Second Date Update PODCAST: PTA Date

Carrie to a PTA meeting and they got hammered. That's what I'm talking about. Yeah, I had no idea they did that at PTA meetings and I don't have a kid, but I think I need to start going to more PTA meetings. Sounds fun. Ronald looks up. Oh my god, he does sound like a drunk dad. You're right, geez. Yeah, I didn't really understand the full story from your email. All I got was PTA meeting and drinks, and I

was like, dude, I'm in, when's the next one? Well? No, I mean maybe we should actual star of bringing alcohol to some PTA meetings. Doing it kind of boring, but it's not quite exactly what happened. Are you going to tell us that you went to the PTA meeting and then you went to drinks after. Yes, that's the normal course of events. Yeah, geez, that's lame. At least go to drinks before the PCA meeting. That's not a bad idea. Yeah, so what happened? What is the story with your email? Okay?

So I met this woman, her name's Carry That part is right. Um, we both have children, we're both single parents, okay, our kids both go to the same school. And I met her at a PCA function. We were put in charge of a portion of an event, a fundraising event for the school. So we got paired up. We're handling our portion of the event, and so of course now we're working together for a few hours. Isn't like really

get to know each other. So after the event was over, I decided to ask her out for like a celebratory drink kind of like that like kind of a day but not really right Okay, okay, right, if she didn't like you, you could pull out and be like, oh, I just met his friends exactly. I didn't want to put too much pressure on her, you know, okay, but we did. She said yes, So we went out to a nearby bar where they supplied alcohol. I didn't have

to bring it myself. Thank you. Did it turn into a date or was it more of just an actual celebratory drink. From my perspective, I thought it turned into a date. Uh. It was away from all your other parents, away from two kids, just being on our own, two adults people in an adult establishment. I mean the bar that could have gone the wrong way. Yeah, hey, let's leave this pta meeting and go to an adult club. What are you getting? Adults do what adults do, well, Ronald,

But no, what are the bar? We had, you know, like more in depth conversation, and she was really witty. She was very queer oriented. She loved her job, she works fully heart like. She was like a really good mom. She's a good person, and it was like a lot of fun to be around. My gosh, Ronald, you should write her resume. Yeah. I really think she's great. Um, yes, except for her communication skills, because she's not calling you back.

Well yes, I mean we have spoken since the date um at other meetings and around the school, and I've asked her out, but I did that only through text. She hasn't said no, and she's not giving me any vibes that she's you know, is definitely not interested. But I can I feel like she's hesitant to actually say yeah. Wait, what did she respond to you when you texted her asking her out on a real date? What was her

text response? She didn't really forthrightly answer my text question. Um, she said that she would look forward to seeing me at the next PPA function, but she never like directly answered my question. Yeah, yea, sounds like she's saying no without those words. I mean, I can, I can understand that, you know, why, why she's trying to be nice to me, maybe a nice brush off, but we had such a good time and it seemed like we did kind of

connect a little bit. And I know it's hard for you know, divorced parents to you know, behind the connection and like an adult connection with another person. And I don't want this one to slip away. Like I really feel like Carrie and I have at least a shot at something that we both you know, haven't had in a while. Have you tried showering her kid with gifts? She's just out of the blue, get the kid to like you. Then she's forced to deal with you probably,

you know. I mean, I have a hard enough time showering my kid with gifts. I can afford a second shot already. Well, you only have to buy gifts long enough until she sleeps with you, and then you're fine, you know, a month or two. Maybe that is horrible. Yeah, I don't think rolls that way, man. Okay, now, Ronald, I forgot to ask, did she give you any indication other than just your guys? Is great conversation that she was romantically interested in you while you guys were out

to drinks. Actually, while we were at the bar drinking, the bartender at one point came up to us and said, um, excuse me, sir, but would you and your wife like to order? And she said no, no, no, no, we're not married. But then I quickly kind of said, like, oh, but this is our dating anniversary, uh, and she laughed. Well, then we got like, you know, we got some free drinks and stuff um for the rest of the night. Hey,

that's nice. Yeah, which technically is true. You know, it was an anniversary of the first night, so it was the first night. But okay, yeah, there we go. So we had a really good connection. We had a great conversation and I just I feel like there is something more there. Okay, well we'll play a song and then

come back and get your second date update. All right, great? Thanky, yeah, man, hang on broking Cuble in the morning, right in the middle of a second date update, and Ronald is on the phone and he wants to call Carrie and Ronald before I give a recap of the date and everything else. I'm getting messages lately on social media from people who go, hey, ju, well, you never say that you like anybody. You always sound like such a jerk. So Ronald, yeah, out of obligation,

I want to tell you I like you. That sounded so sincere, and I hope this is really successful second date for you. There? That was hard, wasn't it, buddy? It was a little difficult, but good I did it. And Ronald, you're probably pretty pumped too. Oh, thank you. Just to recap, Ronald met Carrie at a PTA meeting. They actually worked on a project together, and then after

he invited her out for a celebratory drink. They had fun, but now she's not committing to another date with him, and he wants to know why Ronald, Now, it does sound like maybe Carrie isn't romantically interested in you yet. Do you think you can convince her on a second date that you are I don't know, sexy, I hope. So, I mean, I think we're attracted to each other. I mean it's just a matter of I guess, being comfortable with the idea of dating another parents at the school

your kid goes to. Yeah, I could see that it'd be risky. Man. Plus, how do you go to a PTA meeting with your significant other and not make out the whole time? You know? I never thought about that. Yes, I look at all the angles. All right, Well, I'm gonna dial her number right now and see if we can get her on the phone and find out what's going on. Okay, all right, hell well all right, can I speak to carry please? This is she Carrie? How are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in

the Morning. It's a radio show in the morning. Okay, have you ever heard of it? I don't know how you want my number? But yeah, no, sorry, I'm just a little like I have heard of it. I just I don't listen to the radio all that much. So okay, Well, congratulations, you're about to be on it because we do a segment on our show called the Second Date Update. And Ronald, he's a dude that you met in your PTA meetings, said that he really enjoyed going out to drinks with

you the other night. But it seems like you don't want to see him again. Um no, I mean I had it. I had a nice time with him when we went out, but um, I don't know. You know, I don't know. He sounds like a really nice guy and he emailed us, you know, because he feels like maybe he did something wrong or you don't feel the same about him, but he really liked you. So is there a reason you don't want to see him? I

I don't know. I just don't know that it's a it's a good idea to data another parents from my kids school, so I could see how that's valid that you don't want to complicate things at your child's school. But also as a woman, if you really like someone, you wouldn't care that much. I feel, um, yeah, I don't know, a little bit of a nervous laugh there, though. I think it makes you feel like there's something else.

Um okay, So honestly, Um, the real reason is, I mean, he was a nice guy, but another parent had warned me sort of about him, and yeah, you warned you about what? Well, she kind of warned me, or this person warned me about about him. And then I found out that the other parents at the PTA were talking about us like he was telling them. Huh, he was telling them what what do you mean? It just the

stuff that she was telling me. It didn't make sense to me at the time, but now now it sort of does, Like, well, we weren't in on that conversation, so we have no idea what the stuff is. Can you tell us what the stuff is? I really just don't want to embarrass him. Okay, well, I mean that's valid. But Ronald, by the way, is a good friend of

mine and he doesn't mind being embarrassed. He also is the one that asked for us to do this, And we tell everybody, if you're gonna do a second at update, you might hear something that you don't want to hear. So he's prepared. Yeah, and I'm sure he wants to know what other parents are saying about him at the PTA meeting. I know I would want to know okay, well, well we got drinks. He was really interested in my work, and I at the time great, but yeah, he was

just really interested. He was overly interested in my work and asking me a lot of questions about my job. And he said that you were like an awesome career woman and that was something that was really attractive to him. Right, but there's more to that, Like the person told me that he's mainly interested in the benefits of my work. What do you do, Um, I work, Okay, I'm not trying to brag. I worked a really a really well known company, okay, and I do really well for myself.

I'm very fortunate. And it was basically told me that he's using me for my benefits, Like I get one hundred percent medical and dental, I get free vision like those kind of benefits. Actual benefits, Yeah, not sextual, not anything like that. Yeah, Like he wants better health coverage for his family and he's willing to date someone to get it. Well yeah, basically, yeah, that's exactly how it

was put to me. And right, like, all of those questions on the date made sense because I was like, I've never been out with somebody that's just excited about what I do. Like, as soon as I said, the company was like all over it really so so they get they give you dental and vision there, Like, how does the what's the percentage? Is? That's crazy? Right? I know they choot us really really well. So, Um yeah, I don't know if that's that must be a huge issue for him, But I really don't want to be

somebody who's benefit wagon, you know what I mean? Okay, but what if though, he just really really liked you and then that was just kind of a bonus to him. I don't know. I prefer it's he thought I was really charming, really beautiful, Like this shouldn't even be a should be sort of like a bonus. It shouldn't it be a priority. Yeah. I think that he does feel that way, but you know, we should just ask him. Hey, Ronald, do you think that she's also beautiful and has a

great personality? Ronald? Yeah, Ronald's on the other line listening to this conversation. Don't want to talk to you. Hi, Hi, it's Ronald. Hello. Um, oh my god, guys, No, I mean I apologize if that's how everything came off, and that that's what you were hearing about. Me. I mean

I do like the benefits. It's I don't see the huge issue is about it because, uh, you know, as Brooke said, like that your benefits package is a part of who you are as a person, is like where you are in life, taking your whole deep I'm supposed to be saying to recover right now. Man, So you're you're admitting that it is for the benefits. No, no, no, no, it's I'm saying that. It's like like you said, it was,

like it's a bonus. I mean, I really enjoyed spending time with you, but like you know, we have kids, you know, we have responsibilities and stuff, and the fact that you are very well taken care of at your job it is a wonderful bonus to who you are as a person, all right, besides all of the other awesome stuff about you. God, I don't know I feel about a guy telling me like basically like I'm going to be taken care of from Like, I don't know,

I want to be taken care of. Well, the good news is with your benefits from your company, we'll both be taken care of. That is true, And so Carrie, I think you should think about it. Would you like to go out with Ronald again on a second date, we will pay for it again. Something else you guys

are getting for free. And then you can see if Ronald is really only interested in your wait before you went after Like, I know, everyone gets obsessed with love and people really want to focus on that and that, and that's great and that's part of it. But the thing is, like, eventually love's not going to pay the bills, like like look full fade and stuff like that, but like benefits are forever, Okay, okay, Ronald, Yeah, Um, I appreciate what you're you know, trying to do, and um

think you're a nice guy. And I well, I'm sure we'll continue to have fun at the PTA meetings, but I feel like that's where maybe it needs to end. He didn't get Yeah, he didn't get you with your dental coverage is sexy. He didn't. And I'm sure there's some girl out there that will love that. But for me, I yeah, it's a little too practical maybe right, you know, I would prefer my lips or something like but Carrie, all the other stuff, you know, we can do that.

That's something we can grow and learn and and and and it can happen naturally. I'm not saying I wouldn't be a part of that. I do think you're beautiful and we can stay beautiful together with all of the health benefits you have. All right, Ronald, I don't think he's gonna work for you. Man, I don't think Carry wants to go out with you again. But I was just trying to be practical and honest. I mean, that's all. It's all I'm trying to do. I appreciate your honesty.

I don't think Carry wants to date you though now, and I at the end of the day, do you appreciate it as well? But it's a definite note for me. Okay, there it is. So I wish you all the basket luck with everything. Um, I'm sure you'll find your your benefit sugar mama. All right, thanks Carrie. Well, Ronald, looks like you didn't get a second date. And also more bad news for your second date. Updates aren't covered under your insurance plants, or you're gonna have to pay out

a pocket for this your bill. Okay, Wow, way to kick a man while it's down. Don't get too hurt when you're down there, because again the insurance broken jewel in the morning text in at seven eight five nine two that says my company offers terrible health benefits. I guess what I need to do is just start looking for somebody to date who has good ones. The guy in today's second date update if you missed it, Ronald wanted to call Carry. They met at a PTA meeting.

She wasn't calling him back. He was confused. We got her on the phone and it turns out that Ronald was actually more interested in her health benefits that she gets at her job than her No. He said that it was an added bonus, right. He wouldn't stop talking about her health benefits. So it makes me think he's just trying to find somebody to take care of him, not really necessarily a gold digger healthcare digger. Yeah, something

like that. I don't know. Remember, if you want to do a second day up date, all you have to do an email of the show. We will call the person who didn't call you back.