Second Date Update PODCAST: Cups of Love

and it loves me. I bet it loves you too. And Oscar is on the phone today to do a second date update, and apparently he also has an office romance, but unfortunately his office romance isn't as successful as mine and my computers because his office romance isn't calling him back. What's up, Oscar? Hey, how's it going? Guys? Pretty good? Man? Do you work in the same office every day with this girl? Well? Yeah, we're squeam across the hall, you know.

Oh my gosh, that's awkward. And you guys went out on a date together. Yeah, she started like a few months ago, you know. Okay, so she's new there. Yeah, she's just super cute, you know, and she just got this like awesome laugh and it sounds stereotypical, but like, yeah, I just kind of felt her. And uh, okay, wait before we get too far into this, how does your company feel about in her office romance? Like, are you

going to get in trouble? It's a pretty loose office, so I mean there are a couple of people right now who are dating each other. So I mean it's almost like you work at a restaurant where everybody everybody. It sounds like to me every time I've ever worked at a restaurant, everybody's dating everybody. Okay, so how did

you finally ask this girl out? Well, ever since she started, like, it's been one moment after the other, I'm trying to find a way to ask her out, and you know, there would always be something in the way, like she'd be talking to a co worker or something. And finally I was just minding my own business and the break room and she was talking to another worker about she always wanted to go ice skating but she's never gone. And the next day you showed up at work with

ice skating gear on. Weird. I didn't know you were in ice skating at all. That's strange. I just I wear this stuff sometimes because you never know when an ice skating rink is gonna just break out somewhere, very low key way of doing it. It was close. Yeah, So what'd you do? Interrupt her conversation with another coworker

and said, I'll take you ice skating. So I played it cool, and later in the day I did find some time when she was by herself and I went up to her and it was just like, look, I overheard you that you wanted to go ice skating, and you know, what, do you want to go with me? I can skating? I mean it will be a fun time. And she actually said yes, nice, okay, yeah, yeah, are you into ice skating? You know it's not my like I've done ice skating, you know, but I know how

to skate, okay. You know, I think it's a great first state. I totally agree anytime you can do an activity with somebody, it's always a good time. And how did it go? So we ended up going that weekend, and you know, she felt a couple times I helped her and was so romantic, you know, it was it was, Yeah, there were there were moments, you know, it just seemed like a really good time and it just felt like romantic.

It was nice. Okay, but she's she's not she's not calling you back, right, Yeah, she's calling me back, and she's not talking to me at work, so I know. Yeah, so clearly you did something wrong if you won't even talk to you at the office. Yeah, I U and I'm I'm racking my head. I mean, I feel like there's like maybe one thing that could have happened on the date. That's the only thing. I feel like, what was it? What was the one thing? So I have skated a lot, but I'm not the best skater, and

you know, I was skating. She was keeping her balance and I started to fall down and I accidentally grabbed her hair and we both fell down together pretty snatch her by the hair and threw her to the ground. An accident. It was an accident. What did she say? Was she like? I mean, she was hurting and as was I, but by the end we were laughing. Okay, she didn't think that. You just were like skating behind her and were like, screw this. You know what, I

never did have my chance to play hockey. Let's get a little rough right now. She knew she knew it was an accident. Okay, I feel relieved. I'm glad like it wasn't extended awkward that that doesn't seem like a reason not to call somebody back. It's actually pretty funny. Yeah, no, totally. I couldn't agree with you more. I mean, I feel like that's the only weird moment that I can think of that could have been, you know, a deal breaker. But what was the end of your date, Like, did

you guys kiss? Did you make more plans? So at the end of the night, took her back to her place and at the door, good night, kiss on the cheek. Kiss. All right, that's still a positive, definitely. Yeah. Okay, and you said that she's not even talking to you at work. Yeah, it's uh, the last few days have been kind of weird. Um. There was actually this one time I walked into the break room and she straight up turned around and walked out. Oh wow, so you must have done something bad then.

I don't know what I did. I really need to know what I did. I did. You need to repair this for a lot of reasons, not just a second date reason. Yeah, I mean, I just want to make sure things are okay and so even if you don't get another date out of this, at least you hope that we can like make things cool between you guys, so you can still work in the same building. Yeah, at least I can find out. But what's wrong with

me If there's a big deal, I don't know. All right, we'll play a song, come back, call her and get your second date update. Okay, cool, thanks so much? All right, man, hang on king jubil in the morning's right in the middle of a second date update. And if you're just joining us, Oscar is on the phone and today he wants to call a girl named Rachel. Their first date

included everything laughing, good conversation. Penalty for unnecessary roughness when he threw her to the ground sounds worse without the context, but they went ice skating together and at one point he was falling and accidentally grabbed her hair and pulled her down by her hair. He says, they laughed about it, and she realized that it wasn't anything he did on purpose. So he doesn't think that's the reason that she's not calling him back, but it's the only thing that he

can think of. And remember, they did meet at work. Their co workers, and ever since their date, she hasn't talked to him on text, phone anything. And actually she saw him in the break room the other day and turned around and walked out. So we're about to get her on the phone and find out what he did wrong on their date. You're about ready to go, Oscar, Yes, I just really want to know what's going on, you know, like I nobody seems to know, or they're they're acting

like they don't know. Okay, So you've asked co workers like, hey, have you heard anything? Yeah, just like you know, is she cool? Like, what's what's going on? And like they don't know. So either she hasn't said anything to anybody or they're all keeping a big secret from you. This is the best office drama ever. Why doesn't this stuff happen in our work? All right? Come on, yeah, you probably don't want that. All right, Well, I'm gonna dollar phone number right now and see if we can get

on the phone. Okay, okay, all right, here we go. Hello, Hi is Rachel there, Ah, This is Raael, Hey Rachel, how are you. This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. It's a morning radio show. Um, I don't I'm not familiar. Do you own a radio? Yes, in my car? I do. Cool. Well, sometimes we're on that thing. One of our listeners actually emailed us asking if we could call you. Oh, okay, who is that?

His name is Oscar? Oh my god, you're so excited leading up to it, and Uh, Oscar told us about how he finally got up the nerve to ask you on a date the other day. Yeah, and he told us about your date and he thought everything went great. But now apparently you're not calling him or texting him back, and also you're avoiding him at work. So he asked if we could get you on the phone and find out if he did something wrong. Cool, I said, the

sarcasm there. Yeah, this is a weird situation. Do you mind telling us what went wrong so that we can let Oscar know and maybe at least make things a little less awkward at work. Oh? I just I just don't know what to say to him, you know. I well, I don't want to say. If you say it to us, maybe we can say it to him in a way that won't hurt his feelings. Uh, all right, what did he do? The date? So it's super sweet? The ice skating. Yeah. I mean I had a great time on the date.

It wasn't necessarily a date that was the bad thing. So what was the bad thing? Then? Well, you know, we work in the same office, so I just kind of found out some information about him that kind of freaked me out a little bit. To be honest, Oh my gosh, shut up, you heard office gossip about him? I did. I did. From who was it someone that you consider like a friend or was it someone who

you think would be jealous that you guys went out. No, it's my friend and she's happily married, so I believe her. So what was the office gossip? I don't want to tell you, guys, because I don't want to embarrass him if it's not true. You know, like I said, if you tell us, maybe we can find a creative way to tell him. That doesn't make it super strange. Plus, if there was something going around about you at the office, you'd want to know, so at least you could clarify

whatever it is. That's true. That's true. Um, So you know, all of our co workers knew we were going out, So of course when I came back, my one friend's like, how did it go? And I was just telling her it was good, it was it was a nice date. Yeah and uh. And then she of course started asking more detailed questions, and she said, did he do the thing? Did he do the thing? Well, sounds like he's got quite a reputation. I don't know about Oscar. When Oscar

takes ladies out, he does this thing. Did he do it to you? He's done it to all of us in the office. No, No, it wasn't like that. So what's his thing? Then? Well, I kept asking her and she said, well, did he do the hot coco thing? This is sounding even worse and worse in my mind, better and better depended on what you like. That's true, I mean it goes with the date. Um. So I'm like, oh, no, we didn't have any hot coco, and she goes, no, did he bring the us? And so apparently, oh my gosh,

I don't want to tell this. Um, Apparently he has been collecting you know those plastic cups when in the breakroom where you get coffee and stuff. Yeah, he's been collecting the ones that I'm drinking out of, like when we'll have a nice conversation at work, and writing the date on the Yeah, weird, he's been collecting your coffee cups. Yeah, what was Okay, so what was the hot coco thing? I mean, that's weird already, but yeah, I think he was gonna like serve us hot coco out of the

cups that he collected and like weird and unsanitary. Yeah, I know. So wait what was she not freaked out by this? She thought it was going to be something cool. I mean she thought it was cute. I mean she also thinks he's like sweet Teddy Bear Oscar. You know, she's a friends with him. Okay, so in her mind, he can't do anything creepy, right, She's like, oh, he's showing his affection. But to me, I'm like, that's a little weird. Yeah, it's basically like taking locks of your

hair exactly. It's like taking Maybe he's trying to create a new un a peach redition his apartment somewhere. You know, maybe that's the gossip going around. If you backed up and you took her criticism of who he is. He's obviously a nice guy. It sounds nice, but at the end of the day, he's literally going into the trash can and collecting the coffee cups I drink out of. Okay, yeah, I know. I'm trying to spin it for him, but I don't know that I can. I don't think anybody can.

I wonder if Oscar can even save himself and Rachel. I do have to let you know that you did actually say it to Oscar because he's on the other line. Listener wants to talk to you. No, you guy, Yeah, Oscar, are you there? Yeah? Yeah, what's up with the cups? Man? Guys, don't make it worse. I can't believe they told you about it. I mean they were They ruined everything. I mean, they ruined the surprise. I mean it would have been weird anyway. It's like, either way, it would have been

kind of creepy. I feel like if you've just seen it, it wouldn't have been as creepy like hearing it from someone else. Yeah, I get it, it might it might come off creepy, but it was gonna be a whole thing. I was gonna, you know, lay the cups in a certain way and a presentation. There were gonna be candles. It's gonna be super romantic, and it was like kind

of a literal trip down memory length. But we don't have that many memories, not that you know of, Rachel, but it sounds like Oscar has a lot of great memories. That's my point, Like we have memories. Each cup is a memory, and every every cup has I wrote down what we talked about, and then that's that's it. Okay, So how how many of the cups do you have? It's it's it's not that many. I mean, it's it's

like twelve. Well did you say twelve? Twelve? I don't even remember having twelve comments, like we don't even know each other that well. I mean that's I like, I get how it can be sweet, but you also kind of see my point of view. Yeah, I know, I totally understand. I realized that it would be weird, and that's why, you know, I was just taking my time. I was going to show you in a couple of days time. I mean, that's that's that was a plan. I just don't even think that's like enough time to

show me something like that, Like it's just creepy. Yeah, Oscar, you only show somebody when they're two years in and they're already so invested that they can't leave because they're a weirdo who collectible cup? You guys, you guys just don't get it, Okay, I mean I still think it's

a very romantic gesture. I think that it shows like an attention to detail, that someone really, you know, cares about you and and like it isn't just like trying to do like a light casual thing and it's a it's a little misguided, but he did, like for months months, think that you were awesome and try so hard to find his end to even ask you out. And for me, like each cup, it's not just a piece of plastic, it's it's a memory, you know, that we shared and

that we we talked about stuff. You know. Somehow, Oscar, this is beginning to be romantic for me, Like you, it's morphed from being really creepy into like, okay, that's kind of sweet. He's tried. At least he's tried. Do you agree with that, Rachel? I mean, Oscar, you're a great guy. I wouldn't have agreed to go out, But isn't there like another way you could have done it then digging my dirty cups out of the trash? I mean, I could have you know, collected your staples or something.

I mean, I just feel like a cup has an energy to it, something that you know, just signifies that you know that it's a moment, you know. Yeah, it's gone from creepy to sweet back to being weird. Yeah, Rachel, would you like to go out with Oscar for a second date? We will pay for it. I don't think that he's like a weird, creepy dude. I think that he's just a little misguided in the romance delment. As long as the cups are the only thing you're collecting

for real though, long Yeah, that's true. If you just don't bring any mementos, like I feel like I'd be open to kind of a normal like dinner date or something. Maybe if it's a second day with you, I will let go of the cups. Wow, that's a big commitment, Rachel's Oscar will throw out his creepy stalker cups if you'll go out with him again. I will burn those cups right now. That sounds creepy to me for some reason. Now he's gonna be thinking about when you met and

just burning it. Rachel. Yeah, that's kind of like a weird day on But you know, I've already made my decision. I'm cool with it all right. Well, congratulations you got a second date Oscar. Yes, and Rachel, thank you for your time. Thank you, and start bringing your own coffee mug to work. I'm really surprised, but there is a lot of support on the text message board. At seven eight five nine two for the guy from today's second date update, somebody texted in said, I mean, it's weird,

but it's also charming. I get the meaning. Every cup of coffee you share with someone is a little conversation that you had to me. It makes sense if you missed the second date update. Oscar wanted to call a girl named Rachel. They worked together and they went out

on a date. She wasn't calling him back. He found out the reason she wasn't calling back was after that date, one of her co workers, a friend of Oscars as well, let her know that Oscar has been saving every single coffee cup that they've shared together in the break room, not his coffee cup hers. He grabs Hi out of the trash can saves him, wrote down what they talked about, and his big plan was to present them to her on their first state, but he didn't do it. Thank God.

And then she found out from a coworker, was like, yeah, that's creepy, but once he explained it, she found it kind of romantic. I think it sort of is it made the transition. I'm in support of him, But then when I look at my own history, the more romantic the man, the crazier he turns out being. Well, I think we all know Oscar's crazy, but yeah, I hopeless romantic. Nonetheless,

they did agree to go out on a Seconday. Remember, if you want to do a second day update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back fast and wh