Second Date Update PODCAST: Awkward Bday Date

to my friends because it's very important to me. So if I take a girl around my friends, I means I'm finally really into her, and then she can meet my friends. And then after meeting them, she goes. They all seem like terrible people. I hate them. You should never talk to them again, and you can only spend time with me from now on. I fall in love

right there instantly. That's what I look for in a woman. Well, George is on the phone today and that's how he spent his second date with the girl that he wants to call today. He spent it meeting her friends at her birthday party. How's it going, George? Good? How are you guys doing pretty good? So where'd you meet the girl that you want to call today? Well, we discovered each other dating app oh, like a tender type of situation. Yep, one of those types of situation. Is it tender? Yes? Okay,

a tender type of situation. It was tender. Yeah, I don't want to claim it right. Yeah. People love doing that like an app on your phone and sometimes you swipe one way, sometimes you swipe the other way. Yeah, one of those. Were you excited about going on a date with her? Are you just looking for a hook up? I mean it's always excited when you get a match on tender, especially your guys think, uh yeah, I was

excited and we just met for coffee. Okay, So where do the friends and birthday party come into play on this thing? I mean, I thought we hit it off. We really enjoyed our company. We had a conversation at the end of the day. She just said, Hey, this might seem weird, but it could be fun. I got my birthday party this Weekend's gonna be friends there and she'd be pretty chill. Do you want to come? That's actually an awesome invite for you for a second date.

Because I don't know, somewhere subconsciously in my head, anytime a girl invites me to a birthday party, even a friend of mine, him thinking like, oh, she wants me to be her present that night? Is that how you felt? I took it as a good sign. Oh my god, I have never thought that invited a guy to my birthday party before? All you guys go quickly so much that comes to being invited to a birthday party. That's what a guy's thinking if he invites you to birthday parties,

Like that is what I want to unwrap later. Did you get her anything for her birthday? Saying, as you barely know her, I brought a bottle of wine. But that was a good gesture. Yeah, it's a perfect gift. Are you kidding me? And was she excited to see you? Yeah? I felt like I was welcome. I thought I felt like I wanted me there. She wanted to invite you to her birthday party and show up. It's like, oh,

you actually shove up? Well, she could have been preoccupied with all of her friends and family, like it'd be easy to not be able to spend a whole lot of time with you. No, No, I got the vibe that she was very excited for me to be there. How did she introduce you to her friends? This is George from tender, or she says a friend of mine, you know, or as a guy I'm dating. Even how she introduced you, Yeah, I think she said friend, this is a friend of mine. We didn't go into details

about tinder. I think that's a good later. But all of her good girlfriends knew, like they all got the lowdown before you showed up. Yeah, I got the sense as they knew, because whenever she introduced me, they go, oh, yeah, George, you're the guy. That's a good sign. That means that she's talking about you to her friends. Yeah, where they were all in room when she sliped right, Because the last thing you want to do is go, this is George, this guy I just met, And they go I've never

heard of you. She hadn't. She's not excited about you one bit. So that's a good sign. Yeah. I actually met her parents, her parents who were at the party, um, and they seem like nice people. We chatted and it wasn't as awkward as it should have been. But then the next day the text he would be like, Okay, what are we gonna do next? And then took a long time for respond and when she did, she just said, uh, let me pull it up. She said, Hey, I feel I need to be honest. I'm not interested in taking

this any further. Well, you don't. You're not wondering if you're not getting a call back from her because she's busy or something. You know specifically that she does not want to talk to you again. Yeah, and then I asked why. If I can ask why and just no response, so I have no idea. You seem like, I mean, were you social at the party, because I think it's always such a red flag if you invite somebody and then you have to like babysit them the whole time. No,

I thought I was. I thought I was making the round. I thought I didn't think I offended anybody. So it just sounds like you got bad reports from friends. Yeah, I mean, like that's how I would read it. I thought I got along with their friends great. I liked their friends a lot, And I don't think I did anything crazy like like pull my junk out waving around. Maybe that's actually the problem. Maybe that's what you needed to do make a really lasting impression. Yeah, Yeah, maybe

I missed read the situation. Yeah, get hired for all sorts of birthday parties in that group. You gotta know when it's a party where you're supposed to wait your junk out at the end. You have to know that, because if you don't, it's just bad form, you know what I mean? True? All right, true? Well, yeah, we'll play a song. Come back, call her and get your second date update. All right, thank you, hang on looking jubil In the morning, George is on the phone with us.

He wants to call a girl named Lisa. Today. They met on tender, went out for a coffee date. She liked him so much she invited him to her birthday party. He went there, said he had a fun time, talked to all her friends, family, all that good stuff. But a few days later he didn't hear anything back, and then she texted him saying, I'm not really interested. He's curious why and if he did something wrong? George, I didn't even think to ask the obvious question here at

the birthday party? Did you sleep with one of her friends? Yeah? Uh no, no, I think i'd remember that. All right, Well, there's a follow up to that. Does she have any pets? And did you sleep with them? Good? It's you hear how these second date updates end up a lot. All right. She did have a very cute dog, but no, we did not have all right, So from my perspective, everything should be good and she shouldn't be blowing you off. Are you ready to call her? Yeah? Well yeah, let's

do it, all right. But if I find out like she had a bird or something and you had relations with it, I'm gonna be pissed that you lied to me. No no, no, no, no no no no. I'm just trying to make sure we're on the same page. All right. I'm gonna die the phone of her right now and get her on the phone and get your second Date Update. You're ready, Yeah, let's do this. Hullo. Hi, can I speak to Lisa? Please her? Hey Lisa, how are you?

This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Um, Hello, Hello, I'm calling you today because one of our listeners emailed us and asked us to get you on the phone. Really, m It's a segment that we do on our show called the Second Date Update. It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up blowing them off, they email us and ask us to get that person on the phone and ask why so you recently went out on a date with somebody that

listens to our show. Um, all right, his name is George. I think you would remember going on a date with George because you also invited him to your birthday party. Oh yes, I didn't. Sounds like regret in your voice right there. You have a second to talk to us about George, Yeah, I have a second. So he told us about how you guys met and he went to your birthday party. He thought everything went great, and then you sent him a text message saying you didn't want

to talk to him anymore. Did he do something wrong? What? You know what? He was great with my friends, but the reactions at the end of the night were just not what I expected. Did your friends not like him? I thought it was kind of a douche or something. It wasn't my friends who reacted about him. It was it was my parents. Oh oh, your parents didn't like him. Yeah, like really didn't like him at all. Really, are they like really strict parents. No, they're not really over protected.

That's why weird that they didn't like this person. What did they say to you? Well, they told me he asked questions, and they told me he asked my mom, how many grandkids do you want? What? Yes, King, I don't know. She didn't make it seem like he was joking. Was it in context though about something they were talking about. How long was he talking to your parents? He was talking to them for a long time. I think he was trying to impress them or something. But he was

with them for a while before I got married. My mom would not really bring up grandkids, but some of them are like, oh my god, I can't wait till she final gets married, give me some gran No, No, that's not my moment at all. But to ask that after like the first time meeting them, and especially we just went to coffee once, like we've only been on one date, did she get the feeling? I mean, because I could see him talking to her just being like, hey,

do you want grand kids someday? That's cool, yell, But if he's like, how many grandkids you want? Because I'm about to do work, I'm getting ready to do work tonight. With how she felt about it, Yes, that's okay to her. But don't you think I mean one question like that like it was enough to write him off. No, it was the second question that he asked my parents second, what what else did he ask your parents other than if they want grandkids? He he asked my dad for

permission to marry me. Shut up that he had to have been joking. There's no way he did. He had to have been joking, though. No, my dad said he was serious. Are you sure your dad's reading it correctly? I can't imagine a guy being out technically your second date at your birthday party and then asking your father for permission to marry you. I wish it had it happened, but it did. And is that why you sent him

a text saying I don't want to talk to you anymore. Yeah? Okay, By the way, I completely support that if that's I'd love to know if he was actually joking, though, wouldn't you? No? I I mean, I trust my parents, all right. Well, I'd like to ask him. And he's actually on the other line listening right now, so we can do that. Are you serious? Yes? I am. First of all, this is being blown way out of proportion, way out of proportion. I was having an adult conversation with them, adults about

adults thing. I don't know right now. This whole situation is just confusing. It's really confusing to me too, George, did you ask her father if you could marry her? It was in the context of a fun conversation, and I was like, you know, I was just like, hey, man, what do you think if I married your daughter? So you weren't joking though, because you just didn't deny it.

Look well, I mean, first of all, I didn't want them to think I was just some tinder guy, so it's kind of that was some credibility, you know, So I thought, well, for this guy to take me seriously, I should ask the question. Let's talk about putting me in the awkward position of this is my first Like, well, I guess second date with you, and I'm meeting your parents, but I'm supposed to hold the court for for an hour, okay, but you don't ask them to marry me after we've

only been on one date. It just came up. It wasn't I didn't say. I didn't say, hey, I'm gonna go propose your daughter. I said, hey, you know, down the line, what would you think of a guy like me marrying your daughter? I don't understand what's so crazy. Look, I just turned thirty. I'm in the present company of adults, and we're talking about adults thing. Marriage is on everybody's mind. You have gone a coffee with this girl, and that

is it. We hit it off. Yeah, but hitting it off is way different than Hey, we're gonna get married, sir, can I have your daughter's hand in marriage? I didn't ask for her hand in marriage that moment. I asked down the line. Oh so it was a future proposal that you were thinking about. It was a future hypothetical. That doesn't make it any better, George, whether it was in the future or not, you don't ask it now.

I mean, we did hit it off at the coffee shop, but it didn't hit off to say, Okay, I'm gonna marry this person. Man. I'm just I think you're just way too uptight about this whole thing. I'm up tight about it. Really. Yeah, well I think it's crazy. Well, okay, I guess I'm sorry that I saw a future you know together, I'm sorry that makes me crazy. Well, then I'm sorry. Yeah, Lisa, you should be flattered George wanted to marry you after one coffee date. Yeah, that's not flattering.

Why is that not flattering? Because it's creepy? Okay, I guess I just don't understand. I feel like that's like a pretty high compliment you could pay somebody. Gude, you don't even know her. You just met her, well, and she's having me meet her parents. Yeah, but she didn't specifically say, hey, come meet my parents. Didn't she just ask you to go to her birthday? Yeah? But she left me alone with her parents for like an hour.

I mean you think she would see that and be like, oh, so like pissed off that she left you with her parents so long. You're like, I'm just gonna screw this whole thing up right now. Hey, sir, No, I wasn't pissed. I was actually like, Okay, she must really like me. She's putting me together with her parents. I never heard. What did her dad say to you after you ask for her hand in marriage? He just laughed it off, and I did too, and I took that as like, oh,

he likes me. I love to know what he was thinking. Yeah, Well, this is normally the point where I ask if you guys want to go out on a second date and I will pay for it. But instead, George, would you like to propose to Lisa right now? I will pay for the catering at your wedding. If she says yes, please don't. Lisa, don't want free, free wedding catering. I'll pay for it. No, no, thank you. Yeah. I think I think the moment's passed on that one, didn't you sure?

I don't know, Lisa, as it passed. Yes, it's definitely passed. It was never even there. It's a good point, Lisa. Thank you for your time anytime yep. And I'm sorry that you're not going to be getting married to George anytime soon. Thankfully. If a girl ever asked me to meet her parents, I will likely decline. Brooking chubble in the morning,