Second Date Update PODCAST: Friends Schmends

don't do like a fist bump or a handshake. Always kiss them on the mouth, preferably French style and passionately. Always kiss your friends. Whatever, it's a guy friend, it's a girlfriend, it's somebody that you're doing business with, it's man's best friend, to your animal, whatever. Always kiss your friend because if you don't, you're gonna wind up regretting it at some point. And that's what happened to Mike, who is on the phone to do a second date

update right now. He's kicking himself because he didn't make out with his friend like everybody knows he should do it. Isn't that right, Mike? Well kind of yeah, okay, kind of, Well, tell me what happened. Yeah, Well, her name's Arin, and we've been friends for years. You know, we've always hung out. It's never been anything more than friends because she's always been dating and I was dating someone at the time

too for a while. But yeah, I mean I've always found her attractive, you know, I've always played with that idea. But recently we've both been single for a while, and I started kind of flirting with that idea of maybe there's something more here. So would you say to ask her out? We both weren't doing anything for the weekend or other friends had dates and stuff, So I just asked, Hey, do you want to hang out, you know, just this is friends, and she said yes. Did you have any

alter your motive? Like, were you planning on trying to be romantic with her? I mean I would be cool if something happened, but I wasn't really expecting anything. You know, why do you think that she knows that you like

her if you asked her to hang out as just friends. Well, once we were on the date, it happened a little differently than I thought it would, Like she kind of came off a lot more flirty than I expected, and you know, giving me prolonged eye contact and all that sounds weird, but like more so than I'm used to. You know, she just caught her staring at me a lot, and well that sounds creepy. More than anything, it wasn't creepy.

So you felt like she was flirting with you. Yeah, like you know, touching her hair a lot, and you know, laughing with me a lot. You know, the non verbal things that girls do to show that they're interested in you. I love the nonverbal girls. That's just did you reciprocate any of the flirting? Yeah, I mean the things started getting flirted between us, which was really cool. We're laughing a lot, We're having a lot of fun, you know, the whole time. It just it felt like we were

a couple. So it felt good. But your email says the real issue came when you dropped off at her house. Right There was a moment right before she went in where she kind of lingered at the door and I hesitated, and I think she wanted me to kiss her, but I didn't. And you know that's how the night ended. We just said goodbye to each other. And that's what I mean by always kiss your friends anytime there's some awkward silence just right on the lips, so you could

tell that she wanted to kiss you. I think so if I'm reading the signals right. But you know, ever since then, I kind of regret that I didn't make a move. Are you scared that maybe you're not reading the signals right? Well now, I don't know. That's why I'm calling because we've been texting back and forth and I've been trying to get like a second hang out, you know, a second date with her, and kind of doesn't seem open to that. I mean, she's kind of

giving me the run around. Um what she's saying to you. Well, the first time she's I asked if she wanted to hang out, she's like, oh, I don't know, l ol u. And then other times she's like, oh, I'm busy, I've worked tonight. I don't know. I literally haven't seen her since then. Are you Are you going to be okay? I'm really upset about this. Well, yeah, it's just, uh, you know, I'm just hoping for what I want to hear.

I had a girlfriend once called me in the middle of hanging out with one of our mutual friends, and she called me and said Oh my god, I think I'm just accidentally on a date with him. Fast forward five years and they're married with two kids. You know, I could see that actually happening to us. You know, we've been friends for so long and in the end I could see us working out together. Okay, So basically, we're gonna find out if you can date her romantically

or you're about to get friend zoned live on the radio. Yeah, and thanks for putting it that way, No problem. All right, we're gonna play a song, come back, call her and get your second date update. All right, Okay, all right, hold on me Brooking Jubil in the Morning Second Date update. Cool now to win a one thousand dollar cash Create one eight sixty six move a ninety two five Brooking Jubil in the Morning Second Date. All right, if you're just tuning in for the second part of the Second

Date update. Mike is on the phone and he wants to call his friend Aaron today. They've been friends for a while, ended up hanging out one night and he felt like things were getting more romantic. There was an awkward moment where he thought that she wanted to get kissed. He didn't take her up on it, and now he feels like that's where he screwed up, Like he should have kissed her, should have seized the moment and taken advantage of that opportunity, but he didn't do it. And

now she's like, Okay, well maybe things are weird. Mike. Are you ready to give her a call? Yeah, let's do this. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Aaron please? This is Aaron. Hey, Aaron, how are you. This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, Um, what's going on? I'm calling you because you recently went on a date with one of our listeners. Okay, his name is Mike. Mike called you, Yeah, he did. He actually emailed us and told us a little bit about

your date. And he also says that you're not calling him back now where you are, like, you're always busy and you can't hang out, so you wanted me to call you and find out why. Um, okay, this is this is a little weird because we didn't really have a date. So when you guys hung out the last time, it wasn't a date. It was just a friend's hangout.

So this doesn't really make any sense to me. Oh, okay, because he emailed us and said that during your little hangout as friends, he thought maybe you were giving him signals like you wanted more. It's all as fun as a guy. When you say that about somebody in they end up laughing when they hear it. Are you joking with me right now? No, I'm not joking with you at all. He asked us to call you because he felt like the friends date that you were on turned

into more than a friend's date. This is so bizarre. Did you do you really have like no clue at all that he has like maybe a little crush on you. Well, um, well there was something, but I wasn't going to mention it to you because it was going to be really embarrassing for him. Oh that's perfect. Then we'd love to hear it. We definitely want to know. Now I can't do that. Is it reason you're not like calling him back? Yeah? I mean yeah pretty much? Okay, can you tell us

what it is he wants to know? I mean I want to know too, but mostly he wants to know. That's why he emailed us to call you. I mean, what am I say? He just told us that you guys hung out and had fun, and then when you got back to your place at your door, there was a moment where you guys are both kind of quiet and it felt like you might want to kiss. And then he was like, I should have taken her up on the opportunity and kissed her, but I didn't, And know,

I feel like I'm stupid for not doing it. Guys are so dumb. I guess I can agree with that for the most part. So what's the story from your side? So we've been joking around all night. We have like you know, friend banter. It's nothing, it's it's fun. But things got a little weird in the car at home. He said, oh my god, could you imagine if we got married? Whoa? But he was like, in a friendly way, well, no, I first I thought it was a joke, and I laughed at it, and then he laughed back. But then

it started to get even worse. What do you mean by that? He just kept going like, I want a big family. He started explaining that there's a house on the market two doors down from his parents' house, so it was like he was planning out your entire future. Basically, you don't even know the half of it. I mean, at first I was still laughing, and then he was like, we're going to have three girls and one boy, and

every time we're going to go in vacation. So this was more than just like a couple of friends joking about, like, Oh, how crazy it would it be of you and I are a couple. Yeah, I mean I stopped laughing, and he's going on and on about how it's going to be planned out, and I'm like, this is way too much. He thought about this way too much. Did you try to like stop him from talking about it at all? Or are you just gonna let it go? And then I was about to say something, and then he was like,

should we do private schooling for the kids? What? And this is the first time he has ever like come on to you at all. I mean all friends were a little bit, but it's innocent, and I thought this was innocent, and it just took a turn and kept going. So is that why you've been telling him that you're too busy to hang out lately. I think it's best if we let this die down a little bit. Yeah,

or you just bite the bullet and get married already. Hey, Aaron, At this point, I would love to tell you that Mike is actually on the other line listening to this conversation. Are you serious, yep, hen I'll be going, Oh, I'm really I'm really sorry that you had to hear the say. You know, I was really just joking in the car, but I mean, like we were laughing about it. Yeah, but you took it too far, and I think it's

pretty clear that you are curious. Well, No, I wasn't like, I mean, this was just a big you know, these were what if you know, I thought we were both laughing at it, okay at the start, but after a five minutes you were the only one laughing. Did you not notice that she had quieted down when you started talking about your family and if the kids you go to private school and everything else? Mike, No, I mean I thought we were just having a conversation, you know,

I don't remember it that way. I thought we were just having a good time. On the way home to your house, you asked me what color you wanted our bedroom painted. You went that deep, Mike, that one was a joke. That one was a joke, so that that one was a joke, but the others weren't a joke. Mike, No, I you know, I we're both single, we're getting older. I'm is just you know, these what ifs. I'm sorry if I went too far, but I really was. You asked you what kind of diamond cut I wanted in

my ring. Oh my god, Mike, are you having like some regret right now about going so fast? So quick with her? It's not fast. I mean we've been friends for a really long time and she was giving you were giving me signals like like you were flirting with me, and this is as much your fault as it is mine.

I agree, Mike. I agree. Listen, every time I'm talking to a girl about something and then she just gets cold and stops talking to me and is awkward, It's obvious she's flirting with me and she wants me to keep going. She should not have done that to you, Mike. If you were picking up signals, you just you misinterpreted the signal. I guess. Oh, Aaron, have you ever thought about I mean, like, if you were to take yourself out of that situation right now, could you think of

him romantically at all? Because sometimes the best relationships are born of friendships. I mean we've talked about, like other people that We've dated with each other before, and there's always been some kind of flirtation between us. But I just it couldn't start this way. I mean, it was too much, like you've been thinking about this for so long and I had no ideas. I haven't really been thinking about this that long. You haven't been thinking about it that long. You asked if your kids to go

to private school or not? Mike. That just came out. Often that stuff just flies out of our mouth. Hey, Aaron, would you like to go on a second date with Mike? I will pay for it. Aaron. I am sorry if I went too far and if I offended you, but I mean, obviously I care about you. We've been friends a long time, and you know, I hope you will hang out with me again because we have fun together, and who knows, maybe we'll laugh about this on our wedding day. Mike, I'm joking. Oh okay, Aaron, what do

you say? Would you go out with Mike again? Come on, give it one try. It's not going to hurt anything. No, really, I'd be more than happy to hang out with you and group hangouts, but I think it'd be best if we just don't hang out alone together for a long time. I don't want to be alone with you. That's a second date update first. Sorry Mike. Yeah, I guess I kind of screwed up. Oh, my parents are going to be disappointed in this. Your parents are well, you know.

I told them all about the wedding date and all about Aaron and I'm joking again. Oh. I cannot pick up on when you're joking at all. Mike broken jubil in the morning. Seve