Second Date Update PODCAST: Family Surprise

date update today. So I read your email and the amount of effort that you put in to this first date is very impressive to me. Well, thank you. All right, before we get to what happened, let's talk about your date first. What's her name? Her name is Ali Ali? And where did you meet Ali? We meet at a local bar. Um, just at a local bar? Okay, okay? How how did you meet her at a local bar? Sorry?

I probably should have said that as well. Um So, yeah, I was putting songs into the jukebox at the at the bar, and I had a few credits left over, but there were no more songs that I wanted to hear, so I asked the nearby pretty girl if she had any song requests that I could play for her, and then we just kind of struck up a conversation from there. Do you actually played her songte Oh, of course, yes, no I would. I would have rather been like, that's

a terrible suggestion, whatever, but hey, what's your name? Love? That's your first initial thought in mine is oh, if they get married, that will be their first dance song. Well probably not. She had to play pour some Sugar on me. Oh, that would be an amazing first dance. So we exchanged numbers names obviously as well, and uh, she said it would be okay if I asked her out sometime. So what did you guys actually do when

you went out on a date. Well, I had put together a picnic spread with just a few snacks, and I had made a little surprise for her. And I'm glad that we've gotten to this part because that's the thing that I read in your email that was very interesting to me. If this is the surprise you're talking about,

I feel like he knows what women want. Picnics with wine and food and then even a thoughtful gift or your time intil youre the surprise, and then we can see if you think this is romantic, because honestly, I don't know. It could be romantic or it could be a little strange. But tell us what you did. I actually think it's it's it's very romantic. It's it's certainly it's certainly unique. I think it'll stick in her mind. So that's good. Okay, it's a very clinical description of

your surprise. Well, I mean, you know, I know what I'm bringing to the table as it were. All right, all right, I like that, And so what was the surprise? Well, so I went on the computer. I did a lot of research, and I put together and printed out a rather extensive family tree, a family tree whose family treat for her, for for Alice and for Ali way of

her family. Yes, I'm it's remarkably easy to find. Actually, if you can find their Facebook page, if they have marked any of their relatives, their mom or a sister or anything, it's pretty easy to figure out the whole timeline. I went back for Alice, and I went back I think it was six or seven generations. Wow, very interesting stuff. Did she seem interested in it? Yeah, she seemed very interested. In it. Yeah, it seems like she thought it was

very cool. Are you sure? I mean, a girl you met at a bar shows up to a park with basically a complete stranger and he has the whole history of her entire bloodline like that. That's weird, man. I mean, she did seem a little bit taken aback at first, but yeah, well, once I started pointing out some of the more interesting features of her timeline, she seemed to get more into it. She had a pretty famous great great think three I think four generations backs were great? Great?

Did you just it sounds like you just pulled up the family tree in front of you. Did you just? Yeah, I've got it pulled up right now. That's it's just on my computer. Oh okay, So who is the great grandfather? You didn't get to that point. Oh he was a He was a prospector at a goldmine, one of the first out in California. Wow, dude, that's pretty cool. Cool, cool, guys, there's one cool thing about what this guy did. Interesting. No,

it's like stalking on a whole nother level stalker. It's not as if I'm out in a tree in front of her apartment. I mean one of the things we talked about when we were at the bar was that I'm very into genealogy. I have a subscription to ancestry dot com. Um, you know, this is the hobby of mine, and she thought it was cool, so I thought I would I would make her a gift. I don't know, I don't know where the stalker is coming in. So it's it's not like you did the family tree thing

completely out of the blue. She knew that this was a passion yours. Yes, yes, absolutely, Okay, yeah, no. No. If you say your hobby is photography and you show up with pictures of her, that's strange. Okay. If you would talked to her and said, hey, would you want me to research your family and she said yes, that's that's a whole different story, Well, then that kind of takes away the surprise aspect that yes it does, it would be I think it would be at least interesting.

So did you spend the whole time going over her family tree or did you do other things? The tree was the largest part of the conversation. It was sitting right there, and frankly, I spent a lot of time on it and new learned a lot of things about her history that I wanted to share with her. You took so many chances on that, like she could have a family that she hates or an uncle that's in prison,

for all you know. I'm actually ninety nine point nine percent certain she does not have an uncle in prison. I wouldn't know that went through her history. That's true. You did the research and you know all about her. How did the date end? What was the last thing you guys said to each other? So I drove her home and as we pulled up to her place, she said that was the most unique first date she'd ever been on. Thank you. I said I would call her,

and she said she was looking forward to it. And then she said that she was going to put the family tree up on her wall, maybe in a nice frame. Wow, all right, so it sounds like she did like it. Then if she wants to put it on her wall, well, I don't know why she would say she did like it so many times that's true. Maybe I'm just totally different than she is. Well, we'll play a song, come back,

call her and get your second date update. Okay, okay, hold on, don't go anywhere brooking jubil in the morning. Second Update. Welcome back to the second date update. If you're wondering why I'm starting it with Sister Sledge, we are family. That's because of what Ian did for his first date with a girl named Ali. It's probably one of the most creative things I've ever heard anybody do for a first date. Definitely the most work I've heard a lot of people put into a first date. He

actually made her a family tree. You got her name from Facebook, found from her family members went online. I guess he's a big enthusiast of this kind of thing. He does it for all his friends and family and stuff like that for Christmas and gifts, and he decided he was going to make her a gift, a family tree for their first date. He thinks that she was impressed by it and really liked it. But now she's not calling him back. So we're gonna see if we

can get her on the phone and find out why. Ian. Yes, is that one of your favorite songs? By the way, Yeah, it's fine. Yeah, I just want to apologize. Okay, I think I went in a little bit hard on you on your surprise. That's okay. You called me a stalker, but that's I mean, that would have been my reaction had I received an information about myself from someone I didn't know. But maybe she liked it, but also be prepared that she didn't. Okay, well, I mean again I am.

I am hoping she did like it, but she she is not calling me back, so you might be onto something. Then well we'll figure out why right now. Okay, I'm gonna dial her phone number. Thank you, You're welcome. Here we go. Hello, Hi, it was looking for Ali. This is hey Ali. How are you? My name is Jebil from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay, do you know what that is? Uh? I assume some sort of business. I guess it is kind of a business. I don't know.

It's actually a radio show. Okay, well, so what is this about. This is about a guy that you know. He's a friend of the show, and he actually emailed us hoping that we could get you on the phone because you're not calling him back after your first date, are you, sire is? Yeah, his name is Ian, so Ian emailed us saying that he thought he had a wonderful first date with you, but ever since then, he's tried to get a hold of you and you're not

responding to his text messages or phone calls. So he thought maybe we could get you on the phone and find out if something went wrong on your date. That's really weird. I know, it's a segment we do on our show all the time. So he emailed us, And now I'm asking you the question, did you like your date with Ian? It was? It was interesting? I feel like that's adjective to use. What did you want me to tell you? I mean, how about this, I'll tell

you what he told us. Okay, okay. He said that he met you at a bar and then went out for a picnic, and at your picnic, he presented you with a huge family history thing that he had made from some website or something. Yes, that's correct. Yes, that did that freak you out? That would have freaked me out. Well, it took me by surprise for sure. Yeah. I had never met anybody who has gone to such great length

to impress me. Maybe. Yeah. Well he said that you guys had talked about it and you knew that he was into this kind of thing. Oh I did. I just wasn't expecting, I guess, on the first date for him to whip out my full entire family, like not even just my grandparents, like my great grandparents, and then beyond you know what I'm saying, I like to bring up genealogy as a hobby and then to troll your Facebook page to find out who your great great great

great great great grandfather is is a big leap. Was it at least impressive to you? I mean, he did a lot of research obviously liked you. Yes, that part is very impressive because I'm sure that took a lot of time. But then that's also creepy because now he has a lot of my family's information. Yeah, it's a weird line because you know, he told us about it, and I went back and forth. I was like, is it creepy or is it a nice thing from a

guy who's just really into finding out people's family histories. Yeah, I kind of agree with you, but I went back and forth, is this impressive or is this weird? But then it just got like straight up weird. It got stranger after your surprise. Oh yeah, so after our picnic where he presented me with the family tree, we start walking down this hill and then he's like to surprise, Like, uh, what is this surprise? And He's like, this is the

oldest cemetery in the state. Like cool, awesome. Then he said, look over there, over there is where your great grandparents are buried. What okay, he took me to the burial side of your family. Oh that's not even There's one more layer of weird to this. Then he whipped out cheesecake, like, let's finish our picnic at my great grandparents grace. I mean, he knows nothing about your feelings on death or if you knew these people, right, No, yeah, And he basically

was like, let's spend time with your great grandparents. So did you stand there and eat cheesecake in front of your great grandparents grave? I whooped that cheesecake down a lot of That is the best visual I've ever heard of it my whole life. Did you guys, did you guys talk during it? Or oh no, I was eating so fast. What was his reasoning for wanting you to be He wanted me to know about my history and spend time with them. Did you learn anything new from

eating cheesecake your great grandparents grave? He told me a couple of facts about them, But in my mind, I'm like, just finished the cake just just because cheesecake and let's go. So I'm sorry. I just have a quick thing to say here. Um oh all right, I was hoping you would wait, what is going on, Ali? That's Ian. He's actually on the other line listening and not to talk to you. What are you talking about? I mean that he was on the phone the whole time listening and

he wanted to talk to you. He was supposed to wait until I brought him into the conversation, but he just couldn't help himself. I guess I'm sorry that I jumped in. I just I couldn't help myself. I feel like Ali's missing something that's kind of just inherently cool about the fact that she has distant relatives, not not even distant relatives, direct line relatives that live right right in town. I myself, I had to go to Scotland to have this same experience as being able to see

the gravestones of my great great grandparents. That's I mean, that's that's his. And I just cut you off for a second. I do think that's really cool. I mean, that is awesome, and that would be a really sweet, romantic thing. But you just met me. Can't we talk about that and get to that point, like I don't know, three years from now, I mean three years from now, that's a long time. It could be a whole other

generation and they have to redo the family tree. Okay, well at this point I think that you can stop working on my family tree. Yeah, Ali, I mean, did you have fun with him outside of the kind of strange research he did into your history? I could have maybe dealt with the family tree thing, because that was pretty impressive. But then taking somebody to a cemetery on a first date. I mean, yeah, I know that you don't really understand how she's not fully impressed by the

family tree thing. But taking somebody to a grave site on a first date. I feel like everyone's blowing this very out of proportion. The grandparents Finding the grandparents was actually pretty easy. But the main setup, the the main research was going into the family tree. That's what the time. I think, that's what we should focus on. That's the part you're trying to like, well, we need to focus on. We need to focus on taking somebody to a grave

site on a first date, matter who it is. Yeah, why, Okay, what if I put it this way, and what if I say, like, maybe you spent too much time investing on where Ali came from instead of who she is right now. Thank you. Ali doesn't even know who she is. If she doesn't know her path, you know, then I come into her life and I can help her figure it out. Are you kidding? I think you need to wait and find out some more about me first, But at this point it's not going to happen. What a

wonderful lead into my question. Ali, would you like Ian to learn more about you and go out on a second date with him? We will pay for it now. No, he freaked me out. Then he insulved me. No. Sorry, I didn't mean to insult you. That was certainly not my intention. I feel like if we could go out again and just start from fresh, that would be good, And I will tell you there is an extra incentive

if you have another date with me. I found out some pretty interesting things about a great aunt of yours. I don't care. At this point. I don't care, and I don't want to go to her great either. Okay, I can just I can just email you the information in the links. She has a Wikipedia page's she was Wow. Well, Ali, thank you for talking to us about your day. Yeah, Ian, I'm sorry you didn't get a second date, but maybe this is a lesson learned. Yeah, I guess so, yeah,

and what's that lesson? Don't ask people out on a first date. They're going to be ungrateful about research you do. Texting at seven eight five nine two, this say is I don't think i'd like to go out with this guy, but I'm wondering if I could hire him to do some research on my family's break and jewel in the morning, talking about today's second date update if you missed it, the student named Ali wanted to call a girl or Ian wanted to call a girl name Ali that he

went out with. She wasn't calling him back, and he couldn't figure out why because for their first date he went to great lengths and actually researched her whole family tree and even presented her with a nice little like presentation basically on her family. And then we found out when we got her on the phone that not only did he do that, he took her on a picnic next to a cemetery. It was the grave site for her great grandparents, and he took her to their grave

to have dessert. She was obviously creeped out by that and doesn't want to go out with him again. The other thing is some people may be really into that, but it's not a first date move right. It'd like get to know you first, and then maybe we can move on to that if you're into that whole thing. But he didn't get it at all. It's like, what

are you talking about? This is great. Everybody should learn about their family history, and I went out of the way and took you to where your dead great grandparents are on Some people are pissed at us. Someone wrote in I hope you didn't ruin him. He was just being chivalrous. I don't think we ruin him. I don't think he I don't think he realized that. She was like really angry at him. He just didn't understand. He

put it back on her. Let's like, well, fine, then just don't go out with guys who were doing research on your family if you don't want to know about it. Remember you want to do a seconday up. They don't have to do his email the show, and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Two point five