Second Date Update PODCAST: Livin’ The Van Life

that's okay. Or sometimes you're the pitcher and sometimes you're the catcher. Either way, you're gonna have a good time. They'll go to some famous sayings from baseball, and I bring them up because the guy on the phone for a second Date update today, his name is Matthew, and he met the girl that he wants to call at a co ed softball game. What's up, Matthew? How are you? I'm doing pretty good? How about you? Guys? Pretty good? Were you the pit or the catcher that day? I

meanly bats and you know, play third base. But your email said that you met the girl that you want to call. Her name is Tricia. Yeah, yeah, she's real sweet, okay, And it says here you met her at a co ed softball game. How'd that work? Yeah, she was on the opposite team. Wait, yeah, so that's you know, a little extra charm as well. Uh let me guess she was pitching to you, she struck you out, and then you threatened to fight her. How softball friendly softball games go? Yeah,

physical violence is that how it went down. It was more like when we all went to the bar, then you threatened to fight her. There was no fighting. No, okay, no fighting during the game or afterwards. It's different than any co ed sports league that I've been involved in. There's always a fight at some point. But so you met her at the bar, yes, yes, and had you had your eye on her like all game? Oh yes, all game for sure. What what about her stuck out

to you? Oh? I mean her her legs just gone for days, you know, one of those girls with legs all the way up to her butt. Yeah. So she was really good at the game, and on top of it all, she seemed like a genuinely cool trick. So

how did you approach her at the bar? Well, I mean I grabbed her a drink and you know, said congrats for whooping her ass, and you know, then we just started talking about how long we have been playing, and then one thing led to another and I ended up getting her number and we said it day to go hiking. Really was the hike, Oh it was great. She met me where we were going to start out. What'd you say? I mean, I heard you. I was just like, what very nice she met there? She met

you where you're gonna start. That's better than you at the end of the trail, I guess. And she was just as awesome as the first time you met her. Absolutely, Like she did great on the hike, and we were able to talk. We weren't winded or anything. And uh, I mean at the end, like when we say goodbye, like I didn't know, if you know, a kiss was feeling out and I mean she was real sweaty. I

was real sweaty. I didn't know, Like we kind of just had a quick hug, but like it was still like you felt that connection there, and we made plans for about a week later to go out again. Oh so you guys had a second date. No, see, like a day before she texted to cancel. She needed to cancel for some reasons. But so I don't know. And now it's like now I haven't really heard from her, so kind of feel blown off. Have you tried to

reschedule that date that you had planned? I mean yeah, I said one or two texts just saying, hey, sorry, you know, scheduling didn't work. Is next weekend good? You know? And I I didn't really get an answer from any of that, can I ask? I mean, just looking back at the time you guys spend together between like the softball game and the hiking, do you think that she

also thought of this as a romantic date? Well, I mean I would hope it would be kind of obvious because I asked for her number, I said I would love to get together. Like to me that that sends a pretty clear signal of like, hey, I'm interested in you, right, you know, even if like things go slow or whatever. You know what I'm saying. Right, So, how long has it been since you've heard from her? It's been over a week since I talked with her, and she hasn't

responded to the two texts I sent. Oh, just a sweaty hug at the end of the hike, that's all you got? Yeah, yeah, right, Well play a song, come back, call her and get your second date. Update. Okay, thanks man, all right, looking jubil in the morning. Second, I gotta say I'm skeptical of you, Matthew Am. I suspect, yes you are. For what. Well, we do a lot of these second date updates, all right, and everything always sounds normal until we get the person on the phone and

then something weird comes out. Okay, Now, you said that you met this girl at a co ed softball game, you went to the bar after, asked for a number, and you guys went on a hike and had a great time and nothing weird happened. That is all true. Okay. Well, if I call her and I find out that you've been going to all of her games since then, dressed up like no, no no, no, no, no, no, buddy, I will be I will Okay. That thought did cross my mind, but I denied it because I didn't want to be

a creeper. All right, good, I picture in the stands like an NFL quarterbacks mom with her name on your shirt, sitting there like, go trishot, that's my girl. So, oh my god, you promise me you haven't done that. I have not done that. All right, he's still doesn't trust you. I'm a little weary of you. I'm gonna dial the phone of her right now though, and get her on the phone and find out why she's not calling you back. Okay, all right, Hello, Hi is Tricia there? Yes, this is she.

Hey Tricia, how are you? My name is Jubil and I host a radio show called Brook and Jewel in the morning. Okay, I'm calling because one of our listeners sent an email about you. His name is Matthew, and he's sitting us an email saying you guys were supposed to go out on a date and then you stopped responding to him, and he wants to know why he's sent an email about that. Why would he do that? Because he liked you and he would like to go

out again, but you just stopped talking to him. So he thought maybe we could help him out and figure out the answer. Look, I am not comfortable discussing us. If it's something way too personal, you don't have to tell us. But if it's not, I mean, he wants to know he liked you a lot. You got to put yourself in his shoes. You know how frustrating it can be if you feel like you connected with somebody and then they drop off. I mean, yeah, I get that, and he's a good guy. I totally got that sense

from him. Okay, so if he's a good guy, then why aren't you calling him back? Look, he was really cool. He's just not marriage material. Why is he not marriage material? Did you guys get into that conversation on your first date? No, no, we didn't like talk about it, but like you could just tell from the date you see immature or something. I mean, well, like here's where I am. I am not getting any younger and I absolutely want to get married someday and he's just not going to be that guy.

That is really quick judgment to make after meeting someone just one time. Actually we hung out twice. Oh okay, so dude, times is enough for you to know that now you know everything about him. How can you possibly know that he's not marriage material after two hangouts? Because after the second time we hung out, he took me back to his car and his car was full of stuff, like piles and piles. Are you saying that it was

just messy, like there was like garbage and stuff in it? Well, like I didn't know, So I asked him, I was like, what's the deal with all your stuff. Are you moving or something? And he said no, And he said that he lives out of his van. He lives in his van. Yeah, and he does it by choice. What do you mean, I like, it's not that he's hopeless, it's that he wants to be homeless. Yeah, he chooses this. Really. What did he say to you to make you think that?

He said, Look, it's this really great situation. I choose this. I feel it's better. I'm saving money. And I will look in there and there is a mattress, there's a juggle water hot plate. It's really weird. Normally, when you see a van with a mattress in it on a first date, that's a good sign. So you're saying you didn't want to see him again because he lives in his van. No, I don't know. I've been going back and forth over this, like for the past few days,

because like he lives in a van. Yeah, So you're saying you don't want to move into a van. If you guys ever got more serious, no, well, no, I don't know. That's the thing. You don't know if you want to move into a van, you might be willing to move into a van. No, I definitely don't want

to live in a van, like that's the problem. But I mean, don't you think, Okay, granted, this is a kind of an odd situation, but he has like a regular job, right, he has a really good job, and he makes like a ton of money, is to say of it. All Right, so the guy just likes to live in a van. We seem really in love with his living situation. And if that's the take, I don't

want to mess with it. You don't want to make the guy give up his house, you know, exactly, his green Vand well, Trisia, I do need to let you know that Matthew is actually on the other line listening, maybe in his van right now, and he wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, Matthew you there? Oh my god, Yeah, hey Tricia, Oh my god, I am not in my van. Just to clarify, I'm I'm in my office. I'm at

work right now. Well that's good for now. Yeah. I'm just really surprised because like when we went out, I mean, you do you seem to think it was really kind of cool what I was doing. Yeah, I thought it was cool when I was looking at it, because I didn't just want to tell you it was weird right off the may Oh, how you're just one eighty on this. I'm confused, Matthew, think about it. I mean, how could a girl see a van and think I want to

stay the night with him. I'm not sure where I'm going to go to the bathroom if I have to go. But so owning a van and living out of it is awesome. I have this freedom that everybody else is dreaming about. I say, all this money, it keeps going in the bank when everybody else is spending and going into debt on these houses that we can't afford, and they're never in because they're always at work all day

for them. I mean, what's the point of it. The point is to actually have a place where you could hang out, not something that you can like drive from point A to point B like your home, traveling everywhere. But that means I can hang out everywhere, Trish out like the world is my home, and Trish, I'm not living in the Stone Age with this, Like I've got WiFi, you know, I can run things off this generator, like I have electricity. I have the basic things that I

need and stay connected with the world. I can work remotely if I want to, Like, he's got it all figured out, Trisha, it just sounds weird to me. I never pictured my boyfriend living in a van. But it may be fun, Trisha. I mean it's definitely an adventure. Yeah, that's that's the word for it. It is an adventure. That would have been trying to tell you. I don't know, man, I mean, you have a great personality, You're a really cool guy, but the whole living in advancing is just

a giant turn off for me. Just give it a weekend, Trisha, Like, can you're going on a luxurious camping trip. Give it two nights and I will convince you. I promise two nights. That is a big ask, sir. So you want me to spend two nights in your van when we've only been on one official date together. You're the one who was thrown around the marriage word of you know, needing to find marriage material. So like, two nights is not going to kill you. I mean, I say, two nights

is a drop in the plank. In that case, Tricia, would you like to go out with Matthew on a second date? We will pay for it. I mean, I guess the date would be two nights in his van, but whatever, would you like to go out with him again? You know, I'm still kind of on the fence about it. I am going to say no to two nights in the van, but I'm up to hanging out with him again. Okay, so you'll go out on a date with him, but you won't sleep in the van. Yes, I will go

out on a date. I will not spend the two nights in a van. Well, congratulations, Matthew. That's a successful second date. I can work with that, all right, So you guys go out on your date. Matthew, you try to convince her that living in a van is better than living in a house, and I wish you both luck. Tricia, freedom is in our future. Texting at seven eight five nine two that girl is totally crazy. Living in a van is awesome. It's Brook and Jubell in the morning

talking about today's second date update. Matthew wanted to call Tricia to find out why she wasn't calling him back after their date. Turns out she wasn't calling him back because she's judgmental and wants the date a guy who lives in a house and not in his van. He apparently has a good job, makes money, but he prefers living in his van instead of living in a house. Yeah, he just likes it. We save, he's saving money and he's making smart financial decisions. I guess that way. Yeah,

and he can pick up and move to wherever he wants. Yeah, which is different. Normally you say, hey, this guy lives in a van. You're like, oh, he's struggling in live he's you know whatever. It's like, No, this guy, she's making a really good decision. As someone who has dated a person that lives in their car, it's not that bad. They just stay at your house a lot more. Yeah, maybe that was their fierce So I don't want to him over here all the time. But it sounds like

he doesn't like being in a house at all. He just enjoys living in his van. Text in at seven eight five nine two. Would you date a person that lived in their van? If they had a job and made money and that was just how they chose to live, would you date them? Text in seven eight five nine two. Ladies and gentlemen, this is your captain speaking Welcome aboard Flight ninety two point five