Second Date Update PODCAST: Restrained From Love

golf course often? Why are you running away? Where are you going? Where are you going? I just wanted to talk. You're not getting your ball back until we talk. Yeah, it's a really scared eight year old you just chased out. Never never very successful for me, but apparently it was successful for the guy that she wants to call today. Hannah, how are you good? How are you doing good? So you met the dude you want to call today at

the golf course? Huh Yeah. We were at the driving range, and you know, I hit grat the new clubs, so I wanted to try him out. But I thought that this guy herek is his name, and he was so cute. I was to playing it a little quite like I was having some issues. You know, wait, wait, wait wait, you played the dumb girl, I don't know what to do with my clubs. No, not necessarily dumb girl, but I was more so playing it off like these are new clubs, Like, maybe do you want to show me

how to use them? Because I really really wanted him to help me. Yeah, excuse me, sir, would you mind helping lady out with her golf clubs? I can't possibly seem to swing these big, heavy things, but you got those big hands and those big arms. Maybe you could wrap them around me and show me how to work one of these golf clubs. Yeah, exactly, didn't. I mean it obviously worked well, not exactly. He came over and he helped me out because he worked at the golf course, right,

so he was obviously busy. Yeah, he was busy doing other things, and he helped me for a little bit, but then he kind of left me alone and when he did his own thing. Okay, so he was an employee. I thought you were just hitting on a random guy then too, like he had he was paid to help you. Yeah. Yeah, that's frustrating. Then when you're like I'm gonna flirt with this dude, and he just comes up and he's like, yeah, those clubs are on sale. Those clubs, I would recommend

those for you. I'll see you later, man, have a good day. You're like, wait, wait, I wanted to flirt. He's gone. So did you just end up being an annoying customer at the driving range following this poor guy around on his shift. Maybe a little bit, But it ended up like working out in my favor because he came back around, you know, after like forty five minutes or so, once he wrapped up whatever he was doing

and he asked me out to dinner. Oh you waited forty five minutes just standing there, right, Yeah, that's persistent though. I like it. Yeah, it worked out so fast. Forward to our dinner date. We show up at dinner and he is so cute. He's all dressed up and being very gentleman like. Okay, so very very gentleman like. He's trying to impress you. This all sounds great. Yeah. So at the beginning of the date I was thinking going

into it. And after I showed up and I saw him how nice he looked, I thought this was going to be a great date, Like this could possibly be a really great date. Yes, it sounds like it wasn't though, because you keep saying it could be. Yeah. I thought it was gonna be Yeah. Unfortunately it just did not go at all how I had hoped. What happened? What

was so bad about it? Well, we sat down and we ordered drinks, and before like we even ordered dinner, he said I have to go grab something out of my car, and then he said he'd be right back. And this is where it gets really bizarre. All right, the drinks came. I kind of said, thaw my cocktail, but I waited and I waited, and he never came back. He like, he ditched you in the middle of the date. It wasn't even end the middle of the date. It was right at the beginning of the date. He did drinks.

I don't understand how people can do that to other people. Did you at least drink his cocktail too, to try to numb the pain? I wanted to, but no I didn't. I was actually just so bummed because I didn't even know why or what happened, because I thought the date was going to be so great and then he just literally left. How long did you wait? I waited about

what I would say, twenty five minutes. Oh yeah. I mean once you get to fifty minute point, you're thinking they're gone, and then by about thirty minutes you know that they left you. Like, at first, I thought it was weird after even ten minutes of it, but I just continue to sit there. You know, I didn't really know what he's doing, but he just never came back. I mean, what was going through your head? A lot of things. Maybe he like was smoking a figarette or

I don't know. But then after, like I said that ten minute point, I just started to get really bummed out because I kind of got that embarrassed healing, like is this really happening to me? So? Did you actually eat food at the restaurant or did you cash out and go? No? I cashed out and went, and I actually had to pay for the drinks too, which wasn't fair. Why do you think he would do that to you?

I honestly don't know. I thought things were going so great and we had great conversation for the first couple of minutes we were there, but then he just ditched. So I have no idea. That's why I called you guys. Did you text him while you're waiting at the table, like, Hey, what happened? Where are you? I didn't text him within the first ten minutes, but then, you know, after that, I just shot him with text because I started thinking, gosh, what if he passed out or something? Right, So I

cased him and I said, are you okay? And he never responded after that, but I pissed. I'm like, I'm pissed for you. I don't think people should disrespect each other in that way. I'm really pissed off about it, but I think it more so, I'm just like really plunged out that it still happened that way, because I thought he was a great guy, you know. Yeah, and he obviously liked you because he came and asked for your number, that's what you said, right, Yeah, and he

asked me on the date. I didn't initiate that he did. All right, Well, we'll play a song, come back, call him and figure out why he dits to you. In your second day update, Okay, okay, thank you, Okay, looking jubil in the morning if you're just joining us for today's second date update. Hannah is on the phone and she wants to call a guy named Derek. Now, before we make the phone call and find out what went wrong on their date, I think it's time for a

little bit of positivity training for Hannah. Hannah, I want to help you be more positive about something. Okay, Okay, So your date left you, like a couple minutes into the date. As soon as you guys sat down, ordered something to drink. He said he had to go to his car and then took off, and you haven't heard from him, right, right, exactly. Positivity is all about switching

your focus. Okay. Instead of saying that you got ditched, we're gonna say you're just a master at speed dating and that was a very good speed date that you went on. So yeah, so that's what it was. You didn't get ditched, You're just good at speed dating. That's all. Feel better already. I'm glad I could help it. I do want to know why are you even giving this guy any more energy? I mean, he's obviously a jerk

to leave someone that soon into a date. I really just want to know what happened, like why he left, what his reason is. Not that I want to give him another chance, I just want to know why the hell he walked out on me. If he has a really good explanation, will you give him a second chance? Or is it just strictly that you want to find out now? Right now, I'm leaning more towards no, because he could have reached out to me this past week,

texted me if something serious happened. So it's going to have to be a really really good excuse for me to give him another chance. Maybe he was kidnapped and we're actually going to talk to the people holding him hostage right now. That would be something. Yeah, not even that would be a good excuse, So that'd be something. All Right, I'm gonna dial his phone of her right now. Here we go, Thank you. Hello, Hi, I was looking for Derek. Yeah, Hey, what's up, Derek? How are you?

This is Jewel from Brooke and Jewil in the Morning. What this is Jewel from Brooke and Jewil in the Morning. That hell's Jewel. That's me. That's my name. I host a radio show. It's called Brooke and Jewil in the Morning. I'm assuming you've never heard of it. No, okay, Well, the reason I'm calling you today is one of our listeners actually asked us to get a hold of you. Okay, why because you recently went on a date with her

and actually ended up ditching her without an explanation. So she was hoping maybe we could get you on the phone and find out why you left. You obviously know who we're talking about. We're talking about Hannah Yep. Okay. She told us that she met you at a driving range and then she said that you guys went out to dinner and once you sat down, you said that you had to run to the car to get something, and that's the last she ever heard of you. Is that accurate? Yeah, it is, it is. I just can

you can you just tell us why she's curious? I mean, imagine how you would Phil, if you were on a date and someone just ghost right away after you sat down, wouldn't you at least wonder why? Look? I didn't, I didn't mean to ditch her. I just panicked. Why would you panic? What would you panic about? I saw my ex at a table like right next to us, Okay, and that was after we already ordered drinks and everything.

We had already gotten there and we sat down. Okay, But just seeing your ex, I mean, that doesn't give you any grounds to just ditch somebody, does it I had to leave. Are you obviously not over your ex? Is that the issue? Oh, you don't get it. You don't get it. That's why you're right. I don't get it at all. Listen. I didn't want to tell her my ex has a restraining order against me? What what? Oh? So you legally had to leave, not just you wanted

to leave? Oh day? Yeah, like if I had been there another five minutes, you know, if she would have called the cops, that would have had to do with that. Wow, what did you do to get a restraining order? I didn't do anything. Of course you didn't. We had a messy breakup. You know, she cheated, but then she said that I cheated, which was not true. I did not cheat. Then the week after she went outside her house her car was on fire, and of course she thought it

was me. Her friends thought it was me. What so was it you? I don't know, it wasn't me. So she said that you set her car on fire. Yeah, she claims that that sounds crazy. The only reason that she ended up getting a restraining order against me was because the police placed me in the general vicinity. I'm doing air quotes. You can't even see it. But you

were in the general vicinity when her car caught fire. Yeah, yees, so it sounds really coincidental to me, Like, oh, I'm her crazy X and we had a messy breakup and now my car's on fire and you were around whatever you want to judge me, I know what actually happened, Okay, okay, okay. But even with that, Like, why wouldn't you just tell her your date, Hannah, Like, hey, let's go somewhere else. I just freaked out and left. But why not tell

her after the fact though? Shooter attacks to me like, hey, retraining order. Sorry, I mean, I don't know how you would say it, but I want to tell her. I'm not gonna lie to her, but but I'm not gonna tell her like during our first day, Hey I got this restraining order. Yeah. I mean, you still could have explained something later on though, so she's not sitting there wondering what's wrong with her and why you would leave. Actually, yeah, I tried. I mean I paid the valley twenty bucks

to tell her. Okay, well I don't think the valet told her. Yeah, you might want to go back and get your twenty dollars. Yeah, because he never told her at least I tried, that's true. Yes, but you didn't try that, Like you must not feel that bad about ditching, or you didn't call her, You didn't apologize, like at least a sorry text. You didn't even have to explain yourself. All right, fine, I'll text her later today. All right, I'm gonna say I'm sorry, and I don't know we'll

go from there. I guess, well why not? You know, don't worry about texting her later. You can just tell her right now because she's actually on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, Hannah, there, I don't even know what to say. I don't blame you. Why the hell is she here because she wanted us to get a hold of you so she could talk to you, because she's wondering why you weren't calling her back. You answered this phone call, but you couldn't bother texting

me at all. I mean, you heard what I said, Like, you know that the situation's messy. What would you have done? I would have at least taken you with me when we went out of the restaurant, not just completely ditched me and then leave me with no explanation whatsoever for a week. I mean, don't you think that's kind of a jerk thing to do. It's not my fault that there's a restraining order against me. You heard that. I

don't really know if it is your fault. I mean, you were in the area where the car was on by herself. Were you there? No, you weren't there. You don't know. I don't know for sure, because I mean, you're the one that walked out on our dates. So that doesn't make you a really truthful guy as is. Look, you're thinking about this all wrong. Look from my perspective, I didn't ditch you. I ditched my ex. Okay, we

used to. Didn't explain anything to the girl you're on a date with, and you didn't take me with you. You just getched the both of us technically, But Hannah, I mean be honest, Like if he would have told you, Hey, my ex is sitting there, I have a restraining order, let's go to another bar. You're not gonna say okay

to that. Yeah, I mean you're right in that sense, but at the same time, being truthful about it up finn I would have appreciated more than just being completely blown off and looked like an idiot at the restaurant by myself. That was a high pressure situation, and I think that I handled it better than most guys. You're right, just running away from everything. That's how I handle problems too, Man, don't worry about it. I'm just shocked. I really would

have appreciated a taxed your phone call afterwards. But Hannah, it's a legit excuse for leaving. You gotta give him Matt And for the first couple of minutes we had a great time. We ordered drinks and everything. It was awesome. Yeah, if you forget about the ex girlfriend and the arts and stuff, the date was awesome. Hey, Derek, would you like to go out with Hannah again on a second date? We'll pay for it now that she knows like everything about me, and you know, if she's still willing to

go on a date, And yeah, I would. All right, what do you think, Hannah, I'm a guy that has a restraining order out for arson and ditched me on a date and then never texted me or called me back. I'm gonna have to say no. Yeah, shocking. You have no idea what you're missing out on. I think she does know what she's missing out on. Derek, Thank you for being honest with us, Sorry about your situation. Whatever. Okay,

he's gone, he's gone, Hannah. So the restraining order for arson wasn't a good enough excuse to woo you back into another date? Huh, definitely not. Okay, Well, I want to let you know I do have a friend who is arrested for grand larceny. If you're interested, I can hook it up. If that sounds even more exciting yet. Morning.

So weird that a guy could ditch a girl on a first date and then tell her that the reason he ditched her was because his ex girlfriend was there, and she has a restraining order because somehow her car got lit on fire after they broke up, and she wouldn't go out with him again. I thought for sure that was a love connection. In case you missed the

second date update, that's exactly what happened. Hannah wanted to call a guy named Derek, mostly to get an explanation on why he left, like right when they sat down for dinner. We got him on the phone. He said he left because his ex girlfriend was there. He has a restraining order because after they broke up, somebody set her car on fire. He says it wasn't him. Yeah, but he happened to be in the general vicinity. So and he never said that it wasn't anyone he didn't know. Yeah,

you know, like, and I can't property. People are texting in saying I believe him. Yeah, I know a lot of people were on the side. I don't know. If I were going out with someone they ditched me, and then I found out the reason they ditched me was her straining order. For whatever reason, I probably wouldn't go off. There's no benefit of the doubt on that one. Remember, if you want to do a second day up, they don't have to do his email the show, and we will call the person who didn't call you back.