Are you single and feeling out of the loop? Put away that mouse and get out of the house. Join in the Loop, Seattle's brand new activities club just for singles. Put in the Loop Singles dot Com Today Rooking Jewels. Second dat Date. You know, normally during a second date update, we talk about what happened during the date. Today's a little bit different though, because Patrick is on the phone. He wants to call a girl today that he met
off of Tender. Apparently they had a great date, but it's what happened after everything was done that gets really strange for him. Patrick, how are you, hey? Guys? How you doing good? Man? So you met this girl on Tender? Yeah, I did all right? And your email said that this girl was different than other girls that you've met on Tinder. Why is that? Well, I don't know if you've been on Tender, but this girl is classy, he's educated, she's funny,
she's smart's great. So it's not so somebody that you wanted to hook up with. No, I mean I likes her a lot. Actually, did she seem like, you know, impressed by you or pleasantly surprised? Well, she said it was her first time on Tinder. So you're all right, man, let me show you out tender works, come back to my place. Did I'd be so nervous if I was going out on my first Tinder date? Was she like hesitant at all? Well maybe at the start she was, but aswer some wine and some more wine and some
more wine. It always seems to help. Yeah. So your email says that you guys had a great time during your date and everything went well. But the weird part was after the date. What do you mean by yeah? Well, there the night, I put her in a cab and you know, we had a make passionate kiss, liked bye, and then you know, the next day I started getting some really bizarre text exchanges with her. I mean, just weird. Did she text you first? No? I actually texted her
and said, hey, I had a fantastic time. Can we see each other again? That's super weird? Yeah, crazy? No, no here? Oh you know what, let let me bring it home? Um here? And then her response after I said that was would you go to South America? With me? What was she joking? Exactly? So I text back, Lol, you're funny, and then she text back I'm serious. Okay, I mean obviously at the point, You're like, what are you talking about? We went on one date and you
want to go to South America. That's exactly what I said. I said, you're not serious, lol. We just had our first date. And then I wait a while, and then she text back never mind, and I text right back, how about we hang out within the country somewhere. Lol. I think that's a good response. Yeah, I talked to it too, right, So I'm waiting and I'm waiting, and the whole day goes by twenty four hours and she finally gets back to me, and this is her text.
I can't see you anymore. You're a real great guy. Good luck in the future. What that is? Weird? So she asked you to go to South America. You were like, are you joking? She said no, I'm serious. And then because you wouldn't go, she said, I don't want to see you anymore. That's what it seems like. And I'm like, what's the You know, I texted and a call and she won't return any of my calls or texts, So
I mean, what's the I have no idea. What is that the first time you guys talked to I mean, like did you know she's going on vacation in South America or she's moving that the first time ever? Heuth America? So you met her off a tender How much do you know about her? How much did you discuss about her personal life when you were on your date? Well, you know, we joked about our families and our jobs, and you know where we went to school. So I mean I kind of feel like I got to know her.
I guess what I'm asking is is she rich? And was she like a rich girl who was like I like this guy, I'm gonna take him to South America? And did you just pass up an opportunity of a lifetime? I hope not? My guy, He's like, oh my god, why did I say yes? I should have said yes. I never thought of that. I mean that would not be true because I would actually love to go to South America. Yeah, you should have just played a long and said absolutely, I'll go to South America? Are you
paying because I will go? Well? That is strange, and you haven't heard anything from her other than after her that text exchange going like sorry, I can't see any more. Good luck. She has not responded. Maybe she found a South American replacement taking somebody else down there? Did she come off as someone who is like a lot of spur of the moment decision? No, I mean it was it was one date. I mean I don't know that
much about her, but she seemed sane. Yeah, until you read those texts and then you're like, are you sure you want to call her? You sure you want to try to get her on the phone. I want to know what the hell I mean, what was kind of all about? Okay, so you do want a second date maybe, but you also are just like why the invite to South America and then blowing me off after yes and yes? Okay, all right, well well play a song, come back, call her and get your second day update? All right? Okay,
say ye hang looking jubil in the morning. The guy on the phone for a second day update today passed up the opportunity of a lifetime, in all expense paid trip to beautiful South America. That's right. Have you met a girl on tender? They went out for a fabulous date. According to him, everything went fine, even into the night, with a passionate kiss, and then it was what happened
after the date that was strange. He got invited on a trip to beautiful South America, and he said no, and then she won't talk to him ever again, Right, Patrick, that's what happened. Yep, yep, I thought he was joking. So Patrick went on a date with a girl. They off tender. They had a good time, but after the date, they were texting back and forth, and out of the blue, she asked if he would go to South America with her.
He said no, thinking she was joking, but apparently she was serious because it pissed her off, and she's never talked to him since. You know, I don't even know if we're gonna be able to do the second day update, because I'm assuming we're gonna call her, she's gonna be in South America and her phone's gonna be off. Patrick. Well, that'll be an answer. I guess I really want to know why she would invite you to South America the day she met you. You want to know? Yet? Are
you regretting turning her down already? You guys keep patching like I was offered a trip from a game show or something. I mean, I don't think she was kidding. I don't even know. All right, Well, I'm gonna down the phone number right now, see if we can get her on the phone and get your second date update. You're ready to go? Yeah? Hello? What was this? Can I speak to please? Yeah? This is hi. How are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.
I'm I'm sorry. This is Jewbil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. How are you doing today? I think I'm sorry. I can give a wrong number. I didn't sign up for anything. I'm sorry. I know you didn't sign up for anything, but somebody sort of signed you up for something. Okay, well I'm sorry. If that's true, then you can take me off the list. I'm not
really interested. Unfortunately, I can't take you off the list because this is a morning radio show and you recently went out with one of our listeners but aren't calling him back. So he asked us to get you on the phone and find out why. I'm not. I don't know if I'm I don't know. If I's comfortable with this, I'll give you. I'll give you a little bit. I'll give you a little background first. Okay, his name is Patrick. You guys met on tender. You know. I'm sorry. I'm
really not I'm not comfortable talking about this. I'm not interested. Can I just ask you one question. I'm just curious about the text messages that you sent him after your date when you invited him to South America? Were you being serious? Whoa ile? Patrick? You must have really pissed her off by not agreeing to go to South America. This is getting even weirder. All right, I'm gonna try to call her back it. Look, I'm not trying to be a If I'm going to talk to you, I
need you guys to beleeve my name out. Okay, that's fine, I can beap your name out. You're pretty much I mean, you're anonymous anyway. Nobody really knows who you are. Do you have friends that listen to the show? I don't know. I don't even know who you guys are. So you're pretty much anonymous. Well, I promise you if you let us talk to you for a minute, I will beep your name out. Nobody will know who you are. So what do you need to know? Well, I'm curious about
the text messages that you sent to Patrick. So we talked to him about your date. He said that it was great, and then he told us after your date, you asked him to go to South America. He thought you were joking, and then it sounded like you were serious, and that's the last he's heard from you. Those were private messages, and I don't he probably shouldn't have shared them with you, okay, but he did, and he liked you a lot, so he asked us to get you
on the phone. Do you not like Patrick? No? I thought, I mean, I thought Patrick was a really cool guy. I thought he was, you know, cute and funny and smart. Um okay, And were you serious about the invite to South America? I? Um, you know, I'm just my life's been pretty complicated lately, and it's just I'm just going through some weird stuff right now. So I don't okay, I don't want to get into all your personal stuff. I appreciate you taking the time to talk to us.
If you liked Patrick, though, can you help us give him some sort of explanation, because he really enjoyed your time together somewhat so that he emailed us to get you on the phone. And I feel super shy. I didn't. I didn't want him to feel I don't want him feel bone off. I don't him to feel like he's not a good guy. He is. It has absolutely nothing to do with him. If Jess has to do with what I'm dealing with right now. Okay, can you give
me anything that I can say to him? Though, Like, just just tell me what I can tell him so that he can feel good about it and move on if you don't want to see him again. I I, um, I'm getting married in two weeks. And what You're getting married in two weeks? Oh? Girl, Yeah, I'm I'm yeah, I'm getting I'm yeah, I'm getting married in two weeks. Okay, I only did it once. I just I'm just having
a lot of second thoughts. And um, Patrick seemed like a really cool guy after talking, and I figured if I went on one last date, um, maybe if I liked it, the universe to tell me where I was supposed to be, whether it was eating or getting married. And so you were kind of having second thoughts about getting married, and thought, I'll try one more date. If it's good, that means I shouldn't get married. I don't
know what I was thinking. I just it's been a really stressful time and I know it was too good married. Don't get married? If you're kissing another guy, don't get married. What are you thinking? That's the worst decision you could ever possibly make. You know, as I already feel, I don't even want making me feel far right, We're not trying to We're not trying to make you feel We're not trying to make you feel crappy about it. I'm
want to keep rolling full. I'm not trying to make you feel We're not trying to make you feel crappy about it, I promise. And I appreciate you taking the time to tell us what happened, because then I can go back to Patrick and sort of explain things to him. I do have a question about the South America thing. Can you shed any light on that? Um? You know,
I just thought we had a connection. I thought he was really special and I figured if we were both willing to drop everything and just leave and go be ourselves elsewhere, then maybe maybe that would make us happy. And I thought maybe he said yes. I thought, Um, he said that you guys had a lot of wine. Was it the alcohol talking that night? No? I was sober when I texted him. You were sober when you
texted him about South America? So good? In your mind, if you, guys ran away to get like you were willing to run away with him if he said yes. I thought, if he said yes, that would be where we were supposed to be. So you're just gonna run away from all your problems, leave everything in the dust. I think it's kind of sing to say, I'm sorry. What look I I whatever you're going through, you're going through. I appreciate you staying on the phone with us, and
I appreciate you talking to us. Okay, yeah, I just yeah, I don't want him to think it's him. It's not him. Okay, well you can actually tell him that because he's on the other line listening. It was almost really true. Are you kidding me? It's Patrick. I'm so confused right now. I'm sorry, guys, I don't I don't want to talk to I don't want to talk to you Patrick, and I d'n't. I'd love to talk to you. Can we get together or oh? No? Hello? Wow? Patrick? What you devil? You?
You almost got a girl that's getting married to leave the country with you and ditch your husband. Yeah, it is, it's all your fault. Patrick. You didn't throw those away. Guys. I am blown away. You had no idea that she was in another relationship, like, none at all. I had no idea. I had no idea. I'm like freaked out right, Wow, not only was she in another relationship, engaged to be married, and was thinking about leaving her husband and the country with you. I really want to talk to her again.
Why what do you want to talk to her about? What are you going to say? Because I felt the same way. I don't know. Why would you want to run away with a woman who's about to get married in two weeks. I don't know what to think. I mean, I really liked this girl, but then again, I mean it was only one date, and I mean I don't think I'm ready to run away to South America with her. But I mean she shouldn't even get married into the sky if she feels that way. Yeah, that sucks for
that dude. Now, if she would have been on the date with you and told you, I'm assuming you would say no, but I don't know, and told you, hey, I'm about to get married, but I really like you, and I think that I would leave him for you. What would you have done? I have no idea? Oh my god, why would you know, you say, no, why are men so attracted to crazy women? That girl is a nut job? I am sorry, works in mysterious ways. Patrick. She was hot, wasn't she? She was extremely hot. There
you go, That's what it is. Normally, this is the time where I ask if you want to go out on a second date. But she's not on the phone and she's gonna be being married, so probably not interested in another date with you. I guess I'll ask the listeners text in seven eight, five nine two? What should we do from here? Oh my god, Yes, that is what I call a second date success? No that yeah? Wow. So if you tuned in like in the middle of that, you didn't know what was going on. Sky Patrick went
out with this girl. We had to beat her name, otherwise she wouldn't let us er it at all. But we beat her name anyway. They went out. They met off a tender. After their date, she said, come with me to South America and he was like, uh huh. We went out on one date. I'm are you serious? She said, yes, I'm serious, come with me to South America? And he said, how about we just hang out in the States and maybe someday later we could go to South America, and then she was like, it's not going
to work and stop texting him back. The reason being she it's about to get married and was having second thoughts and thought that maybe he was the one for her and wanted to run away with him to beautiful South America. I'm sorry, after one day you don't think he's the one. You just want any excuse to get out of the marriage period, like you're trying to let yourself talk yourself out of it. And people are getting mad at me because I was saying that she's crazy.
I'm sorry. Oh, she's absolutely crazy. She's definitely crazy nuts, but she was hot, so he wants He actually at the end of that was thinking that he would actually be interested in a relationship with her. Still, it is amazing what men will say yes too when you've got the right size waist in a nice rack. Is like, the power of that is beyond compare and crazy girls in the bedroom a plus and we all know that. Yeah, but in you're if you're gonna plan on breaking up
somebody's marriage, chances are she's gonna want to marry you next. Yes, she's gonna want to marry you, and then you're going to be about to get married to her, and she's gonna do the same thing to another guy, try to whisk him away to South America so that she can get out of getting married. I feel bad for her husband. There's no idea. Yeah, I'm sorry, but people keep texting in brook. I can't believe you said that to her. She already felt bad about it. Well, she was playing
She was playing the victim role big time. It wasn't about the fact that, oh, I'm kind of a d bag to my husband who I'm about to marry right now by wanting to run away with this guy. It was like, I just it's so hard for me and I don't know what to do. The craziest thing is, like you said, though the other guy was actually like, well I felt that connection. I know you. I don't know. It's like, what do you mean you don't know? Dude, crazy has a funny way of finding more crazy. That
is a very that is eloquent. And two I could have sent them on a second date to South America or just even a South American restaurant in town. We asked what we should do? We said, text in its seventy five too. What should we do? A lot of people are saying, crash the wedding, show up at the wedding and play the audio of the second date update. Another person said pay for that dude to go to her wedding, and another said send him to South America. No, he blew his shot at that he had a chance
to go South America. Wherever you want a second date update, I'll have to do his email the show Brook and Jewel at Moving nine to five dot com. We will call the person who didn't call you back.