Second Date Update PODCAST: Drop Them Keys Girl

you know stop. But oftentimes they'll give you the green light signal to go in for a kiss or something like that. And a lot of dudes are texting and not paying attention and they don't pick up on the green light, and there's people honking at them like just go for it, go for it, And then before they know it, the light turns to red and they've missed their opportunity to get through the intersection. That happens to

a lot of people. Hannah, who was on the phone today for a second date update, thinks that the guy she went out with didn't know how to read her signals correctly and didn't go for a kiss at the end. Of the night, Cannah, how are you okay? Little nervous? Little nervous? Don't so tell us a little bit about the guy you want to call today. I know you're in your email you said that you think he wasn't very good at picking up on your signals. But let's

first find out about your date. How'd you meet him? His name's Eric. I met him at my church's young adult singles group. I've never been to a singles group for a church. Like, do you all get in a room and you pair up? Do you do speed dating? What happened? I don't know. At our church, they just have some music playing and like they're snacks and orders, and usually everyone sort of hangs out at first with the people they know, and then casually you sort of

start talking to people. And by the way, church singles mixers where you meet the biggest freaks. Yeah, dude, I grew up in church camps my whole life. I never got more action than at church camps. It's a great place to meet people who are down to measure in. So, how did how did you meet Eric? Then? When you're at the singles mixer, Well, he's friends with one of my best friends. So he came over and started talking to me, and you know, I thought he was huge.

He's kind of like goofy looking, but I like that, you know, he was sort of funny. You know, it's important to me too, So we just started talking. Did he seem nervous when you guys first met um, No, that night he seemed sort of comfortable. And me because my friend was there, you know that he knows really well. Now you called him goofy looking. Let me ask you a question about myself. If you were to say between you two, would you say that you're hotter than him? Oh,

I'm definitely the hollo. I'm just wondering because normally girls who say that they tend to be hot girls who kind of date down because they like a guy's personality. So I'm just wondering if that's you. Well, I think he's cute, and that's what's really imported exactly. You know how many times I get that, like, no, you guys don't understand, like I think he's cute. For me, he's cute. Yeah, I do think he's good, But I would say that

most people would say, you know, he's not traditionally handsome. Okay, So you guys obviously went out on a date after this thing, right or are you just calling him out? Yeah? Okay, would you guys do We went to go see this Christian church band and you know it was fun. Um, he wasn't as sort of outgoing as he was when I first met him. He was I don't know, maybe I would say almost a little bit borning, but a really good listener. Was there any like drinking involved at all?

I don't know how. No. I mean I didn't drink anything, and maybe he did before, but since I didn't, I guess he didn't. You know, I don't know. Yeah, I guess what kind of Christian are you are? Alcohol is an absolute? Or do you have a couple of drinks? Oh? I can have a couple of drinks. I just didn't that night. I didn't know if you guys were loosening up or anything. Maybe we should have. Yeah, was there a special moment that you guys shared or you know,

something that really stuck out about that evening? No, he was just a really good listener and it was nice. You know, it was nice. So why do you Okay, you doesn't sound like a rave review about your date so far? Why do you want to call him for a second date update? Because I think that there's potential there. I feel like maybe he's just kind of shy, and so maybe this was like the date where he's super shy and then he can kind of go back to the guy that I thought was a little more fun

than I met with my friend. You know, I'd like to hang out with that guy again, right, So you want to hang out with the guy before. But in your email you said that he was not picking up on your signals that you were giving him at the end of the date. What do you mean by that? What happened was at the end of the night, he walked me to my door and sort of waited and nothing happened. So the night pretended you're got my keys?

You know? Classic? Is that your go to move to let a guy know that you're kind of killing time so we can kiss you. I don't know, to be honest, I've never had to weight. But so he got him. But I guess he didn't get the clue because he just sort of was holding out my keys and then I just said, you know, maybe we should hang out again, and he was like sure, and then he left, So did he give you a a hug or anything. Yeah, he hied me, and then last week I sent him attacked.

You sent him a text. Yeah. A couple of days later, I said, how's your week going, and then he replied it's okay. That's all he sent you. Yeah, did you say anything else after that? It's okay? Text like you try to hit him back. Yeah, it's the last thing I heard from him. Because then I thought like, hey, wait a minute, I'm working too hard here, you know, like I want to see him, but it sounds like to me like he maybe just like really unexperienced dating.

If you guys were to go out again, would you be okay being the person who made the first move? No, I think you may have to do with this guy. I've been in that situation before, where it's been at the end of a date and I know deep down that I should kiss somebody and then I don't, and then after that I'm like, I don't even know if I want to go out with her again, because now I just, yeah, I believe my chance. So you know,

maybe he's feeling like that. I hope it wasn't. Think facts I do like him, Okay, So when I get him on the phone the second date update. You want that to be the first thing that I say to him, like, hey, man up and make out with Hannah. All right, okay, well we'll play a song. Come back call him, get him on the phone, and get your second date update. All right, yeah, okay, looking jubil in the morning dates. If you're just joining us for the second part of

today's second date update. Hannah is on the phone with us. She wants to call a guy named Eric. They met at church and a young adults mixer, went out to a concert, and then after the concert there was an awkward moment where he dropped her off, walked her to her door, and she was putting out the signals that

she wanted to kiss. Her signal was she dropped her keys in order to kill time in hopes that he would pick him up and then maybe kiss her instead, he picked him up and gave him to her and said, here's your keys. Have a good night. And she hasn't heard from him since, so we're about to get him on the phone. Hannah. I think the problem was that your signal to him was a little weak. I think next time, instead of dropping the keys, he just dropped

the pants, no question, but there's no question. No, you're gonna try that out? Oh my god. I think I wish women would be a little more blunt like that, and then I would be like, oh, okay, cool, she wants to kiss. All right, I'm about to die the phone number and get him on the phone and see what the reason is that he's not calling you back. Okay, thanks, I'm excited. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Eric please?

This is Eric. Hey Eric, how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning, the radio show. Really okay, all right, how are you doing? I'm fine? Okay. The reason that I'm calling you though, is we do a segment on our show called the Second Date Update. That's where if somebody goes out on a date with someone and then they feel like they're getting blown off after the date day, email us to call that person and ask them why you recently went out with a

girl named Hannah who lives as our show. Oh, and Hannah is wondering why you haven't called her or texted her and asked her to go out again. Okay, okay, did you like Hannah? Yeah? Hannah was fine. Okay, do you have a few minutes to tell us why you're not texting her back. Well, we haven't out for about three hours at a concert, and I guess I just didn't really know what to say. Um, like you didn't know what to say, like it was awkward for you to be on the date or you just for me.

She was hard to have a conversational. Was she like intimidating or something, because she was real pretty No. No, she just said a few things where I said to myself, I was like, I don't think I could see myself having a relationship with this person. What type of things are we talking? She just had a lot of her facts wrong, her facts about what just like pretty basic stuff. Can you give me? Can you give me an example? I mean, she for one thing, at one point she

said she thought Islam was a country. Okay, all right, okay, yep um. We also were talking about like crazy things that we've eaten at restaurants, and I said like, well this is pretty common, but I've had duck. Yeah, and she was like, m duck, Now would you consider that a meat or a fish? Really? She said, yeah, I get I kind of get what you're saying. Then, so you you don't necessarily feel like she's not as smart as you, but you feel like she might be kind

of in airhead a little bit. Well, it's just like, yeah, I mean, you know, there are different types of intelligence, you know, and I just feel like she lacks a sort of basic Is there any way that she could have just been playing it up and doing the you know, because some girls do the bimbo thing because they think guys think it's cute. Yeah, you could tell it was. It wasn't like she was planning these things. Like at one point we were talking about something and she goes,

I think comedy is so funny. Yeah, yeah, it's like, yeah, that's what comedy's job. I like that. You know, Eric, you and I are a lot different, because then I got out whether I've been like perfect, you're right on my level, but you think, yeah, comedy is comedy is a funny thing sometimes, so you just feel like she

wasn't on your level. Then. Basically most of the date, I just was sitting there going like, you know, I don't want to be this guy who just spends the whole time correcting her because it just makes me seem like an arrogant kind of know it all, and if I had spent my time correcting her, then we our conversation would have gone almost nowhere because I would have had to do it like every minute more to So

I just don't think we ever really need to talk again. Really, that's a shame, because she's actually on the phone and wants to talk to you. Are you serious? Yes, I am, so. I'm really confused. I mean, it sounds like you know that because I wasn't perfect or didn't know all of the same things that you do quite as well, like you are saying that I'm you did. Is that what I heard? I did not want to say that you

are stupid. Yeah, you didn't actually say those words, but because I'm not stupid, it certainly was sounded like you were like, I don't think that you're stupid. Think No, I don't. I don't think you're stupid. I think that for the kinds of things that I usually like talk about and the issues that I you know, the things that I was kind of putting out there to see what you would say, it wasn't really working out. You know,

I may not be as smart. You know, in certain areas that I'm pretty I have street smarts, and I think I'm pretty bright. I mean, Okay, for example, I was right, comedy is funny and tragedies are sad. She has a point, Eric, she was right, you're ruddy. You're not wrong about that. But I think, you know, I like, if you don't get why that's kind of a weird thing to say, then I think that is kind of the issue right here. It's true, you know it's true.

It's it's true. But also, like, you know, we don't need to talk about how water is wet, you know, like maybe we do. Then she like, if you think that, then that's fine, but I am so not interested in talking about that. Wow, I think you're being kind of picky, Eric. I mean, yeah, she gets some facts wrong, and she doesn't really you know, maybe be books part, but she

sounds like a delightful person. Can I just point out something I thought, like if you had fun with someone or you enjoy them, and like if the person was extremely attractive, that that was kind of you know, important too, And I was willing to make sort of I was gonna just sort of ignore that part. See that, Look, Eric, do you think that you can ignore her not being on your level intelligence? Wise. If Hannah ignores the fact that you're not on her level hot wise is what

she's saying. I think, yeah, I picked up on that. Oh my god. I guess that us me to my next point. Then, would you guys like to go out on a second date? Eric? Would you like to go out with Hannah again? I will pay for it. She'll ignore the fact that you're not as good looking as she is. No, come on opposite, So you don't even

want to go out with me again? I mean I kind of was being really nice to you, so, you know, just like everything you're saying about me, and sort of shocked that you don't want to try to make it up to me. You know, you weren't very nice. Well you know, I'm sorry, but okay, still like way a waiting. Now I see you, you know, one of the church events, and I see you and I go, oh, I'm like, hey, there's a guyet that thinks I'm an idiot. Yeah, I guess, And then I'll be like, hey, there's a girl who

thinks I'm ugly. It actually is a perfect second date update. It worked out for both of you, guys. Now we're all on the same page. That is amazing how that actually worked out for them like that. Texting at seven eighty five nine two says, I'll day she's right on my level. At least people know where they are right. It's true. I mean, I guess you can't blame him too much if you just didn't feel like they connected

on the intelligence level, you know. I mean, if you go out with somebody you feel like they're not as smart as you, maybe you don't want to go out with them again. Personally, I think it's a great thing. Yeah, the first thing I look for. It's tired for jose to find though. True. Remember if you want a second date up, they don't have to do his email the show Brook and Jewel at moving nine two five dot com. We will call the person who didn't call you back.