Second Date Update PODCAST: Let's Be Honest or Else

he didn't cry. All right, Well, then you shouldn't feel bad. Okay, your conscience can be cleared and you are free to go. You're welcome, have a good day. I don't know. It sounds like she's about to cry right now, Mia, it's a joke. Sorry, he's being sarcastic. Not really though. Okay, well listen, maybe we should learn more before I jumped to intrusions. Okay, tell us about this guy. What's his name? His name is Steve. Okay, it sounds like a crier. Well, no,

he didn't cry. My friends at work actually something up with him. He works for the company but on a different floor, so I've actually never met him. Oh, blind date. I always like to know, how are you feeling going into this blind date? Hopeful, doubtful? Oh, I was feeling good. I was excited. I know, it's it's just been kind of like dry for me, and I was excited to get out there and like meet someone that my friends actually said it was really cool, you know, okay, and

we're your friends, right. Yeah, he was like really cute and we were talking at the bar, and I like to just kind of like talk about things right away, about relationships. And that's good to want to talk on a date. That's a positive no, but not everything. Yeah, what are you exactly are you talking? Like? She opened it up with like, I have four xes, I'm over three of them, but one still having issues. Well, by

the way, here's my number. Yeah. No, it's just funny like how people think about relationships, I guess, And I was asking him. I just we were talking and I said, you know, I think that you should always share everything with your partner, Like in healthy relationships, you don't, you don't hide anything. You're really open about everything with each other. But not everybody does. I can see why that's an important thing to talk about. So you think everything needs

to be shared, no secrets. Yeah, but then he said that he thinks it's not healthy to share everything, but there should be boundaries and certain things that you don't that are off limits. Basically, okay, I could see his point. Two. I mean, if it's how important, how did that sit with you? I don't agree. I said, if you're not sharing everything, then you're hiding something and that's obviously going

to poison the relationship. You know. So wait, did you did you guys start out your first date with your first couple's argument? This is what it sounds like. It wasn't an argument. It was just a spirited discussion. You know, you're give me your phone? Real? I mean, that is a pretty intense way to start off the date. Like did things get lighter later? Uh? No? Oh? I said, let's test it. And I pointed to a girl across the bar and I said, do you think she's attractive? What?

That is a terrible question. You want this state to go back, but don't shore No. I just wanted to show him what I was talking about, you know, prove my point. And then he said, I'm not answering that, yeah, good Joe, Way to go, Steve. How could anyone answer that properly? If he says yes, then you're gonna be mad, right, You're gonna be Joe's If he says no, then you're gonna think he's lying. Well, no, if he's honest and says yes, she'll say thank you for being honest. I

don't think so. Or maybe he says yes and then the girl comes and joins in on the date and now it's a party. Now you're thinking like every other man. So what did he say? Well, he said he wasn't going to answer it, and I told him, well, it's just a test. Let's just see how it plays out. And he was like, fine, Okay, she's a little attractive, Okay, okay, safe answer to hit him him? I said, what do you like about her? Come on this to yourself. Well, he's been so vague. He's not playing by the rules

I'm setting up. He's probably just trying to be polite and not offend you by saying that there's the gorgeous woman over there, and he's noticing all these amazing things about her. I'd rather he'd be honest and tell me that that's the whole point I was trying to make. So you nudged him a little bit. I was like, so you you probably want to sleep with her, right, wouldn't you? Right? This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

This sounds like an unstable relationship already, where you're incredibly jealousy. Will you just please shut up them? Let me finish? Okay, okay, finish okay. So then I said, if you lie to me, Steve, I can tell, I'll be able to tell, So just tell me the truth. And so then he finally admitted, yeah, I'd probably sleep with her. And I didn't think he was going to answer and say that, and it honestly pissed me off. So you asked for the truth and

then got pissed at it. She's trying to say, well, I just didn't think he would answer at least that quick. I know, really rude. Oh my god, So is that the end of your date? Like? Did you guys continue to hang out? You're pissed at this point? What did you do? Well? I got kind of quiet, and I mean, he tell he said sorry, and I told him it's okay to find someone an attractive but like, why would you say that you like, why would you say that

you want to sleep with her? It is not You shouldn't have asked the question on This is probably why she feels bad. And then you were like, you you want to marry her too, you want to have babies with her too, You want to open a four O one K with her? Okay, stop being ridiculous right now? This is serious? Oh yeah, okay, Okay, So what happened next? I mean, the date fizzled, it was done. I went home, and I mean I just cried a lot, not in front of him. I credit home, and you know, I

just feel bad. How we know? We just paid for our drinks and left and it was really awkward and weird. I just feel bad about how everything went down. And I think I freaked him out because now he's not calling me back. Okay, you definitely freaked him out. Are you feeling a little bit of remorse about how this all played out? Though? Yeah? Duh? I feel bad? Okay, how many times we gonna make me say it? Obviously that's why I'm calling you guys. Yes, sound remorseful. I

guess I just told you. Okay, So you want us to call Steve, and you want to just explain or apologize or what exactly are you looking to do here? Yeah? Yeah, I I want to know why he's not called me back. And also, yeah, explain a little bit and tell him I feel bad and I don't want the stick the end of us. Okay? And and are you are you like? Is your new standpoint that you're not going to ask those type of questions anymore? Okay? Stop asking me stupid questions.

Can you guys call on try to get him out of date? That's why I called you guys. All right, no more questions. We're just we're just gonna play a song. We'll come back, we'll call Steve, and we'll try and get you a second date. Update. Great, Okay, hold update if you're just tuning in for today's second date update. We've got Mia on the phone, and Mia is feeling regretful about how her first date played out. Questionable but okay, I'm hesitant to even recap it because I'm afraid I'm

gonna say it wrong and make her mad. But the sticking point that happened on the actual date is the question should you be honest and share everything with your significant other? Absolutely every that snowballed out of control because her date, Steve, thought that some things need to be kept private in a relationship, but Mia disagrees. I think

you should always be one hundred percent honest. So she tested that theory by asking her date point blank if he would sleep with a lady sitting across the bar from them, and poor Steve gave in and said yes, yeah, Well he was asked, Well, that honest answer was a little too honest for Mia, and now here we are hard feelings on both sides, and Mia has said in her own special way that she feels remorse and she wants to make things right with Steve again. So Mia,

what do you think was that recap accurate? I mean, I guess those were the facts, But I don't really like your tone. Guys. I feel like you're not really on my side or no, I'm gonna say, I am having a hard time yet, and I'll tell you why. It's not because I don't think that honesty is great. I just think that you're asking questions that don't matter in a relationship, Like it doesn't matter if he's attracted to another woman. What matters is he's with you. I

guess that's your opinion. I disagree and it matters to me. So you don't know my life. You don't know how I feel about things or what I've gone through. So maybe that works for you, but not for me. I want to apologize me on behalf of Brook. She is just in a really crabby mood today. She gets really upset whenever she hears people that sound like they're really in love and that they actually have a chance, and she gets really jealous and lashes out. So that's probably

where it's coming from. You're ready, Yeah, Alogy, I'm not apologizing, but I hope through all this that we all learn something together. Okay, I think that should be the goal right here? Okay, can we just stop talking about it and call him? Okay, I'm just gonna dial in the phone of it right now? Here we go? Why are we even part of this? Hello? Hi? Can I speak to Steve? Please? Yeah? Speaking Hey Steve. My name's Young Jeffrey from the radio. Do you have a minute to

talk with us? The radio m yes, FM frequency modulated. Did I win something? No? Not really? I'm calling because we do a segment on our show called a Second Date Update. That's where if you go out on a date with someone and afterwards they're not calling you back, you can email us and we'll try and get a hold of them to figure out why. Okay, and so you recently went out on a date with a woman

named Mia. Yeah, yeah, you're right, Steve. I don't think there's a lot of mystery and why you're not calling her back. She's calling a radio show to ask me if I went out with her. No, she knows that you guys went out, and she recognizes that maybe things didn't play out quite the way she had hoped. I don't know what she told you, but I do not mind talking about this publicly. The date was weird, man, What specifically was weird to you about it? Well, I

mean the first it was fine. She is attractive, and I had coworkers trying to set us up, so it was like, okay, if my friends like her, she's got to be cool, right, right. So we're sitting at the bar and she sees this girl and she pressures me into admitting that the other girl is hot, and I kept trying to back off, being like, no, I don't want to do that, and finally she just wouldn't let it go, so just out of pure frustration, I just went, yeah,

I'd sleep with her. Yeah, yeah, we heard, we heard. That didn't sit well with her either, that although she said she wanted the truth, she didn't really and I'm not that kind of guy. And I felt really bad, Yeah, because I could tell her her feelings, so I tried to make it better. It did not work. The date kind of sizzled out, and I was like, you know, maybe I'm thinking about this the wrong way. Maybe it

wasn't as bad as I thought. So I was honestly planning on calling her back until I got to work. Oh my god, you are a much bigger person than I think most people would have been in your situation. Sometimes those fiery girls kind of excited guy. Okay, well he's yeah, it was. I guess it was kind of like that. But I also just didn't want to base it on one day. You know, maybe she's had a

bad day or something. Right, that's good. Now you're very open minded, and you've got really bad luck, like sitting across from this gorgeous woman, Like maybe if she had pointed to an ugly girl, you would have been inclined to say no. Me it's very pretty, Like I wasn't trying to say this girl was more attractive than her, but I mean, she just wouldn't let it go right right?

But you said it changed at work. What happened at work? Yeah, because one of our mutual friends comes up to me at work and goes, dude, I heard what you said. Why would you do that? And I went, what are you talking about? And he goes, you told me to her face that you wanted to go sleep with another girl at the bar. Did not twist it like that? Why? She absolutely did, or my friend thought she did. So

I go, hey, she asked me to do that. She wouldn't let it go, And then all these other people, the officer give me weird looks like I don't know, can I curse on the radio because I'm a little frustrated now that I'm back into it, because I felt like an assole and like that's what she asked me to say, right, No, she told us like I told her, I was like, Yo, there is no way any any person should ever ask another person in a relationship if you'd sleep with somebody else, like you're never gonna like

the answer. And we weren't in a relationship. It was the first date, right, Well, we obviously have a lot of different opinions here. I think we all need to get on the same page. The only way to do that is to let you know, Steve that Mia has been on the phone listening this entire time. Oh my god, Yeah, she wants to talk to you, Mia, Steve him. I'm sorry, I just I just don't know why you're so upset

about Hi. I'm sorry, guys, I cannot believe this. I mean really honestly, though, at this point, he shouldn't surprise me. I mean, listen me. I will tell you why I'm upset. You made me look like a jerk to everybody at work. You didn't tell them everything that happened about how you said people in relationships need to share everything. Okay, I didn't give them the whole story. I just but I told them exactly what you said to me on the date. Did you not say you would sleep with her? You

said that, right? I just told them what was they supposed to say when they asked me what happened or what you said? You asked me to tell you that? Yeah? Are you delusional? I feel like you're living in this altered reality. Not only did you ask him, you pressured him and he didn't say. He didn't say I'm going to go sleep with her tonight? You said would you sleep with her? And force him to answer? Okay, first

of all, shut up step it. Of all, I'm talking to Steve and asking him a question and asking him about if he had a problem with something like you clearly do. But weren't different people, So let us to figure this out. You can have to answer, Steve. I told my friends the truth, and did you want me to lie about what you said? Like I wasn't going to do that. They said, Well, I told them exactly what you said, but you didn't the context. You didn't

tell them that you made me say it. It's not like I just sat down at the bar and said, hey, my name Steve. Oh look at that girl. I've like the banger. Okay, Steve, I don't appreciate you joking about how you wanted to bang that girl. Okay. I already feel sorry about it, already feel bad and already bad about the whole thing. Okay, that's why it has them call you. Hold on, Mia, can I just like ask you? No, you can't. I'm talking to Steve. Okay, not just me,

it's your show me. You need to relax, Okay, okay, shop No, that's just why I had them call you. Can you do something extremely rude? Okay? You know at least you were being honest, and that's why I'm willing to give you a second chance. Okay, that's why I had them tell you. Oh, I'm so grateful, And what are you saying? I thought this whole thing was because you felt bad about pressuring him into saying that on

the date. I feel bad that ended that way, but I also want to get him a chance to fix it. So you're taking into responsibility. What would have been a good response from Steve in that scenario? What would you have liked to hear him say? Well, the best response would have obviously been that he didn't want to sleep with that girl, but he did, and so now I

want to figure to sat on the forward. Oh my god, I feel like you guys are to spend forty five minutes talking about that stranger that Steve wants to sleep with. It was a huge chunk of the date. I'm not gonna lie. That's why I like it was just purely out of frustration. Just to get the conversation to end, I just went, yeah, okay, okay, Steve, you know you're not helping right now. Okay, you should just be apologizing for what you put me through. God, you know what,

you know what, Mia, I will apologize. I am sorry that my friends set us up on a date. All right, No need to get mean and nasty now, okay, all right? Well you know what if I'm if I'm going to be one hundred percent honest, I would sleep with both of them. I honestly want to know if the two of you would go out on a second date. Steve, what do you say we'll pay for that? Oh? Sure, awesome, Okay, we'll send you guys out. No, no, god no, Oh

that was sarcastic. That's so surprising, to be honest, Steve, No matter why. Mia, listen, you sound like you could be a rad girl, and you sound beautiful, and you need to stop being so insecure. Okay, I'm not insecure. Stop paint. I think you know what? You know what? You weigh in anymore on this brooke? Okay, like just sleep.

I have a headache. Sorry, guys, I just want to tell you I am so happy that this is on the radio because all of our friends at work can now hear why things didn't work out a very good points and they all know, Steve, that you would totally sleep without woman. Oh yeah, yeah, we all know that you would sleep with someone else in a date when you worker. Okay, stop me,