Second Date Update PODCAST: Just the Tip

bill collector type situation for money? Well, I really want the second date. Actually, Okay, Well, we'll see if we can get you another date. If not, we'll figure out how to garnish his wages. So we're cool. We got you covered. Tell us a little bit about the guy. What's his name? His name is Andy? Andy? All right, and what did you do with Andy? Well? We met on a dating app and you seem really really cute and like funny and stuff on his profile. Um, and

we sigh to meet at a restaurant. Oh it sounds very novel so far. Yeah, yeah, you know, like what could possibly go wrong? But they were just like from the get go. He didn't open the door for me. In fact, it was like a little bit awkward because you know, I was like, oh, do you want me to get the door for you? And he was like what, and so like I opened the door for him and I was like, welcome inside, and it was like super awkward.

So wait, did he seem clueless about the door opening or was it something where he was kind of taking a stand at the time. He seemed like he didn't really know that he was supposed to do that, and oh, like I mind opening the door, right right, Okay, but you would have preferred that he opened the door for you. I mean, yeah, I would have preferred he opened the

door for me. It's a polite thing to do. Yeah, So, you know, I kind of forgot about it at the time, but I was really excited to learn about him and see what his interests were. So person didn't like really mind, but he didn't really ask me any questions about me. He Nicole, I hate to stop you, but you want to call this guy for another date? Right? I think exactly what I'm thinking. Yeah, sounds horrible. No, he's super hot, Nicole. Is that what it is? He's super hot and you

don't care? Is I'm being honest, Like, is that where you're at? Okay? Yeah, I mean he's really hot, Okay, but I think he's just a little rough around the edges, you know, And I think if you were with somebody who was really ingenuinely into him, he could like soften up a bit. Oh no, oh nice. So you're hoping to change his edges a little softer. You turn on a project and change the guy that you want to date.

I don't work. I know how that sounds. I know that, I know that, But people change all the time, you know. I'm like, who you who you hang out with? You know what, Nicole, you tell yourself anything you need to tell yourself to convince yourself that this is going to work out. Well, no, no, I promise it's not as bad as it sounds. I'm serious. So what was the highlight of the date since so far? I feel like we've heard a lot of low lights. Well, when he

started talking about fantasy sports. That was something that I had no idea really what that was. You're not into it? He even talking about that. I mean I thought it was kind of cool, you know, I didn't know that it wasn't like a real team or you know, like he just sticking from the description of your date so far, I'm imagining you're not even really talking about fantasy sports. He's just checking his fantasy scores while you're talking to I think he was on his phone, like maybe once

that was it, which, you know, okay. I'm just glad that he didn't want drink very much and he says he's a non smoker, and I don't think he gambled. I'm glad he's not that. Okay, So there's some positive Yeah, you know, we get married tomorrow. It's fine. And so what you said that you paid? What happened when the

bill came? How did that work? Um? You know, I think maybe I just jumped the gun because I was a little nervous and the bill came and I was like, oh, I don't mind paying if you want to go half or I was I was a little bit like forthcoming about it. Um, but he did. He did pay the tip. Oh that's good. Oh cool? And tips on the bill probably well, I don't know. I just as simped he

gave a really good tip. I don't know. Okay, So wait, I do think it's totally fine for a woman to pay, especially if the woman is the one who asked him out, are you the one that initiated it on the dating mapp? No? Okay, so now I think that's not good. I mean, it wasn't really refreshing, like I felt a little bit liberating. I also felt a bit broker. All right, So was that all you guys? Did go out to dinner? Or

did you do more? Nope? That's all we did. We went out to dinner and then um, he said that he had to take off. I think he had an early morning. Really, I'm sorry. Okay, anything right? Listen. He didn't hold doors open, he didn't ask any questions about you. He talked about fantasy football that you're not even into the whole time. And then when you asked to split the tab, he picked up the tip. Like do when you hear that back, do you realize that maybe your

standards aren't high enough? I know it sounds bad, but the truth is he is really confident and bright, and the only problem we have right now is that he's not texting me back. It's been about a week and he hasn't texted me back. Okay, Well, he sounds like a really communicative guy, so that's weird for him. I'm sure. I mean, I'm sure he's really busy, you know, but

before he was texting me a bunch. Okay, well, we'll play a song come back, and then see if we can get him on the phone and get your second date update. Okay, yay, thank you, I'm going to the next thing up looking jubil in the morning dates. If you're just joining us for today's second day update. Nicole is on the phone and she wants to call a dude name Andy, and Andy can really only be described as a modern day gentleman a night and shining armor.

They went out for dinner and Andy didn't open a single door, didn't even ask her any questions, and just talked about his fantasy football team the whole time. And at the end of the lovely evening he made her pay the bill, but he did offer to leave the tip for the server. Yes, Andy, sounds like an amazing date. And we're all not sure why Nicole wants to call him back, really, but we're about to do it either way. Nicole, are you ready to give Andy a call? Yeah, you're ready.

Let's give him a call. I mean, have you told this story to any of your girlfriends. Yes, I just don't feel like people really understand, like the good part. Okay, So they had the same advice we did, like maybe just let this one go. Oh yeah, all right, But they don't understand. They weren't there, Nicole. They didn't get to see the look on his face when he was ignoring you to talk about his fantasy. You guys don't

get it. I can change him, I really can, if we just had some time together and famous last words. All right, Well, I'm gonna dallas on him right now and see if we can get him on the phone. Okay, awesome. I'm excited me too. Can't wait to talk to Andy and see if I can feel exactly what you feel about him, because I'm still not getting it, Nicole. You'll get it, trust me, Okay you say so? Here we go. Hello. Hi? Is this Andy? Yes? This is him Andy. What's up? Dude?

This is Jewel from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning. All right, how can I help you? Well, I'm calling you today because we got an email about you from somebody who listens to the show this show meaning what now, I don't understand the radio show Brook and Jewel in the Morning. The one that you're currently on. Oh I'm sorry, man, I'm getting ready for work right now. I really I

can't see this right now. Okay, well, if you just give us a few minutes, just to like a minute of your time, I promise, fine, but I don't have a lot of time. Okay, Well, I'll get to straight to the point then. Okay, you went out on a date the other day with somebody named Nicole, and she emailed us because she says you're not texting her back anymore and she wants to know why. Well, not all first dates in the world need another date, you know WHOA can I go? Said? Okay, well, can you give

us just like another second? We want to know why, you know, like I said, some dates don't need another one in the world, right, Like I said, that's all really it is. Well, but that's not really like an explanation of why. Can you just tell us why? I know you gotta go. I mean, you know, I'll tell

you completely honest. I wasn't physically attracted her off the bat. Okay, wait, hold on, because the way she described your date, like that's fine, that happens, but it sounds like you're like kind of rude to her man on the date, I mean, yeah, I was. Why would you be rude to her? I mean, yeah, you're not attracted to her, maybe you don't want another date, whatever that happens, we get it, but like, why would you be rude to her? I don't know, she looks

totally different. I'm tender. You know, you get one of those profiles and it's like, oh, she's beautiful, but then you see her in person and you're like, no, I can't, I can't do this. She looked exactly like my sister. Okay, I mean, I'm glad you're not attracted to your sister, but we've had second dates where people have been like, dude, it was awesome. She looked like my sister. So it's good to hear that you're kind of not going that way with it. But why be rude though? Why not

just sit there at least have a good time. Look, I don't want to waste anybody's time. I don't want to go on a date with somebody who looks like my sibling. I don't know, Man, that just still feels kind of weird, like that you would like make her pay and everything. Look, I tried everything to turn her off, talked about my fantasy football all the time. I thought I could go on for like a half an hour black fantasy football and she wouldn't want to like talk

to me any more, you know. Oh, so you were purposely doing those things. Hell yeah, I did that. And after the meal, I belt this just huge belt and she thought that was cute. She didn't tell us about that part, no, and like, and we get out to the parking lot and I'm and we're standing there in the parking lot and I'm like, I parked in a like a handicap spot for like two hours, and she thought that was funny. She didn't think that was like a jerk thing to do. So I mean, at this point, like,

are you I mean, I'm almost even questioning her. I am. I'm like, is there anything that can turn you off? You know? I like, can I can? I literally say I'm on work relief right now. I have to go back to prison tomorrow, and she'll think that's cute, that is sexy. I like him. He's committed to his job, has to be. But whatever, Yeah, So I don't even know what's up with this chick. I'm just happy that I don't have to talk with her again. That's all

that really matters to me. So okay, well you kind of do because she's on the line listening, wants to talk to you. You're joking. Nope, not at all, Nicole. You there, Yeah, Hi, hi Andy? Oh god, oh my god, it's okay. It's okay. Are you laughing? Nicole? Why it's okay. You're the most positive person I think we've ever had on this show. Well, no, I mean, I appreciate the honesty. Appreciate it. I do. I now I understand why, why the thing with the door, and why the fantasy sports

and everything. Like, I knew you weren't a really you know, disrespectful person. I knew that there was probably a reason behind. And I thought maybe I don't know, your hand was hurt or or you were, you know, low on money or something. And I know, like we felt it sometimes it just means that you like the food. I was like, I don't know, I'll just you know, like not a lot of people were very genuine. I I mean, I can see why you would do that. Look, I'm not

good at rejecting people in their faces. So this is like the second best thing that I can think about, you know, makes sense. Yeah, I mean I'm not I'm not very good at rejecting people either. I get it. So you're just like, I am so glad we talked that out. You were injerkeding me on your first date because he didn't think I was attractive, thank you? Well, no, no, no, he didn't say that he didn't think I was attractive. He said that he wasn't attracted to me because I

might have a sister. Yeah, you kind of do, and that kind of freaks me out a little bit. Well, I mean that's better than the other way around, you know, Yeah, but it doesn't change the fact that you look like at my sister. No. Yeah, I mean I totally get it. I totally I totally get it, and I'm glad to know. Now. Wait, Nicole, I mean he doesn't even apologize for his rude behavior, Like, at least Andy, can you give her like some apology? Man,

you know what, You're right. I'm so sorry, Nicole. I am so sorry that I didn't reject you right way. That that was the right thing to do. That's the right thing to do, you know. Yeah, you guys, what about human decency and dating? I mean, Nicole get mad? No, I mean, why would Why would I get mad when he's actually, you know, telling me the truth. Most guys don't do that. You know, at least he's not lying

to get in my pants or anything. You like. There's a way to deliver the truth, Nicole, that doesn't end up with like you footing the whole bill when you asked to split the bill. It like, without him being rude and parking in handicapped parking lots, like you can be honest and still be respectful of people. Excuse me, I paid the tip? Oh my god, he didn't pay the tip, and I didn't mind paying for the dinner. And I mean, I thought you were cute and fawn,

so it's well worth it to me. All right, Nicole, you're the most understanding person, yes whatever. I have been told that. But you do look like Andy's sister. That is a problem, I guess. Yeah, But I still have to ask Andy, Andy, would you like to go out with Nicole on another date? We'll pay for it. Oh man, it's I have really hard time saying no. I have just clearly I have an extremely difficult time saying no. It's I guess I'll reluctantly. So yeah, sure, yeah, what

you're gonna go out with her again? I thought you were to trant it to her. Look, I'm really bad at rejecting people to the faces. So yeah, I'll take the date. We can go out as friends. You guys pay for it. That's great, Nicole, So a friend date? Nicole? Are you still down to go out with Andy? Yeah? I want to go. You're gonna turn You're turning yourself into a doormat YEA. Well no, no, no, I mean I can see you'd do it that way, but I

see it differently. You know, you hear about people starting off as friends all the time and then you know, blossomed into something more you don't know. Nope, not happening. We're going out as friends. Sorry, I'm sure you're a great friend too. I mean, yeah, sounds like it. Well, Nicole, congratulations you got a second date. And Andy, congratulations on getting a second date with your sister. The text in at seven eight five nine two says that second date

update is so sad. I feel like I'm listening to my twenty two year old self before I watched. He's just not that into you. Yeah, it's broken Jewel in the morning talking about today's second date update. If you missed it, Nicole wanted to call a dude named Andy. Andy was kind of a jerk on the date. That's an understatement. Yeah, and Andy was a jerk because she didn't want to go out with her, but she still thought she could change him, Oh and make Andy like her.

No one can. We just established no one ever changes, Okay, I mean, and if they do, it has nothing to do with you. It has to come from within. They have to want to change. And if you're causing somebody else to change, they might change a little bit for a little while, and then they get very angry that you're not allowing them to be themselves. Yeah, it doesn't work. So yeah, it's usually pretty bad. And then also you tell someone to change and then you're like you've changed,

and it's like, yeah, you wanted me to change. This is so common because I know girls that like jerks, and I don't think it's a reverse psychology thing. Guys are honestly pretty blunt, pretty like the ill ignore you. They'll tell you a know things, and some chicks love that.

It's just because they're a doormat and they don't have the self esteem to realize that they're better than that because they've they're treating themselves that way, or they're in love and they know that if that person would just change their behavior a little bit, they could be together forever. They did decide to go out again, but Andy said, not romantically. We can go out as friends, and she's like, okay, But in her mind she's like, we'll go out one

more time his friends. Yeah, we'll have a couple of drinks and he's gonna realize that he loves me, and they're gonna make a movie about this one day, a Hollywood movie based on this romance, and then she's gonna be single at forty five and be like, I don't know what happened. Why I keep I don't get it. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back by ninety two point five