Second Date Update PODCAST: Vetoed

a takeaway. It's either a leave behind or a takeaway where they take like a sweatshirt or a hat or some sunglasses or something, hoping that the guy will call them to get it back. Yeah, I've missed a couple of sweatshirts. Actually. Well, today's second dat or Katie is on the phone. She took something from the guy that she wants us to call today, but he still hasn't called to get it back, and she's confused. Why Katie, how are you? I'm great? How are you guys good?

So you took something from a guy hoping he'd call you back and he hasn't called you. Huh have you used this trick before? For and it's worked. I haven't, but a girlfriend of mine says that she does it a lot and that it said it's like harmless, and it's it's a good excuse to, you know, have the guy call you. I don't know. It depends what you took, okay, because something very small, he might not call. He might not even notice it's gone. You take the guy's car,

he's he's getting in contact with you. What did you take from the guy that you So you guys had a one night stand, right, I, oh my gosh, I don't want to think of it as a one night stand, looking like it was a one night stand. So what did what did you take the morning after with you? I took it just like a sweatcher hoodie. It was really called out all right. It really was freezing next day? Did you ask him or did you just do it

without him even knowing it? I didn't, but I he was kind of still sleeping and I did say goodbye. I grabbed it, But later I did text him, and I just I haven't heard anything. So you texted him like, hey, hey, sorry it was cold. I was leaving and grabbed your sweatshirt. I hope you don't mind. Yeah, like I didn't want to wake you up. Basically itach I didn't want to wake you up, was freezing cold out I had continue I had to rush out early, so I just said,

I hope you don't mind. I just grew and it was just a basic It didn't have a logo or anything. So I figured, you know, Katie, it might have been the sweatshirt that has great great grand fall here handed down big back. Then do you think it's the sweatshirt that's that's making him not call you back? Or do you think it's something else. I don't know what it could be, maybe bad or the fact that we hooked up so fast. Okay, we'll first tell us how you

met him. Basically, my where I work, the whole department finished the big project. So we just went out for like a happy hour, and the tind of co worker. I don't work with him directly. He had a group of friends that met him out and I got introduced to him, and there was just instant chemistry and when we talked and laughed a lot, and he said, hey, you know, I'd like to take you out, and I was like great, And so after that he said, oh, maybe we can go grab another drink somewhere else and

he lives close by. So I said, oh, well, um, you know, do you do you have drinks back at your place? And he was like, oh, waite sick up something. And then he was like, oh, actually I do have a few things. And I said, well, I'm not picky, I can drink anything. You're like, I don't care, just get me back to your house. So you guys went back to his house and we had we had a

lot of fun. Did anything interesting or strange or anything noteworthy happen while you were I mean, you know, you don't have to tell us about what you were actually doing. I think we all know. But did anything weird happen that think might make him not want to go out with you again? No? I mean I we really had so much fun. I thought we had a lot in tom and so it was like this is this is fast,

but this is great. But now I'm thinking I don't know now maybe he was like whoa, that was too easy, or maybe he was kind of like, wow, this chick just took like an item of clothing like that so forward. I don't even know. You said goodbye to him on your way out. Did he say anything to you? What is the last thing that he said to you? Just like talked to you later and he was like, okay,

And when you texted him, what did you say? I just said, oh, I had a fun time, and I started to rush out, but it was really freezing cold. I hope you don't mind that I grabbed your hoodie on my way out, but I can get right back to you. And he hasn't said anything back to you. After trying to text him and call him, you haven't got one word, nothing not ah. Well, we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update. Okay, okay, great,

all right, hold on. I guess it's true. I'm not good at a one, but I still need enough because I'm just a this nuts suit looking jubil In the morning, Katie is on the phone with us. She wants us to call a guy named Nathan. They went out, had fun at a bar, ended up going back to his place hooking up. When she was leaving, she grabbed his sweatshirt on the way out, sort of a thing to take away from the scene so that he'll call her and be like, hey, I get my sweatshirt back. You

know that trick. Well, he hasn't called her, and she's wondering why. Katie, I don't really have any speculation for you on why the guy's not calling you back, but I do have a question for you. On a scale of one to ten, how was he in the bedroom? Yeah? I want a second date to I guess. Yeah, if he was lousy, then you would be like, I don't care if I ever see that guy again. And good at least I got the sweater out of the deal. Yeah. I slept with this guy and all I got was

this lousy sweatshirt. Katie. Well, let's make your phone call then, Yes, all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Nathan please? Yeah? This is him. Hey Nathan, how are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Um, I'm good, Okay, I don't know what. Well. We do a segment on our show called the Second

Date Update. It's where you go out on a date with one of our listeners and if you end up blowing them off after your date, they email us to get you on the phone and ask why so you recently went out with somebody who listens to our show and they've been trying to get ahold of you. Oh okay, any idea who might be trying to track you down? Um, I'll be honest with you, I don't Is it Robin Robin? No, it is not Robin. I'd love to hear about Robin.

She sounds lovely, but no, it's not Robin. Whoever that is. It's a girl named Katie. Okay, Yes, I know Katie. Okay. It sounds nonchalant about it, so she should probably go through her the initials, just to make sure that it's a girl named Katie who has your sweatshirt. Yeah, yeah,

I remember kat Katie's that's great. Yeah, Katie's great. Yea, it doesn't sound like it doesn't sound like you think she's great because you haven't called her back for a second date or even to get your sweatshirt back, and she's been trying to get a hold of you. Is there any reason why you aren't giving Katie a callback? No? I just I really hobnously think she's great. I just I can't really um pursue her or really go on a second date with her anything, So you can't pursue her.

You just why is it that I'm just not allowed to see her right now. You're not like your parents. How old are you name? Seriously, No, I'm thirty one years old. Okay, what do you mean you're not allowed to see her? I feel like you can do whatever you want, Nathan. I mean, I'm just in a situation right now that I'll just be honest with you guys, I'm in an open relationship right now. Okay, so wait, doesn't that mean you can't see her? That's what you're

gonna say. If you're in an open relationship, that means you can see whoever you want. That's true. But the thing is the girl that I'm being right now doesn't want me to contact her or see her. So open relationships are trying to understand this a little better. Do you date somebody else, sleep with somebody else? Can you tell us what's going on this? This This other girl, the girl that I'm kind of in this relationship with, is totally cool. She goes on on dates and we talk

about it and it's totally fine. But specifically Katie, I can't see her. Well, but what's the reason that you can't see Katie? Yeah, like, your girlfriend's cool with r Well, is it your girlfriend? Can I call her your girlfriend. No, actually we're partners. We're partners. Yeah, so your partner's cool with you seeing other girls, just not Katie. So we have some guidelines that we follow. And when I came home, I showed her on Facebook Katie and what she looked like.

And we both have to do that once we come home from a date. And I did show her that. And we do have one VITO that you cannot call, and she actually used it on Katie, so she vetoed Katie, you're not allowed to see Katie in your open relationship. I'm not allowed to not only see her, but I'm not allowed to contact or nothing. That was the one thing I had. So I'm just following these guidelines. Again, I still have my vito too. So she goes out with somebody, I have a Yeah, does Katie know that

you have an open relationship with a partner. I usually don't tell anybody that unless I pursue more of that relationship or that person. So if you're having like a one night thing, you won't tell somebody that you're in an open relationship. But if you actually want to continue to like see them more often, yeah, if it comes up, I do, But usually no, I don't tell them. Let me ask you a question, Nathan, Thank you very much for being honest by that. I appreciate that. Is Katie

hotter than your partner? I mean they're both different types, but I definitely think Katie's beautiful. Do you think that your partner is threatened by Katie? Probably a little bit. I bet you she's a little intimidated. Has she done this before? No, this is kind of the first time that I've ever had any type of block and I've been in this open relationship now for about five six months.

So if I was Katie, I'd be so weirded out at the thought of, like some guy I slept with rating me on Facebook with a girl that he's a partner with. Yeah, I mean I understand, But again, like if I would have gone on a second day with her, I would have told her that. But for this time being, I'm not pursuing her right now. Do you even want

your sweatshirt back that Katie has? I know that you can't see her because you're a current partner won't let you date Katie, But do you want your sweatshirt back? At least? I mean, yeah, I could take that thing back or are you in your stationship. I love my sweatshirt. See whoever you want, Nathan, I can get your sweatshirt back if you want it back. Yeah, I'd love to get my foot shirt back. Perfect. Well, I know how you can, because Katie's actually listening and she's on the

other line. No, I just don't even know what to say. I'm I'm heard it out and I'm pissed off trying play Like I personally wanted to call you and I was going to, but you know, I am in this type of relationship or the situation or your relationship, Like do you guys have been trying this thing out for five or six months, yet there've been so many like other people like you guys are so promiscuous, Like I mean, well, Katie, don't judge us and my relationship. When you slept with

me the first night, I didn't know. Do you hear yourself? Like it's so warmed, like she's not even your girlfriend, just like I don't even know what you get out of it, Katie. Start thinking of this as a compliment, okay, because you're very attractive and beautiful, and the partner that I'm with right now said to not go out with you anymore because she's intimidated. Oh yeah, Nathan, You're right,

I should feel so honored. I'm wow, I feel so good about myself that I'm just that good looking, right, I'm just that wonderful. Okay, you are? Thank you? Yes you are? You really are. You're beautiful and I'd love to go out with you. Kat It's just again, like I can't do anything me personally. It's out of my hand. I don't even want to hear your voice anymore. And Nathan, like you are the biggest as You're just a straight up pass whenever this school shit is that you're in

this like other lah? Would you guys have got I don't care. I don't care. You're that's it period. Okay, Well then I guess that brings me to my next question. Nathan, would you like to go out with Katie again? You will pay for a second day. I honestly would, but I can't. I think that you two maybe want different things. No,

he's kept an individual obviously. All right, Well, Katie, I'm sorry you just you did not get a second date, but at least you got a sweatshirt out of the deal, right, No, I am that's still fun too successful second date in my opinion in the morning, it never ceases to amaze me how people can surprise me and their reactions to the second date updates Broke and Jewil in the morning,

I'm moving ninety two point five. All the text messages that we're getting in at seven, eight, five, nine two are ripping the girl who called us to get a second date update, not the guy that she slept with on one night stand that it's currently in an open relationship. If you just tuned in, Katie wanted us to call this guy named Nathan. They met, hooked up, she took a sweatshirt. He never called her back. She was wondering

why we got him on the phone. It turns out that he's in an open relationship and apparently his partner said x nay on the eighty K sorry he vetoed Katie. Apparently they have an arrangement where one of them gets a VETO card and if they don't want you'd be hanging out with that person, then you can't. So that's why he wasn't calling her back, because apparently Katie was

probably hotter than his girl. That he's in an open relationship, with But everybody's ripping Katie because Katie got really pissed at him for leading her on or whatever. But it was a one night stand and they didn't have a relationship. And he says that after time, if he wants to date somebody or see somebody again, he'll let them know that he's in an open relationship. Now does anybody in the room disagree with that or do you think that

Katie was okay for getting upset? I think I think she was justified in being upset because if I go on a date with a chick and I saw of a sudden one date and I feel these huge sparks on chemistry, then she tells me next day by the way, I like you, but I have a boyfriend, I'd be like, what the do you think that he should have told her before they slept together that he's in an open relationship, Like I think knowing that that would have changed her decision to sleep with him, Like he had to know

deep down that, Like if I tell her that, yeah, probably that's why he doesn't tell people. Of course, she's not an idiot. He knows that that's gonna ruin everything for him. So anyway, he can't see her anymore. She got pissed, and now everybody on the text message board of saying how judgmental is she? It's nice to know that we have so many swingers listening to the show. Nobody's even like, oh man, what a weird relationship that guy's interview. It's like, how dare she judge him in

his lifestyle? If he wants to sleep with whoever he is, he can sleep with whoever he wants. Texas at seven eight five nine too, I'm curious, are you in a relationship like that? I want to see how many people listening actually have a relationship like that. There only a lot or at least a lot that wish they were. Yeah, seriously, remember if you want a second eight up, they'll have to do his email the show. Brooke and Jewel at moving nine two five dot com. We will call the

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