Second Date Update PODCAST: You Not Jelly?

working that late on a Friday night. That's what happened to Matt, who is on the phone right now and wants to do a second date update. He wants to call a girl named Claire. Apparently Claire is really bad at blowing guys off. Yeah, because he asked her out after their date and that was one of her excuses that she used. Apparently she's used a bunch of excuses, and he's wondering why she just keeps blowing him off. What's up, Matt? How are you? I'm doing great? Guys?

How are you good? So she actually sent you a text after your date saying that she had a doctor's appointment at eight on a Friday night. Yeah, White, Actually she did that two day from weekends because I waited a couple of days. I didn't want to come off desperate or anything. I wanted to play it cool. So I texted her and I think, you want to grab some drinks tonight or something. This was earlier in the day, and she's like, Oh, I have a doctor's appointment tonight.

What did you say back? I mean, I wasn't going to try to pest her because I kind of took a little bit of a hint. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I'm like, Okay, well, you know, let me know after we're tipping up and maybe we can do party. You wanted to text her back and be like, it's Friday night at eight o'clock. Do you

really have a doctor's appointment? Absolutely? I mean I wanted to call her out on it, but at the same time, I'd feel bad if she did have some kind of random doctor's appointment and then I called her a liar and then yeah, it's one of those where you just bite your tongue. You're like, oh my god, yeah, don't you think she said it? And she's like, oh, wait, that doesn't make any sense. He's gonna know that. I'm blowing him. I don't know how lady doctors work. I mean,

maybe lady doctors are open. You're not getting pap smears on a Friday night. It's not what we do. No, there's no like happy hour or late night happy hour for those things. Yeah, what was the other excuse that she used on you? I texted her a second time. It wasn't as late. I figured, you know, maybe she want to do like a happy hour or something like that. And what'd she say back? Actually, I was surprised because that one was a dentist appointment. She needs to get

more creative. Is the problem? Are you sure you want to call this girl and try to get a second date? I mean, I think more it's I want closure. I want to know what happened, because we hit it off really well. She's she's gorgeous. I don't usually do blind dates, but the one time that I did it, it worked out really well. I thought we had a lot in common. So this was a date that was set up by somebody. Yeah,

our friends. We have some mutual friends. And they kept pestering me over a couple of weeks, and finally they showed me a picture of her on Facebook. Yeah, it's like, oh absolutely. Do you think that she was maybe disappointed when she saw you? If she was, she didn't act like it. I mean, maybe she's really nice. I mean, I don't think I'm that much of a disappointment to look at being much. She really enjoyed herself. Everything on

your date seemed cool. What did you guys do? It was just a first date kind of thing where we just went out to a bar and had a couple of drinks and we ended up just talking for you know, at least two or three hours. That's good time. Like I mean, if she didn't like you initially, I wouldn't stay around that long. And I'm pretty good at reading people, so I I mean, either she's a really good actress or if she was having a good time. But I mean, it just it felt like things were really clicking. Was

there anything weird that happened during your date? Not that I'm aware of. I mean, there's a couple of times, you know, she went to the bathroom, just like once or twice. But then after you're having drinks, you know, someone goes to the restroom. Yeah, that's right, unless she's a cokehead and she's just sounds to me like she's doing drugs in the bathroom during your date. Matt, I've never actually thought about Yeah, well you gotta think about

it more often. Whenever I'm out on a date. As soon as she goes to the bathroom, I know exactly what's going on in there. I'm tired of going out with all these druggies. All right, So you still want to call this girl even though she's blatantly blowing you off. Oh? Absolutely, She's really one of the prettiest girls that I've ever went on a date with. Like, we're just really beautiful. I'm absolutely my type, and we just the stuff that

you look for in common with someone. Those things that we had together, it was just something, just something that we could build on. Did you give her a kiss at the end of the night. No, we just hugged and you know, went on a better way. Okay, well, we'll play a song, come back, call her and get your second date update. All right, off, thank god brooking jubil. In the morning, Snatt is on the phone with us and he wants to call a girl named Claire. Today.

They met through friends, went out on a date. He thought everything seemed cool, but since then he's tried to text her and gotten horrible excuses back as to why she can't go out with him. It was a Friday night at eight o'clock, and she said she had a doctor's appointment. And then the next time he said let's hang out earlier, like five o'clock on a Saturday, she said she had a dentist appointment, obviously blowing him off. Matt,

Are you ready to make the phone call? Yeah? Man, absolutely, all right, Well, I'm have to unfortunately tell you I'm gonna need to reschedule autometrius appointment here in ten minutes. So shouldn't be a surprise to you, though, This is kind of what people do to you, right, Yeah, absolutely? Yeah. Have you ever been this blatantly blown off before? Never? No,

that's why it's bugging me so much. Yeah, I can see your point, because I would be like, I just want to know why why do you feel the need to pretend with a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night. All right, man, I'm gonna dial the phone umber right now, get her on the phone and get your second day update. Okay, cool, Thanks, here we go. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Claire please. Yeah, this is Clay. Hey Claire, how are you doing? This is Jewel from

Brook and Jewel in the Morning. I'm sorry, I don't understand. Okay, that's fine. It's a morning radio show and one of our listeners recently emailed us about you. Then his name is Matt. We do a segment on our show called the Second Date Update. Matt is wondering why you are blowing him off. Wait, Matt called you, guys, Yes, huh do you have a few minutes to tell us why you don't want to go out with Matt again? I mean, I guess there's not much to tell. There's not much

to tell? Well, let me, can I tell you something? Sure? We talked to Matt about your date, and we talked to him about everything after the date, and Matt thinks that you're a liar. He thinks him a liar. He thinks that you're a liar. Okay, why because you told him you couldn't go out with him because he had a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night. And then the next time he asked you out, you said you had a dentist's appointment. So like that's my

business and for the record of not lying. Okay, you're not lie that you went to the doctors at eight o'clock on a Friday night. I got can explain this to you, guys. So the doctor's appointment stuff is all true and you haven't been blowing him off. You want to see mad again? I mean like, like not necessarily. I don't want like I don't actually want to see him again. Why woun't you make up lame excuses? Why don't you just tell him? Hey, I don't think it's

gonna work. I don't I don't need to justify any of this to you, guys. I didn't get that feeling with him, and I don't want to see him again. But hey, I don't care if you blew him off the way you did. Whatever doesn't matter. It's not my life, that's his. But is there a specific reason why you don't want to see him again so that I can go back to him and tell him, Oh, I just I just didn't get the feeling I feel like I should get. So there's just no chemistry, like you weren't

attracted to him. There's just like a feeling a girl gets when a guy really likes her and he thinks it's weird. I didn't get that from him at all. So you didn't think that he liked you, but he asked you out a bunch of times since your date. I mean it was weirder than that. It was like when we went into the bar, I was like, oh

my god, here's my ex boyfriend. And he was gonna at the bar too, And so I told Matt that, like I used to date this guy, and like he wasn't even a face, Like he didn't even like he didn't care, he didn't like he just went along with the date like nothing happened. And I was like, don't you get it, Like we slept together, Like this is like weird. You know, you wanted him to be upset

that your ex boyfriend was there. It's not that he has to like get upset or angry about it, but like I went to like show that he actually likes me, he probably should seem like he's at least faced by a little bit, like a little bit weird it out. So you wanted to like go up to your ex boyfriend and threaten him right there or something. No, I'm like fight or anything. I just like I wanted to be a little bit us and show me that he carries about me. Like that just comes off as a

little crazy to me. Did you purposely take him to a bar that you knew your ex is gonna be at? Oh my god, what is this? Like? I honestly don't need to explain any of this to you. I'm being nice by explaining why I'm not calling back a guy that obviously was acting weird in the date. I talked to all my girlfriends. They agree it's weird if you're just like, don't even care, you know that, Like this guy I used a date like, he didn't want to leave.

He just wanted to stay there and keep talking about books. Okay, so you would have rather that it weirded him out, and maybe he was like, I don't want to be here around your ex, Let's go somewhere else exactly. Yeah, but it's like a first date and he's not even invested in your guys' relationship. Like what does he have to be jealous of? I mean, I slept with the guy that's like five bars fools down, I would be jealous.

And I'm like, okay, So way through the night, my ex boyfriend came up and introduced himself and like, Matt just like offered to buy him a drink. I mean that's over the time. So Matt was too cool to your ex? You would have rather been like, how would okay, in a perfect world, Claire, if you were out with a guy and this happened, how would you want him to react. I would want him to be like cold and like defend me and like not just sit there and not cool about it, Like he doesn't even care

about me, Like are we friends? Or are we like are we on a date? I couldn't tell. I really couldn't tell. Claire. All right, so you like a guy who gets a little jealous, and Matt is obviously not that guy. Obviously not that guy. Okay, hey, Claire, I should let you know that Matt is actually on the other line listening to this conversation. What. Yeah, I don't know what I'm supposed to say to you. Is it that I'm too nice? I don't understand what it is.

Are you like, if you're out with the girl, they want you to be jealous, Like if some guys starts flirting with me, especially if it's my ex boyfriend. Honestly, I was just trying to be a nice guy and like just play it cool. I figured if if I come off mean that that would you know, you wouldn't find that attractive. I wanted to try to be polite and nice. No, like what attractive is being a man in that situation and like, like, you know, playing it cool.

I don't want you to play it cool. Like, so what's I supposed to like punch him out when he walked up or something? Well, you also to buy him a beer. I know that you were. I mean, it wasn't like you had if you kind of look on your face like you were mad that he was there. So I just figured you guys were, you know, still at least friends or clause. I'm not. I'm not the jealous type I've got. I've got friends in my life that I've dated. It a long time ago, So sometimes

you remain friends, you remain close. I figured you guys were still close. I wanted to be nice. Oh, guys, I was it cool? That's what I'm supposed to do in that situation. Your role is like stick up for me no matter what. Look, I have a way date. Oh my gosh, I'm just I'm really confused, right, now, I really do not understand women at all. Yeah, obviously you don't understand women, obviously, Claire. That is not how all women think. It's how I think, and it's how

most of my girlfriends think. So like, I have no idea what you're talking about. You're gonna end up with like some control freak, jealous roid rage. Dude, If that's the type of parameters you're putting on your dates, don't judge me about who I want to date. You're the one who called me, yeah, broke, back off, back off. I'm sticking up for Claire right now, Claire, Claire, I got your back, all right. I'm sticking up for you like a good man should do. Finally, a real man

is doing something. There you go, Claren. If you and I were out on a date and your ex boyfriend was there, he's not getting a beer from me. It's good. I mean, at least somebody understand. Yeah. I'm glad we see all that here, Matt. Would you even like to go out on a second date with Claire? I mean, knowing what I know now, absolutely not. She's obviously got some kind of point of view of what the roles of men and women are I mean, okay, okay, it's

not good. I want some macho guy. I just want a guy that has like balls, you know, you know whatever, I'm done with you, that actually probably will get you another date with Claire. Good job, Matt, broken Jupil in the morning,