Second Date Update PODCAST: Ice Cream Is For Winners

that's gonna be difficult. I wasn't dating kids difficult and illegal? Yeah, there's a lot of things wrong with that, Robert. No, actually I have a kid. I'm a single parent. Oh makes so much more sense now, Robert. All right, okay, you have a kid and somehow it made a date difficult for you? Yes, okay. What happened? So I met this young lady, Rebecca online? Okay? And did you? Were you upfront right from the beginning that you were a father? Yes?

I was. Actually she's also a single parent, so I thought right off the bat we had that commonality, right, And who better to understand how dating is difficult when you're a single parent than another single parent dating exactly, you know. And it's hard enough right now to even have the time to even manage to meet someone, you know, let alone finding a match, just like scheduling wise with work. Yeah, it's got to be a lot to handle. So you

met her on a dating app. Yeah, we were chatting eventually. I had a plan to meet for dinner, and right before, about an hour an hour and a half before the day, I forgot about my son's beeball game, and yeah, he had a game that night, and I felt awful. I had a call Rebecca to cancel. I was very apologetic, and did you have to cancel because you just wanted to be there because you had to take them to the basketball game. I forgot that I had to take them to the game. Why just put him on the

bus and go do whatever you want to do? Well, that actually could work. How old is this kid? He's six years old. Okay, so that won't work. Never mind, Yeah, you got seven to ride the bus back. Yeah, so you called her to cancel. Yeah, to my surprise, she suggested, well why don't we both go. Man, she's a mom, she probably understands your struggle. Yeah, I mean I was somewhat shocked. I mean, I thought, how cool is that? You know, why not use my six year old basketball

game as a dating opportunity? Yeah, so I figured, you know, she was just really cool to even suggest that. Yeah, that's cool. It shows that she's pretty easy going. How was the date at your kids basketball game? Then? It was really good. She was very you get seats right up front, some good seats at the six year old basketball game. We had seat. She was cheering him on, really cool. Every time they had they had the ball, every time he had the ball, very supportive. M was

he like, who's a strange lady cheering me on? Dad? Actually they met right before the game, so it wasn't that the Okay, at halftime, I can mention this. Uh, there was a little romance that actually ensued during the game. Okay, what happened? She? Uh, you know, she got a little hungry night. So I'll be right back. I'll get some food. And she's like, I'll tell you what, if she's bringing you some popcorn, I'll give you a kiss. And I was like, back in a flash, they didn't even have popcorn.

You had to like drive to a movie theater to find some pretty much. I had to leave, Yeah, pretty much. So she gave me a kiss. When he got back. The second half started, she was cheering, cheering, cheering. My kids team lost. Unfortunately, that's probably why she's not calling me back. She wants a winner. Probably. I mean, actually Rebecca was saying, good job, you know, very consoling. He would you know, they lost, and that's her like, don't lie to the kid. He played terrible. Oh no, no

she was. She was really cool, I have to say. And I was, you know, I was even thinking, wow, this is like this is a white material. Oh wow, Okay, that's quick, that's quick. Jump. Well, you know, she our first staid where you know, she's hanging out with me and my kid. We went to dinner afterwards and we had, you know, a great conversation. Our kids have a lot, in commented, only a couple of years apart. Did your son come to dinner with you guys too? Yeah, he came with us and it was a lot of fun.

She was asking a lot of questions about school, about the sports, and you know, he was very comfortable with her. So, I mean, I couldn't help with me that this would be a possible, you know, Candidate here. Okay, Well, other than just a good stuff, did you like her? Did she seem like you? Yeah? She it seemed like we had a spark. I mean, she wouldn't have given me a kiss. I don't think if she didn't like me. A good point, yeah, very good point. I don't know.

Popcorn's pretty good. Do a lot of things for popcorn, that's true. Yeah, all right? How did everything end with her? Then? I dropped her off, so good night. She gave me a hug, she said goodbye away, so and you know we are. That was two weeks havn't heard from her. I didn't try and get a hold of her text or called her once. So it's you know, just really disappointing. Like I said earlier, it's really hard to find a time to meet someone I don't know, like something to

offense or you know, it's really frustrated. Okay, well, we'll play a song, come back, and then call her and get your second day update. All right, sound good? Okay, hang on brooking jubil in the morning. Second, if you're just tuning in for today's second date update, Robert is on the phone and he took the girl that he wants to call today her name is Rebecca to a sporting event. Always a good idea, unless, of course, it's a six year olds basketball game. What was the score,

by the way, Robert, nine to six. Seriously, it's actually even less than that if you're just sitting in. Robert actually forgot that he had his kid the night that he scheduled at a date with Rebecca. She has a kid too, and he had to take him to a basketball game, and Rebecca actually was like, fine, I'll go. So they went to the basketball game and then had dinner after he said, everything went great. He even got

a kiss in the middle of the game. And now she's not calling him back, and he can't figure out why. You're ready to get her on the phone, Robert, Yeah, I mean, like I said, I just really want to find out why she hadn't gotten back to me. I can't figure it out. I'm completely baffled. So what the deal is? Alright? Alright, cool, Well I'm gonna dollar phone number right now and see if we can figure it out. Here we go, Hello, Hey is this Rebecca? Um? Yeah,

hello Rebecca, pleasure to make your acquaintance. What are you doing? Tell people talk that phone? Is this Hey, this is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's a radio show. Sorry about that? What? Who is this really? My name is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's a radio show. I talk like people. Do understand it? You're calling me from the radio right now? Yes? Yes? Yes? How are you? Um? I'm you sound confused? Is what you sound? Could it be the accident or could it

be the radio part? Who knows? What is this about? Well, we do a segment on our show it's called the second Date Update. And you went out with a dude named Robert a little while ago. Oh yeah, yeah, And Robert emailed us because he told us all about your date. And he also told us that you aren't calling him back or returning any of us text messages. And he was wondering why this is the weirdest saying that's ever happened to me? What I don't this is for real?

It is unless you haven't gone out with a guy named Robert. No I did, I did so. Yeah. Is there a particular reason you don't want to see Robert again? You know? I I just I just don't think that Robert and I will work out in the end, that's all. He doesn't see that at all. Oh yeah, okay, can you give us any information to give to him? I mean, that's why we do these is so people can figure

out what they're doing wrong in dating. And Robert really wants to know, especially when he said that you kissed him in the middle of the date. Oh yeah, wow, he'd like, okay, so he yeah, he told he told us, Yeah, he did tell us. Yeah. Whoa Either you liked him or you really liked the popcorn that you traded the kiss for. Oh my, are you kidding? Oh boy? Yeah. If somebody kisses me in the middle of a date, I usually think the date is going well. But it

sounds like, well it was. It was going well then, so when did it change? Well? Okay, so I don't know if he told you what. We went out to dinner afterwards after this game, and this thing happened at dinner and it was just weird and awkward and it was kind of a big deal, and I honestly, I can't get it out of my head, and I just I mean, it's it's that big, and I just big that the six year old was at dinner with them talking about I hope that didn't happen. Then, oh god,

am I right? Am? I reded what you're saying. It was the situation. Oh okay, can you tell us what happened? He's really curious. Okay. Um. We finished eating dinner and his son asked for some ice cream and this his kid is six, and so Robert tells him, no, he can't have ice cream. Then he literally said, while your team lost and ice cream is for winners. What was the kid's response? He just like he looked so sad and defeated, like he'd already like lost this game like

it was it was there. I mean they're six, they couldn't reach the basket, like nobody scored. It was the worst, like right, it was like one basket was the winning like and then he just looked so sad and like just heartbroken, like it was just this simple little request after dinner and it was just so hard and it was it was heartbreaking, Like I have my own kid, and I would never like it broke my heart. I just thought, like, what a jerk, Well, I think about

that the next time they lose a game. I know you guys are joking, but growing up, my dad was my softball coach forever. And when we were in elementary school, we only got ice cream when we won, not my parents, But that was like understood going into it, like if we win, we get ice cream. If we don't, we go home. Oh wow, I mean that's harsh for a kid. I think I just think, like it's ice cream. It's it's not like, what are we teaching. I want to teach my kids that there's more than just like what

the final score is in a basketball game. That well, did you ask him what his like philosophy was with the no ice cream thing? No, I didn't, but I mean his son was right there and he just looked so sad, And I mean I didn't want to make a thing of it in front of his kid, right because conversation, yeah, and we were done then, I mean, dinner is over. I just wanted to leave that. But it seems like you could at least have told them, like, hey,

our parenting theories don't match up. They don't. Our parenting skills are very different. But I just didn't want to make a thing of it in front of his son. Well, he is on the phone listening right now and wants to talk to you. Wait, he's where I don't know. I'm somewhere, but he's on the phone, like I don't know where he's physically sitting if that was your question, but he is on the other line and wants to talk to you. I hope you're joking, Hi, Rebecca. Nope,

not joking. That's Robert. I mean, if you had a problem like this is the problem, you should have told me about it. He should have brought it up to me. I mean, my son knows the rules at home, you know, cream nothing, Well, I think it was. It was pretty clear if you were listening to my whole call that I feel differently about winning versus losing and rewards and something as simple as ice cream. You did see your son's face, right, You broke his heart. It was the

saddest thing to see his face like that. He's sixty. Wasn't running hard enough? He could have run faster. Lost. I mean, you know, I have to be tough on my son. You know, I'm trying to prepare my son for adulthood. You know, you know you have to you have to work hard, you have to win. Yeah, when he's the next CEO of some major company, he writes a book called ice Cream Is for Winners, you'll see, Robert. I mean, what is the purpose of doing the ice

cream only for winning? Give him motivation so we can work harder, you know. I teach him to play hard, to be a winner, to give it his all, not to happen to sit on the basketball court. I mean, if you have a different parenting style, I mean that's probably quite obvious in the way that you were, you were brought up, in the way the way you're only crazy your king. Maybe I don't know. You're judging me right now. That's what's happening. You're judging me because I

would give my kid ice cream in this situation. Absolutely, I believe that ice cream is for winners. I believe that wholeheartedly. And if you don't agree with that, then maybe you're the one that's not being a good parent. Who shuts fire. I mean, all I can say is that this basketball was more than half the size of your child. You think he needs to run faster, eat like he's six years old. I mean, I mean I don't understand. I don't understand this like food for winning thing.

I mean, you didn't even you brought me some plain dry popcorn. You didn't put butter or salt on this popcorn, and I'm still here. If you or cares about that, Robert, I'll tell you why he gave me a kiss. It's because I'm a winner at Rebecca. Oh my god, Rebecca, I am so sorry for defending this guy for moments before we actually talked to him. Yeah, if you have to identify yourself as a winner, that is the most

loser thing you could possibly Yeah, that is true. Well, in that case, would you like to go on a second date with Robert, Rebecca, We will pay for it. Good. No, No, you don't want to think about it some more. Definitely, Still, No, let know that it was that first site, dude, and Robert lighten up on your six year old man. That's intense. My son is gonna saint about twenty years now when he's making seven figure salaries, thanking that his dear old

dad pushed him harder on the basketball car. So I run that little bit more than the other kids. You know, you have to be tough in this world. And you guys they're on a recording studio. I agree with that, saying, I sin surely suggest you look at your own lives and how you were brought off and how you're raising your own shows. Oh my god, ohoh yeah. I'm sure he's going to be thinking you or his therapist is

for all the money's gonna have to pay. And Rebecca, I see the future and it will be your child washing my son's card. Who You're crazy, You're like a crazy human, like of course you are. You called the radio to try to deal with this. You couldn't even read my social signs on the ride home, that you that you were treading your kids like a like. He is a CEO, he's six, he's I mean, it was a big deal. He got his shorts to stay up for the good boy. I don't really have anything else

to say. I think I said it all. Yeah, I think we are. Rebecca said she doesn't want to go out with you again. So you do not get a second date, Robert, loser, you'd say, I say, winner, and all you guys to hell. All right, well you don't get a second date. So I'm guessing no ice cream after this phone call? Free Robert, but keep winning in the morning Lots of Texas at seven eight, five nine two, saying he's right, ice cream is for winners. These stupid

millennials and their participation trophies talking about today second date update. Yeah, they are very fired up. On the text message board, it's also very slit split, very split. A lot of different parenting techniques out there. If you missed a second day update. This dude, Robert wanted to call Rebecca. He's a single father, she's a single mother. He's scheduled a date, but he forgot that he had to take his son to his basketball game that night, and she was like, well,

I'll just come with you, so they went. He actually got a kiss at halftime, but she stopped calling him back, and the reason was because after they went out. After they went at the game, they went out to dinner and his son wanted ice cream and he just said, sorry, ice cream is for winners, yeah, which is a quote

that will now go down in second eight history. And she said she didn't like the fact that he wouldn't get his son ice cream because he didn't win the game, so she didn't want to go out with him again. But yeah, it's very split. On the text messageport, some people are saying, like, I agree, ice cream is for winners and getting everybody ice cream is what creates snowflakes these days. Run to your safe space. And then other

people are like, everybody should get ice cream. I was with him, you could say no to your kid for ice cream, that's no big deal. But then he started attacking her parenting style and calling her a bad mom. I'm like, okay, you're the jerk at the sideline of the kid's game. He was yelling at the coach and it's way too aggressive yourself. And then he attacked all of us and how our parents were, and I'm like, dude, my dad tried to fight refs at every single game. Yeah.

I actually almost broke a guy's nose at a game once because I was angry at my dad yelling at me. So I hit the guy in the face. So I get kicked out of the game so I didn't have to hear it anymore. Look, that's not a snowflake. That's just real solid here. Look at where I went to very dark places in my life. Remember, if you want to do a second day update, all you have to do is email the show. We will call a person who didn't call you back, removing five