Second Date Update PODCAST: Don't Speak for Yourself

There's there's literally no such thing. It doesn't exist. His name is David, and in his email about the woman that he wants to call today, he said he went to a dog park and this is how he got her number. He said, Hey, is that your dog smooth line? David, very smooth. And I would argue that it's to deliver

h not the actual words. Okay, So David, tell us how you deliver it that If it's different than that, well, I see, I got to the dog park quite often, and there's there's two different kinds of people who go to the dog park. There's the people who take their dogs so you know, get some exercise. And they just go and let the dog run and then they sit on their phone the whole time. And then there's people who go to be around other people and other dogs

and interact with people. Okay, I got all the dog park too. I don't think that there's that many of those people, but okay, but it's just two categories, you know, there's not like a third. And so I I saw this girl, Teresa, and i'd actually seen her there before, and she's definitely the latter, not the former, you know, very very bubbly, very enigmatic. Okay, those are two big of words for the show, David. Yeah, Well, sorry to use big words. I just meant, you know, she's hot.

And see, friend, that's better. That's much more our enigmatic or whatever to speak our language. She hot, I like her. That's really all we needed. So you started talking to her, and I'm making fun of it because in your email you said that that was your line. It didn't sound like much of a line. That was my line. And I went up to her and I just very flat I said, is that your dog? And she said no? Wait? Wait were you purposely pointing to a dog that you

knew wasn't hers? No, it was her dog and the dog that I've seen her bring before, and she says, no, not her dog, and that kind of took me back. I don't really know what I was expecting, but she kind of fed into my line. She google, of course, it's my dog, and we had to laugh about that. Okay, so she's funny. That's good. So we started sort of joking about, well, you know, if we were to steal a dog there, which dog would be, you know, fetch the highest bounty on it? And did you guys decide

on one dog to steal? Yeah, we kind of looked at the husky. You mean you could probably, you know, fetch your pretty penny expensive breed. I see where you're going exactly. And so then to kind of keep the joe going, I said, well, you know where we can go see a lot of other expensive dogs and she says, no where, and I said, well, I'll show you on our date. Oh, just telling her that you're going to go on a date with me, Yeah, I'm pretty proud of that one. And then what did she do to that?

She bat her eyes at you and say, oh, send you are such a chaad. We'll just tell me when you're going to pick me up. It was close. It was close. I think she liked, you know, somebody coming along with initiatives, and yeah, you know, I knew what I wanted, okay, and she obviously wanted it too. Because I am guessing you guys went on a date. We did. We did go on a date, and the date was to a restaurant that I know that also happens to be across the street from a dog groomer. It's across

from a dog groomer. I mean, in my head, I was like, oh, it's across the street. It will be funny, you know, I thought she would find it funny. Oh now I'm thinking you're starting to milk the joke a little too much. Well, this is why I'm calling, because I thought everything was going well. And we ordered, they brought us drinks, and as we were waiting for the food, she says to me, hey, you know, look, David, uh, I don't think this is going to work out? Oh what?

I guess she was direct with you as well. She had you hadn't even gotten through dinner and she's already decided it's not going to work. We hadn't even gotten dinner. Whoa Wow, what did you say to that? I asked her, I said, was it? Did I say something? Something I said? And she said, no, Look, I'm really sorry. I just can't do this and that's it. And that was it. So, I mean, she she apologized. I think she understood that she was cutting it really short. Yeah, that would drive

me nuts, not knowing why. And that's I think that's what's really getting me, because she was really sweet about it. It wasn't rude and mean, she was really nice to go who I wanted to take out. So you can't you can't even be angry at her, exactly. Yeah. So she left and I've texted her several times and I have not heard anything. That's Wait, did you eat your whole dinner before she left her? No? I ate my dinner and half her her dinner. She was gone at

that point, right, Yeah, ye, sweet double dinner. I like it. Nothing wrong with double dinner. Oh got rejected. Why do you think that she would just leave like that? Then? I'm guessing I must have said something. I must have made a joke that just didn't You know, I try to crack a lot of jokes. People tell me I'm not funny, but I think they just don't get them. Yeah, that's usually what it is, David. That's the best way

to do it. You know. If you think you're funny and people don't agree, screw it you for you're funny. So I'm I'm guessing it was that, but it's sort of kind of eating at me. I just kind of want to know. Well, we'll play a song, come back, and then call her and get your second day update. All right, Hey, thank you guys. Yeah, man, hang on Brookbil in the morning if you're just joining us for today's second date update. We have David on the phone

and he wants to call a girl named Teresa. They met at the dog park and then ended up making plans to go to dinner. When they went to dinner, she excused herself before they even had the food and said she had to leave and just kind of left him there. And he has no idea why she took off. And David, I've got three theories for you. Oh yeah, that's the right response, David. First theory was that maybe her ex boyfriend was a waiter at that restaurant she

had to just get out of there. Second theory, maybe she just wanted to see your dog again, and you didn't bring your dog on the date, so she didn't want to hang around with you. Is a cute dog. Third theory never actually happened at all. You dreamt the whole thing, and you currently still dreaming, David, And then this whole thing is less embarrassing if it's the third one. You did nothing wrong in the third scenario. You did. I gave you her number? Right? Are you saying you

want me just to get to the phone call? Then you're tired of my theories? Yeah? I mean I guess we could explore that later, but maybe if we first, Yeah, let's get to the phone call. All right, Well, dollar phon number right now? Okay, here we go. That's what I'm looking Okay, Hi, Hi, aspect to Teresa please this is her? Hey Teresa, how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. I'm sorry who jew Bil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's

a radio show. Um, I think you might have the wrong number. I don't think I do. I got your number from one of our listeners who wanted me to call you. Yeah for what? Well, valid question. It is a good question. So we do a segment on our show. It's called the second Date Updates. So you went out with the dude that you met at the dog park recently. His name's David, and David told us a little bit about your date, and he's confused why you just took

off before dinner even got there. I mean, I just this is one of those things, like I just knew it wasn't going to work out. He said that, you said that, but he still doesn't know why. I don't understand why it matters it Like I'm just I'm not interested. Yeah, I think we know that, and I think David knows that too, because we talked to him. But he's just curious,

like he wants to know what he did wrong. I mean, it's just like we were at dinner and he's nice, he just doesn't stop talking, and he just it's so exasperating. Like I would be in the middle of a conversation and he would just keep interrupting me over and over and over again. Anytime he would ask me a question about myself, and I'd be like thank God, like finally, like you know, he'll come up for air and I can actually like offer some sort of information about myself.

I would get three words and he would just jumper it back end and interrupt me and turned the conversation back around on him. So he talked a bunch, didn't really ask you about yourself, and then only wanted to talk about himself. Yeah, I mean, it was just like it got to the point where I just like I couldn't be talked at anymore, you know what I mean, Like,

I just it was too much. Yeah, but you I mean, in his defense, he was probably nervous, and you weren't even at the date long enough to really feel the pain of being talked at that long. I mean, I was in a lot of pain for being talked at. I don't know what kind of pain he was in, but I was in a lot. Well, at least she got out before you had to sit there for like an hour or two and just listen to him talk about himself and you not be able to say a word. Right,

Why do you think I left? I couldn't. I just couldn't. It was just too much, like I couldn't do it. I think I'm sorry. I can't bag you on this one. I feel like that's so rude. You couldn't, like, the worst thing that happened is you have to listen to a guy for an hour? Do you still take do you know? Like I don't know, I feel like you might not. That's all right, I'm married, You're right, okay, Yeah, you just cut it and get out of there while

you were still able to salvage your evening. Maybe yeah, I just you know, especially coming out of a relationship, it's like I just want to be out with a guy and be able to have a conversation with them where like seriously, like they're not going to interrupt me every two seconds and I can actually tell them a little bit about And I feel like I don't think that I was trying to interrupt you, Like I wasn't trying to cut you off. Just did Yeah, who's that? Well,

that's David. He's actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you or at you, I don't know, but he's on the other line. I wants to talk to you. Are you kidding me, Teresa? I I've never tried to interrupt you. I mean, I did not think that you were an interesting we're trying, but you did. I mean, well, when what I mean, I feel like we were only out for twenty minutes. How How could I have talked over you the whole time? David? Do you even remember anything about me aside from the fact

that I have a dog? Like, can you tell me any any fact about me at all? Yeah? I remember that you work at the dentist you're dental hygienas. And I told you the story about my cab. Not a dental hygienas. No, what do you do, Teresa? I work at a yoga studio. Oh god, I never said that, not one. That's what it was. It was your sister is a dental hygienas and your Okay, yeah, I remember now, yes, because my cousin is also a dental en sister is a dental hygienas, and so I knew about the intricacies

of this. Professionally, you're doing well, I started talking to you. Were doing right now, David. David, you see what's wanting right now? You just turned this whole thing right around and made it about you. No one cares about your cousin. She has a point, David. I mean I was backing her on maybe leaving a little bit earlier and not giving you a chance. But maybe she read you right. Buddy. Look, no, but I wasn't. I'm not trying to argue. I'm not trying to talk. I'm just trying to say that I

was listening. Maybe I get the details wrong, but I try to listen listen. I don't really hear what you're saying, but I listen to the sound. David, if you're in a class and then you go and you have to take a test, just because you were in the class doesn't mean you're going to pass the test if you weren't listening because you didn't retain any information and I don't remember the test after the stake, right, That's not what she's saying. David is using it as an analogy. No,

I am listening. I just God, you're not listening. There's five other people in this conversation and you're not listening to any of about ways. I'm really sorry. I'm sorry. I apologize, Like, how can I be better? I just have to listen, Like conversation is a given take, you know what I mean? Like if I wanted to just have a guy talk at me, I would throw on a podcast. Like you just need to pay attention and if you feel like you're not getting something, out of

a conversation with somebody. I question. I did not feel that way. I didn't feel like I wasn't getting something out of the conversation. I wanted to contribute and make the conversation better. You know, you were making it all about you. That's that's exactly what you were doing. The whole thing was about you. He doesn't quite get it yet, but I do feel like David is asking the right questions on trying to improve himself. You can give him

some credit for that, right, Teresa. I mean bare minimum credit, okay, deliver of credit. And I think that means that you guys should go out again. Teresa, would you like to go on a second date with David? Will pay for it? I like that you have to dangle the carrot of you paying for it? Well, help sometimes, will you do it? I mean, I don't think that he's actually learned anything like I don't think I can actually, I don't think I can put up with another twenty. But you're the

one who's not listening. Oh my god, No, I mean I was listening. I mean I know that her sister is a dental hygenis and that she likes yoga, and I don't like yoga. That's what I teach. That's what I do. Well, why you don't like it? You work in it and you don't like it. Okay, you can't technicality, this is a quart of law. What is going on? Well, I figured if you got into tea, I knew you

taught yoga. Like, sorry, I'm getting a little frustrated because all I just wanted to do was talk to you and get to know you better and have you get to know me. But apparently you didn't want to get to know me. So wait, you're turning it around now, it's really what it feels like. If feels like you know, I call in and now it's everybody attacked. David Show, No, David, David. I think I think everybody agrees here that you just have some areas to improve. And that's what you called

in about the second date four. You wanted to know what you did wrong. She told you, And yeah, that hurts a little bit, but it's where we're at it. Remember we talked about it. It's a successful second date. I don't think so. I think that the conversation is double sided like the tape, and you let people contribute, you let them be a part of the conversation. Just because it's your story doesn't mean I can't tell my

story too, especially if my story is more interesting. Yeah, I think that's the point where we know that I will not be going on on the second day. Really, that surprises completely surprised by that. Thank you for your time, and David, I'm sorry you didn't get a second date. Man, don't worry, there's plenty of other fish in the dog park. In the morning text in at seven eighty five to nine two and says, can you tell me what that

second day update was about? Again, I wasn't listening Brooke and Jewil in the morning if you missed today a second day update. This dude, David wanted to call Teresa. She actually bailed like twenty minutes into their date. While they were talking, she said, yeah, this isn't working for

me and left, and he didn't know why. So we got her on the phone and we found out the reason that she wasn't calling him back and didn't want to hang out with him was because he didn't listen to a word that she said, and he kept interrupting her and talking about himself instead. Yeah, I thought she was a being like unfair only giving him twenty minutes into the date, and then after we talked to him for a while, like like kind of getting during the

second day update. Yeah, she's just like, dude, I just don't have the energy for this anymore. She's like, you know how hard that is to talk to someone and not have him listen. He's like, yeah, I do know how hard that is because one time I was listening. I was talking and someone was listening to me, like stop bringing it back on yourself the whole time, so that they decided to not go out again. But I think he'll be just fine. He's got himself to hang

out with, so he's good. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Ninety two point five