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Second Date Update: Stress Test

Nov 15, 202116 min
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How long should you wait on a date who's running late? One of our listeners waited an entire HOUR for his, and she's STILL not calling him back... He needs our help finding out why in today's Second Date Update!

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Second. It can be pretty frustrating when a first date doesn't go the way that you planned. Yeah. Yeah, Yeah, like when you go to the movie theater you find the tickets are all sold out. You go to the concert, the band forgot their guitar. I don't think that you go skydiving. They're out of parachutes, but they do have a big bundle of those helium party balloons, so you know, you give it a go. Yeah, but it's just not working out the way that you hope. I don't think

you're going to be calling us after that skydiving. That's what happened to one of our listeners justin not skydiving, but just his date didn't go the way he wanted it too, so justin welcome to the show Man. Hey, thank you for having me out there. But you didn't say she jumped first. Yeah. Well we'll get to what you did on your date in just a second, but first tell us about the person that you were meeting

up with. Um, who, what, where, when and why? That's a lot, Well just who, I guess he'll altering right now everything. Well, her name was Robin. She's beautiful. Yeah, he has these really really sexy green eyes. I mean like wow, oh yeah, that's awesome. Brook Brook has some sexy green eyes over there, like little lima beans. Oh what like a like a mountain dew? I see them glasses? How almost compliments an insult? I get you, I get you. Us green eyed girls where you know, we stick together.

We're rare breeds are yeah, like real green eyes, not contacts or anything like what you going on? Okay, so wait where did you meet her? Where did you meet Robin? We matched on a dating app and we decided to do like a dinner date. Awesome. Okay. Was were you feeling a lot of pressure going into this because it

sounds like there's a lot of build up. Um a little bit, but like I try not to get too nervous because I feel like on dates we all just get nervous and we're trying to impress the other person, but the other person is probably feeling the same. So I just tried to mellow out, equal to go there, have a good time, make sure everybody's comfortable. That is a good it's good life lesson right there. Yeah, they

always say be yourself. Yeah, I feel like a lot of times if people try too hard that yeah, ruins that, right, So you go to the restaurant for the date. How does it go? I ended up getting there a couple of minutes early, like, because I really liked this girl, and I'm always like five ten minutes late, so I made sure I was there fifteen minutes early. Bro, don't set that precedent. You're going to be late the restaurm

but get this. So I'm there about fifteen minutes early, and then I get a text that she's running late. So I was like, oh, in there, of course that's how it always wear Like yeah, but you know, like I completely understand. So I was like, not a problem. I just ordered a drink while I was waiting. I finished my drink and by that time she texts me again that she's still on the way. Oh my god. That here was a while, like I'll tell you, Like, I saw another couple come in after I had been there,

sit down, finish their meal, and leave. I think it had been like at least an hour before she got there. But she she did show up right, and she stayed in contact. She did. She stayed in contact. She showed up. You know, people have rough days. I understand, okay, and that can be hard though, after you've been waiting like cold for like an hour for them. But you I know, but you know, the restaurant staff is like oh yea, and all the other couples around are looking over like, oh,

you're getting stood up as a server. You know, this guy wants to make money off this table. But you can't go up and go, hey, when are you gonna just call it quits and let me get another table? Yeah, you can't do that. So how did it go when she finally did show up to the restaurant. Well, I was happy just to like, you know, have somebody there to be with me, because I was tired to be so sad to her. I'm sure I didn't want to like make herself conscious. She's I don't know what kind

of day she was having. She's finally here. Let's just have a good time. That's hard though, Like was she super frazzled. She seemed a bit flustered. I don't know if it was because she was late. I didn't want to like keep digging at it or dig into it. Yeah, you just want to move forward, move on. And were you able to Well? I tried, but the vibe was just different from before, like, I could tell this is not going well, and so I was like, hey, why don't I get you like a really nice cot fail.

When they brought it out, she gulped it down like a shot was really stressed out. Yeah, that's not a good look to some people. Brook speak for yourself, turn on. How did you feel about it? I don't know. I really like her. I feel like she's like the perfect physical match for me. And on the text she was so nice, funny and playful when charming, she just seemed really distracted, like she got food, she didn't even finish her food. So I don't know what was going on.

I just could tell, like, oh boy, this is not how I wanted it to go. Okay, So how did you end this date with her? So I asked if she wanted to just go for a walk, because I loved walking when I'm stressed out and just you know, air and everything. That's kind that's notful. He said that she just kind of felt like she has to be compressed today and wanted to go home, and I said,

that's not a problem. Did she give any indication that she wanted to see you again or like retry, because if it was me, I would feel really apologetic, right, like, like, oh my god, I ruined this day. I was super late. I've been totally distracted. Can you just give me a redo? You know, she didn't even say sorry when she came in out. Man, I mean, it definitely doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. It sounds like there was something

going on with her. But let's call her and find out and we'll try and get your second day up date. All right, that'd be great. All right, hold on, let's take this from the woman's perspective. Okay, Like she shows up an hour late, she's in a sour mood, she's gulping down cocktails, barely eating, hardly even talking to the sweet man sitting across the table from her. And after all of that, the guy still wants to see her again. That's how powerful it is to have a pair of

sexy green eyes. Brooke wishes that she had a real pair and they weren't hiding behind those giant foreign lenses that you got. Okay, listen, my eyes don't work well, but they are green. Yeah, I mean according to photoshop they are. But look, that's why one of our listeners, justin wants to call Robin after he waited an hour at the restaurant for her to show up, and the date never really even got off the ground once she did. But those darned gorgeous asparagus green eyes, they just had

him wanting one more chance. Yeah, like a sexy diesel gas pump. Right, you should say, like an emerald. That's class, That's what everybody does. What what do you think, like justin how would you describe those green eyes? I don't know, like magical, little kiwi brown on the outside. Yeah, they're exotic. Oh, justin the thing for me with this girl, she didn't

apologize after she was so late. That doesn't rub you wrong, it does, But you know, just taking all the history in the consideration, I thought like, maybe she's just something personal happened, Like, Okay, I wouldn't mind giving it one more shot. Okay, that's nice the way you've been describing her. A lot of times, really hot girls aren't apologetic. They're used to people waiting on them. Are you worried maybe this girl has like a ton of options and doesn't

really care about you that much. Trying to project onto him on a positive note, try one more time? So I just need not have experience. Let's let Jose sit in the corner and yeah, we have a lot of theories justin but we're really hoping for the best year. I'm gonna dial Robin's phone number right now. We'll see what's going on. You ready, Yeah, all right, just picture those beautiful KeyWe eyes. Here we go. All right, let's

do this. Hello. Hi, is this Robin? Yeah? Hey, my name is Jeff work on a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay, okay, And this is Jose. Yeah, and that is yeah, thanks Jeff. This is weirdness. This is Brooke. It sounds like you're busy, Robbin, and it is him. That is Alexus. I don't think she was asking for a roundtable introductions salted and you are now part of this thing called Brooke Jeffrey in the Morning. Welcome. Okay, what's going on? Did I win

something or what's up? Possibly? Yeah, Well, we're doing a segment called a second date Update. Okay. The way that it works is one of our listeners reaches out to us and we call the person who they went on on a date with and has been ghosting them, and we're trying to help him figure out the reason why. So the guy you went out with recently, his name's Justin. Oh Justin. Yeah, yeah, you can just tell him I'm not interested anymore. You're not interested. Okay, you're not interested

in Justin. He sounded like a really nice guy. No, I mean I've got my reasons. Okay. Well look that's okay, Like you're allowed to choose who you want to date and who you don't. But for Justin's sanity, he's trying to figure out, like what went wrong because he told us it took you a while to show up to the restaurant even I mean, yeah I did, and I do feel sad about that, Like that seems like it's more on you and it's less of what Justin did or are we Are we wrong about that? No, it's

totally what he did. Oh. So, like I had some stuff to get done and so I was like running late. But also like sometimes I do this with guys I meet online, just kind of to see how they're going to react. Wait, wait, wait, the one hour late thing was a test? Is that what you're saying? Yeah, I mean I didn't like planet ahead of time, but once I started being late, I was like, Okay, well, how

is he going to react to this? You know, and dude like sat there for an hour and waited for me, Like what is that a gentleman called patience and kindness and forgiveness. No, I mean you were texting him the whole time. You kept telling him you were going to be there. You were leading them on. It's not like he sat there for an hour and hadn't heard of

from you. I only texted him twice and kept saying like I'm heading there, and all he had to do he kept many options here, right, he could have rescheduled, he could have left, I mean something that Toody had a backbone. Right, So you're are you seriously saying that you're mad at Justin because he waited an hour for you to show up. No, I'm not mad at him.

I just he's not the guy for me. I'm looking for somebody who's confident, who's going to stand up for himself, Like I didn't even say I'm sorry when I got there, and he's too nice. Yeah, it's just kind of pathetic. And it's just like a little puppy dog waiting for like his master to show up. I mean, yeah, I like an actual puppy, not a man who's a puppy. I okay, I understand that you want somebody who's confident. But to me, it's not that he wasn't confident, it's

just that he was forgiving. Those are two separate things, and I think, like god, the world needs more of that type of attitude right now more than anything. I mean, no, spare me. I think the world needs more men who like have a backbone and our little waiting for somebody to show up. Oh well, Alice, I think it takes a lot of backbone, Robin, to be on the other line listening to this conversation the whole time and not

freak out. Yeah, that's the patient That takes strength and courage because Justin's actually been there the whole time wanted to talk to you. Is that right, Justin? Yeah? This true with my point. Okay, this is my point. Come on, mister confidence, let's go show her. Robin. The reason I was waiting for you for so long was because you were late. You confirmed, and you said you were coming.

I didn't want to be rude. Yeah. If you want a guy who's mean to you, who's route to you, good, look I just hope you guys don't have any kids, because all they're going to create is more havoc and monsters in the world's mind. I think now you're just kind of like lashing out. So no, it's kind of out. I thought that that's what you wanted him to do. No, I wanted him to be confident and to like stand up for himself, but like not just saying stuff to

piss me off or to look strong. Like. No, okay, you wanted to be confident without being told to be confident. There's like a happy balance. Yeah, it really is. It's weird and hard explain, but there is some kind of about it mean but not mean nice. Is there any way Justin can win right now, Robin? No, I mean no, it's done. I mean I hope, I hope that just like teaches him a lesson though, because girls really do want a little more confidence. But that's the thing. I'm

not trying to go out with the girl. I'm trying to find a woman who's matured your confidence right there. Honestly, Robin, I I never got not confident from Justin this whole time we were talking about him. I did, really, I mean, you should hear the way that he talks about your green eyes. Honestly, I've looked at Robin's green eyes in the flesh, and you know, now I'm starting to think maybe they are contact. Oh green eye girl, did you hear that? That was a sick fern on you? Robin Old?

Are you wow? I mean, do we ask at this point? I mean there's definitely some sort of fiery passion and going. I have to ask by saying you don't want to send him on a date? Then she'll say yes, do it? So, Robin, this is the time where I'm supposed to ask if you would like to go out on another date, but we don't want you to go on it. I don't think he even wants to show up to it. He wants to leave you hanging there. That's the type of guy,

confident person that yet. And if you're willing to show up to that, then we'll pay for thanks for the reverse psychology. I'm still good. I will find my own date. I mean it's hard, all this testosterone in the room. It's really strong, actually, Jeffrey Jose and I'm screwed up. You know what, Robin, he should be the one that asks you yea, as the strong independent man that he is. Go ahead, go ahead, justin. Hey, Robin, I'd like to officially ask you out on a date to a restaurant

that's not even open. It's been closed by the health department. But yeah, you want some food poisoning Robin. You know, I don't know what the hell is something here. I'm like back in elementary school, like what's going on? Because you're failing again. Yeah, you're creating a monster here. This is getting very unsexy. I finally agree with thank you. I told you you can say what you want, but that's another sick burn. Anytime you want, Roster, I'm just

saying I'll take you up on that comedy. I just need a clown like Robin, you know, and fire me. Why am I still on this phone call? I hang up? You done not right? I feel like you would have left if you really wanted to leave, But you want to stick around. I mean the grave. It's funny. Well he stuck around for you, and you're doing the same thing. I don't know anybody agree. I guess that wasn't really great comparison. So I just burned myself in Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,

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