Second Date Update: The Boring Test

do the first kiss. Yeah, respect everyone's rule. I remember one person said that they try to get the kiss out of the way in the first ten seconds so it's not looming over their head the rest of the night. Once kissed the girl from the first ten minutes of our date, and it was one of the best dates ever. Okay, I mean we didn't end up. I wouldn't recommend it for anybody. Different strokes for different folks. And our man Justin today says he has an interesting strategy for picking

the right girl. I can't wait to hear it. Justin Man, how you doing well? Are you guys doing good? You want to kiss right now? So the rest of this call isn't quite as awkward. We might as well as give out some chemists, like, we don't even need to call this girl, but just in case, what is the name of the girl? You want us to call. Her name is Casey, Casey. How did you meet Casey? I met Casey on Tinder. Usually I'm not a big fan of Tinder, but I felt like I had a pretty

good rapport with her on there. I just want you guys to know that I have a lot of experience dating over the years. I can tell just from that, just from that kiss, that you've been around the block names. I mean, that could be that can honestly be a good thing or a bad thing. And it can mean you're either always single and can't quite get into a relationship. That's situation. Or it can mean that you're successful. You can get the date, but you don't know how to

have a relationship. Yeah, what have you learned from your experience? Justin throughout my twenties, I was that guy that tried to impress too much, Like I rented a fancy car for one year old, and I wore clothes that were too expensive and I took them to the restaurants that were way out of my budget and everything, and I realized over the years, yeah they might be pretty, but I'm attracting the worst type of human beings by doing this well, And also you're not letting the human being

know who you really are. Like I mean, it's essentially lying. Yeah stuff. I mean Alexis would strongly disagree. I feel attacked. No, that's cool. So that was your old strategy. That was my old strategy. And then I had an epiphany about

the time I hit thirty. Okay, what I do is instead of trying to overly impress them, I try to underimpress with I'm still a nice guy, but in terms of what we do, the activities that we do, because in my theory, if you can enjoy someone's company doing the most mundane things possible, then you know that that person likes you for you. I totally get somehow, I know I could see how it's a back fiek in between two guys. I'm gonna go to the fancy restaurant. Yeah,

I mean that though most girls was. So I'm assuming that this is what you did with Casey. Yeah. We uh, we met on Tinder and we had a good rapport on Tinder, and I decided to go over to her neighborhood and we just went for a walk around her neighborhood about nothing fancy. Let's just see if we enjoy each other's company. I think that's kind of nice. Yeah it was. It was old school, but we're walking around

her neighborhood and it's nice. And we decided let's go into the grocery store, very mundane, just walk the walk the aisles. I thought, let's get up the snack here, so I got her some maza for us to nibl on. I'm Jewish, you're talking language. Well I am, all right. Yeah, Moza is a great snack food. By the way, you put some peanut butter on there. I've put some butter on it. It's really good, but by itself it has no it's very bland. Right. I thought, let's keep with

the mundane. So you just ate plane crackers. Well, she enjoyed it, though she's a very goy im, very not Jewish, and said, well, I've never tried that before. So I thought, okay, that's a good sign. She's willing to try new things. Yeah. So going into the grocery store and doing these things, did you tell her why you were doing that? Or is this kept on the download? Of course, kept on the download. I don't want her to know what I'm doing.

I want to see how she's going to react, but she seemed to be going with it and seemed to be very spontaneous, and I enjoyed that. And when we were on our way out, she saw one of those old fashioned horses that you put the quarter into, and she thought, oh, that's fine. I haven't seen one of those in years. And I thought, nah, this might be getting a little bit too exciting, a little bit too interesting. So I said, you know what, it looks old. I

don't want to break it or anything. And so she said okay, and we kept on a walk and any chance of fun squash she tried everywhere like no, no, no,

seems dangerous. The horse can't take away my thunder. That's the way I look at it, as I don't think like any time that we've heard of people doing like it almost sounds like a test, like will she pass your boredom test or something like tests always backfire to me and dating well, I mean, I mean, she seemed like she was having a good time and she didn't get upset by it, and we kept our walk going, and I thought it was interesting that when we were

on our way close to where her places. Around the end of our walk, she sees a laundry. Match says, oh, this is actually where I dropped off my laundry earlier, and can we pick it up? And said, oh, okay, you're like, now you're speaking my language. That boring. Wow, it's very boring. But to me what stuck out is we just met each other. We don't really know each other that well, and you're comfortable with me seeing your laundry. That's a big sign to me that that comfortable with

me saying or laundry. So how how did the date end? I felt like, I'm not you guys talking about the kiss getting out of the way. I didn't feel to go in for the kiss. I thought, let's keep it mundane for now anymore, and then thanks can protrest later. But it ended pretty nicely. We gave each other a hug, and I thought the date ended well. But I haven't been able to get ahold of her since, so I'm

wondering what's going on. I get your theory that you want to find someone that you can do just everyday things with and enjoy their company. Like I get that theory, of course, but the whole point of dating this is supposed to be fun, Like you have your entire married life to be boring, like why waste it right now where he is? Don't get me wrong. Don't get me wrong, though, It's not like if I'm going to date someone long term,

I'm not going to continue the boring this. It's just that first date just to get a gauge right from the beginning. OK. I get it. I don't like it, but I get it. I know what you love. Language is all right, man, Well let's try and figure this out for you. We're gonna play the most boring song in orientation and then we'll come back. We'll call Casey for you and try and get your second date update. Okay, thank you, guys. I appreciate it all right, hold on second.

If you're just tuning in, this promises to be the most boring, mundane second date update and show history. We Oh my god, no, not my opinion. That's actually how one of our listeners justin purposely planned his date because he has a strategy for finding the right woman and says he plans tame, unimaginative dates to see if they're actually compatible. It can still have fun even without an exciting activity to bond them. Yeah, so recently took a

woman named. You see, on a long, boring walk, they bought some uninteresting groceries together, picked up her dull, stupid laundry, and ended with a humdrum, half hearted hug. And now she's not calling him back after that, Justin, do you have any guesses as to why, maybe you think she's been avoiding you. I don't know. I mean, maybe maybe she's nervous or something, but it was it was a

good dage. I mean, she's really down to earth. And I guess here's the thing, Justin, if you liked her at the end of the day, or even in a text message later, did you say, Hey, let's just havelf in a little bit more fun next time, you know? Did you sell yourself a little bit? Like ah, I

can be exciting too. And I didn't use those words, but I basically said, let's do this again sometime, not this again, so let's spend some time together again, Let's go to a different grocery store, maybe a farmer's do this again sometime is not going to be the answer, Like, that's not the invitation guessing that she wanted, but we'll see. Well that's why I contacted you, guys. Maybe you guys can help me out. Okay, all right, Well, we're gonna

give it our best shot. Let's call Casey's number and we'll see what she has to say. You're ready, I am, okay, I'm gonna dial it right now. Here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm looking for Casey. Yeah, who was looking for Casey? I am looking for Casey. Hi. Well, the whole show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning is looking for Casey. There you go. Well, what what? We're a radio show. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we've been trying I know who you are. Oh, you so

little nervous. It's okay. We're doing something you may have heard of before called a second date update. That's where if you go out with one and afterwards, if that person isn't calling you back, you can email us to reach out to them for you and help you figure out the reason why. Got it kind of an exciting thing to be part of. It's pretty thrilling matters you don't know what is going on. Well, the person that emailed us about you, his name's Justin. You remember him? Yeah?

You do? I mean, because it sounds like it was kind of a forgettable day. Well, I don't know. Let's ask Kurt. He told us about what you guys did together. But Casey, would you say it was more of an exciting date, more normal or kind of a boring date? I would say it was like blah, really okay, one step lower? Okay, Yeah, it wasn't the worst. It was okay, Okay. Which part is it's okay? Things can exist it Which part of the date was the most blockade to you?

The most blockade part of the date would probably have to be Justin himself. Oh yeah, is it Justin that though? I mean, no, I don't. I expected you guys to have good conversation. I mean, that's the way he described it, is that even though you were doing maybe not the most exciting things in the world, that you seem to really connect. Well that's an understatement. But oh how did you feel about him? Uh? I don't think he has

the capacity to have fun. Oh well, I don't know if I should be saying anything about this right now. But Casey, what if Justin wanted to be boring? Yes, like, what if he was trying to seem boring to you on purpose? That's the weirdest reverse psychology lesson I've ever experienced that. Yeah, it's you know, I've been out what guys like Justin before, and I think that even if we tried to do something fun, he just wouldn't be fun. I don't know how else to explain it. Okay, okay,

you just find way to say. I think that he's just a boring person in general by himself. I mean, it doesn't really sound that nice when you say it, but yet I'm just trying to clarify. I mean, don't I don't know if that's fair, because Justin was trying to come across as boring during the day. No, he wasn't. He was trying to set up boring activities and see if they could still connect. He wasn't himself trying to

be boring. He was just trying to set up an environment that wasn't like over the top to see if you too could have a good time even doing the most mundane, everyday life activities. Well, I think there might be a fun person hiding deep inside of him that he's just waiting for the right moment to let out. I have missed the right moment. Yeah, I mean, Casey, would you at least let him prove to you that he can be a fun guy, because he's on the other line listening, waiting to let the fun out? Who

let the putout? What are you talking about right now? He's on the line. Yeah, justin you there, I am here, Casey, I'm I'm flabber gaster that you don't think that I'm a fun guy. Damn the fact? Do you think I'm boring? Me? Boring a boring person? I'm exciting, Okay, I do somethings all the time, like what justin the fine exciting for me? My guy? You know, you know, it's really really fun. Have you ever downed a couple of whiskey sours and

tragedy of the alphabet backwards? Have you? Have? You? Because I have is? It's not easy, but it's fun. That sounds more like a duy stop, which is pretty much the opposite of fun. I don't even alcohol at all. Right, let's go backwards? Why not? Oh damn? Party starting right now? How do you feel it? We haven't beat this on the radio. Man, that's not fun. And that's like just some sort of weird gimmick or something that doesn't that doesn't make you sound more fun? All right, fun, you'll

like backwards album that. I'm about to tell you a joke, right, Like, I got a fun a joke. Okay, Yeah, here's a great joke for you. Knock knock, really yeah, really knock. I don't even want to know who's there. I want to know who's there. I'll tell you who's there. It's the interrupting cow, interrupting cow. Oh my, what are you? What? Are you a dad? Not? Yeah, I'm looking to be at some point. You gotta have some fun in order

to be a dad first. So, I mean, the thing is, it does feel like Justin's got his priorities in life right. He wants to find a partner or someone that can do everyday things with him, not everyday things like fun things. I'm a fun person. I can get wild and crazy. Yeah, here we go to be fun time. We're on a roller coast right now? Who jumping off? Why are you guys on with that? Okay, think of it this way, Casey, think of this. He actually called a radio station to

get a second date. Now that is pretty exciting. Yeah, but yeah, that sounds be the funnest thing he's done so far as she's coming around. It sounds like you guys need some whiskey sours. Yeah, and you know what we're willing to pay. I don't need this hour. I just think the whisk Okay, we'll just pay for it. We'll pay for you, just whiskey for you and justin. If you're willing to go out one more time with him? What do you say? Hey, guys, I gotta interrupt here.

I just I don't know what happened. I'm not feeling it. I don't know where the Casey that I really enjoyed on my first date when it sounds like I'm being more fun than you now, Casey, Now you don't seem very fun. You cornered me on a radio. How much fun do you think I'm gonna have right now? I can have fun anywhere, anytime, on any radio station or any planet. I don't know what your problem is. Yeah, whoa, Okay, we don't need to be mean to each other now.

I'm just saying you said that I was boring. I'm trying to be fun here and now when I try to be fun, you don't want to be fun, and you're being a wet blanket. So I'm not even interested anymore. Date we're even going backwards on the second date update now and taking back a date. Oh Greg, can I still get the whiskies though? No, I'm sorry. We can't pay for just to give you a bunch of whisky. Send them to me, send them to the fun person. Froaking Jeffrey in the morning.