Second d. When a guy's nervous for a first date, there are certain methods that he can use beforehand to help calm his nerves and boost his self confidence. Okay, you know, like you can go hit the gym, all right, that's a good one. Maybe get a haircut. That's nice too. I mean, girls are the same, We're on the same list right now. You guys take artificial pills too, No, no, or you can do what I do and watch replays
of MTV spring Break two thousand and four on VHS. Oo. Yeah, like a fine wine Daytona Beach back then age as well? Does it? Oh yeah? But one of our listeners, Nate, has a different strategy that he uses to prepare for a big date. And I've never heard of this before. I'm telling you there's no way it's better than Daytona Beach two thousand and four. So telling me skeptical, but Nate, welcome to the show. Hey guys, Okay, I'm I'm intrigued, peaked my interest. What do you do before a date?
Hold on, I need to know. We'll get to the pre date strategy in just a second. But first, once you tell us about the girl that you went out with what's her name? Carolyn? Carol Marlyn. I want to you know what I really care about, Nate right now? Where did you meet Carolyn? Though we met online? What struck you about her? Well, we had a lot in common. She's pretty, you know, not beautiful, but pretty. What's the difference. She's just like one notch under beautiful. That wasn't here
you're pickup line on Tinder? But yeah, we met. Maybe he could say, yeah, a real catch trick. So why were you nervous for the date? I mean, Jeff said you did something to like comm your nerves. Why were you nervous if she was only pretty? I always get nervous for first dates, whether they're beautiful, pretty or cute? Okay, so cute's the lowest level ativeness, you know, I just know you pretty beautiful? Okay, I can't Yeah, let's let's just let's just assume that this is a very attractive
woman that you went out with. And so tell us we said you were nervous. What is your pre date strategy to calm yourself? Oh? I just like to preload myself. What does that mean not to night? Uh? I think what? Like, you know, how people pre party like, I don't pre party. I I got loaded the night before so that I could be hung over on the day, so you could be hungover. Wait? Is that because like when you're hungover, you don't care about anything and you're at your absolute worst. Like,
what what is the I don't understand the strategy here? Yeah, exactly. I don't get nervous about stuff when I'm hungover. I just you know th things. I just feel like I performed better. Is it so the night before the date you got wasted and then you woke up the next day hungover ready to go out? Exactly? I mean, looking at it, I'm assuming smelling like hell, well, I put on extra deodorant so I wouldn't smell. That's usually not gonna work. Well, it's all about how you feel, Brooke.
It's not about how you look or smell. It's a feeling inside. And so did it work? Did she notice the smell or notice your booming confidence walking in hungover? Well? I also put on cologne as well as deodor Okay, alcohol, deodorant and cologne all mixed together. Oh, Nate, what was the first interaction? Like, let's you walk into the restaurant, She's there, how does that go? We just introduced ourselves, hugs, I pulled out her chair. Okay, No, we sat down
and ordered dinner. Okay, okay. Did you get any vibe from her during that? Was she noticing your your aroma? No? I don't think she noticed anything. It was It was actually a flawless dinner, great conversation, good food, tons in common. We both loved dogs. You have more drinks to feel better? Or did you? Guys? Just were you about the booze? No? I kept it clean and you don't. Did you tell her? I mean, because you know obviously she's not calling you back,
that's why you're on the phone with us. I mean, did you tell her like, oh, I'm so hungover? Like maybe it was like the party vibe. It was a turn off for her. Number one rule of getting preloaded. Did never tell anyone you're doing it? Yeah, they just have to figure it out from the sights and the smells. Dying. But it sounds like the date went really well according to you, that's amazing. How did it end? It ended with the cancer? It was lovely throw up? Yeah? Anything
hung on? Don't do that makes you feel so much better. So why do you think you're not getting a call back after this. Then, Well, she had mentioned that she had a birthday coming up, and I wanted to do something for her. I didn't want to cross any lines or do anything like too crazy since we just met, but I shot up around and I got her a
private SPA package and I just email it to her. Wow. Private, it's on the line of over the time, right only because you're getting naked and getting rubbed down, like I just I know, but it's still like that's the thought behind me. For sure. Even if I wasn't going to go out with him again, I'd probably take it. So we all have our opinions on that gift. What did Carolyn think when you sent it to her? I could she was excited. That's a very good Okay, so has
she gone to the spa day yet? She went, But she didn't thank me for it, you know, And like I was worried that maybe something strange had happened. But like the place had really good reviews. It didn't seem like one of those places that you hear about on the news. That's what I I made an appointment at one of those spats once and then I went and read the Yelp reviews, and the last one was from a granddaughter who sent her eighty five year old grandpa
there and it was I canceled. So you're saying that she never thanked you at all. Yeah, she never officially thanked me. We texted back and forth and she said, yeah, it was good, but this felt the vibe was kind of lost. Sounds like she was just accepting the present without any thought of maybe wanting to go out with you, or maybe she was hoping it was one of those shady massage places and was disappointed. It was so nice. Yeah,
I really relaxed. That's it. Well, let's find out. We're gonna play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Carolyn for you, and we'll try and get your second date update. All right, Nate, all right, thanks, all right, hold on if you're just joining us. One of our listeners at Nate went out on a great date with a woman named Carolyn the other night, and the reason it went so well, according to him, is because he got preloaded,
which apparently means getting trashed the night before. I've never heard of that where you purposefully show up to a date hungover to try and ease the nerves because most people I know, including myself, are just complete garbage when they're hung over. I am worthless. I canceled dates when I hung over. Yeah, well, there's a few single people on this show who maybe should give it a try. You're right, actually should follow through that. I'm usually wasted
on the date exactly. Just fast forward a little. Yeah, you gotta start much sooner. And I know this sounds a little bit strange, but it did work for Nate. In fact, he got a kiss at the end of the night, and afterwards he sent Carolyn a private SPA package as a birthday present. Does a hangover kiss sound awful? I don't know, kid. Yeah, I'll take any kiss personally. Okay, I guess I would do. But since then, Carolyn's been difficult to reach and Nate, I never even asked you.
Did you get preloaded yesterday in preparation for this phone call? Number one rule of preloading never tell anyone you're doing it. Sorry, I forgot the rules. I will say, you are pretty low energy, Rachel. It doesn't sound nervous at all of those, so it's working. So the one thing I didn't get, Nate, I mean, you want to go out with her again, or you're mad at her for not thanking you for the SPA package. I want to go out with her again. I just think that her not thinking me might be
an indication of her not liking me or something. Okay, most be static. Yeah, it's possible that she's preloading though, to accept your date the second time around. She's maybe nervous. Now that's There's only one way to find out, and that's by calling her number. You're ready to do this? Yes, I hope she's slurring when we pick up. We're going to give it a shot. I'm dialing it right now. Here we go, Hello, No, no, no, Yeah, Hey, is
this is this Carolin? Who is this? My name's jeff from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. We're doing something called a second date update. What's this about? This is about somebody that you went on a date with recently. He's a friend of our show, and afterwards he's been having a hard time getting ahold of you. His name's Nate. Ah me, that was weird. No, now I want to hear what happened from your perspective? What was weird? Yeah, you're saying Nate was weird or the
date was weird? I mean, I liked him. The date was great, We had an awesome time. We had a lot of fun. It's just after it got really strange. Was it too much? I mean he told us that he sent you that birthday gift, like the spa package. Was that like over the top for you? No? Actually I love that. Like, I thought it was really sweet that he remembered my birthday and that means a lot to me that he was listening. Oh, what is the
part that made you say the F word? So I went to the spa and I was super excited to have this nice, luxurious spa day and everything went amazing. And then I come out and they said, so can you pay? And I was like, what do you mean? This is a gift And they handed me a bill of two hundred and fifty dollars. Oh nice? So wait, did he only make you an appointment? He didn't buy the package? They said it was booked, but he didn't pay. Oh that's amazing, happy birthday? Yeah? What the was that? Yeah?
Did you have a nice time? Though? It's nice he got you in for a and I'm not sorry. It's kind of funny. I'm sure maybe he didn't realize. Yeah, are you saying you think that he didn't pay on purpose? I don't know what it was. But on top of that, I had to tips I wanted to spending three hundred dollars on myself for my birthday. Oh well, you know what they say when it seems too good to be true. Yeah,
he usually is. Well, there's a chance that Nate doesn't even know that he didn't pay, right, did you tell him? I just left it alone at that point. It was too awkward. Yeah. Yeah, no, I would just be like, hey, you forgot to pay this. No. No, I would have said, hey, you may want to check your bank statement because they charged me for the spa day. I just want to make sure you didn't get double charged. Oh that's smarty, thank you. Yeah. That would have been a good idea
if we had done this for an awkward Tuesday. Yeah, then it would have worked. But we didn't, did we No, we didn't. Well here's the thing, Carolyn, I don't even know if Nate realizes that he didn't pre pay for the massage. I don't know. It just feels to me like something you should have handled. Well, maybe we could ask him if he knew, because he's actually on the other line listening and he wants to talk to you, Carolyn. He is just sounding pretty stressed. You might need another
massage soon, But no, I'm serious. Didn't you there? Yeah, I'm here? Oh God, did you Carol? Carolyn? I am so sorry? Oh so you you heard what she said about the SPA. Yeah. I thought that I had paid for it. I thought it was all taking care of it clearly. Did you put your credit card information in? Yeah? No, I thought it was just automatic. It's automatic. You just think it and then you get and then it's paid for. I mean that'd be nice to think that way, But
how could you not think of something like that? Nay, are you lying? Are you lying because you got caught or have you never before? Honestly I have not. But I just messed up, Like I really did mean to pay for it. I mean the thought was nice. Just I don't understand how you mess that one up. I mean, do you want to pay for it now? Oh? I mean yeah, like it sound like it. Did you know it was going to be like three hundred bucks? Nate? No? I mean do you want to split it? Oh? You
want to sign up for a financial packet. Were you preloading when you booked this? That's a good question. That is a good question. I probably should have been what is preloading? Oh? Yeah, yeah, you want to take this preludings when you get real hammered the night before an important event, so that you're hungover and just relax. Doesn't that sound lovely? Who needs a spa when you can preload?
Why would you want to do that? No? The point is because if you're nervous, it helps ease your nerves when you're hungover, according to him, According to call, having a glass of wine? Maybe yeah, well yeah, six classes of wine? Yeah? Exactly where are we? Are we worried about preloading? Now? Are you getting your money back? I don't know, boy, I feel like I want to preload though, Well, do you want to hang out again? Do you want
to go on another date? You just asked me if I want to pay for half of my spot pocket that was supposed to be a birthday gift? Yes, well, techn me a half off a birthday page. Yeah, if you guys go out again, then Nate can actually show you how to properly preload turn it into a date. No, you don't get someone a birthday gift and then ask if you want to cover half. That's tacky you asked before, say, hey, I would love to buy you a spot package if you'd like to go halves on it. That's different than
after great and Nate. If you couldn't afford the three hundred dollars, man, that's fine. She wasn't asking for it, Like, why didn't you get her something else? Then? Just don't get it at all? Right, like a nice bouquet of flowers. I'm sure would have been super appreciated. Yeah, I mean next time. You know. Look, here's the thing I don't know about who's going to pay for that massage? But the way that these second date updates work is that
we offer to pay for the next date. Yeah. So, Carolyn, with that being said, would you like to go out with Nate one more time? The bill will be on us. From the way he answered about splitting the spot package, I just that rubs me the wrong way. But that's sober Nate talking. You need to go out with pretty low. He's the charmer, and you still want one hundred and fifty bucks, don't you? I mean no, I don't even want his money at this point, like, I'm fine, don't
want money. I think we can also split the tip on top of that too, if you well, are you already are you cheap? I mean either, it's fine. We just need to know. There's a lot going on right now. I just don't feel great because the last night, Hey, what are you doing? Rule number one of preloaded. We don't talk about what happened when you preloaded. I didn't preload. I just got baked much better. Better. It's broken Jeffrey in the morning.