Second Date Update PODCAST: Cheater Freak Out

be one honest website for cheaters out there? It's just ridiculous. Explain why I say that in just a second. But first let's introduce you to today's second dater. Her name is Aaron. Aaron, how are you? I'm okay, how are you good? Thank you for your email. We'll get into the whole cheating thing in just a second. But you want to call a guy named Adam? Yeah? Okay? And how did you meet Adam? We actually met at a party.

I was just chatting with some friends and he actually ended up coming up and he hadn't striped up a conversation and right in front of your friends. That's that's pretty ballsy movie. Yeah. I was pretty impressed. I thought, Okay, did you like elbow your friends out of the way, like, hey, it's time now my conversation, not yours. She's mine. No, no, no, he was really like fun about it. He was like,

excuse me, ladies, this is a beautiful girl. I would love to chat with her, like steal her away for a second. That's really I know. I was really impressed. I was like, okay, okay, had you been eyeing him all night too? No? No, I actually didn't see him prior to that, but once I did, I was like, oh, yeah, he's cute. So what did you guys talk about? Um, we just chatted about like what we do for living. So your email said that you guys went out for dinner.

How did that go? We again, had wonderful conversation, no laws, no awk moments. It was a Wednesday night, so we both have worked the next morning, so there's no like sleepover. And I'm not that kind of girl. I read your email. Yeah yeah, so you obviously know why this guy's not calling you back. Yes I do. Unfortunately I let my

emotions get the best of me, that's for sure. So I looked him up online and I come across his Facebook page and I see on his profile his profile picture is like him and a girl and he's like whispering into the girl's ear and they're like both laughing, and they look like to me, it looked like he had a girlfriend, and I was immediately suspicious. Well yeah, yeah, And so I was really mad because I have a

history of people cheating on me. Plus, how dare he like go and have a date with somebody else when he might be with this girl, you know, like I felt bad for the girl. So I called him up immediately and freaked out because I was like, how dare you invite me on a date? And so you called him up and yelled at him? Oh yes, did you cuss at him and stuff like that? Ah? Yeah, I was just mad. It was just so angry. I really let him have it. What did he say when you

were yelling at him? Though? I mean, you guys went out on one date? Because I was yelling so much, I didn't even let him get a word in. That's how angry I was. So did you ever ask him like do you have a girlfriend? To make sure that he actually did? No? Because I was just like how I just was freaking out? So you just called him up? As for the phone he was like hello, and you're like you cheating after Yeah, kind of, I just freaked out,

and I'm really trust me. I am really mad at myself for it because I actually like him, and I didn't give him a chance to explain, and now now he won't pick up my call. Do you know that that girl in the picture wasn't his girlfriend or something? Or you still don't? You still have no idea who that is? I have no idea. With the world of Facebook, everything else is private except that picture. I really don't know because his sister. It could have been a girlfriend,

it could have been a friend. I don't know. I just feel really bad that I yelled at him instead of giving him a chance and listening to what he had to say to Yeah, that probably would have been a better option to at least go hey, question for you to have a girlfriend? Not as soon as the answers. Just call him a cheater and a liar. And have you tried to apologize since? Yeah? Oh of course, I mean, you know, those lengthy texts and I tried to call,

but no answer. And I am really really mad at myself for letting my emotions get the best to me. You know how you seem though, right, like you seem crazy crazy because you guys went on one day. Okay, but you know and you can't really, I mean, how are you going to come back from that? If he in fact single? I don't know, but I think I can apologize and leave him in the driver position in terms of if we could get a second date, and maybe you can explain to him that you've been cheated

on before. And so you jump the gun exactly like, let's let's both has this out because I'm so sorry I reached out. But all right, well we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update. All right, thank you, hang on looking cubile. In the morning, Aaron is on the phone with us today to do a second date update. She wants to call a dude named Adam that she met at a party. Aaron, I have to ask you real quick before we get into this. Did you notice if Adam is a strong man? Like

is he strong? Does he look like he's got like, you know, muscles, and I mean he was lean? Okay, Well, I'm just wondering because I'm assuming if he does go out with you again, he's gonna need to be able to carry a lot of baggage. Okay, I'm not crazy one, I just okay. If you're just tuning in for the second date update, Aaron is on the phone because she went out on a date with Adam, but after the date, she stocked his Facebook and there was a picture of

him with another girl. It looked like it could have been his girlfriend. She freaked out, called him, yelled at him, called him a cheater, then hung up on him, didn't even get to hear his side of the story. And that's the last she's ever talked to him. So we're gonna call him the day one, find out if that was his girlfriend, to let you try to apologize if it wasn't his girlfriend, and three somehow see if we

can get another date for you. Thank you. All right, Well, I'm gonna dial the phone of him right now and see what he says. Try not to yell at him before we get the information out. All right, Hi, can I speak to Adam? Please? Yeah? Adam, how are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Um, from what Brooke and Jewil in the Morning The radio show? Yeah a radio show? Yeah? Did I wake you up? Oh? Yeah, I don't know. I can't do a radio show. You can't do a radio No, I don't want you to

do a radio show. I want to just I'm calling from a radio show and I just want to talk to you for a second. I don't know, man, smart, I don't think I haven't. What did you say? Are you you're a radio show? Yes? I mean somebody send us an email about you and asked if we could get you on the phone and talk to you for a few minutes about something. Okay, wait, what is it?

What we do on our show called the second Date Update. Basically, if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up not calling them back after that date, they have us see if we can get you on the phone and ask what went wrong? Oh, okay, the girl that wanted me to call you today knows what went wrong after the date, but she wanted me to see if we can get you on the phone and kind of smooth things over. And what girls Her name

is Aaron. You probably remember because she recently yelled at you and called you a cheater and then hung up on it. Man, I don't I don't think I can deal with that. You just talked to us for a few minutes about the date, because it's got to be weird. I'm just curious, from like a guy's perspective, how weird that is. You got on a date with a girl one time and then she gets home and starts yelling at you and calling you a cheater. I don't even know what happened there, like she I mean, she called

up and then she just started screaming at me. Did she explain why she thought you were a cheater? It was pretty hard to tell. There was a lot of there's a lot of cuss work going at race. I'll tell you why she did that. She said, after the date, she went to your Facebook page and saw a picture of you, like cut it up with some girl, and then she just flipped out and thought that you must be cheating on that girl or trying to get a date with her when you were in a relationship. Is

that true? Don't I don't know what. I don't know what that girls deal was, man't. So I'm assuming that's why you don't want to go out with her again, because she says she's tried to apologize to you. I mean, well, what's what's the point man? If that's if that's what's going to happen. I don't want to That's understandable. If a girl called me up after a first date and yelled at me for being a cheater when she didn't even know the story, I would be a little bit

apprehensive about dating her. Yeah, I'm not. I'm just I'm not in the mood to be going out with girls right now. I'm just take a little break, I think. Wouldn't you want to just like hear what she has to say, though, let her apologize. Maybe. I mean, I guess it's just not really perfect. Oh, it's good that it's good that you say that, because she's actually on the other line listening. What Yeah, yeah, Adam, Yeah, I'm

really sorry. I can't believe I overacted like that. Wait, wait, hold, hold on, hold on, you're on the other line, Like, what's what's going on? Oh? I was trying to get a hold of you, and this seemed to be the only way I could get a hold of you. And I wanted to just explain myself, and have you explained yourself, because I obviously wasn't listening the other night, and I really wanted to apologize for that. Oh my God, So what do you have to say to her? Apology? Adam?

I mean you don't. You don't have to apologize, you know. I mean, you're right, I am. I am a cheater, but I mean I have cheated. I didn't cheat on you. I mean after one date? What is that? But okay, well then who's that picture with on your Facebook? The picture that's just some goal? Oh okay, I didn't whatever that means after one date. But I have cheated on a number of girls before, like a lot of girls. So I'm confused. What are you confused about? I cheat?

I get bored, like I get bored with one girl in white cheat. So that was your girlfriend and you were cheating? No, I wasn't, but I would after that call, I probably would have cheated on you, but it wouldn't have mattered, Like I would have found a season, I would have found another girl. You're right to not would date me. It's okay, I get it. Why can't you just tell me this? Why couldn't you just pick up the phone or enter my text and just be like, hey,

actually I'm not into this. No, I mean I was. I was into you, but i'm and I still kind of am but I think I would eventually cheat on you, so at least you're being honest, Adam. I'm so confused that you haven't cheated on her, but you know you will in the future, and that's why you can't go out on another date with her. Yeah, definitely not that, Not that I really want you anyways, because it seems like that's how you see and treat women, and that's disgusting.

So look, I have cheated over thirty times with different girls, and it's just I get bored and I hook up with some random girl at a bar, and then you know, I know I'm going to do it again. So so you sort of preemptively not calling her back because you know that you would date her and then end up cheating on her. That's actually kind of nice of you, in a very weird and immature way, it really is.

I mean, at least he's telling you now so that you don't get cheated on, especially if you've been cheated on before. Aaron, Yeah, yeah, yeah, glad, I wrote a whole email and took the time to call you. But Adam, why not just go on dates then and hang out with girls and have a good time and just be honest that you can't be in a relationship with them. I don't know. I think I think I just have

a problem. It's probably just more fun and exciting when you're in the relationship to Oh my god, I don't know. So are you proud of the cheating? Because you don't necessarily sound proud of it. It's just a part of who I am. I don't know. I get bored. You don't also sound remorseful either, like you're in this matter of fact way, this is it? Yeah, I mean, what do you want me to do? I'm just a cheater and I guess she called me out on it before

I had a chance to cheat on her. So all right, at this point, I would love to ask, if you will go out on another date with Aaron, we'll pay for it. Well, I don't know how it works, like do you give a gift card or like some sort of like some sort of trip or something. But because I don't know if I'm gonna take her, I might take someone else. Just pay for your date with somebody at random. I'm just being honest, man, Like that's how this that's how this goes. Oh my god, I cannot

leave this right now. Basally aaron I. Guess it goes to show you just trust your gut the next time. Yeah, we're all ripping on you for calling him up and just assuming that he was cheating and yelling at him. But from now on, any guy you date feel free to yell at him whenever you want, because you are correct. Broken jewel in the morning,