Second Date Update PODCAST: Kissing My Cousin

at blowing guys off. Yeah, because he asked her out after their date, and that was one of her excuses that she used. Apparently she's used a bunch of excuses, and he's wondering why she just keeps blowing him off. What's up, Matt? How are you? I'm doing great, guys, how are you good? So she actually sent you a text after your date saying that she had a doctor's appointment at eight on a Friday night. Yeah twice. Actually she did that two different weekends. Because I waited a

couple of days. I didn't want to come off desperate anything. I wanted to play it cool, So I texted her and I think you want to grab some drinks tonight? Or something. This was earlier in the day, and she's like, oh, I have a doctor's appointment tonight. What did you stay back? I mean, I wasn't going to try to test her because I kind of took a little bit of a hint. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I'm like, Okay, well, you know, let me know after we're tipping up and

maybe we can do party. You wanted to text her back and be like, it's Friday night at eight o'clock. Do you really have a doctor's appointment? Absolutely? I mean I wanted to call her out on it. At the same time, I'd feel bad if she did have some kind of random doctor's appointment. And then I called her a liar and then yeah, it's one of those where you just bite your tongue and you're like, oh my god, yeah, do you think she said it? And she's like, oh, wait,

that doesn't make any sense. He's gonna know that I'm blowing him. I don't know how lady doctors work. I mean, maybe lady doctors are open. You're not getting pap smears on a Friday night. It's not what we do. No, there's no like happy hour or late night happy hour for those things. Yeah, what was the other excuse that she used on you? I texted her a second time. It wasn't as late. I figured, you know, maybe she want to do like a happy hour or something like that.

And what you say back, Actually, I would surprise because that one was a dentist appointment. She needs to get more creative. Is the problem? Are you sure you want to call this girl and try to get a second date. I mean, I think more it's I want closure. I want to know what happened, because we hit it off really well. She's she's gorgeous. I don't usually do blind dates, but the one time that I did it, it it worked out really well. I thought we had a lot in common.

So this was a date that was set up by somebody. Yeah, our friends. We have some mutual friends, and they kept pestering me over a couple of weeks, and finally they showed me a picture of her on Facebook and yeah, it's like, oh, absolutely. Do you think that she was maybe disappointed when she saw you? If she was, she didn't act like it. I mean, maybe she's really nice. I mean I don't think I'm that much of a disappointment. To look at being what she really enjoyed herself. So

everything on your date seemed cool. What did you guys do? It was just a first date kind of thing where we just went out to a bar and had a couple of drinks and we ended up just talking for you know, at least two or three hours. That's good time. Like, I mean, if she didn't like you initially, I wouldn't stay around that long. And I'm pretty good at reading people, so I I mean, either she's a really good actress or if she was having a good time. But I mean,

it just it felt like things were really clicking. Was there anything weird that happened during your date? Not that I'm aware of. I mean, there's a couple of times, you know, she went to the bathroom, just like once or twice. But then after you're having drinks, you know, someone goes to the restroom. Yeah, that's right, unless she's a cokehead and she's just sounds to me like she's doing drugs in the bathroom during your date. Matt, I've

never actually thought about it. Yeah, well you gotta think about it more often whenever I'm out on a date. As soon as she goes to the bathroom. I know exactly what's going on in there. I'm tired of going out with all these druggies. All right, So you still want to call this girl even though she's blatantly blowing you off. Oh? Absolutely, She's really one of the prettiest girls that i've I've ever went on a date with. Like,

we're just really beautiful. I'm absolutely my type, and we just the stuff that you look for in common with someone, those things that we had together, it was just something, just something that we could build on. Did you give her a kiss at the end of the night. No, we just hugged and um, you know, went on a better way. Okay, well we'll play a song, come back,

call her and get your second date update. All right, awesome, thanks guys, all right, man, hold on looking jubil In the morning, Matt is on the phone with us and he wants to call a girl named Claire. Today they met through friends, went out on a date. He thought everything seemed cool, but since then he's tried to text her and gotten horrible excuses back as to why she

can't go out with him. It was a Friday night at eight o'clock and she said she had a doctor's appointment, and then the next time he said let's hang out earlier, like five o'clock on a Saturday, she said she had a dentist appointment, obviously blowing him off. Matt, Are you ready to make the phone call? Yeah? Man, absolutely, all right, Well i'nn have to, unfortunately tell you I'm gonna need to reschedule. I've got autometrius appointment here in ten minutes.

Shouldn't be a surprise to you, though, this is kind of what people do to right Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. Have you ever been this blatantly blown off before? Never? No, that's what's bugging me so much. Yeah, I can see your point, because I would be like, I just want to know why why do you feel the need to pretend with a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night. All right, man, I'm gonna dial the phoneumber right now, get her on the phone and get your

second date update. Okay, cool? Thanks, here we go. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Claire please? Yeah? This is Clay. Hey Claire, how are you doing? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the morning. I'm sorry, I don't understand. Okay, that's fine. It's a morning radio show, and one of our listeners recently emailed us about you. Who his name is Matt. We do a segment on our show called the second Date Update. Matt is wondering why you are

blowing him off. Wait, Matt called you, guys. Yes, huh, do you have a few minutes to tell us why you don't want to go out with Matt again? I mean, I guess there's not much to tell. There's not much to tell. Well, let me, can I tell you something? Sure, we talked to Matt about your date, when we talked to him about everything after the date, and Matt thinks that you're a liar. He thinks him a liar. He

thinks that you're a liar. Okay, why because you told him you couldn't go out with him because you had a doctor's appointment at eight o'clock on a Friday night. And then the next time he asked you out, you said you had a dentist's appointment. So like, that's my business. And for the record of not lying, okay, you're not lying that you went to the doctors at eight o'clock on a Friday night. I can explain this that you guys, So the doctor's appointment stuff is all true, and you

haven't been blowing him off. You want to see mad again? I mean like, like not necessarily, I don't want like I don't actually want to see him again. Why woun't you make up lame excuses? Why don't you just tell him, Hey, I don't think it's gonna work. I don't. I don't need to justify any of this to you, Guys. I didn't get that feeling with him, and I don't want to see him again. But hey, I don't care if you blew him off the way you did. Whatever doesn't matter.

It's not my life, that's his. But is there a specific reason why you don't want to see him again so that I can go back to him and tell him, Oh, I just I just didn't get the feeling I feel like I should get. So there's just no chemistry, like you weren't attracted to him. There's just like a feeling a girl gets when a guy really likes her and he thinks it's weird. I didn't get that from him at all. So you didn't think that he liked you, But he's asked you out a bunch of times. Since

your date. I mean it was weirder than that. It was like when we went into the bar, I was like, oh my god, here's my ex play friend and he was gonna het the bar two and so I told Matt that, like I used to date this guy, and like he wasn't even face, Like he didn't even like he didn't care, he didn't like he just went along with the date like nothing happened. And I was like, don't you get it, Like we slept together, Like this is like weird. You know, so wanted you wanted him

to be upset that your ex boyfriend was there. It's not that he has to like get upset or angry about it, but like I went to like show that he actually likes me, he probably should seem like he's at least faced by a little bit like a little bit weird it out. So you wanted to like go up to your ex boyfriend and threaten him right there or something. No, I'm like fight or anything. I just like I want him to be a little bit jealous and show me that he carries about me. Like that

just comes off as a little crazy to me. Did you purposely take him to a bar that you knew your ex is gonna be at Oh my god, what is this? Like, I honestly don't need to explain any of this you. I'm being nice by explaining why I'm not calling back a guy that obviously was acting weird in the date. I talked to all my girlfriend's. They agree it's weird if you're just like, don't even care. You know that, like this guy I used a date like, he didn't want to leave. He just wanted to stay

there and keep talking about books. Okay, so you would have rather that it weirded him out, and maybe he was like, I don't want to be here around your ex, Let's go somewhere else exactly. Yeah, but it's like a first date and he's not even invested in your guys's relationship. Like what does he have to be jealous of? I mean, I slept with the guy that's like five bars fools down,

I would be jealous. And I'm like, okay, So halfway through the night, my ex boyfriend came up and introduced himself and like, Matt just like offered to buy him a drink. I mean that's over there. So Matt was too cool to your ex. You would have rather been like, how would okay, in a perfect world, Claire, if you were out with a guy and this happened, how would you want him to react. I would want him to be like cold and like defend me and like not to sit there and not cool about it, like he

doesn't care about me? Like are we friends? Or are we like aren't we on the date? I couldn't tell. I really couldn't tell, Claire. All right, so you like a guy who gets a little jealous, and Matt is obviously not that guy. Obviously not that guy. Okay, Hey, Claire, I should let you know that Matt is actually on the other line listening to this conversation. What. Yeah, I don't know what I'm supposed to say to you. Is

it that I'm too nice? I don't understand what it is for your information that like if you're out with a girl, they want you to be jealous, like if some guys start explorting with me, especially if it's my ex boyfriend. Honestly, I was just trying to be a nice guy and like just play it cool. I figured if if I come off means that that would you know, you wouldn't find that attractive. I want to try to

be polite and nice. No, Like, what's attractive is being a man in that situation and like, like, you know, playing it cool. I don't want you to play it cool. Like, so what I was supposed to like punch him out when he walked up or something, Well, you also to buy him a beer. I know that you weren't. I mean, it wasn't like you had any kind of look on your face like you were mad that he was there. So I just figured you guys were, you know, still at least friends or clause I'm not. I'm not the

jealous type I've got. I've got friends in my life that that I've dated. It a long time ago. So sometimes you remain friends, you remain close. I figured you guys were still close. I wanted to be nice. Oh course I was playing it cool. That's what I'm supposed to do in that situation. Your role like stick up for me no matter what. Look I have a day. Oh my god, I just I'm really confused right now. I really do not understand women at all. Yeah, obviously

you don't understand woman obviously, Claire. That is not how all women think. It's how I think, and it's how most of my girlfriends think. So like, I have no idea what you're talking about. You're gonna end up with like some control freak, jealous royd rage dude. If that's the type of parameters you're putting on your dates, don't judge me about who I want to date. You're the one who called me, yeah, Brooke, back off, back off. I'm sticking up for Claire right now, Claire, Claire, I

got your back, all right. I'm sticking up for you like a good man should do. Wow, finally a real man is doing something. There you go, Claren. If you and I were out on a date and your ex boyfriend was there, he's not getting a beer from me. Good. I mean, at least somebody understand. Yeah, I'm glad here, Matt. Would you even like to go out on a second date with Claire? I mean, knowing what I know now,

absolutely not. She's obviously got some kind of point of view of what the roles of men and women are. I mean, okay, okay, it's nobody want some macho guy. I just want a guy that has like balls, you know, you know, whatever I'm done with you, that actually probably will get you another date. With clarific good job, Matt