Second Date Update PODCAST: We’re Being Watched

back out there and things are kind of difficult. That's the problem that the guy on the phone is having today. He hasn't dated in over two years for a very good reason. Darren, how are you. I'm doing good. How are you guys? Doing pretty good? Thanks for your email, Thanks for agreing to do a second date update. Now. You said that you hadn't dated in two years. Yeah, just about over two years because my wife had passed away.

Oh man, Well, you know I had to take the time, and I felt like after that two years, I was ready to try to give it a go again. And so I did kind of what everybody does, and I got an online dating profile. Okay, and the girl that you want us to call today. What's her name? Her name is Stacy? Stacy, And what attracted you to Stacy on her internet dating profile? First and foremost, as though she was a very attractive girl, and I just really

kind of liked how she represented herself there. And we sent a couple of messages back and forth, and then we agreed on having dinner. And can I ask this was your actual very first date since the passing of your wife two years ago. Yeah, first date in the past two years. It's got to be a lot of pressure, and it's got to feel weird to be back on the dating scene. I mean yeah, I mean I was nervous.

There's no no question pull disclosure. I kind of had to psych myself up for it a little bit in the mirror, let myself know that this is going to happen. This is great. You're looking good. You know, you gave yourself like a coach's pep talk before before I set myself on the front line. Yeah, just a little bit doing whatever you gotta do. Man. I try and do that a little bit every day. I'm saying, just breathe,

just breathe through it, get through dinner. It's gonna be great, you know, but I felt like I was ready and I felt like it actually went pretty well. We had good conversation, and I was a little sweaty. When you say a little sweaty, how sweaty do you mean? I mean I saw people going down my back. We could say that, I got but was it going down your forehead? And was your clothing soaked? I mean there was some wiping. Okay, all right, So you were sweaty and nervous. Do you

think your date picked up on that? She did? I mean I was. I kind of had to acknowledge it after a little bit. Was there like one moment that stands out to you, is like the best moment of the date? Yeah, I guess A nice moment was just sitting that dinner when her entrees came and just I was nervous, and I knew I was putting that energy out there and there was a little bit of attention, and I just acknowledged it and said, hey, I'm nervous.

You are really attractive and my fault my bad. And we were able to kind of laugh about it, and she said she understood, and you know, it just kind of changed how I felt about the evening, and I felt like she was understanding of the whole situation of my life. That's good. If you wasn't understanding about that, I wouldn't gonna want to be calling her back at all. Yeah, exactly, Yeah, I mean that's exactly how it felt. On a scale

of one to ten. Since you've been out of the dating world for a little while, what would you give this date? I mean I I would give it a strong seven eight strong seven eight. Do you feel like she felt the same way, though, I mean, I mean I thought so, I really thought so. So that's I mean, that's why I emailed into the show. And how did you end things with her? I drove her back to her place and we were saying good night, and she had kind of put her hand out, and I'm gonna

admit it was awkward. I'm awkward. I don't know. And I just I literally said out loud, or can we hug? And I just did it before I got an answer. Yesterday's all right. I think that's not necessarily a bad thing. I mean, it's a hug. It's not like you said screw it and just like started trying to make out with her. I mean, I'm six foot four and she's you know, got to be five four, so I'm much taller than her. All right, so she's tiny and you're a big duty. You just engulfed her with your big arms.

I guess. So yeah, do you feel like that creeped her out? I hope it didn't. I feel like, you know, that's not going to end everything is a giant bear hug. I hope not. Honestly, I was like, you know, I gotta get out of here, not do something else, operate. How clear were you with her that this was like your first date and did you bring up that your wife had passed? Yeah, you know, we've brought it up just because she asked, like dating a lot? Or why are you dating? And I kind of had to bring

it up. I didn't want to lie and have it to be something else, and so I just kind of mentioned it and she seemed okay with it. How many times have you tried to get ahold of her after your day? Well, like two days later, hadn't heard anything. So I sent her a text that was said, you know, hey, it was great to see you. How's your tad going? And uh, I didn't hear anything. So I was like, well, maybe I should give her a call. So I gave her one call and left her voice message that was

basically the same. You send her another text like what about the hug? Don't you remember the great hug? How dare you do this to me? Even though I did not bring that up again? Okay, do you do anything? I mean, you haven't dated in two years? Why not just like chuck this one up to? Well, that was the first time out. We're going to give it another go with somebody else next. It just felt right, It felt right, and you know, I figured if I think

it feels right, I should probably go after them. Okay, well we'll play a song comeback Caller, and then get your second date update. Okay, all right, so I'm good, all right brooking jubil in the morning second date. I don't make this promise very often in second date updates, but I promised that I'm gonna get the guy who's on the phone a second date today. What Yeah, I

promise him, no matter what, because I like him. He's a nice guy, He's been through some stuff, and he deserves to get a date, if not with the girl that we're about to call for him with somebody who texts in I don't know, or if I have to put on a dress and go on on a date with him, I don't care. I am guaranteeing Darren that you are going to get a date out of this phone call we're about to make, Okay, I hope, So all right, you know what, I kind of hope, she says, no,

so that I can go out with Yeah. If you're just tuning in for the second day up date, Darren wants us to call a girl named Stacy. They met online. He hasn't dated in a couple of years for good reason. His wife passed away and he was ready to date again, so he decided to go online and he met Stacy day went out for dinner. He was a little bit nervous and that showed He's sweating and just a little like awkward during the whole date. He says. The date ended with a very big, sweaty hug from him, that

she didn't really seem like she wanted. So, Darren, you're ready to make the phone call? Oh yeah, let's do it all right, man, here we go. Be confident. He've got one hundred percent guaranteed success. Sorry, yeah, look at it this way. It doesn't matter what she says, Darren, You're still getting a date. Could be with a dude, but you're still getting a date. I mean, I am a big fan. There you go. Okay, I'm gonna dial the phone of her right now so we can get

her on the phone. Hello, Alli, can I speak to Stacy please? This is Stacy. Hey Stacy, how are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Um, it's okay, it's I'm fine. Good, it's good to hear. Just calling to check in on you. See how you're doing. Courtesy call. Do you ever listen to our show at all? Um? I think so. I've listened to a few times. My mom really likes it. Cool, all right, how old your mom? Nice? That's who we're going for. We kill it the sixty

one year old mom. So she's the right person that we want listening. Stacy, have you ever heard of second date update before? What does that mean? That means that you recently went out on a date with somebody who listens to the show and you haven't been calling them back since your date. So they emailed us to get you on the phone and ask if they did something wrong. Wow, that's weird. It is kind of weird, but it is a segment that we do on our show. And the

guy's name is Darren. Do you remember going out with Darren? Yeah? Yeah, Okay, did you like Darren? M Yeah? Yeah, I did. You sound very hesitant, Stacy, No, he was weet. I remember he was really nice and yeah, it was a fine time. Okay. If it was a fine time, why haven't you called him back after he's texted you and tried to call you? Um, I don't want to, like, you know, put all his

business out there, but like it was. I think that maybe we're just not you know, we're kind of a different points in our life in regards to the dating and things like that. Well, in regards to the putting his whole business out there. We talked to Darren and he told us everything that he hasn't dated in a while because his wife passed away. He also said that he was very nervous the entire time and was sweaty and gave you an awkward hug at the end of

the day. You know, It's like, I don't know, I always think like you get nervous at the beginning of the date and you kind of ease into it, but it seems kind of like the opposite for him, Like he got more nervous as the date went on. You know, he was like the most nervous at the very end. And you know he like straight up like I asked for you he can d me, and then before I

could respond, he just did it right. You can understand the nerves, though, if the dude hasn't dated for two years because of something like sure, yeah, and I you know, I don't have like any will towards him at all. I just don't think we're really compatible in that way. I think, yeah, but he was just nervous. He hasn't been out in two years. Look, Stacey, I really want to get him a second date with you. That's my goal here is to make you go out with him

again and give him one more shot. Yeah, is to force you to go out with him again. Yeah. I mean, like I totally understand the nerves. But it was like we were talking about his ex wife, and you know, I'm completely understanding. I know how it goes. But like essentially what he said was that she is watching over him all the time, which at first I thought was kind of sweet. And then he said that throughout the date he could feel her like aura or her spirit

at the dinner table, judging me, judging you. Did he actually say the words judging you? Yes, he said the word judging me, and it freaked me out, like as if her spirit is jealous or as in she's hoping things go well. I took it as like she was like jealous, like she was judging me, Like how dare thinking that? I'm like, you know, some easy girl, you know, trying to pick up a dude. You know. Maybe, yeah, maybe he said it wrong. I feel like her presence is around me all the time and she would want

me to be doing this. It look it's it's probably a weird thing to say either way, but I doubt he was saying, like, my wife who passed away is sitting next to me right now. Her spirit is and it thinks you're a skank, Like I doubt that's why he met by that space. Regardless of any of it, it just really creeped me out. Did you say anything to him after he brought up the dead wife judging you? No, he was just weird. It was just really creepy, and I think he just needs to take some time, Stacy.

I hate to get weird on you too, but there is another presence that's listening to this phone call right now. What do you mean? I mean that Darren is actually on the phone and heard everything that you just said. Are you kidding me? No, I'm not. Hey, look I'm I didn't. I had no idea that you would like be listening to this. They called me out of nowhere, you know, like I'm sorry. I mean, they're okay, Like are you really upset? Like I mean, you know always,

I mean, it's fine, it's good. I guess, well, I'm really sorry, but I know that you were really nervous, and like I you know, I felt like I was as patient as I possibly could be. But it's just kind of weird. You know. It's weird to like go on a date with somebody and like have the person say that they're dead. Wife is judging me? You know. It's like my uncle passed away last year, and I can't just say, like, oh my uncle Bob is you know judging you. You have to understand how that would

freak someone out. Well, but it was like a good thing, like she was it was good that she was there and good that like she approved of you, you know, like she liked you, And I felt like if she liked you, then this is a good thing. That's kind of weird, Okay, I just don't want to know what your ex wife is thinking. Well, can we do it again? And like we can go out again? And I mean I could leave her at home, you know, could we can we make it happen? Look, Darren, like the whole

spiritual thing, like it just kind of freaked me out. Look, Stacy, you're really screwing the second date up date up for me because I promised Darren that I would get him a second date with you. Will you go out with Darren one more time? I will pay for a second date. No, I'm sorry, I appreciate it. I appreciate your time. But now, okay, Well, at least Darren learned a little bit of a lesson here. And you know, sure, next time you go out on a date, don't bring your dead wife's spirit or just

make her wait in the car or something. And I'm saying that because you know, the promise I made you at the beginning of this was you were going to get a second date with somebody, no matter who it is, and I don't want you to be awkward when you and I go out. It looks like I gotta pick out a nice evening dress, don't I. Darren, you better look nice in the morning.