why do you want to call her back? I mean, maybe this was just your practice date right before you you got a lot of

i'm guessing time to make up for right now? Yeah, well yeah, why aren't you sleeping with everybody around town? Are sticking to one person? I'm just saying, like, why why heard like it's your first day. Well, the first date I thought went well, So I'm figuring that, you know, I might as well before I go a fish of the sea as it is, I might as well make sure this one's off the hook. Got to cut the line. That was a lot of differences, and it doesn't women.

Well we didn't go to that. Well, yeah, let's get back to the date. How did the night end? You know, like I said, no, we saved anybody's house. There was no making out or anything like that. Hug Yeah, yeah, yeah,

there was a hug. But one thing that I think is kind of concern that I would say is she had mentioned that the reason of her separation was there was cheating involved, and I could see how she did not want to put out any kind of vulnerability, like, you know, to get herself her like like I'm trying to be a player, which I'm not, you know, like I'm not trying to be my intention was to get over and go on a second date. And did you guys make any like future plans? I always think that's

a good sign on a date. Yeah, well we didn't nail I mean we didn't nail down. It was like, hey, let's go miniature golfing, you know tomorrow. We didn't do anything like that. It was like a hug at the end of the night, and it was I was like, make sure you get home safe and then I'll see what you wanted to do. So how was the hug? Was it like a quick huggle, like a sense you along? She smelled your hair kind of like you don't have to answer that if you don't want you smell people's

hair on the first day ever. Just it was just a nice hug, right, Yes, it was just I think it was a very standard end of the night. You didn't like rub your hands up and down her back. Details. I think you're just gonna play a song. We'll come back. We'll call Celia for you and try and get you a second date. Update all right, thank you? All right, hold on that stepping back on the dating scene after going through a failed marriage. Wow, that just say it

like that. I'm just saying things are probably different than the first time around. This is not what you tell your friends if they ever call you. I'm trying to paint the scene like the people are older, the drinks hit you harder, and the hugs are standard. Nothing, nothing less. No one's smelling anybody's hair. Well, that's what happened with one of our listeners, Thomas, who's currently going through a

separation himself, and so was his date, Celia. So naturally they talked a lot about their situations and they were very open and vulnerable with each other, which Thomas took as a good sign. But now Celia is not responding to him, which Thomas is taking as a bad sign. It's a good, good way to do it hasn't changed in that sense. Yeah, something's never Yeah, but Thomas, how you feeling? Man? You guys gave it quite the lead up. We can keep that music going the whole time. Help.

Do you know what we never asked you is have you tried to get a hold of her? I dreaked out to her, yes, but I did not receive any communication back. And I mean, I'm calling up you guys because I feel like it went well and so I'm trying to figure out what I do. Rot. Just brace yourself here, because you're new to dating and you may hear some things you don't want to hear. That doesn't mean that you're good at it. Okay, And as Brooke would say, there's a whole city of people to sleep with.

Actually exactly what I would condone. Yeah, so let's give Celia call. We'll see if she answers and what she has to say. Let's do here we go. Hello is it Celia? Yeah? Sorry, I was really excited there. I wasn't sure if you're going to answer. Hey, we're We're Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning from the radio. Hey. Cool, Now she's not answering a second to process. This is probably a lot, right, I don't Who is it? Yeah,

we're so we're a morning radio show. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we're hoping that you'll be a part of a segment with us here called a second date update. Oh no, thank you, that's okay, No, no, no, no, Celia, it's not a bad thing. Yeah, we're actually calling on behalf of one of our listeners who you went out on a date with a very hot date sounded like his name's Thomas. Oh yeah, okay, Oh that didn't Oh that didn't sound good Thomas. I think it's clueless because

that was not a good response about Thomas. I mean, Mike, we had a really nice dinner and I was hopeful, okay, but we kind of got into a personal conversation about our situations, our separations, our marriages and that sort of thing. It was a big ray flag for me that kind of popped up. So are you saying just you guys discussing the marital situations was a red flag or something specifically about the conversation. Yeah, it was more. It was

more specific. It was like I tell told him, like basically, my situation ended because of cheating, and I was the cheater. I was unfaithful. Oh oh interesting. So he didn't share a lot of your your story at all. He just said that there was like that's why your marriage ended. He didn't. We just assumed that it was your X. But okay, that's fine. That well, for me, the red flag was like he acted really weird, like it was just normal and he was understanding and like trying to

make excuses for me. And I'm thinking this guy was

kind of weak. What what do you mean he was making excuses for you, like, oh, well, I guess he wasn't paying you attention, or you know, he wanted him to be mean to you instead, or you're like the first time, it's more like I just laid what I had out there on the table and his reaction was just a little too normal for me, Like, oh, I know him the real like listen, I cheated and he was just like, oh, that's okay, okay, Well maybe he cheated in his relationship too, I mean, or he's just

awkward and doesn't know what to say that because he doesn't want to insult his date. He liked you, well, like what did you want to hear from him? What would have been a good response in your mind? I wanted him to be disgusted by it, because I think it's really horrible what I did. Yeah, that was like inside, I'm sure he felt that way, but he didn't want to say to you on a first date if you

disgust me. Plus, relationships are like really complicated, and you know, sometimes it's just saying maybe he's just being an understanding person and trying to be empathetic to what you were going through. It sounds like maybe you should go out little You guys are both understanding, totally understand. Well, if you're playing this to satistics, chances are she already has.

So all I'm saying is like this guy, like he doesn't attack you for being really vulnerable and really honest, because that's probably a hard thing to share with you people. I would imagine you're not listening to me. I deserved it. Like he didn't even bust anything. Okay, I see what you're saying. Like he's siding with the person who cheated rather than siding with the person who got cheated off. Yeah,

not even questioning it, like, yeah, got you. Maybe maybe he could yell at you now, yeah, like because this would be a great chance for him to lay into you because he's actually on the other line listening. Absolutely, I think I've had enough. No, no, no enough. You understand he's already there listening right now and wants to talk to you. Yeah. Ye, all right. So let me get this straight. You wanted me to be like doctor Phil or Steve Harvey or something. It just lace into you.

How does that make sense on a first date? First of all, I didn't even though you were on the line. Secondly, I go, did you for a reason? And I really don't even want to talk to you? Oh? No, star flying? Is this the vibe you got Thomas when you guys were out? Nothing like this? This is like Medusa head. I don't know who this woman is. I'm just being honest with you. I feel like you could have at

least questioned why I did it? Like I need someone to hold me accountable for all Right, you want some criticism? Are got my nails? Dont my nails look good? Yeah? Your nails don't look goods does cost a lot? Don't suck those? You didn't go there? Did you like my nails look amazing? Okay? I think he's just trying to give you what you want there, Celia is he's not reading what she wants very well though. I mean I will give her back. I'm not sure if I'm reading

exactly what she wants. It sounds like you want to be punished next time. Bring an iron fist to the date and put the hammer down. This is why he should have practiced dating more. Yeah, I have called the first person back. A lot of people out till you find your right mar But he could sleep around with other people and cheat on Celia and then we could send them out on a second date. No, I don't think that's what she wants either. Yeah, I mean I

could ask Celia, would you be interested in that? Would you like to go out one more time? I'm good with him. I thought I made that clear. Yeah, you did, you did. You're very clear. It's just my job to ask. Yeah, okay. I don't know if Thomas is upset about that, though. Yeah, I'm sat about how this went, especially considering she's out of her mind. Oh now you're talking the way that she likes. Well, I really appreciate you guys having me on. But if I learned anything from this, it don't date

anyone who says separated in a profile. I guess free in the morning man. People have been saying forever that dating today is hard. Yeah. I think it's time after that call to start saying dating is impossible. Yeah, because even if you're trying to be understanding and see the other person's perspective, give them the benefit of the doubt, that scene as a weakness. Yeah, and they don't like you for it. That's why this ended with no date

at the end. Anybody out there who's single, including myself, let's just all give up. That's a winning admah man, that's so sad. Okay, I just hate to die alone. It's you will find your love. You don't have to base it off this lady. This lady was a little out there, and I think what it does say is that even if you were the cheater, therese are people who will forgive you. Yeah, that really nice. It was too forgiving them, that was the problem. You wouldn't date

him either. I could see why she hated you, though Brook got sappy. God, but you know, two sides it. But no, look, we do want to help connect you if you still do believe in love out there, and if you do, you can always email the show. We'll call the person who wasn't calling you back