Second Date Update PODCAST: Love Stinks like a Candle

the guy that she wants to call today. Hey, Stephanie, how are you Hi? I'm good, How are you guys? Okay, I'm just having PTSD thinking about having stood in a candle shop before. Oh, come on, and pretty amazing that you picked up on a guy in a candle shop. What men are in no space? I actually thought the same thing. I was a little I kind of noticed him. I was a little curious what he was doing there too, And you know, I gotta say, he looks pretty clue us.

He was kind of looking at the candles and smilling them and making faces that I'm sure you're making right now. So was he a candle enthusiast or is he. I mean, no, I don't think so. He, like I said, he seemed very out of place and kind of shy. So I decided to kind of go over and just see if we needed some help. A nice move. Yeah, yeah. We started talking and he said he was trying to buy a candle for his mom. Okay, okay, I thought I

was so sweet. Right. Do you think this guy is just trolling candle shops and making up a story about his mom. It's pretty smart. Well, I mean I guess it kind of worked, but no, but no, really though, I helped him pick out a candle and he went and bought it, and we both left the store and that was it. He didn't ask me out or anything. But when he left, I was actually thinking that I thought he was pretty cute and maybe it was a

missed opportunity. And then actually half an hour later we ran into each other at another store in the mall and the betting section of somewhere, just like this guy's buying candles and comforters just domesticated dude. Surprisingly not No. At this point I kind of realized, you know, why not just go for it. I was a little nervous, and I don't do this a lot. But I basically asked him if he wanted to hang out again. That's awesome. So you asked him out? Yeah, I asked him. I know,

you know it's a little forward, but why not. Sometimes you gotta you know, you got to make moves for yourself, right right. Absolutely, Yeah, And it worked. It was because he seemed excited about that and we exchanged numbers. Let's just picture of this guy calling his friends after like, oh my god, you guys, I was shopping for candles. I mean, this really cute girl totally asked me out. My god, what did you guys do for your day? Well? I texted him first and asked him if he wanted

to beat up, and he said yes. I ended up choosing a restaurant to go to. Okay, so you guys did a full on dinner. We did dinner, and we ended up meeting. It was a Friday night. I picked a restaurant that was had a nice feel to it, but wasn't over the top or not, you know, crazy expensive or anything. It was moderate. We had a great time, you know, the conversations were great and it went a little longer than I kind of expected. So the next thing. I knew we had been at the restaurant for a

little over two hours. But a lot of times that's a good thing, right, You're like, oh my god, we've been talking forever. Yeah, I mean that's what I thought.

You know, it must mean that it's because we were just talking and we lost track of time because we were having a good time, and it wasn't just you talking, right, No, it was definitely definitely on his time to talk to Okay, I allowed him to speak at certain points, but I thought that, you know, maybe the night would progress, maybe he'd come over, or maybe it would just be, you know, to figure out when we would want to get together again.

I don't know, but by the end of the night, he seemed a little maybe like something else was on his mind, or he was a little upset or a little agitated. What was he doing to make you feel that way? You know, when you can tell you're looking at someone and you can tell that they're looking back at you, but in the back of their mind they're not with you. Right by the end of the night, I just kind of got that feeling, and he was

he wasn't talking as much. I was much more of the conversation and maybe he was thinking about some potpourri he had to pick up or something. No, I honestly, I don't know. He's kind of left it at that and by that time we were pretty much done with dinner. We said goodbye, we hugged, and that was it, and he'd made no mention of seeing you again. No, honestly, I mean I expected to maybe get a text from him, if not that night, then at least maybe the next day.

But now it's been a while and I haven't heard from him even once. No candle recommendations from him, No candle, nothing, no interesting. All right, well we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update. All right, okay, okay, brooking jubil in the morning. Second, if you're just tuning in for today's second date update, Stephanie is on the phone with us, and today she wants to call a guy that she met in what I like to refer

to as the Land of the Zombie boyfriends. Talking a candle shop, candle shops, craft stores, target on a Sunday afternoon, you see nothing but just dead eyed boyfriends following their girlfriends around, waiting for death's sweet release. It's one of the worst places you could ever possibly be such an accurate But this guy actually doesn't have a girlfriend. He was just shopping for a candle for his mom and they struck up a conversation and she ended up asking

him out. They went out to dinner, had some decent conversations, she says. At the end of the date, he seemed a little distant, gave her a hug, and then walked out of her life. Forever, she hasn't heard a word from him. Are you ready to give him a call? Stephanie? Yeah, let's do it. And you really want to go out with this guy again? I do you know that? I really felt like we had an instant connection and I really couldn't tell you why he hasn't responded. It's very

strange to me. Okay, you want to date this guy so that you can make him your boyfriend and then you can drag him to the candle start and then you can buy candles for me. Yeah? Yeah, all right, here we go. I'm gonna dallas phone of her right now. Hi. Can I speak to you please? Yeah? This is see Hey, how are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the morning. What have you heard of Brooke and Jewil in the Morning and it's a radio morning show. No, well that's who we are. Okay. Do you want to

know why I'm calling you? Yeah. We do a segment on our show called the second Date Update. So you recently went out on a date with a girl named Stephanie and Stephanie said she had a great time and then emailed us because you haven't been responding to her phone calls or text messages. So I said, hey, let's get on the phone and find out why he doesn't like you. Oh no, do you have a few minutes

to talk to us about your date with Stephanie? I guess, but rather not have You are an honest person, Archie, you can just give us a little bit information. She was just really confused. Can you just sell her that I made a mistake and I'm really sorry? What kind of mistake did you make? Buy the wrong candle at the candle store? She told us about how you guys man? Uh, okay, I will talk to you, but you have to promise to not use my name. WHOA Okay, I promise you

we will be about your name. Okay, Okay, all right, So what's the issue. Um, did you even like her? Yeah? She's cool. Okay, I like to pause before you said cool. It's like she's um, I think, okay, yeah, no, no, no, no, no no, no, no, she was she was cool. Uh, this is my this is my bad, this is my fault. It's not hers. Okay. So she didn't do anything wrong. No no, no, I did something wrong and she's great. Whoa, So what did you do wrong? Then? I? Uh, okay,

I'm gonna tell you, but it's gonna sound really bad. Okay, not bad. It's gonna sound bad, but it's not bad. We usually it's bad. Like I didn't ask her out, Like I ran into her later and she asked me out, okay, And I don't know. It's never happened to me. Was someone just like I've never had someone asked me out. So I don't know. But I have a I have a girlfriend. Oh, come on, you have a girlfriend. But you went on a date with her? What? Yeah? She she caved me in a candle shop and she started

talking to me, and that was weird. And it's weird for a girl to talk to you. Yeah, that never happened. Seeart, I just panicked and I Colera was there to get a candle for my mom because you liked the female attention you were getting from her. That sounds right, I was, I was there shopping for my girlfriend. Oh so the candle wasn't for your mom at all? No, okay, but why did you agree to go on a date with her? If you had to go? Didn't? She didn't ask me

out there? We ran into each other again, and then she asked me out, and I've just again was so floored by it that I said, yes, okay, but you couldn't have said I'm sorry, thank you very much, but I have a girlfriend. I suppose I could have said that, but you didn't. I did not, and even after, like there was plenty of opportunity for you to text later and said I'm sorry. I was so flattered. I'm not single, do you know? I thought I might tell her, and

then things just got busy and I just didn't. I don't know how many times had just happened to me. It's always a good excuse too, What do you tell your girlfriend? Like? Why were you out with another girl? Oh? Man? She asked me out? And then things got busy and I couldn't turn it down. It was a really bad idea. I don't know why I did it, but we went out and I could barely eat more than like two bites because I felt so guilty the whole time. And it was just She did say that when you guys

were out, you seemed a little distant. I'm assuming it's probably because you were thinking about what you were doing. Yeah, I was thinking about my girl friend. I didn't I didn't cheat on her. We didn't do anything. It just we just went out to dinner and nothing happened. I think going on a Friday night date with somebody else's kind of considered cheating. It wasn't a Friday night, it was just I don't think it matters what day of the week it was on. You still went out. It

could have been a Tuesday night. You still went out to dinner with somebody else. And why did you never come clean afterwards? When she was texting you and wanted to see you again? It yo, I was going to text her back, Well why didn't you? Because I just figured, you know, I had a girlfriend, so just ghost out, all right. Well, unfortunately, you can't completely cut her out of your life just yet, because she's actually on the

other line listening to this conversation right now? What no? Yeah, no, no, no no, no, Stephanie, are you serious? Right? What were you thinking? I'm sorry. I don't even know what to say. It's it's my fault. It is not your fault. I'm so sorry. I don't care. You went out to dinner with me, that's a date. You didn't even think about how it would make me feel. Nope? No, oh my god. Yeah no. I just said yes to the date and then went out and realized, Oops, I made a mistake. Ohoy,

I wouldn't do that again. I am so sorry. If you were great, wow, you were cool? You were somebody really should date you? How dare you if I was single? Man? You're great? Is there any chance of you being single? How long have you been in your relationship that you're in three years? And is this the first? Wow? I feel sorry for her. Is this the first time you've been out with another woman since you've been in your three year relationship? This was the first time a woman's

ever asked me out? So I said yes? For some reason? Idea? Why I said yes? Yeah? I mean I kind of feel you a little bit, but you still should have told her you have a girlfriend, Do you like want out of your relationship and you're just trying to look for a way to end it? No, And honestly, going out with her made me like realize how much I love my girl for like even more? Oh, come on, you hear that, Stephanie. You helped save a relationship, I think, Oh my god? Yeah, is there any signs that he

had a girlfriend? Like? No, No, you should have known when he was in a candle shop right off the bat. You should have never talked to him. Yeah. I guess I can't trust men anymore. Ever, No, no, no no, just dudes in candle shops. Can never trust them. Yea. I would love to ask you if you're going a second date with Stephanie, we will pay for it. No, no, a second Are you really? Really? No? I'm asking not you, Stephanie. Sever you were great. If I was single, Holy man,

I would so glad on a date with you. But still not though, Wow, no, no second date? Are you gonna tell your girlfriend about this? Uh? Yeah? Yeah right, come on, We're a better liar than that broken jupil in the morning.