Second Date Update PODCAST: Sorry The Date Sucked

hindsight twenty twenty, but I guess so. Yeah, women actually like it when guys put in a little leffert. That's what I thought too, until I went out with Aaron. Okay, so that's her name, Aaron. Yeah, I met Aaron online and learned that lesson quick. Okay, what did you do for her? Though? Backfired so badly. Well, I know I'm not the greatest dater, like that's just I'm not very good at it. Okay, but you know, I wanted to be a little extra creative. So I picked up Aaron

at her house, and you know, she's beautiful. I thought she was great, and I told her that I had a surprise for her. Okay, Oh, I don't know, I see that's the thing. You want something special, But when you say surprise and internet date together, it usually is going to send up some red flags for women. Yeah, I kind of thought that maybe, But you know, I thought it'd be fun just something different, set of just

the same old date, just nothing really fun. So I went to the store right before the date on the way there, and I thought it'd be funny if I just picked up like four random things and then said like, let's just try to incorporate these four things, these random things into our date somehow. Like like he had like a I don't know, a deck of cards and ken cup and you're just like, let's see how we can get it all work into a date. Yeah, I mean kind of. But I did get a few other different things.

So what were the things you got, because I'm on your side right now. Well, I got a pair of sandals, and then I picked up like a big red mug Bax Bleach, And then I had a toy car that was like the four thing. I guess, how are you going to work those into a date? That was going to be the fun part, all right. Bleach would have scared me right away exactly. I thought he was going to follow it up with, like duct tape and a shovel are the other two things I thought. Thinking about

it now, I guess the bleach is kind of weird. Huh, yeah, really weird. Yeah, I thought it was fun. I was like, well, if these things are so different from each other, how are they all going to be able to incorporate. I thought it'd be a fun idea. And what was her reaction to all these things? Well, as soon as she saw that, she said no right away. She's like, no, I don't want to do that, and she's very clear that doesn't sound like something I want to do. So I was like, oh, what do you want to do?

I kind of froze up. I had nothing in my mind that would work as a backup plan. So let me get this straight. You could make a date work with bleach, a red mug, sandals, and I can't remember what the other thing was, and you can't make a date work with just like, hey, let's go somewhere. Yeah, I mean I don't know, Yeah, I guess not. I just panicked. I had this kind of idea in my mind that this was going to be this adventured date,

but it wasn't. And It wasn't going to be that way, guys, actually do She just said, like, let's just go to a bar and drink, we'll talk, And that's what I mean, the bare minimum. Yeah, Stephen, Yeah, Well I wish I would have want that route anyways, but I didn't. Were you able to recover from the bottle of bleach? The thing was, it was tough. You know. We got to the bar and talks and I just kind of never really recovered from it. You know, we just never got

in a groove at all. Really. I was just in my head the whole time and I couldn't get out of it. And I kind of was going back to just how I fumbled the ball, you know, right away, and I just couldn't get in the groove. It was all on me. I just couldn't recover. I feel like you're being too hard on yourself. I mean, you put in some valiant effort. It sounded like, I mean, if she were willing, it could have been a fun experience. Yeah, No, I just I really don't think she had any fun

with me. All right, Well that could have happened. So you're trying to get her on the phone to see if you can get a do over. Yeah, I did try for second date, So I did send her flowers the next day. That's nice, and I just said thanks for coming with me, and I'd love to take you out again. And I did promise her that the second date would be a lot easier and much better. And

did you hear anything back from the flowers. I didn't hear anything for two days, and then she did text, and she told me that she was really thankful for the flowers, but it took her two days to write you. Yeah, it was like a day I think the flowers get delivered, and then the next like two days after that or a day after that. And then I replied back to her asking you if she wanted to go on that second date. And then I haven't heard anything from her since.

So are you sure you just don't want to chalk this up to a bad experience and find another girl online? You know, I thought about that, but I really think about her quite a bit, and I think she's great, and I think that honestly. That first date and it was so awkward and bad right off the door, I'm hoping that maybe the second date would just kind of smooth things over and I'll be a little bit more confident in making better choices. I guess making a lot easier.

All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call her and see if we can get you a second date where you can try to do better. All right, great, that's all I want to thank Brooking Jubil in the morning up dates. You know what they always say, when life gets you down, you lay there and make excuses until somebody feels bad for you and tries to help you out. Yeah, I've heard that that's the old saying catchy too. And Stephen is on the phone right now

and he got knocked down by love. In the second date update, today, he went out with a girl named Aaron. He actually had some fun plans to do, like a weird date kind of thing. I don't really want to go into the whole recap of it, but he made plans for what he thought was a fun date. Then he thought that she had a horrible time. So even after the date, he sent her some flowers and all he got was a text back saying thanks for the flowers,

and then no response. So he hasn't heard anything from her sense or about to get her on the phone and see if Steven can get some redemption. Stephen, you're ready, I am, Yeah, okay, And I don't want you to come out of this, Stephen feeling bad about yourself, because I mean, if this doesn't work out, you are a thoughtful, carrying seems like very gentle human beings and you should stick with that. Oh thanks for that. Yeah, but I mean, I know I'm not the best data and I kind

of screw up things a lot. So all right, I tried to give you some confidence. I'm gonna dial her phone of her right now? Okay, you're ready, yep, all right, here we go. Hello, how can I speak to Aaron? Please? This is Aaron, who says, Hey, Aaron, this is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the Morning. What Jewbil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning radio show. Sorry, I'm not familiar. No you're not. I don't think so good.

We're off to a great start. So we do a segment on our show that's called the second Date Update. And we recently got an email from one of our listeners about you. Oh, okay, who his name is? Stephen? Oh, he emails your guys. Yep, he emailed us. Told us a little bit about your date and said that he really liked you, but now you're not getting back to him, so he thought maybe we could find out what went wrong. Okay, I mean Steven, he's a nice guy, Like I thought

he was cool. You sound so positive about Stephen. He's really sweet, probably the nicest guy I've ever been out with on a date. The only thing is he's a little bit down on himself. Down on himself. Yeah, I just I think he's a little bit too down on himself. Well, we talked to him, and he doesn't sound like the most confident guy in the world, or even near the most confident guy in the world. And he told us

about your date. He said that he had planned some kind of fun date for you guys, and you turned him down instantly and were like, no, I want to go to a bar. Oh yeah, I mean I felt bad about that. Normally i'd be down for that kind of thing immediately, but I didn't explain. I was kind of hung over from the day before, so I needed to just get back to normal, So that's why I thought,

let's go to a bar. Wait, so you weren't freaked out by the bottle of bleachy head or you didn't think he was an idiot for even thinking about it. I mean, I didn't think about the bleach much because I was, like I said, hungover. But I just thought it, let's keep it simple because I don't feel well, Let's just get to know each other. Okay, that sounds so nice. Yeah it does. He said. That's the part that really threw him off because he didn't know what to do

with that. He said he felt kind of awkward and felt bad that he had tried to plan something that you didn't like. Oh. Yeah, he made that very clear. I mean he apologized the entire night, and I kept telling him, no, it's fine, and I even told him that I kind of felt bad for turning it down so abruptly, but he just couldn't let it go the whole date. Whoa okay, And did that just kind of get annoying to you? Well? I felt like I kind of had to pick him up, like, no, it's okay,

let's let's just move on. Yeah, and like one of the most attractive things about a person can be confidence. Yeah, it was just I couldn't even get to know him because he was getting himself up. I'm a terrible person. I actually visually picture him punching himself in the face when you say that, I mean, yeah, I think he kind of was inside and it made me go kind of bad because I felt like I was doing that to him. Now, you guys are just both on the

state feeling horrible for him. I guess you're both feeling bad for him. Yeah. I mean, no matter what I said or did, I just couldn't really get him out of it. I mean, he's got like zero confidence. Like he went to the bathroom and he was gone so long, like I clocked it at twenty minutes before I checked on him. That's not confidence. That's like a I don't know, lactose intolerance or something. Oh no, none. I went to check on him because I was concerned, just wondering what

was up. And he was outside the bathroom saying that there were people in there and that he couldn't, you know, go when there was other guys around, so he was waiting for it to be empty. He told you that he can't he can't use a yurtl when other people are around. Yeah, I mean, I guess not. I mean he was just standing outside the door that whole time. Oh my gosh, did you like offer like, I'll watch the girls room so you could at least use a

private stall. No. Luckily, some guy came out and he sprinted inside, and I did watch the door for him. He's like, can you watch the door for me? And I was like, sure, can you watch my door? I gotta pay real bad. I could see how that might be a little bit of a turnout, A little bit that is a big turn off. Yeah, I mean I didn't really even know how to feel. I just kind of stood outside the bathroom and watched for him, and then we finished our date, and yeah, I didn't really

know how to feel about him. All right, Well he knows how to feel about you because he liked you a lot. I mean that's really sweet. I mean I liked the idea of him as you know. Well, I need to let you know a Stephen is actually on the other line listening to this conversation and wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, Stephen, are you there? Yeah, I'm here, Hi erin, Sorry, sorry about this. You don't need to apologize, Stephen. Yeah, you don't need to apologize, Stephen.

You don't have to worry about it. No, I should, I do I really should apologize to you. I shouldn't have called the radio station made I don't know you were wondering what was going on. I get it. Well, I do want to apologize. I'm sorry about it. Stop apologizing, Stephen. I felt bad that I turned on your idea, you know, for incorporating objects into our date or whatever, like I would normally be down for that. Like, I just want to be clear. I felt bad, So you don't have

to feel that. No, I'm sorry about it. I shouldn't have probably done that. No, you don't have to apologize. You don't have to, Okay, Well, I don't know. I just feel bad that I'm making you feel bad about like me feeling bad. So it's like, I'm sorry. The lack of confidence is kind of endearing to me. Now, I don't know. I mean, you just have to stop apologizing. You're okay. We'll move on from here, Stephen. Aaron is telling you not to worry about it. Do you hear

her saying that? Yeah? I heard her. No, and I appreciate that. But you know, I know the truth, and it's probably more on some of the things that I've done. You don't know the truth. That's the thing, like, everything about you sounds really great and attractive and something that Aaron would want, except for this, this piece of you. It seems to overshadow everything else. Like when you were talking about skiing and you made a joke about the Bunny Hills and I cracked up. Do you remember that?

I mean, you're really funny and charming. Oh, thanks, Yeah, I mean it was I'm not very good at skiing, so funny to like some how I have a feeling, Steven that you wouldn't think you were very good at skiing anything, but you thought that was funny. Yeah, of course I thought it maybe or just being nice. No, honestly, I mean you're really funny. You just need to work on your confidence a little bit and you'd be sexy even. Wow, that's very nice of you. Just say. There you go, Stephen,

look at that. Aaron thinks you could be sexy. Aaron, would you like to go out with Stephen on a second date? We will pay for it. I mean, I I was just trying to get his spirits up. I mean, I don't know if I'm ready to take that step yet. Come on, Yeah, I kind of figured that was probably what you were thinking. So I don't blame I wasn't Stephen. I wasn't just trying to be nice. I just don't know if you can stop beating yourself up. I don't know if you can stop, if you can stop this

and just be with me. I mean, I love to date a second date, Aaron. I really would, And if you would, I'll work on my confidence, I guess, but I can't guarantee anything, Stephen. Try it again, Try that again, and then say that you guarantee it. I want to see if if you can do it? All right? Do it all right? Cool? Okay? I really would love to take you on a second date, Aaron. And you know, I'm gonna work on my confidence, so you know what, I guarantee it. WHOA, There you go, Aaron. That's a

Stephen guarantee. That's as good as gold. And you know what, we're probably gonna have the time of our lives, probably right now, Aaron, just give him one more shot. You coundnot say no to that? All right? Yeah, I'll give you a shot, but they'll put too much pressure on it, okay to Yeah, I'm gonna play totally cool? Do you It sounds like you're a master that Steven, so good luck and all right, looking forward to it. I can wait. It's so excited, broken jubil in the morning,