Rooking jewels second day. You know, women are so hard to read sometimes because girls like a guy who is close with his family usually right, And then you end up living with your mom when you're twenty five years old, and then they judge you for it. You can't get that much closer with your family than living with him, right, Yeah, that's the problem that Carter is having. Carter is on the phone to do a second date update right now.
He emailed us about a girl named Lily. Carter thinks the fact that he lives with his mom might have turned literally off. Carter. How you doing, man? I'm doing all right? How are you guys? Good? First of all, I want to say I support your living situation. I lived with my parents when I was twenty five, delivering newspapers, killing it and and it was awesome. I had no problem with it. But I could see how a girl would be turned off by that. So that's why you
think the girl is not calling you back today? Yeah, that's my hunch. All right. Where did you meet her? First of all? I met her online online? All right? Did you tell her right away that you lived with her mom? Or did you did she have to come pick you up? Because you also don't have a car. No, No, I have a car. And I'd like to make it clear the only reason I'm living with my mom right now is because I'm saving up to my house. That's awesome, Carter,
It's happening soon. So yes, I just need to save up some money. As you know, it's you know, is mom coming to live with you at the house when you buy it. Mom's making the down payment. He's just working up the mortgage. You guys, this day and age, lots of people have to move home at some point. Oh, I know, it's it's money. It's more common than you think. Yeah, but they all always say I'm saving money too. Yeah, tell us a little bit about your date. Okay, So well,
I guess we're just meet at my house. And when she got there, like my mom basically opened the door, and you could tell she was like a little shot. I mean I was kind of standing behind my mom, but Lily was a little shocked, like, wow, am I at the right place? Who is this person? I'm picturing your mom answering the door in her bathrobe? Did she have no? No? No, no, she was not in her bathroom?
All right? Yeah, you know she was just you know, normal stuff like whatever moms were, you know, whatever moms weans and stuff. But it was definitely awkward. I would have preferred to answer the door myself. I'm not trying to hide anything, but I just think it made it was like right off the bat, that was through like first impression of things. You know. But Carter, if you live with your mom, you should probably tell somebody that before they meet you at the house, you know what
I mean, like at least Warner. Hey, oh, I know, I just you know, I mean a part of me doesn't want to be judged for that, Like right off the bat. If I tell her that, she's gonna be like never mind. So your mom answered the door when she got to your house. Yeah, And of course my mom, you know, asked her a couple of questions, and it was kind of awkward. I mean, it wasn't terrible. It was just a little awkward because she felt like she was sixteen dating in high school all over again, being
my mom. I mean, it's just like she's awesome, but she she just has questions of course. So but the date went really well, Like we went to a really nice dinner. We had great conversation. So why do you think your mom ruined it? If the date continued to go find I don't know. I don't think my mom ruined it. I think that the fact that I lived with my mom probably was for her was like a red flag. She probably you know, because there's like a
stigma attached to it. It's like, Okay, he must be some bum who's unemployed, who you know, just never I don't know. Does she seem like it bothered her? Not really, at least not during dinner. I mean, like I said, we had a really great conversation. When we parted ways. There was a kiss, I mean or anything like steen he or anything, but it was a kiss. And I said, I'd like to see you again, and she said, yeah,
that'd be great. So so you're just assuming the fact that you live with your mom was a deal breaker for her. Yeah. And I'm assuming that because I had texted her last week and she said, oh, I'm really busy this week, let's touch base. And then I've tried to touch base and I haven't heard back from her. Is there any way that you're like frugality spilled over into other parts of the date where you were like asking her to pay for everything. No, I mean, I
definitely paid for the meal. Like I'm not a cheap person, but like I said, saving up for a house is expensive. Yeah, so it's it's taking a couple steps back to make a giant steps forward. You didn't have to come live with her, did you. I'm getting so tired of my mom being on my case. Can I come stay with you? All right? So nothing, nothing really strange to happen that you can think of. She's just not calling you back, and you're assuming that it's the fact that you live
with your mom. Yeah, And then I guess a part of me like wants to let her know that, like I'm not just telling her that I'm, you know, looking for to buy a place, like I'm buying a place, like I'm closing on a place I should be closing for. Speak. Oh really, so you have a timeline, yeah, like it's
happening soon. Okay, okay, okay, all right. You're very insistent on telling us that I hope you Yeah, I hope you didn't over you know, keep talking about it this much on the day, Like I promise I'm buying a place. I promise. Yeah, because you guys want copies of the papers, let me know. I'll fax them over to you. All right, man, well we'll play a song. Come back, call her and get your second date update. Okay, okay, all right, hold on looking jubil in the morning date. Carter is on
the phone with us right now. He wants to call a girl named Lily. We think we know why she isn't calling him back. Carter lives at home with his mom for the moment. He's saving up to buy a house, but Lily came to meet him. His mom answered the door before he had a chance to explain that he lives with his mother, So we're thinking that that's probably the reason she's turned off. I don't know why it's
a deal breaker. Like Lydia, the first couple of years you were on this show, you used to date a lot of guys that were like this that lived at home with her mom. Right, are you talking about me? Because I lived at home with us? Yeah, I had to move back after college. I lived there until I turn off for you, not immediately, But I do think that maybe you should have told her first, because first depressions are everything, especially when you meet people online. So
it just might have put her off a little bit. Okay, Carter, are you about ready to give her a call? Yeah? I think so. All right, well I'm gonna give her a call right now. See we can get her on the phon and then get your second date update. Okay, okay, cool? Hello, Hi is Lily there. This is Lily. How are you. This is Jewel from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Do you have a second to talk Jewbil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. We're a morning radio program. Okay,
you should check us out sometime, it'd be cool. Okay, listen. The reason that we're calling you, I know it's kind of strange, is that you recently went out on a date with one of our listeners. His name is Carter. Oh okay, Okay. Carter emailed us because he really liked you and would love to see you again, but unfortunately you haven't been calling him back, so he asked us to call and see if we could find out why. Um, isn't I think that's a little personal, don't you think? Well?
I mean it might be, but he's the one that wants us to call you. Okay, is there a specific reason that you're not calling Carter back, Well, I don't. I don't know, So you just don't know. You have no idea why you're not calling him back just so you'd like to see him again. Wow, So no, you wouldn't like to see him again. Well, he's kind of
a mama's boy. I knew, I know it. Okay, Yeah, Lily, we talked to Carter about your date, and he told us that he lives with his mom, and he thought maybe that was the reason you weren't calling him back. Was it shocking to open the door and have his mom standing there? Well? Yeah, and he's standing behind her like you know, yeah, all right. He admitted that he probably should have told you beforehand if you were coming
over his house that he lives with his mom. Did he tell you why he lives with his parents right now? He briefly talked about that he was saving money and stuff like that. But yeah, he's saving up to buy a house. Yeah, but it wasn't just that he lived with his mom. Did he talk about her a bunch or something? I mean, when you when you say mom's boy, that's what that makes me think. He's like, yeah, yeah, I mean, okay, we're at his house and I need
his mother. Okay, awkward first date and we're about to leave and Carter's mom goes, honey, can you drop me at a friend's house? And he said, and he said, yes, it's on the way. And that's are you saying? He gave his mom a ride somewhere. Yes, and it was even worse than he put me in the backseats? No, you didn't even get to ride shot. Well, of course not. That's his mom. Come on, so he boundaries there that are obviously a problem. Okay, so he actually gave his
mom a ride somewhere. Yeah, before our dates. So he gives his mom a ride and we are dropped her off whenever and this is probably the kicker from me right here. Mom leaned over and they kissed on the mouth when they said good bye, and that I mean tepsis. Well, oh I don't gross, no way. Yeah, so all right, so he's definitely a mom's boy. Then, wow, all right. He didn't mention that he gave his mom a ride. He just said that you met his mom and he
thought that might have been awkward for you. No, I think putting me in the backseat on their first date and then giving his mom a kiss goodbye on the mouth. I mean they's been kidding me. Come on, all right, Lily, At this point I should tell you that Carter is actually on the phone and has been listening this entire time. Hope play not his mom too. I honestly don't understand
what the big deal is. I'm saving up to buy a house for one To give my mom who gave birth to me a ride somewhere seems like too much to ask. But on a first date, Carter, give me a break? Weird? What am I supposed to do is say, hey, mom, listen. Oh no, I don't think she feels comfortable with this. Can you just call a cab? That's ridiculous. No, But I mean I'm sure you told your mother we were around it going on a date, a first date? Yeah,
I did. But I also felt like I was going on a date with somebody who might be a little bit more understanding than this, because this seems like you're coming across as really what would you What would you do if your dad or your mom asked for a ride? Oh no, Kate, No, I mean that's going on a date for the first time with someone. I'm not going to be driving my parents around my mother around you will you would you would tell your parents who is what would happen? I would just tell them, No, I'm
going on a first date. I'm busy. I can't do anything for you. I'm sorry. Well, I guess I'm a better son than you are. I find that ridiculous to put some of these that I'm going out with once out of my mom. That's not going to happen. Hey, Carter, you don't think it's a little weird though, to give your mom a ride somewhere on your date. Absolutely not. But why couldn't like her friend come pick her up? Carter?
I mean, there's other solutions, right, I just don't think it's that to give a deal to give my mom a ride. She's letting me live with her. It was also on the way to the restaurant. It's not like I was driving thirty minutes out of the way. It wasn't even an inconvenience. Okay, really, did you at least like his mother? You know, I was a little weirded out first, and I'm in the back seat. Then he kisses his mom on the mouth goodbye. I don't know
that's date, Listen, that's my mom. Okay, he gave birth to me. I'm going to tell her to no. Hey, please give me kiss on a cheek. Yeah, I would, Carter. If my mom was trying to kiss me on the mouth, I'd shove her off me so quick that it's disgusting. Who cares, pervert? Don't kiss me on the lips. You're you're my mom. Get off of me. Hey, Lily, I would love to ask you if you'll go on a second date with Carter. We will pay for it. Would you like to go out with him again? Just him,
not his mom? Honestly, at this point, I'm really not interested. I thought that she was somebody who she's not, so I'm not interested at all. Thank you guys for helping me, but I'm not. I don't want to go on Carter. You want me to send you out on a date with mommy, I'll pay for that. He'd probably be a better time than Lily would say. Better kiss her, you get more action in the morning.