Second Date Update PODCAST: “Scarred” for Life

are you? I'm good? How are you guys? Good? So you actually took the risk and met somebody in person while you're at a party, I'll tell us about that. That's weird. Well, I mean I didn't know that I was going to meet somebody in person at a party. I just you know, went to a friends of a friend's house for a party and got there and she said, hey, I've got this guy you should meet my lap And you actually met him and talked to him face huh. Wow, that is crazy. Tell us a little bit about the

guy you want to call today. Well, his name Travis, And like I said, I was introduced by kind of a friend of a friend and I am a single mom. I was a five year old her dad and I split a couple of years ago, so I don't I don't date very often. I mean, I guess I've really only kind of been back on the market for a little while. So when I met him, I didn't really expect to meet someone, you know, and I didn't expect to like somebody. You weren't out like trying to find

somebody to date. It just happened that, you know, Okay. But as soon as I met him, we clicked, I mean just instantly. The conversation was was really great at the party, and so I knew that there was somebody that I would want to go out with. Okay, So you guys obviously exchanged numbers and went out. What did you do on your date? We went to dinner, pretty typical first date, nothing crazy, but just had a really

great conversation. You know, it was never awkward. You know, sometimes you go on a date and it's just there those moments where you're just like, oh God, get me out of here. I never found that way. And did he seem interested in you? I mean, because you seem super jacked about this date. Well, hopefully I didn't seem overly eager. I didn't think that I did. I mean, the date went great. He picked me up, and so when he took me home after the date, asked him

if he wanted to come in for a nightcap. Was your kid at home? She was a flab okay? And is he a dad or and he's cool with the child thing. He knew that I have a daughter. Yeah, he's not a dad, okay, But he didn't seem to be uncomfortable with the idea of dating a single mom, right, He wasn't shocked when there was a babysitter at your house. No, No, he already knew. Okay, that happened sometimes. What was it like when you guys got back to the house. It

was great. I mean, we had a couple of drinks, we were talking. One thing kind of led to another. We kissed nice. It was really fun. You know, did your kid wake up at any point and interrupt you guys? No, she's if she did. I didn't see her come downstairs. Well that's always kind of or you know what I mean, Like if you're hanging out with somebody who as a kid and then like you guys are making out and it's like, hey, I want to pop the call. He's busy. Yeah,

so you didn't have any of that kind of stuff happen. No, nothing, nothing like that. Okay, how did you end everything with the guy? He said that he would like to see me again and said he'd give me a call, and then he didn't. Okay, So after a couple of days, I thought, you know what, maybe he's waiting for a

sign for me that I'm interested. If I texted him and you know, just said hey, I had fun, would love to see you again, and he responded saying that sorry, he'd been busy, things have been a little crazy, but that he would also like to go out again, and so we kind of made a plan to touch base and find a time the next week. And that was about two weeks ago. Almost, Okay, have you followed up

with him? No? Because at this point I kind of feel like I let him know that I'm interested, and so I guess I'm starting to wonder that maybe he's just not interested. Now doing all the legwork and you know, everything you've said has been so positive, maybe he's not looking for a relationship. Did he like indicate that. I definitely got the impression that he was as interested as

I was. So it's been about two weeks. Do you want a second date with this guy, or do you just want to find out why he just like stopped talking to you? Honestly, you know, I think at this point I more just want to know what happened. You know, this is like I don't date much, and so if I just want to know if I did something. So if we call him, get him on the phone, and

he's like, oh, man, I liked her so much. I've just been busy and I really want to go out with her, you won't even say, hey, go to hell, man, she doesn't want a second date with you. That's what you want me to do? No, no, don't do that. But I mean, if you wanted to go out again, yes, okay, totally all right, Well I won't screw that up for you. Then okay, thank you, all right, we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date up date? Okay, okay,

five in the morning. If you're just tuning in for the second date update. Nicole is on the phone. She wants us to call a guy named Travis. Today. They met at a party, agreed to go out at a great date, went back to her place. She does have a kid, paid the babysitter they hang out for a little while and made out. He said that he wanted to go out again, even texted are saying like, yeah, I'm real busy this week, but we should definitely go out, and then has not talked to her since, so she

wants to call him today and find out why. And Nicole, I think I know why this guy isn't calling you back. Okay, what do you think? Well, talking to you, Okay, you seem very put together, right, you got a kid, but you're still like doing okay, you know, everything seems you seem you seem you seem, you seem like not a

train wreck. Right. I think that's the problem. Okay, I feel like he went out with you when he was hoping just for a hook up, and then he's like, oh man, she's actually like smart and she knows stuff, and now she's out of my league and want to call her back. Well, I mean, I guess I could take that as a compliment. Yeah you should, you should. I'm saying that from our normal second date updates that we do, you sound too good, And I think maybe

that's the problem. He's like, yeah, she's too good for me, and I don't want to call her back. Well, I hope that's the free all right, well I'm about to die the phone of her right now, get him on the phone and see if we can find out why. Okay, okay, all right, here we go. Hello. Can I speak to Travis please? Yeah? This is Travis. Who's it? Hey? Travis? How you doing? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the morning. Oh okay, Hi, Hi? How you doing fine?

Any idea why I might be calling you? Honestly, No, I'm calling you because you recently went out on a date with one of our listeners okay, and you're not calling her back. So she emailed us to see if we could get you on the phone and ask why why. I'll say it one more time for you. You recently went out on a date with somebody who listens to

our show. Okay, okay, okay, and you're not calling her back now and she would really like to see you again, okay, But since you can't get a hold of you, she asked us to do it and see if we can find out why you're not calling her back. So her name is Nicole. Do you remember going out with Nicole? Yeah? Okay, you guys met at a party and hung out back

at her place. Yeah. Well, according to her, you've said that you want to hang out again, but you've told her that you're busy, and then you just kind of stopped talking to her. Is there any specific reason? Well, yeah, I'd like to hang out with her again. I just haven't had time. Okay, So you're excuse about being busy, that's true. You really do want to see her again? Yeah, sure, Okay, then why all right? So you say that, but why haven't you contacted her at all? Um? I listen, I

don't I don't know what to tell you. You You got me, I didn't call her back? Okay, can you can you tell us why? Well? She, uh, she's a mom, she's got a five year old kid, and I'm just no, I'm not I'm I'm not ready for anything like that. Okay. Why do you agree to go out with her in the first place? Then? Well, I thought at first that maybe you could work out, but then, you know, after the date, I realized that there's no way. So you're

saying after the date you realized it. Does that mean that something happened during the date to make you change your mind? Um? I don't know. I think you do know, Travis. Look, Travis, this is like something that we do for our listeners. They want to get better at dating, so they asked us to call people and find out why. So, if there's anything that you're withholding from us, I'd appreciate it if you could just be honest with us and then

we'll tell her to help her out. You know, while we were hanging out at her place, it was just weird. It was weird. Yeah, okay, So here's the thing. We talked to her. She said that she paid the babysitter. You guys hung out and made out a little bit. You didn't even have any interaction with her kid because she said you didn't even see the kid. No, I didn't see the kid, but I knew the kid was

just on the other side of that wall. So just knowing there were sucked animals all over the place in barbievway, So you were cool with it until you got there and you're like, all right, I know there's a kid here. This just became real and you didn't want to hang out with her again. Well, it was more than that. I mean, things started, like you know, progressing between us, like you know, physically, I just couldn't get it out of my head that the kid was like right there.

So the whole time you're making out with her, you're thinking, like, all right, this is gonna go to the next level, the one thing that's in your head as a kid. Yeah, exactly. And I tried to put it out of my mind. I tried to play through it, and like, I go under her shirt and then I see her scar and that was it. Say that again, Well, we're kissing. I lifted up her shirt and I saw she had a C section scar. Yeah, so is this about the kid or about the scar? That was just a reminder that

she has a kid? Okay, can I ask? I mean, what is it though about the kid? Like, I don't get why you're so shocked by all this when you knew about it going in. I don't want to be in a position where I have to play dad. I don't want to be making out with someone and have a kid walk in. I just I don't want anything to do. It didn't seem to stop you at the time. Hi, Nicole here, Hey, Travis, Nicole's actually on the other line

kidding me. She's been listening in this whole time. Sure have and I think it's interesting that you'll tell these guys complete strangers what's going on, but you won't even answer a text for me, Nicole. They were asking questions, yes I answered them, and I didn't answer your text. And what do you think is more uncomfortable? I would think responding to a text is easier than having a convert. I mean, it's not like I was asking you for an explanation in person. I just sent you a text.

What am I supposed to say to you? Your C section star freaked me out. I don't think you have to go that. You could at least give me the courtesy of saying, hey, listen, this just isn't for me, instead of just hey, I'd like to see you again, and then nothing, you know, like, why say you want to go out again? If you don't, Hey, listen, this just isn't for me, Okay for me? All right, I'm sorry. I was trying to let you down easy by just ignoring your text. I thought you would get the clue,

but this isn't for me. Yeah, I don't think this is for me either. Oh that's a shame, because I was gonna see if you guys wanted to go out again. I will pay for it. Oh William, Yeah, why don't you go and get us three tickets to give me an ice? Right, So, I guess neither one of you want to go out again. No, definitely not. And you know what, Jewil, You're right, I'm way too put together. See all right? Well, Travis, thank you for your time.

I appreciate it. All right, No more single mommies for you. You got that, okay, And don't call them single mommies because that sounds creepy. Jewil in the morning,