Second Date Update PODCAST: Failed Experiment

works at a bank. My whole life, I've tried that and it always goes well until they open up your bank account. They're like, yeah, not interesting, Alison. Do you get hit on a lot at the bank? For some reason? For me, bank tellers have always been something that I've always wanted to do out with. I don't know that I get hit on a lot. Maybe I just don't notice. I just I try to keep it professional. Yeah, but you don't know this, but you are my white whale

fantasy ideas big thing for bank tellers. I've never been able to do it. So what was the guy that you want to call today? What's his name? His name is Jake. Jake? All right, Well, what was Jake's secret. How'd he do it? It wasn't until after he left that he actually asked me out on the date, which I think kind of helped. How did he do that if he wasn't there to ask you out? So he came in actually to ask about a business loan, just

kind of like normal everyday thing. And I thought that, like maybe he was being flirty, but I couldn't tell. And like I said, I try to keep it professional, So I was like not really focusing on that and just gave him the information that he wanted. But it's my job, okay, so right, and he wants a loan, so he's probably going to be extra nice to you. Yeah, so check number one. If I ever wanted to ask a girl out of the bank, I have to ask about a small business loan. Got that down, Yeah, exactly.

It's it's not a bank account where the bank accounts or small potatoes on the loan. All right, So walking and go like, I'm trying to open up a business loan, a big business loan. You said, he asked you out later, How did he do that? So I gave him my card and gave him the usual steel You know, if you have any more questions, feel free to call me. And later that day, he didn't even wait for very long. He just said that he had a really nice time talking to me, and he was curious if I was single,

and if I was, but I want to hang out sometime. Okay, so you like that. Obviously, where'd you guys go for your date? Well, this is where it kind of changed up a little bit. We had planned on getting drinks at a bar, that was what we talked about, but then turns out his place was really close to the bar, and so we ended up meeting there first, and I was just kind of like hanging out while he was getting ready. It wasn't it wasn't anything weird or that

felt like sketchy or planned or anything. And then he had like a little like home bar and asked if I wanted a drink before we went out, So we were like having a drink and then he turned on Netflix and oh wow, okay, so it sounds like he had no intention of leaving the house. Honestly, I don't know. Well, as soon as you said he was getting red, I'm like, how much time does it take for a guy to get ready to go get drinks depends how much he moisturizes. Oh,

okay and a half. You know, for some dudes five minutes was this skin nice and smooth? It did look very supple? Okay, good? So yeah, it might have taken him. Do you think he just like lured you over there to Netflix and chill? Basically? Is that what you think happened? I mean, it's entirely possible that that was his plan all along. But like the really weird thing is if that was his goal, nothing ended up happening. Like we literally just watched Netflix and hung out. Oh you like

literally Netflix and chilled? Yeah? Yeah, okay, And if you would have made a move on you would have you been okay with that? I mean, yeah, he was cute and like we kind of lolong really well, so like you know, I probably wouldn't have gone too far. But if he had made a move, like, I wouldn't have been upset about it. Okay, right? Do you think he chickened out for some reason in the middle, Well, there was a moment like someone early on that might have

gotten a little awkward. Yeah, And why do you sound so hesitant to talk about it, because I, like, I totally admit that this is on me. But we were talking about all kinds of stuff and we started talking about our fears, and I ended up telling him what my greatest fear is. And I'm a little worried that this like totally ruined the date. Why what's your what's your fear? I am afraid of feet? Feet like feet? Yeah, like they just they super creep me out. I don't

like thinking about them. I definitely I cannot touch them, like I couldnot. I don't even want to touch my own feet, let alone think about touching other people's feet. How does that word like though, if you're going to get intimate with someone, do you just make them keep their socks on? Yeah? I don't need to go too far into this. But that's that's that's that is my fear. That is what I told him. So you're scared of naked feet? Yes, like I really am scared. I mean,

I can't blame somebody for having a phobia. Did it seem like he was judging you for being scared of feet? Yeah? He just all of a sudden he wasn't feeling well, which I don't think is a good sign. Oh yeah, maybe he has a foot fetish. And he knew it wouldn't work out with you. Oh gosh, just even the thought. How long after you brought up your fear of feet did the date end? It was within a few minutes. It was like close enough, really, but like you know,

I wanted to be respectful. He said he wasn't feeling well. So I just I left and I haven't heard from him, and I haven't called him. And has he been back into the bank to follow up on his loan? Nope, not when I've been there. All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call him and find out if your fear of feet is the reason he's not calling

you back in your second day update. Okay, okay, thank you guys brooking jubil in the morning, right in the middle of a second date update and if you're just joining us. Allison is on the phone and Alison thinks she's not getting a call back because her her date talked about something scary, something that lurks all around you in a daily basis. They're everywhere waiting for their chance

to pounce. I'm, of course talking about feet. Alison, who is on the phone to do a second date update, has a fear of feet and she thinks that she's not getting a call back because Ken, who's the guy that she went out with, asked or what her fear was, and she shared that with him, and then shortly after that he was like, my stomach hurts and you should probably go Alison. Are you ready to call him? Yeah?

I think so. I mean, if that's really it, you can't really do anything about it, right, Like, you can't change that piece of you. It's that serious. Yeah, you know, I cannot change that about myself. But I probably shouldn't have brought it up on a first date either. Ye. Hey, I'm a crazy chick who scared a feat. That could be what he heard in his head when you said it. So we'll find out. Right now, I'm gonna Dallas phone number and get him on the phone and see if

we can get you an answer. Okay, thanks guys. Hello, Hi, I was looking for Jake. Yep, this is Jim. Hey Jake, how are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. What's that? It's a radio show? A radio show, yeah, like on the radio, like in your car and stuff. You could listen into us if you wanted to. But obviously you don't, So that's fine. I'm calling you today because we got an email about you from one of our listeners about me. Yes, why would

somebody email you about me? Well, because you guys went on a date recently and now you're not calling her back. So you recently had a date with a girl named Alison. Yeah, you met her at the bank, Yeah, I did. And she told us how you hung out at your place, watched some movies, had some drinks, and she thought you guys had a fun time, but you haven't reached out to where to go out again. So she asked if we could get you on the phone and find out

if there's a problem. I mean there's not a problem. Well, there isn't a problem. But you haven't called her or emailed her or anything. No, I haven't. But you know, I mean I made a mistake and I don't see the need to call her or have a second date with her. You made a mistake. That's sounds rude. Did you not like her that much? Well, well, I mean it's not her. I mean it's like a mistake. It's like me. It was like like I'm mistake on my part. It's not It's not like you mean asking her out?

Is that because you were doing business at the bank or didn't you feel weird about it? Now? No? No, I mean it's just it's just like a personal mistake, and I don't feel the need to call her back, you know. I mean it was only one date and we didn't even kiss or anything like that. So she said that you called things off because you said you felt sick. Was that an excuse or did you actually feel sick? Um? Well, I did feel sick a little bit, but uh, it was more an excuse, to tell you

the truth. Halfway through, I realized everything that I need to realize, and I was like, I, you know, this is better off not happening. I mean, you can understand why she's confused, though, Like you asked her out, and then instead of going to the bar, you had come to your house, and it seemed like you were setting up like a Netflix and chill situation and then you

bailed on it. Well, I mean I kind of was trying to set that up, but then I kind of bailed halfway through, and I mean, so she's kind of right, okay, all right, what was it? The feat thing? She told us, how you guys were hanging out talking about fears, and she told you that she was scared a feat. Yeah. No, the feat thing was weird. I mean, that's funny that she did tell you that though, because I couldn't stop laughing. That was that was weird. She thought for sure. I

mean she said that things ended like minutes after that discussion. Yeah, but it didn't have to do with the feat or anything like that. It was just a mistake on my part. Can you give us any anything, because she's really confused. She actually liked you a lot and wants to know. Can you just give us a clue? Well, like, man, uh, like, I'd never been with a woman, h you know, and um, I just wanted to try to you know, Netflix and chill and stuff and uh, but you're a virgin. Well

h man, Now I'm not a virgin. I just just never been with a woman. Here. Are you gay? Then? Um? Yeah, I'm see you're you're gay. But you thought maybe you would try out women for a night. Yeah, I mean it's always been something I wanted to try and see kind of how it is and how it deals with a woman. And Alison is, you know, a beautiful girl, and she had a great bubbly personality and I love that, I really do. Um, and she's really cool, and I mean I would hang out with her again in a second.

I mean, you know, I saw her in the bank. I was like, if I'm gonna have sex with a woman, that's the woman I want to have sex with, very nice. Why wouldn't you just tell her that? Though? Like why? I mean, I understand, like asking rout you wouldn't tell her, but as a night progressed, why wouldn't you just be honest? I don't know, it's not really Um, I don't know. I just didn't think she would understanding that I was gonna have to explain everything, and I just felt like

kind of bad leading her on. So I've just ended it and was just gonna not see her again. Most flatteried reason everything. I'd like, Yeah, I mean, we can still hang out. I wonder if she's gonna like that or if that's gonna be an insult. Let's find out, because she's actually on the phone and wants to talk to you. No, no, no, no, I don't want you to call her or anything. No, I don't have to. She's literally on the phone right now, Alison, HI think

so you're gay. Huh, yeah, yeah, I'm gay. Okay, Uh, this is a lot of it is amazing. You know, I wish that had come up. I wish you would have told me that it's important to know when you're going on a date with someone what their sexual preference is. Like that's important context. Yeah, I mean it is important. But I didn't feel like I needed to tell you

every single thing about me. I wanted to try. I mean maybe you know, I wanted to try something different, and while I was sitting there, I was thinking about it. It's just disgusting, and I didn't want to Okay, yeah you're not gross house and alson, you're you're a beautiful girl. But about you, it's just about me, And like I didn't want to touch you. You know, well, I this is probably the only time that someone could say that to me. And I guess I kind of get it.

I'm like, I set, yeah, obvious three, you don't want to touch me. I just wish i'd known, Like I thought this was about me, No, it's not about you. You're it's not about you. If I was straight, I would take you in a second. Well, is there any like critiques you could give her. I mean, if you were straight, how would you change your dating game? I would definitely hold back on the feat thing because that's like a weird thing to bring up twenty five minutes

into a date. Yeah, that's super weird, So I would probably hold off on that. Thank you so much for the dating critiques. Can I give you a piece of advice too, Jake? Yeah? Absolutely great. Cool, Um, the next time you go on a date with a woman, tell her you're gay first. Good advice. Well, I have to ask the question anyway, Jake, would you like to go out with Alison on a second date? We will pay for it. Maybe you can give it another shot friends,

or they could just be friends? Yeah? As friends? Yeah, but as like romantic mills. All right, Alison kind of worked for you. I mean, you do get to go out with him again if you want. Yeah. I just I just can't believe this is happening. Like, never in a million years would I have thought that this was the reason that he wasn't calling me back. So good news, though, it wasn't your fear of feet that turned him off? Right, Hey, yeah,

this would happen. It's like I finally meet a guy that I connect with who's super great and he doesn't care about the feet thing and he's gay. There's life for you that sayings around for a reason. I guess text in at seven eighty five to nine two that says they're actually a perfect couple. She's scared of feet and he's scared of lady parts. In case you missed today's second date update, Alison wanted to call a dude

named Jake. They actually met at the bank. He ended up inviting her over to watch some Netflix watch a movie, and it was obvious what his intentions were to try to hook up. She thought she wasn't getting a call back because she has a fear of feet and she got freaked out by his feet, but that wasn't the case. He wasn't calling her back because he's gay and thought, you know what, I'm going to try it with a

woman just to see how it is. And then once he was actually in the situation and it was go time, he was like, I can't, I can't do it. I'm just not interested. It feels weird and I can't follow through with it. So he didn't want to sleep with her and also doesn't really want another date with her. Because he's not interested in her type. I'm surprised he didn't tell her at the end, like, you know, we've been hanging out for an hour, but I gotta tell you something that has nothing to do with her. I

would think that's a compliment. I think that's a compliment. He's not saying you turn and be gay. But it's like if a gay woman were to say to me, hey, I've never been with a dude. Yeah, but you're the guy that I want to try it with. I would say one no because I'm going to disappoint you even more, but to thank you very much for the compliment. That's amazing that you would think I'm the one that you want to try it with. Well, this is I guess,

the definition of don't knock until you try it. Yeah, they did agree to not go out again on another date because obviously it can't work between the two of them. Yeah, I remember you. If you want to do a second day up date, I'll have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you. Back to ninety two point five,