Second Date Update PODCAST: Stood Up In Seattle

might be her fault. Really yeah. Normally when somebody get stood up, there angry at the other person, like I just want to get him on the phone so I can yell at them. But she feels like she might have actually screwed up and maybe understands why this guy didn't show up for her date. Amy, how are you hi? Guys? I'm okay. First of all, did he just stand you up completely? Yeah? I mean that's pretty much it. I waited at the bar and waited and waited, and I

never saw anyone. I didn't hear from him. That's like the worst feeling. Ever, how long did you wait? Well? I was there for like thirty minutes when I started to wonder if I should maybe like text or call, and then right around forty five five minutes. I'm kind of patient, I guess yea, and I checked him and didn't hear anything back, and then I called him and no answer to that either. Yeah, so I probably waited about an hour total. Okay. And how did you meet

this guy? I met him online? Okay? And how long had you been talking before you decided to meet up. We were trying to like two weeks, and we had pretty lengthy conversations, and I really felt like I knew this guy, and you know, knew a lot about him. And I mean, I don't know if any of you have done online dating, but it's pretty clear. You know, the guys that are just looking for one thing, and

they pretty much get to the point really quick. I mean, most guys aren't going to spend two weeks figuring out who you are and what you like unless they're good at it idea that that's all they want. So you just made plans to meet at this bar and then you're waiting there for like forty five minutes, And what's going through your mind while you're waiting for him? Well,

a lot of things. I know that he lives like twenty five minutes away, so that was one of the things I thought, Well, you know, maybe he's stuck in traffic, okay, yeah, a little while, because if he lived right down the street, he was forty five minutes late, you'd be like, all right, he's definitely standing me up. So you thought maybe it

was a traffic issue. Yeah, And so I taxed him initially and just was like, you know, everything okay, And I didn't hear anything back, and so then I thought, well, maybe he's in an accident or something. And that's the kind of the point where you like start to not necessarily hope that he's in an accident, not like a bad accident where he's injured, but you know, I hope maybe he got like a little bit of an accident

so that he's not standing me up. Right. So your email did say though that you feel like it might be your fault that he stood you up. And why is that you never really actually explained it. Yeah, So I told it's like a tiny, tiny white lie on the dating profile, okay, And what was your white lie? And thirty two and I said that I was twenty five had lied about your age seven years That is a big age different and Samy, I mean, you know how it is guys want younger women and at the time,

it seems like the right thing to do. And did you ever come clean about this? No? I had not come clean. That's my thought is that maybe he googled me or you know, facebooks to me or so what I mean, you've been online dating a lot. You said, what do you do when guys show up they think you're twenty five and you're actually thirty two? How do you break that to him? I mean, I don't think that I looked that much different than I did, you know.

I mean I was using a picture from a few years ago, But I really don't think that, Gami, you were cat fishing him. Here's the deal. Once you hit the thirty mark, you get less messages from people. People are just not as interested. And so you know, putting that I'm twenty five, I simply get more messages and more people are willing to look at me, and then potentially Amy, I know where you're coming from. Look, if I were to do online dating, all right, I never have.

But if I were my profile picture and would have been Mario Lopez, so I can understand where you're coming from. You want to make yourself seem a little more attractive, and this is the only thing that you can think of is that maybe he found out your real age exactly. So are you wanting to call and apologize and see if you can make good with that? Well, I honestly just want to find out what it is, you know by sitting up. All right, we'll play a song, come back,

call him and get your second date update. Okay, okay, all right, hang on brooking jubil. In the morning, Amy is on the phone with us and she wants to call a guy named Craig today because Craig stood her up for her date. But Amy feels like it might be her fault because they met online and Amy lied about her age by seven years. She's thirty two years old,

said that she was twenty five. She thinks maybe that he googled her or maybe showed up and saw her and realize that she wasn't twenty five and then just decided to split. She hasn't heard anything from him after waiting for like forty five minutes, so we're gonna call, try to get him on the phone and see if we can find out if that's the reason. Amy. I was thinking about it, and I don't think that he

stood you up because you lied about your age. You know, No, I don't, because if I showed up and you said you were twenty five, and then I saw that you were like in your thirties, I would have definitely stayed and came and talked to you, because it's probably a sure thing because you're older and you're running out of time and you gotta get it in while you can. You know what I mean. I know that it's probably

gonna happen with you. Yeah right, nice. Okay, Well, I'm gonna dial the phone um right now, see if we get him on the phone and find out why he stood you up. Okay, all right, all right, here we go. Hello, I speak to Craig. Please, Hey, Craig, how are you. This is Jewel from Brook and jew in the Morning too, Sorry, Jebil from brook and Jewil in the Morning the radio show. Hi. Hi,

how are you fine? Sorry? Why are you calling? I'm calling because you recently sort of went out on a date with a listener of ours and they wanted us to get a hold of you. Oh wow, And I say sort of went out on a date because you never actually showed up to the date. You're talking about, Amy, Yes, I am talking about Amy. She emailed us and told us that you guys have been talking online and made plans to meet up at a bar and then you know,

showed I'm sorry. So she called you and wanted you to call me yep or yeah, because apparently you haven't answered any of her phone calls or texts or anything like that. Oh um, Okay, so she's upset about it. You know what, Well, we talked to her, and she's not really as upset as you think you would be if somebody made you wait at a bar for forty five minutes and didn't answer any text messages or phone calls from them. She just kind of wants to know why.

It's really complicated and it's not her fault. That's important for her. No I should have texted her. Okay, Well, if it's not her fault, can you tell us what it is so that we can let her know, Because I mean, you can imagine if you're in her shoes and you make plans to meet with somebody that you think is cool and then they don't show up, it upset you a little bit, even if you're not like

outwardly upset at that person. Yeah, I can I could see how yeah, so could you do her that favor and let us know why you would stand her up? I mean I had every intention of meeting her and going on data, so we planned, but I live in too while then I just couldn't go through with it. What because you live in pu Allap? Well, I mean kind of it's it's a long story, but basically the

situation that just makes it very difficult. Are you You're embarrassed because you live in pu Allap I'm more confused. You say you have a situation. I'd like to find out what that means. But I'm confused why you just mentioned the cities. Basically I live in Pulp and I don't go into Seattle very much ever, Okay, I mean the last time I was there was probably two years ago, you know, and it's it's not that far away by distance, but for me, going into the city tends to stress

me out. And I the culture I got the Seattle, you know, kind of my seers were building and kind of started to overwhelm me. Is it the traffic, It's traffic, it's people. There's a lot of tall buildings and that's basically a lot of movements. And I honestly don't know how you guys do it. Like you walk down just a regular street in a city and there's so many sounds you don't know where they're coming from. Like there's people everywhere, cars, traffic alone is enough to just like

freak me out. You know, there's people changing lanes not even signaling. So many bad drivers. How do you guys even operate? So correct me if I'm wrong, Craig, it sounds like you were scared of the city. I'm not scared of itarly, but it's it's just really really frightened of it. It just breaks out into gold. I don't have nightmares about it or anything. I'm you know, like it's not like a horror movie for me. But it's just a lot I understand. And that's something that's hard

to tell somebody before you've even had your first day. Yeah, I mean, like what am I supposed to do? Text her and say sorry, I'm scared of the big city. Just I'm a little country boy and I can't possibly drive in with all those cars and people. You know what, Craig, I made a lot of people like you after my comedy shows when I do them, like in pop and

stuff like that. They talk about the city of Seattle like it's foreign, like they've never gone there, and they're just like, I can't even drive in there because the traffic scares me, and I hate going there. Anytime I inte friends from Tacoma, they're always like, oh, I hate coming to Seattle traffic. I'm sorry, but he is playing such a victim role here when he's the one that stood this girl up and you never even sent her a text, like you could have made up any other

excuse in the world. You didn't even have to tell her the truth. I'm not a liar. I didn't want to lie to her and also get into something else where, you know, she didn't know the real truth, so I just figured it was easier to not you know, all right, But I do have to let you know that Amy is actually on the other line and heard everything that you just said. Hi, Craig, Oh my god, Oh my gosh.

So I um, I really wasn't sure why you stood me up that I really never would have guessed that it's because you're scared of and yeah, I mean, why would you go to that, I know, And mean, why didn't you just tell me? You know? What I mean, I just I waited there, and then I spent this whole time wondering what did I do make you? Because I really liked you, and all you had to do is, you know, answer my text message or answer I know,

I just didn't know how to tell you. And yeah, Craig, I mean listen, Craig Amy is a thirty two year old woman. Okay, she can she can handle the news that you have trouble going to the city. Maybe twenty five? Oh did I did I make a mistake there? Yeah? She's twenty five? Yeah, I mean, actually she's thirty two? Really talking about so, I guess you both have something that you kind of didn't tell each other, right, say, that's messed up. That is messed up. I figured now

you both can come clean about everything. Are you really thirty two? Kind of kind of sad? Really? I just didn't even you were kind of be attracted to me if I was thirty two, or you wouldn't have messaged me or honestly, I thought you were really mature twenty five year old, but I'm not. I have no problem with you being thirty two. It's a little weird that you lied to me, but I guess I kind of hit things from you too. Yeah, and you made her way to a bar for forty five minutes, Craig, So

maybe give her a break on the age thing? All right? Okay? Yeah, Craig, would you like a second date with Amy? I will pay for it. I don't know how it would work because I don't like to go to Seattle and she probably doesn't want to come to me, and you know, it's kind of one or the other. I mean, at least we could meet in the middle, maybe, you know, so I'm not always traveling, and maybe you could ride back with me sometimes and you'll be with me and

we'll you'll be safe, you won't get robbed, Craig. Yeah, So what do you think? Can you guys find a way to make this crazy long distance relationship of yours work? Craig? Have you ever been to the metropolis called Written? Yes? Yes you have. Okay, so you know where that is? What if we have you guys meet there? Um, that should be fine? Okay with that? Yeah, Craig. It's a city that Craig can handle. And Amy you know where that is? You don't mind traveling at all, not at all? Okay? Perfect?

And congratulations you guys you got your second date Amy, well, first date, I guess, because he never showed up on the first one. But whatever, I'm super excited. Yeah. I promise I will be there and if I'm not there then I will call. Okay, I promise I will be there unless the parking lot is full. Too many a broken jupil in the morning. Nice to meet you.