Need lask trust the experienced team at the Lasic Center at Evergreen Eye Center. No glasses, no contacts, no limits. What will you do? Lesic at Evergreen dot com Rooking Jebels Second date Update. Today's second date update is a little different than usual because normally when somebody emails us, they're complaining like, oh, I've been blowing off or this
person won't talk to me. Well, apparently the dude on the phone today named Andy has been trying to get together with the girl that he went out on a date with, and she's also been trying to get together with him, but they can't seem to connect. And now I guess he thinks he needs to do a second date update about it? Andy, what's up? How are you? Hey? Good? How are you doing? Man? Wow? For that description, it sounds pretty bored Andy, Like we're going to be your
personal assistants trying to get the calendar right for you too. Yeah. I don't know what it is, all right, maybe it's me, but we just can't seem to get on the same page. Okay, Well, why'd you emails for a second date update? Then? If you don't think she's blowing you off at first, I didn't think she would blowing me off, but now I think she might be. Okay, maybe it just got too frustrating trying to plan something. Well, before we get into all that, tell us a little bit about her. Where
did you meet her? Starbucks? Actually, oh, that's kind of cute. Did you approach her? I did, which I usually don't do, but she actually kept looking at me, and I just thought, as she did, Andy, that's right. Yeah, he just standing at the Starbucks all day long, waiting for ladies. It finally paid off. Yeah. I mean I didn't know what was going on. I thought maybe she would like I had a stain on my shirt or I had like can yeah, I got a whole lot of sexy on
your shirt? That's the problem that day? And I did What did you say to her? Did you have a line or were you up front? How did you approach her? I was very upfront. I just said I just got to say you're beautiful? I told her straight up. And then she took her headphones out and said what Yeah. I had to repeat it again in front of everyone else. She really did she really have her headphones? And when
you walked up there, did Yeah? I didn't notice until afterwards. Yeah, okay, well when you said it again, did she seem like she liked it? She did, she said thank you? So yeah, and then what happened? I mean, did you like ask for her number or what? Yeah? After some small talk, we exchanged not numbers at first, but instagrams okay, okay, because I noticed she was on her Instagram. And then we messaged each other back and forth for a while. So yeah, so you haven't been out on an official
date with her yet at all? Not an official one. No, that day. We actually ended up hanging out a little bit afterwards after Starbucks. But yeah, nothing official. And how was that hanging out? It was fun? Yeah, like we went for a little walk. We went up to this little hill area that is a nice view, and I tried to kiss her. So what right after meeting her at Starbucks? Yeah? Yeah, I was feeling the vibe, so I just leaned in to kiss her. Whoao, bold, sir,
very bold? Did you kiss her? Or did she run down the hill screaming? She didn't run down a hill screaming, but she did pull away. So yeah, the kiss never happened, and I felt horrible about it. What did she say? She said, I don't kiss on first dates, right or like at lunchtime. I'm assuming it was daylight and there was no alcohol involved, and you'd only known each other for how long at this point, like a half hour? Yeah? So, oh yeah? Did she should have you know what? That
that's very judgmental of her. That's she should have totally been looking out with you by then. You know, seriously, are you sure you want to even waste your time trying to go out with her again? So what happened after that? Then? Actually? Yeah, at the end, I tried to give her a hug. I said, do you do first date hugs? She said, yeah, so I we hugged, and then uh, okay we went our separate way after that.
And you didn't do anything creepy during the hug? Mm Andy, be honest, like it wasn't like a little bit too long or your hands went south. Oh no, I mean I have done creepy stuff what hugs before? But no not, because you've probably learned. You've done enough creepy hugs over your lifetime that now you know what you should and shouldn't do during a hug. That's how I learned. Not the lick cheeks. What don't even ask, Andy, don't ask? Yeah, anyway, Andy,
why do you think she's not calling you back? Then? No, actually she did call me. It did. Yeah, that's the weird part. She called and left the message the next day. What what'd she say on the message? She just said, Hey, it was great hanging out with you. We should hang out again. She did, okay, And so you got back to her, right, Like I tried to get back to her.
I called her back and I left the message, and then the next day she texted me back, and then I texted her back and we you just haven't been able to like connect. It's really annoying. Well, but you said, now you think she's blowing you off? Why it sounds like you guys just are having a normal conversation. Well, I think she's blowing me off now because it's been like three days I haven't heard back from her, and so now I'm thinking maybe she didn't think the hug
was creepy or something. Probably the kiss, No, maybe, yeah, Yeah, there's a couple of options you could choose from. All Right, Well, we'll play a song, come back, and then call her and see if she is in fact blowing you off with your second day update. All right, okay, great, all right, hangs looking jubil in the Morning's right in the middle of a second date update, and if you're just joining us, Andy is on the phone, and today he wants to call a girl named Arianna. They didn't even have a
real date. They met at a Starbucks and then ended up going for a walk. Oh and he tried to kiss her like thirty minutes after meeting her. That was also part of the date. And Andy, I think most people would definitely kiss you after meeting you, like more than ten minutes. So I don't even know why you want to call this weirdo. Are you sure you want to call her? She sounds strange to me. No, she's not. She's not weird. She's really cool. And hopefully she'll kiss
me on the second day. Okay, don't push it, Andy, all right, you already push it on the first day. To Andy, I won't promise. And I would normally think it was the kiss or the weird hug, but she actually called you and wanted to hang out. And it's just you guys haven't been able to connect. Yeah, exactly. It's like she was calling me. I was calling her. We texted back and forth, and then it's like she just disappeared off the face of the planet. Yeah, okay,
it's three whole day. Yeah, I feel like we're too connected in this world anymore like three days and it really does feel like someone just like is dead. Yeah. If someone doesn't respond to a text message within an hour, that's like a week. Right back in the early nineteen hundreds, that would be a week. All right, Andy, I'm gonna dial her phone of her right now, you're ready, let's do this. Get her on the phone. I want to find out what's going on. Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi,
can I speak to Ariana? Yeah, this is hurt. Hey, how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Who is that? Who are you? Jewil? I host a radio show. It's called Brooke and Jewel in the Morning. Um. Okay, you've clearly been a fan for a long time, and I thank you for that. Arianna. Yeah, no, I've never heard of it. Yeah, yeah, that was my my point. I could understand that you hadn't heard it before. I'm calling you today because one of our listeners actually
sent us an email about you. Oh, wait, can you get to the point, because I'm love to His name is Andy, and you guys met at a coffee shop recently. Oh no, that's not happening. That was a quick no, Arianna. Yeah, what do you mean, I'm not interested in guys that play games? You're not didn't guys that play games like board games. I don't like people to play board games either, So I'm on your side there. Yeah. No, Um what did uh? I guess? Like? What did his email say?
All good things? He said that he really liked meeting you and that you guys are trying to plan a date, but you disappeared and he hasn't heard from you in three days. Oh. He also said he tried to kiss you, like, which we thought was like bold. Yeah, yeah it was bold. Um, but um, he's breadcrumbing me. So yeah, wait, remind me again. Bread crumbing What does that mean? Like he's you know, he's stringing me along, Like he's sending me texts and calls.
They're like, you know, they're nice and everything, but like he's not trying to make solid plans with me. Yeah, I mean, of course he is. He contacted us to get a hold of you, so that you guys could get together. I don't know about that. The messages like that, he's been leaving me like he's just returning my calls. It's like he's an answering service. Okay, so he told us, well, we talked to him a little bit to ask him about meeting you. He said that you guys have been
kind of playing phone tag or whatever. Yeah, but phone tag is like when you like care about someone, you try to get hold of him. Like, he's obviously breadcrumming me, and so I'm just going to ghost him. So he's breadcrumbing and now you're ghosting? Yeah what I mean? Maybe he's just waiting until you guys can actually talk on the phone and make a plan. I mean maybe he was, but obviously we're both busy. So if we're texting in
like texts, that's how people make plans. Okay, So you think that he's breadcrumbing you because he hasn't tried to make official plans yet. Yeah, he's just being nice, but he's not like doing anything about it. And I keep I keep saying when do you want to hang out? When are you free? And he doesn't answer me. What Okay, what does he say? In return, like how's your day? You know, it goes he doesn't message me for hours and then just kind of ignores it and it's like
how are you, how's your day? Which is nice, but like he didn't answer my question about when he was free. Yeah, you're like scroll up in the text threat man. Yeah, Like he's in breadcuming me for a while, but now he's zombiing me. So I'm just over it. Zombiing you? What's that one? Which one? Yeah? I don't know which one that is? What does that mean? If someone ghost to you and then they like come back from the dead, you know, like they're zombing you. Okay, okay, So I'm
just gonna clear it up real quick. So at first you felt like he was breadcrumbing you, and then you ghosted him, and then you felt like maybe he ghosted you. But now he's zombiing you, and you guys, he's using you to zombie me. Yeah, that's so I don't know what. Yeah, I don't know what you call this part. You probably have a word for it. But he's also on the other line listening and wants to talk to you right now. I don't know what, Like resurrecting. Maybe that's resurrecting. Yeah,
I don't know what that would be called. He's not really on the phone right now. This is an eighth grade Yeah, no, he's on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. And yes, our show is actually more like sixth grade. But thanks for the Photocoffien. Hey I'm here, Arianna. How you doing? Oh my god? What is bread crumbing? By the way, I don't even know what's me. I was just trying to reach out
to you. Yeah, you weren't like actually making solid plans with me or anything, so I just decided to bench you. You know what, everyone gets that one. I want to hang out with you, Arina. It sounds like you have a term for everything. Yeah, benched me. What does that even mean? I mean, it's pretty obvious. I'm gonna go out do whatever I want, and I'm gonna have you sit on the sideline because you need to make a move. I'm playing well in the game, so like I gotta
put you on the bench. You know what I mean? What I've been playing good. I texted you, I called you. I just we haven't been able to make a connection. Why are you benching me. He sounds so sad, Arianna. He shouldn't sound sad like he zombied me. I mean zombing brad Crow. I had to write those rooms down before. I never even heard of all. But I mean, can't we just like talk in English? I mean, but those are all English words. But Arianna, I mean, here's here's
the thing. When you're using all those terms and you're like labeling everything that he does in a different way, it almost sounds like you're the one playing the game, not him. I am not playing games. He's the one who is playing games. I've already explained everything that he's done to me, like I'm the victim here, like I'm benching him. Yeah, I feel like you know all the terms and you've played this game for a long time now, Arianna, So you know when somebody's playing a game on you, Andy,
why would you breadcrum her like that? I was not I don't know what that means, but well whatever, Zombie Andy, like to your defense, listen, An, he directly told you that you're beautiful in a Starbucks. Like that's really direct. He tried to kiss you thirty minutes into the day. I mean, like, how much more can he say? Like I am into you. I don't know what else I need to say, Like I've already told you guys everything,
Like what else am I supposed to say? I don't understand. Well, someone just please explained to her that I like her and I want to go on another date and I want to be or whatever. I'll do that for you Andy, Arianna, would you go on a second date with Andy? We will pay for it. He does want to go out with you again. He's not throwing breadcrumbs in your face. He'll name a time and place immediately, yes, and we'll
pay for it. Actually, I don't have an exact time or place right now, but i'll text you later for sure. There you go, Arianna, what do you say? One more date? We'll pay for it. Do you see what I'm dealing with? Okay? Hi? Actually I mean this whole time, I've been against you, but I kind of get it now, Arianna, Like, just set a date like I we're not getting married, like I know, I want it to be special. I have to think about it. Yeah, that's frustrating. No, I'm with her.
I mean, this is all happening. You just shat it right now I can't take something off top of my head, but I will have fun. Trust me, trust me, you know. And Andy, like, you're officially bench right now. If I'm interested later, like I'll text you, oh man, oh yeah, so you're saying, Arianna, if you zombie him, then you're okay going out again? Yeah? Andy, I'm gho seeing you right now. And if I decided to talk to you, you know, zombie you. Okay, I'm so confused right now,
what's happening? I mean, sorry you didn't get a second date though, Andy, and I think we need to be officially done because I need to go to Erman dictionary right now and figure out what the hell just happened. In the text in at seven eight five nine two says I don't really know what happened with that second date update, but at least now I know what breadcrumbing, zombiing, and resurrecting is in dating terminology. If you missed it, Alex wanted to call Arianna. She wasn't calling him back.
They're playing phone tag. She would go away then come back and everything else. We got her on the phone. She said that Alex was breadcrumbing her. Yeah, like saying he was gonna make plans but never making plans. And then she went away and then came back and apparently that's zombiing. And there was a whole lot of words that she used. She's been reading too many blogs about dating online, but they is she was spot on with his behavior. I mean because at the very end, he's like, yeah,
I'd love to take you out. I'm not sure when, but yeah, I think it's going to happen. So he was still doing it. They agreed to not go out, maybe because she said she might zombie him at some point, I means bring him back with all these terms, like if you tell someone you're dating nowadays, they're like, what is dating? Yeah, I don't know what that means. Are you zombing? Are you breadcrumbing? Or don't know? We're just dating? What? Yeah? Are we shale? What is that? That one sounds fun? Yeah?
Why not? Remember? If you want a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who breadcrumbed you or zombie do you or just didn't call you back