Second d the guy on the phone for a second Date update today feels like he was the victim of a pity date. You know what that is where somebody goes out with you just because they know that you like him a lot, so they throw you a bone and then never call you again. That's what he's worried about. His name is Dave. Dave. I've been out on a lot of pity dates in my day, A lot of them. Yeah, it's usually me taking pity on the girl A right, you know, sure, fine, all right, if you keep asking,
I guess I'll go out with you. So I've never been in your shoes, Dave. But first of all, tell us a little bit about the girl that you went out with. What's her name? All right here, you guys. Um, So her name is Emma, And okay, we worked together for three years, um, and I always liked her. You know, she's she's got freckles and red hair. She's just so cute. And so the whole time we were we got a long great. Yeah, did you guys flirt at work? I
thought we did. Well, She's like, she's no longer here, so, I mean, so after your date she quit, well, she had put Yeah, I guess, I mean put in. What do you Okay, I'm very confused now, Dave. All right, your email said that she was a co worker. You guys worked together. Yeah, but I mean she found another job. She said she was leaving for another better job. Okay, and this is before your date or after your date. She found the job before our date, but she left
like right after our date. Okay, okay, all right, that was just the confusing part. So did you feel like you guys were flirty at work when she was there? I did? Yes. Why why did it take you three years to work up enough courage to ask her out? Well? I don't know, because she's she's not She's not there like one night stank kind of girl, you know, somebody that I really liked and thought it could go. I
don't know, progress some more. Let me ask you a question, Dave. Yeah, you got a lot of one night stand girls in your life, because I can't picture you really looking up a lot of one night stands. Man, I'm not trying to be mean. Nah, you know that's not just that's just not me. Okay, No, right, So what did you guys do on your date? Well, first of all, how did you finally get up the courage to ask her out? Then? Um, well, it was her last day and she was in the
break room. Oh, I just it's now or never, so I U. I approached her and I told her that I know we've been friends for this long. I've liked you since the moment I saw you, and I'd hate to have you leave without me doing this, So you know, I know I would regret it if I didn't do it. I said, well, you go out to dinner with me tonight. Did you say it exactly like that, will you go out to dinner with me tonight? Or was it a little smoother than that day? Ah? I guess it was
a little like that. I mean, if you gave her all that other information about how you've wanted to ask her out since day one, what was her reaction? I mean, did she seem taken aback or was she kind of like oh? Uh? I guess a little both. That's why. Uh, I don't know if it was pity or if it was like she was swept off her feet sort of thing endearing. Yeah, You's so you can't tell if she was really interested or she was just like, oh, that's sweet.
I'll go out with him. Yeah. No, I mean the reason I thought no there was a pity dates because, um, you know, we had a great time. Um, you know, I had a drink or two. Um. But then after, you know, she wanted to hang out with her friends. She was meeting up with some friends, and and then, like every time I tried to talk to her, she says she's too busy at work. Okay, So at the end of the date, she didn't invite you along to
go meet her friends. She just left. Yeah, did you get a kiss or anything like that on the cheek? You got a kiss on the cheek. She said you want to meet her friends. She's texted you back though. That's nice because normally people just ignore someone if they don't want to see him again. Oh yeah, okay, And what you said that she? What has she said to you? Well, she says she's too busy right now. Okay, that's a pretty standard blowoff statement right there. So yeah, Dave, you've
been blown off. Basically, what exactly are you hoping to get out of the second date? Update? This is a girl I've liked her for three years, so I first I want to know is if it, it's a pretty date, and if not, I want to see where this can go. Okay, you think you can convince her to go out with you again? Yeah? I do, if you know so much I like her. All right, well we're gonna play a song,
come back, call her and get your second date update. Okay, okay, all right, man, hang on you okay, what are you doing over there? Days? Yeah? What are you doing? Just little nervous, So you're okay, you're nervous. So what are you doing? Yeah, it sounds like you're shuffling papers and sometimes I get a little lightheaded. I'm just breathing, all right, Hey man, all right, so hang out, breathe for like four minutes, and then we'll be back and do your
second day update. Okay, all right, cool, thanks, all right, hang on looking jubil in the morning. Second dates. You know, normally, at the beginning of these second date updates are trying to say something funny to make everybody laugh. But today I'm just hoping Dave is still alive. Dave, you're there, Yeah, all right, if you missed the first part of the second date update, Dave is on the phone. He wants us to call this girl named Emma. She's a co worker,
or she was a co worker. He asked her out the last couple of days before she was leaving because he had a crush on her forever they went out. She's been blowing him off ever since. But the interesting part was when we finished up talking to Dave about his date. You were all over the place, man like you sounded like you were about ready to pass out. Are you doing okay? Yeah, I'm just a little nervous.
Okay is this normal for you? I guess anything. Just to let you know, Dave, we do have paramedics standing by, all right, I've already alerted them, so if you pass out, you'll be okay, Okay, thank you. Okay, all right, man, Well I'm gonna dial the phone him right now and ask her about your date. Okay, it's paper shuffling thing. Yeah, what is it? Dave? Yeah, you're good? Yeah? Yeah, all right, No, he said, no, I'm going right now because I want to lose day. Huh. I was looking for Emma. This
is Emma, Emma, how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, okay, you ever listened to our radio show? No, I'm not really in the car at that time. So okay, Well, you recently went out on a date with one of our listeners and he liked you a lot, so he wanted me to call you. See if I get you on the phone and ask why you've been blowing him off since you guys went out. Okay, who told you that? His name is Dave? Oh? You know Dave? You used to
work with Dave. We've talked to him and he's a very nice guy. But he's just curious if he did something wrong on your date, and that's why you've been kind of blowing him off, giving him the busy excuse. Um, he's a really nice guy. He is a sweet person. He's not really my type of guy. But I really didn't even know we were going out on a date. Oh did you think it was a friendship thing? Well? Yeah, because we worked here for many years, he's always so
sweet to me. He'd always like bring me coffee from the break room. And when I told him I was leaving, he looked really upset, and so I thought we'd, like, you know, hang out as coworkers, and so I was leaving. You know how people do that when people leave a job,
maybe never gets together. And I thought that's what he met, and I thought that's what we were doing until like the day of and he was insisting on picking me up, which was like a red flag or I was like, oh no, I think he thinks this is a date. Let me ask you a question, Emma. When we talked to Dave, he said he had a crush on you the whole time he was working with you. Did you know that he had a crush on you? Or was
that when it became obvious? Oh no, I mean I could tell you know girls now and he yeah, I mean I could tell you had a little crush on me, you know. But I still thought it was just like a friendly like we don't have that kind of romantic vibe at all as far as I could see, even though he had a crush on me. Didn't he tell you though? When he asked you out, I've been wanting to do this since the day I saw you. He was kind of like mumbling, I really wasn't sure sometimes
of parts I stand always talking about. But like, I really thought it was a hangout until like he insisted on picking me off at my house and then he showed up with like a dozen red roses, So I was like, oh no, he definitely thought it was a date. Still could have been a work hangout at that point. I give all of roses all the time. So at that point you knew. At that point, you knew it
was more than just a co worker hangout. Yeah, for one hundred percent, knew, Like, again, he is a really sweet person, and he was always he was like, actually the nicest to me at my job out of anyone for the whole time I worked there. It sounds like a really nice guy. We've talked to him a little bit about your date that you don't think it should have been a date, But did you enjoy it? It
was so awkward, you guys. It was like he had the waitress put his plate like on the same side as me, so instead of sitting across like two regular people, he sat right next to me. All right, some people do that. Though. He's kind of an awkward dude, huh. I know him from being a coworker, and he's always kind of like mumbling and nervous and awkward. But again,
he is a really nice person. So I didn't want to be you know, I want to let him down easy kind of thing, you know, without hurting his feelings. But um, like, I've never seen him so nervous, and yeah, I guess so is there anything attractive about him that you? I mean, like, if you were to step back and try to see him in a romantic light, could you He's not the kind of guy I am attracted to you you generally, So I bet you he's a stallion in the bedroom, Emma, everything about that? No, I don't. I
don't think so. Well, would you be willing to at least tell him the reason why you've been kind of blowing him off, instead of just saying that you're busy, just let him know, Hey, you're not really my type. I think that would be really awkward. I do too. I do too, Emma. And that's why I want to make it happen, because Dave is actually on the phone listening right now. Nous yep, I know I am a little nervous first, but I mean I could become the man you want me to be. Yeah, I don't think so, Dave.
I mean a lot of girls out there, you know, and I think you should keep trying, you know, to maybe find someone that's a better fit for you. Dave, are you okay? Man? Yeah? Do you feel like she's making the wrong decision here? Well? Yeah, you know, I wouldn't. I wouldn't do this if I didn't really like like her and Emma I go out on more date with me. I will. I promised you I won't be awkward like you said, Dave. I did have a nice time on our date, and I think we really do get along.
It's just that you're so nervous, and you just seem to have so many anxieties that I'm not sure. Yeah, I know I'm nervous, but this is just because I care about something so much that you know, this comes up. But you know, we always got a long Greek very. I mean, we did get along really well. And you are a really I mean you are a good looking guy. Really do you think I'm really good looking? Well? Yeah, I mean you are. You're just you know, a little nervous,
but you are a good looking You're really like handsome face. See, Dave, you hear that you're sexy? Yeah, that's the way I feel when a girl calls me a good looking too. Man, Dave, what do you keep doing? Um? I'm just breathing it Okay, Amma, what do you think? I mean, hold on a second, Dave, Dave, Yeah, what are you doing? Dude? You're making so much noise? What are you doing though? Like, why are you making so much noise? It's a paper bag. You're breathing into
a paper bag. Yeah, okay, but here, I'll put it down. Yeah, put the paper bag down for a second if you can. All right, Emma, would you like to go? Would you like to go out on a second date with Dave? I will pay for it, give him one more shot. He sounds like a great guy. He'll leave the paper bag at home, so I won't do again so much.
I mean, I would say this, and I like all the guys I've ever dated, David's definitely like probably the sweetest and most caring I consider it, and nicest, Like he may not be polished, and he's a little bit right around the hedges, you know that. I know he would go to the ends of the earth for me, you know, so, well, then why not go out with him again? The ends of the earth for you? Jesus. That sounds like somebody I'd want to spend some time with. Yeah,
I really like you. Um, okay, I will go out on a date with you, Dave. There you go. Congratulations Dave, Dave, yeah, congratulations, you got a second date. Who you gonna be? Okaya? Are you? Are you breathing into the back again, Dave, No, No, it's so exciting, all right, then keep breathing into the back end. In the morning, a lot of people texting in at seven eight, five, nine to two saying that was their favorite second date update we've ever had, pooral
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