Second d with online dating, is it okay to look different than your profile pictures? I know, I like to use my dad in my picture because that's what I'm gonna look like in forty years, so they know what future me is gonna be. You want to see your dad and also still say, oh, daddy or us, you don't. Well, one of our listeners had a little bit of a different approach. Hopefully he didn't use his mom in his pictures, but even if he did, that's not going to be
the worst thing in the world. Well, let's talk to him though, Dave, Welcome to the show. Hey, how are you good? Do you sound like your voice too, Dave? In real life? I do, yeah, your radio voice, But your dad has a sexy voice though. Okay, yeah, all right, Well tell us about the lady that you met online. What's her name? Her name's Maddie, and she's all she's gorgeous, she's funny, she's a small business owner. It's kind of like a complete package. Wow. Okay, So you saw her
and immediately thought, wow, well we met online. Actually we met on a dating app and uh, you know, I met saged her and she messaged back. Yeah, so you said in your email that you met online and that your picture was a little bit different than what you actually look like. What does that mean exactly? Well, I had a I had a really long beard for about seven years, and I decided a few weeks ago that I was going to do something different and I shaved it all off. And now I'm beating day. Would you
get rid of a beard? So shot? Get Yeah? My mom she has a story about when she was dating my dad and he had a huge beard. It was like the seventies or whatever. Right, shaved it all off and she slammed the door on him. She's like, he looks so creepy with beady little eyes that cry when they're dead. Yeah, I recognize that. In your opinion, how do you look without the beard? Dave h It's nice to see my chin again. I've missed it. Okay, But did you warn her this because she probably didn't even
recognize you. I did. Actually, before we met up, I made a point of saying, Hey, I'm gonna have something new going on with my beard. New going on with my beard. She's going there looking for a guy with a beard. Still. Yeah, that's because I decided I was going to wear one still, I um, because our texts were really playful and really flirty, so I figured I'd kind of be funny and wear a really big fake beard, like obnoxiously large fake beard. It went down past my belt. Okay,
in the corner. When she saw you, she thought it was hilarious. She came in, she laughed with me, and you know, I pricked it off and showed her my baby face. And is that when she's She didn't scream or anything after you. That's like a roller coaster. We just had a really good laugh about it. She's a great sport, all right. It's actually really good. Yeah, your humor are on the same page. Off to a good start.
So what happens next? So um, we decide that we're just gonna get a couple of cups of coffee and kind of walk around a little bit. Okay, we end up over at this really big park. We walked for I don't even know how long. It was a long time. Oh that's sweet. Though. It's like one of those where you like lost in conversation and you didn't realize how far you had done, or just lost literally in the park.
You don't know how to get out a little column, a little column be Okay, I just imagine you, like holding a cup of coffee in one hand and then a fake beard in the other hand, your waist, I sup it into my pocket. Okay, yeah, all right, So tell us more about the walk through the park. Um. So we're walking, we're talking, we're having a good time, and it's getting really hot, and I started sweating hot hot, like like hot outside or the conversations getting outside between outside.
All right, okay, we're in public, and sorry, my clothes are again really sweaty. I start feeling a little self conscious about it, but I don't say anything. And at one point I thought she was going to because she turns to me and she's like, hey, you know, my business isn't far from here. We could stop in and
I'll give you a tour. And it's a clothing shop that she owned, so I kind of was thinking she's going to offer me some shirt to wear something, okay, before saying like, what do you do too, Like you can't control your sweat glands, you know at that side, put the beard back on and cover up all the steams. Okay, So you went out to you went and visited her shop. He said, we did. We ended up walking over to her shop and she kind of gave me a quick
tour of it, had a little more conversation. She did not say anything about my sweat or offer a shirt or anything like that, so it was kind of a release. Yeah, especially since it was women's clothing. Oh yeah, oh yeah, there's that. And then we ended up walking all the way back to the coffee shop, so I got even more sweating. Oh how drenched was your shirt? I don't Oh it was. It was not pretty. It was pretty gross. Did you go in for a hug? No, she did. Yeah,
surprised the hell out of me. I was so gross. I wouldn't have done that. The self awareness I think helps though, too. Did you make a joke about it, because I mean, like you guys had already joked about the beard or the not beard or whatever you want to say. No, actually, I was actually feeling really self conscious about it, so I didn't say anything. Okay, So it sounds like you ended it on a pretty good no. What's happened since the date? Have you been in contact
with her still? No, that was the last time I spoke with her. I've tried to reach out a couple of times and total silence. Oh man, I mean maybe she got I guess I would say she would didn't think you were interesting because I'm guessing on the hug you were like, I don't touch me. You know, like, what are you thinking in your head? Might be the problem? You think the sweat is going to be the issue, or the lack of a beard when you came to the park. I hope it's not the lack of the beard.
I think I looked pretty good without the beard. Can you grow one out in the next five minutes when we play a song just in case really hard? Yeah, absolutely, because we're gonna play something. We'll come back call Maddie for you and try and get your second date up date? All right, thanks? Hold on second. Fake beards, sweaty clothes, and wet hugs. That's how the ladies like it. That's
how Dave's first date with Maddie went. At the very least, They're a long walk through the park on a sunny day caused them to get a little warm, so warm that he soaked through his shirt. Still had a pretty good conversation with Maddie and even got a hug at the very end, but after that the shower. A wet hug sounds awful. Yeah, any time of the day. If
these were moist afterwards, Maddie has one hundred percent ghosted. Yeah, and look, David, if Maddie's never brought up the sweat thing during the day and you didn't bring it up, then I'm probably not going to mention it to her either when we call her. That's fine by me. Please. She may have not noticed, because if she went for a hug, I just don't think that she did. However, when she was in that embrace, there may have been like sum yeah, yeah, or even smells. I don't know.
I didn't think about that. Yeah. You know, well, you guys are making it sound worse than I thought it was. I thought she was bringing you to her clothing store to get you a new shirt. I mean no, I thought it was bad for sure. Well, we're going to call her now and see what she has to say. I'm going to dial her number. Are you feeling ready? Man? I'm set. Do you want me to mute? Uh? No, but maybe change your shirt if you have to. Yeah, sure, better than wet pants. I've got paper towel stuffed into
my armpits. Right now, let's do this. Here we go. Hello, I'm looking for Maddie. Um, missa, she is this? Hey Maddie. My name is jeff and I'm on a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. We're all here, Hey, Maddie. Hey, um like radio radio? Yeah, we have a podcast too. Do you know what those are? I feel like people are forgetting you're on FM radio if it makes it cooler. Yeah, I just like it's just like a joke or did I win something I hope or no, this is not
a joke. This is a segment that we do call the Second Date Update, which you may have heard of before, but it's where we help people get in touch after they've gone on a date with someone and can't get ahold of them anymore. I don't know if I'm interested in this, um, but thank you anyway, Daddy. You don't even know who we're talking about yet. It's somebody who really likes you, somebody named Dave. Oh um yeah, yeah, yeah, you mean to say, oh yeah, uh huh, what what
is it about him that you want to know? Like? It's just like some do you need like a character witnessed or something. Big jump. Dave seemed like a pretty cool when we talk to him. Yeah, that We talked to him about the date that you guys went on, and he told us that it was a really nice time. So what we're trying to figure out is did something go wrong? Did he mess up somewhere? Maybe he insulted you in some way? And that's why you're not calling
him back? No, I mean, he's a nice he's a perfectly nice guy, and we can just like leave it like that. He's a perfect nice guy, So why don't you give him another change? He's a perfectly nice guy. Like, I'm not saying he's a perfect guy. Nobody is a perfect guy. I can I ask, were you not attracted to him after you showed up and he didn't have a beard like he did in the picture? Oh the whole beard thing. No, we had a laugh about that, Like that's not it at all. I would you mind
telling us, like what the reason is? Because he's really confused. He feels like it was a really good day. Well, there was just a situation that happened afterwards, and I just don't know how comfortable I feel talking about it. He said, after how far like after the date, like the next day after the date, who we didn't hear anything about the next day. I didn't think that Dave involved in the situation somehow. I mean, if you guys really want to know, yes, can tell you. But it's
just really weird. So we like weirdly we are weird. Well, like I own a store, and and basically he came in the next day. I wasn't working, but one of the girls who work for me was working, and she said that a guy had come in and he was acting really strange and he was just he's pretending to browse, and he was like looking at certain items, but then he didn't buy anything. And then he went to the bathroom and he didn't even ask to go to the bathroom, and you know, and then and then he just left
without buying anything. And so I went to the video cameras later on that night, and I noticed it was gay. Yeah, that's not that weird, Like what if he just came in to see you, and like it was awkwardly waiting for you and he's nervous. It was just so weird for him to come back. And then he spent so long in the restroom and there was just no need for him to be back. If that is really awkward. If it's a small store and you're just in the bathroom,
it's very awkward. Yeah. I will say it's weird that he didn't tell us about that when we talked to him, because it seems like a pretty like we asked him and he said he called you. He didn't say that he went and tried to look for you. Yeah, so I wish that we could offer you an explanation for that, But maybe Dave should just do it himself because he's been listening on the other line. He's in the bathroom right now. Oh my god, Um, like, why do you guys,
why do you want this to be out? Like? I just yeah, yeah, go ahead and talk to her, explain what happened. I'm trying to figure out where to start, man Um. Well, first of all, I think I probably owe you an apology. I guess from your perspective, I can see how that would be super weird. Yes, apology accepted, Jeff, Sorry, Yeah, that makes more sense. I don't really want to explain why I was there because that what what pretty embarrassing. Um, you were just there to see her, right, Oh? My god.
You guys said you weren't going to talk about it with her, but now I'm going to have to. Um, okay, well you should, I mean, because I need to hear the truth, so you let me know, or I mean, we're definitely not going to hang out, so okay, you know, nothing to lose. It's all on the line now. Probably not going to get a second date anyway. So here goes. Why did you go back to the store and why were you in the bathroom for so long? So I don't know, Maddie if you noticed, but I was so
sweaty from our walk. I was drenched. Yeahs um, yeah, it was gross. And remember when you gave me the tour and I said I had to hit the head real quick to pee. Is that how you described it? On a day you had to go to the bathroom, Dude, I'm nervous those guys. Okay, deep breath there daysm So you use the bathroom while you guys are on the date at the shop. I went into the bathroom. I didn't use it. What was happening in there was my boxers were so soaking wet with sweat. They were squashing.
My gosh, you're like swimming. Yeah, okay, I went swimming in my own. Okay, Okay, I know we told you to tell us, but now I'm regretting this decision. Are you asked for buddies? How to deal with the bathroom? I took my boxers off and I didn't want to carry around sweaty, nasty boxers for the rest of our day. Left them in the bathroom, and I didn't want her to find them, so I had to go back and get them. Why did it take you so long in
the bathroom to find them? Then, well, it didn't want to look like I was shoplifting anything, so I just went into the bathroom, put on some nasty boxers and walked out. Oh god, you purposely put on Dirney under That's why you waddled out of the store. Okay. If I sat making it sound so bad, Maddie, I don't think it's that bad. He just wanted to like underwear. I just know I'm being serious, Like it's a super embarrassing story. He was really voterable. He's shared it with you,
like you've got to under daddy. He must seem much more attractive to you now that you've I mean, that's so weird. I don't know. If we haven't, we'll have an interesting story about the first try again day. I mean, it's all on the line. I might as well at this point. What do you feeling, Maddie? Where are you at? Um? I mean I am a little creeked out that that was really nice to you. At least explain why you were creeping her on the store. Okay, that's good, she said.
She said, she's creeped out, not grossed out, So I can work there we go, Yes, you can come back to creep. We'd like to help you get there, Maddie. We'd like to send the two of you out on a non creepy, non gross date. Yes, no boxers, what's soever physical active? Well, however you want to do it, we'll pay for the date. What do you say, Maddie? Um, okay, we'll go for a date. Good job, Dave. Yeah, thanks, guys, I was totally sweating over here. Put the boxers back on, dude.
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