Second Date Update PODCAST: Busted for Betrayal

seeing anybody else. And then some people like Lucille who's on the phone, will do something incredibly weird, weirder than what you just said. Yeah, like something I've never heard of before. What like that'll go on another date. People that's normal, Like they'll go on a date with somebody new. That's weird to me, Lucille, I'm hard to give it another try. Yeah, but geez, come on, take some time and totally freak out and have a breakdown first. Yeah,

ice cream? Oh god, whatever you do, do not take breakup advice from jubil Flag. Okay, well, your email said that you're recently out of a breakup and this was like the first date you were going on, So tell us a little bit about it. What's the dude's name. It's name is Andrew, and this girl I worked with had been going crazy. You have just saying, oh my gosh, he's perfect for you. You have to go out with him.

He was made for you. Lah lah lah. And finally, you know, after enough ice cream, I was like, Okay, I'm ready to get back out there again. That's a lot of pressure, though, to set it up like that, like this is a guy. Yeah, but you know, I have to say he seemed really great. But it was a weird night. He cried a bunch of about your X while you guys were out on a date. It's weird. I I'm really proud of myself that that's not what

was going on. But literally, like as I was driving to meet him for dinner, I got a call and found out that a bunch of my friends from work had just been fired. And oh no, that's including my friends who set us up all that stuff. That sucks. That's like the worst news. And you weren't fired, just all your friends were. No, No, I wasn't, but yeah, there was a whole group. And so like I found this out just minutes before I'm walking in the door to meet him, and so my phone is blowing up.

Everybody's texting trying to figure out who else impacted and what happened to why You're like, why does nobody care that I have a date? I understand. Why has it got to be all about them? You know, really what it was? So, I mean, that was so heartbreaking, and I'm so wrapped up in that that this is so embarrassing. I kept looking at my phone and I was dealing with all this stuff. When I looked at my phone again, Andrew had texted me a picture of the menu. No, man,

that's when I was. I was trying so hard not to you know, I just kept saying, I'm so sorry. You know, I'm just have something big going on right now because I didn't want to spill the beams, you know. You know, it's our mutual friend who was one of the people impacted, and I felt like it really wasn't my place to share that. So he didn't even know exactly why you were obsessed with your phone. No, I was trying so hard not to ruin the date, you know.

At the same time, my heart was like breaking for all my friends. I wanted I wanted to be there, and I wanted to give it a shot, and you know, obviously I just didn't do a good job of that. Did you ever tell him why you were obsessed with your phone? When he sent me a picture of the menu as a text and asked if I thought, you know, maybe i'd want to order at some point, that's so when like, I just, oh, I wanted to cry because I'm realizing that I'm completely ignoring this great guy who's

sitting in front of me. He has no idea why. It just thinks I'm a total jerk who you know, can't get off of my phone. So that's when I was like, Okay, you know, I have to tell you something. You know, It's like I just found out that a

group of my friends you know, have been fired. And then he was super nice about it, and he suggested, you know, having a rain check and during another time so I could go be with my friends, and yeah, totally, I mean, and you're so distracted, like there's no way you can put the right amount of energy into a date, right, And it made me like him even more because I felt like he was so understanding instead of being like, well, you know, you shouldn't have wasted my time or he

go take care of this, go be with your friends. So is that when you stoo up from the table and ran out of the restaurant or did you guys say goodbye? Oh? No, no, I think I was like goodbye and I could thank you so much, and because I could not have asked for anything more. I mean, he was so caring and considerate for me, and after I'd been kind of bad to him. So I'm guessing that you guys made out after that before you left? Does a real quick makeout? No? Oh no, damn, okay, no,

I just left, I mean it did. I texted him later and thanked him again for being so considerate and said that, you know, I was looking forward to, you know, rescheduling, and now unfortunately it hasn't happened. So why do you think that he doesn't want to go out with you again? I don't know. I was like, maybe he didn't like what I was wearing, Maybe he didn't like the way I Maybe he's just upset because you know the whole thing,

you know with me on the phone. Well, the good thing is it doesn't sound like you've been thinking about it at all. Oh my gosh, I loved fused. It's a setting. Yeah, I'm sure it was the shirt you had on. Then I've heard you know, you wear the wrong sweater and everything's over. You never know. I swear horriful because I'm like, why is why is this not happening? Okay, well we'll play a song, come back, and then call him and get your second day update. All right, Okay,

come up with a few more theories while we're waiting. Okay, I probably will. All right, hang on brooking jubil in the morning. Up, Hey, Lucille, Yeah, before we call the dude that you want to call today, I think maybe I figured it out. I think there was some mixed signals and you didn't pick up on something. What what

do you think I missed? So you showed up to the dinner, you're looking at your phone, and then he noticed so bad that he texted you a picture of the menu from across the table and you saw that and were embarrassed. Right, Yeah, that's horrible. What I think was he sent you the picture of the menu and he was hoping that you would send back a picture of yourself, being like, this is what's on the menu tonight? In my opinion. What O, God, you missed the signal

and that's why he's not calling you back. If that was a signal, I don't think she wants him to call her back. Yeah, maybe he's not as great as I thought. All right, we're about to get him on the phone and find out why he's not calling you back. And just to remind everybody, you had to leave the date early because you were so distracted. And he was actually pretty cool with it and understanding. But he is not really excited about setting up a second date. Yeah,

that sums it up. He's just not really you know, trying to schedule a date. Okay, and your friend who set you up with this guy who she thought this was going to be your dream guy? Has she given you any report on what's going on? Well, she just got fired. I feel bad because I didn't really want to bring it up with her. She kind of has other stuff to deal with. No, it's all about you. Come on, yeah in my world. All right, Well, I'm gonna dial his phone umber right now and see if

we can figure it out. Okay, okay, all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Andrew please? Is Andrew speaking? Hey? What's up? Man? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. This Jewel from the radio show Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Just wondering how you're doing today. Well, I'm kind of busy. Was there a reason for this call? Yeah, yeah, there's a reason. All right, Well what is it? Then? Oh, I'm sorry. You probably wanted me to answer that right

away instead of just answering the reason part. Yeah, that's sort of what I meant when I asked for a reason, what's going on? I'm calling you today because we actually got an email about you from one of our listeners. Her name is Lucille, and you guys went out to dinner recently. Okay, well all right, why does she email you guys? Exactly? Well, we do a segment on our show.

It's called the second Date Update. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then they end up blowing you off after that date, you can email us and we'll get that person on the phone and ask what happened. So I'm guessing she emailed you saying that I'm blowing her off. Yes, she did. Well,

it's kind of a weird situation. I would rather not talk about it, okay, well, but she thought you were pretty cool and also understanding of the fact that she was distracted on her phone the whole time because her co worker, I guess who's a friend of yours, got fired, right, Yeah, so I guess there was a huge like exodus at her work, and this is all happening kind of right when we sat down, and yeah, Lucille just couldn't get

out of her phone because of it. Um. I gotta say, I gotta give you props too, for sending a picture of the menu when she was super distracted. Like, that's a good move, man, that gets your point across. I thought it was a little like passive aggressive, but I didn't know what else to do. I mean, I don't know if you guys been in that situation, but there's no communication. She's got her nose in her phone. I was like, you know, if I send you a picture

the menu, will you look at it? Then? Yeah? The phone? Yeah? I mean I don't know. But once I did Dad, you know, she sort of told me what was happening, and I felt really bad. That was that was rough and kind of kind of put the egg in my face a little bit. But Uh, yeah, because you'd been probably calling her names in your head up until that point, like, oh, I could have went way worse than a tech. Yeah. I was seasy, man, I was looking forward to I was getting to know this girl, and it's just like

stone Wall, I couldn't get by at all. But is that the reason you don't want to go out with her again? Not at all. I mean our friend getting fired with a bunch of their co workers, that's like, that's a serious business. I probably would have done the same thing. Yeah, But but I gotta say I don't feel as that anymore. Why what changed? Well? I uh, I checked in with my friend after the day, like she wanted me to. She was obviously really curious to

see how it went. And I guess she heard that Lucille, while she was quote unquote consoling her friends during this hard time, she shot an email to the boss applying for her friend's job who fired. Yeah, our friend had just got fired. And what she originally said was she was trying to make her feel better. But I find out reality, she's trying to steal her whole job. And that's she I mean, if she does that to one of her best friends, I can only imagine how she

would break my heart. That's just I've I've been down that roadway too many times. But hold on, okay, she's not the one that got her friend fired. No, but come on, get do you do you usually apply for jobs on her first day with somebody I've never heard of them. I'm all I'm saying is that she was trying to make lemonade out of lemons, like she saw an opportunity because everybody else had been let go, and

that was an opportunity to get up promotion. It sounds like I hear that, Hey, make lemonade on lemons whenever you can, but do it in your own house. Don't do it out out at dinner with you know, with someone you just met. That's like they got their own lie there. And this is a little bit too, Like I'm sorry, I'm so distracted. I'm just trying to console my friends and also trying to capitalize on some people

that just lost their jobs. So I get a lot of stuff going on, very shady behavior just in general. And not only is that incredibly rude to me, incredibly backstabbing to her friend. I mean, why would I why would I want to go on a second day with her, I have no idea. And then you can add one more thing to it, because she's actually on the other line listening to this conversation and sort of just tricked you now into speaking with her. Geez, she's on the

other line. You said, yeah, yeah, she's been listening to this whole thing and wants to talk to you. Lucilla there hey oh um yeah, hi hi um, you're listening that whole time. Uh yeah yeah. And I think this was just a huge misunderstanding. Okay, so you have an explanation, so it did happen, then it is correct, It is accurate, that's what you're saying. If there's an explanation that means you did it, I'd love to hear this. Well I did.

I emailed because I mean we all know when stuff when things like this happened, when they they downsize and all that, they reorganized, they shift everything, and you know, I was fairly new there. You know, I don't make a lot of money, and so yeah, I inquired to find out, you know, exactly what was happening if jobs were going to be reposted it because I was hoping that it might be something that's really good for my skill set. So you don't feel bad about this at all?

Are you listening to yourself? I'm sad for my friends, but you cold job. Come on, not like she was going to get it back. Yeah, but this happened the absolute same night that she got fired, going behind her back trying to get that old job. I mean, I don't I don't care how you justify that. That ain't right where I come from. Well, but I mean, clearly

she didn't hunt it. I mean she's still my friends, but as far as work those okay, So so you you told her all about it, then huh is that where you're texting her about at the same time, Are you consoling her and saying, oh, by the way, I'm gonna go and steal your old jobs. No, I haven't told her yet, but it's not like it's a huge secret. I will. I will tell her, but she's dealing with her situation. That's the last thing she needs to hear

that the job she lost could benefit me. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, you're you're a real good friend. Yeah, yeah, a way, that's great timing. Oh my god, it's like, why are you so mad at her? Yes? I agree that her lying about only consoling her friend was wrong and that she shouldn't have done on the date. But like you're like mad from a deep sea the place that she's going to get your friend's job. Well, you know what, you want to know why? I'm upset because I'm the

real friend in this situation and she's not. Oh but it's business man. I mean, like I said, she is not the one they got your guys's friend fired. I hear that talk to the boss in one week, two weeks, but not the same freaking night. Well, while you're on a date too. I think the fact that you're doing that while on a date is probably making it even worse the seal. I totally get that, But there was a small part of you that was super excited about a promotion. Is there any part of you that was

excited about a new first date? So it sounds like you're all about the job and not even about me. So I guess that was it. Yeah, but Andrew, your first date isn't gonna pay her rent? Okay, you know, I was really excited about you. But I'm glad all of this has happened, because now listening to you, I realized you have a temper. You're not the boyfriend material. I thought, Oh, well, don't say that just yet, Lucille. We haven't asked if we'll go on a date with you.

We have to do that before you decided his boyfriend chair or not. Hey, Andrew, would you go on a second date with Lucille? We'll pay for it. Will I go on a date with her? No? Hell no, absolutely not. In fact, I'm more sure of it now than I was before you called. Okay, Well, no problem, I'm not interested anymore. Well yeah, and plus, like, now that this dude's dropped off, I'm sure you're already texting another dude to phill a spot. And I say, good on you, Lucille.

That's what I should have been doing right now. But I'm dying to know, though. Did you get the promotion. I'm one of the final two, so I have a good shot at it. Well, that's great news for you. I'm glad something worked out. I'll send you a carter that you could wait for it in the mail. Say congratulations, Judas you did it in the morning. Texting seven eighty five nine two says the girl from the second date

update is a shark broken Jewbil in the morning. No, she's a human being, but that's not what I think it is. I think they meant literally. I think you're right, Jewel, Yeah, I am like pretty sure she was actually a person.

We can't like even get cell service underwater like that. Yeah, Okay, I don't know what they meant by that comment anyway, If you didn't hear today's second date update, Lucille the person not the Shark, left her date early because on her way to meet Andrew, the dude that she was meeting, she found out that some of her good friends at her company were fired. But when we got Andrew on the phone, we learned a new piece of information. She was worried that because she was on her phone the

whole time, he didn't want to call her back. Well, Lucille left the date to go console her friend eventually, but she also hopped on email that same night to send her boss a note asking to apply for her friend's position. Yeah, and so the guy was like, she's a snake for doing that. Again human but you know, but the guy thought that she was wrong for doing that right after her friend had been fired for trying

to get her job. Some people are texting in a seven eight, five nine two, saying, hey, whatever, it's just business. Another person said, would you rather have an ambitious woman or a friendly woman? We know that all men just want a friendly woman. Ambitious Brooke says, why not screw your friendships over and get yours. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying her timing wasn't right on the day. I agree she should have waited till the morning when she could,

you know, be concentrated on one thing. But dude, it's not wrong to apply for a job that's open just because you happen to be friends with the girl. It's not wrong at all, I think no way. Man. Competition is fierce out there, and if you were not the first one at the door knocking, yes, somebody else is gonna get it. Wait for that stuff. I'm all for applying for the job as soon as possible because you

have to get it. I'm all for planning some sort of recording device in their office to catch some saying bad things. I mean, giving it to the boss so that that position becomes open. I'm for a lot of that stuff. What I'm not for is sending that email in the middle of the date. Though I can understand why that would be, like, hey, just wait like an

hour until the date's over. Anyway, they decided that they're not going to go out again, which is fine because probably the seal is gonna have a lot of work to do soon, so she want to find a date. Anyway, Remember if you want to do a second day up a date, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Movement ninety two points