Second Date Update PODCAST: Ten for Ten

treat dating like a sprint to the finish line. Weird, and finish line is located in my bed sheets. Oh but DEDI, who's on the phone with us for a second date update? Today? She decided to turn her dating life into a full blown decathlon. Oh what does that even mean? She got sponsors hydration stall set up, she's pro. Oh yeah she did. You'll understand what I mean in just a minute. But first, let's meet our decathlete, DEDI.

Welcome to the show. Hi, guys, still honored. It's like we have a true olympiad on the phone right now. Thank you. I didn't really look at it like that, but now I feel really accomplished. Yeah, you should be really proud of yourself. So tell us a little bit about why you called in. Okay. So I got divorced recently, like,

and it was just finalized. I was refusing to date until it was actually final, okay, And now that it is, my friends they've been like pressuring me, like to get back out there, and a couple of them have been doing this thing called the ten for ten Challenge. Have you guys heard of that? No? Is it? Okay? So you go on ten Tinder days. It was ten different guys ten days in a row. Whoa, that just sounds like the normal Tinder life. No way, that sounds exhausting

to me. It's a lot, quite honestly. But at the same time, I have a bit of a competitive spirit, so I decided I was going to do it. I haven't been on date in almost a year at this point. So okay, So if you're calling us, I'm guessing you didn't win the competition. Well, I mean I at least finished the race, Okay. So how many of these guys are we going to be calling today? We're only calling

the one. But in order to get to ten dates, I told a little bit of a white lie on my profile and said that I was a yoga instructor because I thought, you know, that's like, yeah, just a step below acrobat. I'm like the sexy scale, you know, you know, and men are so predictable, aren't they. Well, so you're flexible girls. Yeah, I almost put on flexible and then I was like, that's too much. Yeah, so

I'm assuming a lot of quality options hit you up. Well, I mean, it's really more about volume than anything else. You're like the seven eleven of dating. You just want a lot of people through the door. Honest. I think it was my most honest, genuine tender experience because I didn't even read profiles. I was like, for once in my life, I'm using this app for what it's supposed to be for. Okay, So, which one of the ten guys did you actually connect with? Well? This guy, he

was date number eight. So I was like pretty sick of dating at this point. Yeah, things were looking pretty bleak, yes, but number eight was awesome, Like so awesome that I actually told him the truth. Wait, you told him about the ten for ten or that you were divorced or I mean, there's a lot of truth here. Oh my god. No, no, no, no, no, I did not tell him I'm out the ten for

ten and five. Thank you for remind me. Please please please don't say that to him, Like I want to call him, but I don't want him to know that he was number eight of ten. I thought, that's what you at. No, No, I told him I'm not a yoga instructor. Oh my god, there were so many things in our lists there. No, and he knows I'm divorced, like that was no secret. But okay, No, I didn't

tell him about the ten for ten. I just figured like he was really sweet and I'm going to tell him the truth because I want to see him again. And he laughed it off like no, big whoops. Everything was fine. But wow, what a good guy to be able to look past not dating a yoga instructor. You don't find a lot of guys like these days. Okay, Well, to be fair, I am very flexible. Yeah, So what

were some of the highlights with Tony? You know that montage and Ferris Bueller where they like go to the museum and it saw like artsying deep and so it felt like that, like I felt like a grown up date. I don't really remember that montage. I'm gonna be awesome. It was like it was like the kind of date you see in the movie. Usually my dates are more like, you know, we go and eat something real quick, maybe smoke something, and then that's it. Maybe watch a movie.

But this was like a date date, like you were looking at arts. So, yeah, did you go to museums? And is that what you're saying? Yeah, we walked around downtown and then we went to the museum and we're like holding hands. I think it's got so mushy. You danced in the parade as it went by, like I've seen that Ferris Bueller movie. We almost ran into his dad. It was super ten. I think that in some ways, holding hands is even more intimate than like kissing someone. Really,

Oh my god, dude, what I'm saying. I just got divorced. We hated each other, but we still slept together occasionally because we're human beings and we have needs. But we have not held a ham in like six years. Okay, so how did the day end? It was just really sweet. You know, Honestly, I maybe gave him a little more info than he needed on a first date, because, like I said, I did get really kind of mushy, like we're holding hands. That felt like we were to get

it together for a while. So I started talking about my actual job or job that I'm trying to get. I guess I'm an aspiring author. I'm a writer. I'm not yet published, so I'm sort of in that like super Broke, I'm not sure if I actually have any talent. Days with my career, it's very stressful. I have to tell myself every day that, like, this is my purpose, I'm born to do this, but I don't have any evidence yet. So what do you think went wrong on the day? Why do you think this guy isn't calling

you back? I'm a woman, so like my first thought as he met someone, he'd rather have sex within me. But my second thought would be that I I think I may have frightened them off and maybe come off a bit crazy because I did, you know, lie on my profile about the yoga thing, and then I got a little bit vulnerable. Let's say, talking about my career. May have got a little bit misty for a moment, too much, too soon. Yeah, guys don't like missty, so they love moist but not misty. Yeah, now that's a

bumper sticker. Yeah, you're speaking about truth here, all right, d Well, we're gonna play a song, come back and call Tony for you and get your second date update. Okay, okay, everybody crossed your fingers and your toes. Okay, we got them all crying. All right, hold on brooking jubil in the morning. Second update. If you're just joining us for today's second date update, we're on the phone with d D. Who's f D and DDD what freshly, freshly divorced and

down to date. I don't think that that's what that was. I'm pretty sure that's a popular saying that all the teens are using nowadays. Yeah, put that in your profile, DD, you'll get some swipes. Yeah, the nineteen year old are big into the divorce days. Oh yeah, a lot of the divorce teams are using this now. Anyway, DD's friends got her to try something called a ten for ten challenge, which is where you go out on ten tender dates over ten days with ten different dudes. Yes. Wow, and

her eighth date is the one that really stuck. His name's Tony, and she had a great time exploring the city. Ferris Bueller style with him, but there has not been a meetup since then. Indeed, we never asked you this. Have you actually tried to contact him yet after the day, or is this the first time you're reaching out? No, I mean I've texted him, he just hasn't texted me back. So I'm like, I'm in a place now I don't even know if he's not interested or if he you know,

fell off the face of the earth. Okay, all right, Well, you know what's interesting, though, You could actually call your ten for ten challenge a success because at least you met one dude you really liked. I was looking at as a success because I actually put up with all ten of them. Like I didn't give up. You persevered, and that's all that matters the dating world. I was like, I held on to hope in the face of no

hope at all. All Right, all right, all right, we're gonna keep that positive attitude going, and we're gonna give Tony a call for you and get your second date update. All right. Yeah, it seemed like a really good idea until this moment now freaking out, So let's do this, all right, We're gonna make this work for you, Okay, We're gonna call him right now. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Tony please speaking? Is this number eight? Tony?

Excuse me? Never? Sorry? Uh yeah, okay, So Tony, this is young Jeffrey from the radio show Brooken Jewil in the Morning, Young Jeffrey from where. Don't worry about it. Actually, forget it, Hi, it's not going to help you. Everything Jeffrey say is confusing. We're a radio show. Yes, why are you a radio show? And why are you calling me? We were hired by some people. Yeah, don't ask us why we're a show. It's we don't have a good

answer for you. But barely. The reason that we're calling you is because we're doing something called the Second Date Update. Have you ever heard of that before? No? I have not. Well, we're about to turn you into a listener. What are we talking about. We're talking about the second Date Update. That's where if you go out on a date with someone and they're not calling you back, you can reach out to us to try and figure out why that is.

So we're calling on behalf of a woman named Dedid Oh. Okay, yeah, okay, so I'm on the radio right now. Yeah. Yeah, But more importantly, you went out with DD like maybe a week or so ago, and she really likes you, and she wants to know why you haven't gotten in touch with her since then. So she had a radio show call me. Well, you weren't answering her text messages. Yeah, well that's not of your business. Well, we're not trying

to like pry or anything. Did he just feels like you guys had a real connection and your date sounded pretty awesome. Okay, Well what she thought it went really well? You're saying, yeah, do you think it went well? Or do you not think it went well? Like, we want to know a little bit more about it so that we can help DD he understand why she's getting blown off. Well, if you must know, I think it went well to like a point. You know, we went out like to

a museum, We walked around. It was a really it was a really relaxing date. I would say, Okay, so what changed? So? Um, I guess towards the end of the date, we started talking more in depth about I guess, our personal lives and our backstories. And then at that point kind of a big red flag came up. She told us that she came clean about lying to you on her dating profile about being a yoga and struck or is that what you're talking about? No, not that

that was That was perfectly fine and funny. Okay, a lot of people tell lies on Tinder, so that No, that wasn't anything big, not in comparison to what she ultimately did tell me, though, Can you share what that is? She seems like a pretty open person. I mean, right, well, I don't know what she told you guys. But so she's trying to become an author. Perhaps she's mentioned this, Yeah, she said she's not published yet, but it's like a

dream of hers. So you know, she's writing and it's very stressful for her, and she hasn't been able to really work or make much money for a while. But she said as of now, she's been covered financially due to the bus scam. Would you say the bus scam? Yes, the bust scamp. What does that mean? Is it like some pyramid scheme where she's selling cosmetics at a bus stop, if only it's a little more deep. The gnat she ul basically cun the city into giving her a settlement

due to getting hit by a city bus. What did you just say, like a lot of money. She got hit by a bus to get money from the city. Yeah, and it's she's been living office for years now. You're saying she did it on purpose, Yeah, something like that. What did she tell you that? Or was she joking? Like that sounds like a big joke. Someone would say, no, it was pretty serious. I did ask if she was joking, but she said she was one hundred percent serious. What

Jose's coming up with? What public transit do I throw myself in front of nat comes in six minutes? So is that you better get down there? Okay, okay, I think, yeah, we need to ask d D about this. D D, did you jump out in front of a bus on purpose to make some money? She's all, oh, no, wow, Tony, that is not how I told you the story at all. Like, oh my god, what hold on that? That makes me sound like a psycho. I can't believe you're on the phone and you had a radio show call me to

ask why I didn't call you back. That's psycho right there. Sorry. I think Tony, that that was on me. We shouldn't have hit you like a bus like that. We have them listening on the other line so that they can know what's going on. So DD's been hearing everything you said, but I need something because, like, this is the last reason I thought he wasn't calling you back because this is that's not exactly how it happened. Okay, first of all,

I'm not like some scammer. I refer to it as the bus scam because I think it's funny that I happened to get hit by a city bus and get a settlement. It's kind of good luck as far as I can see, Like, why would you call it a scam because it's funny, you know, I got hit by a bus. That sounds ridiculous. It's and not for nothing. In the artistic community, it's kind of everyone's dream. I that's the perfect scenario. I got hit by a bus.

But I'm totally fine. Well, you know, it doesn't sound fine to me because I don't know if I could be with somebody who just so openly cheated the system that way the system I got hit by a bus. I didn't jump in front of a bus. I don't know. But you pretended to be more hurt than you actually were to get a bigger settlement. Wow, I think acting a lot of assumptions about me Tony, especially considering like I didn't even ask for alimony or anything for my husband,

like the last thing I am as a scammer. But I'm also an optimist, so I look at this as a positive. I think this is a way I got lucky and it's a jump start for my career. Well, it's sort of different from the way you told it to me when we were run on a gate. How you saw the bus coming and you kind of leaned into it. I was I was being flipping. I was bragging about getting hit by a bus. For heaven's sakes. Oh did you lean into it or did you not? So, like,

what's the truth story right now? Yeah, it's like she's she's like Superman's the bus, like tried to stop it with her shoulder. You lead into a baseball, not a bus. Honestly, I'm really glad that we did call him, because I'm like, Tony on the phone on the radio is so different from Tony in the museum. Well, I'm not awful sandbagged on the radio, So sorry about it. So wait, wait, DEDI are you not interested in him anymore? Because he's

accusing you of being a bus scammer? I can't believe he thinks that I would purposely get hit by a bus, Like, I only think you purposely got hit by a bus because you told me that you purposely got hit by a bus. I was exaggerating. I'm a writer. Oh my god, it's hyperbolief. For DNA. Were you in the middle of writing when you got hit? Well, maybe that's why she wasn't looking both ways. Her head was down in her paper.

Oh come on, Tony, this is a positive thing. Like I see this as an opportunity for like a romantic love story. You guys could be the next Bonnie and Clyde scamming d buses across the country, taken home millions. Tony, think about it, two people who hate each other currently, if honestly reverse, I would be gating him just for the story. Like, this is a really good story. It is, Tony,

so you should really consider it. And if you say yes to going out on a second date, we will pay for it, not just the dinner, but the bus fair too, because yeah, it's like a date scam. Now she's scamming everybody. Yeah not at this time. It was really nice meeting you, d D. And I know people say this all the time, but I really mean it. Try very hard not to get hit by a bus. Stage advice. Yea, thank you. If you really wished me well, you would say that you hope I do get hit

by a bus again. Oh yes, broken jewel in the morning.