Second Date Update PODCAST: Avocado Swaggin

that that actually happened. Oh, it happens. I actually got a phone umber at the grocery store not that long ago, and I didn't even have to talk to the girl. I was behind her in line at the checkout counter and the checker asked her for her rewards card number, And as she gave her rewards card number to the checker, I took it down in my phone behind her. So creepy, but it's effective and it worked. I did try to text her later and got nothing in response, which I

thought was very rude. But apparently Yeah, some guy came up to Chelsea in the grocery store and asked her for her number. Hey, Chelsea, how are you? Hey? I'm good. How are you guys good? So? Are you disappointed that he didn't do it like I did? Yeah, that would have been surprisingly romantic. Yeah, I think that, Steven. More shocking about a guy asking you about on the grocery store is that you actually found him attractive. Well I know, right, Yeah,

it was kind of amazing. Why is that? Are all guys at grocery stores ugly or so? Just like the likelihood of you getting nasked out of the grocery store is going to be by like some fifty year old divorced dad. That's kind of creepy, Like that is actually something? What do you shop? Because I see like single dudes in the grocery store all the time. Well yeah, but anytime. I mean, I get him on in the grocery store all the time. But chances are it's just not going

to be someone I'm interested in. Yeah, like a creep who's coming up to you talking about how to test melons or something like, well you know how these melons are ripe? Not unlike the conversation that me and this guy had, what really melon? Lyne on you? It wasn't about melon. He brought up avocados and how he was having them, completely friend than what I was saying. You're right,

he was like riding the struggle bus about avocados. He was standing there with like two avocados in his hands, like looking back and forth and like not knowing how to tell if they were ripe and like, and I helped him with it. Okay, So he didn't approach you, going, hey, you know how to squeeze these things properly. You actually saw him having trouble and helped him out. Yes, okay, that's nice. And when did you guys actually exchange numbers

and stuff. Well, I sort of helping with avocados, and we laughed a little bit, and then I went away and kept grocery shopping. And then we ran into each other in a different part of the store and he said to them really like I still don't know about avocados. Like he was horribly done, but very endearing because it was clear he just wanted to talk more. So I was like, oh, I could help you with that any time. I don't know why this is turning me on, but

it is. You're welcome. Thank you. So you had it just sounds like an awkward exchange that you guys had. It was like charmingly awkward. It was it was like, Okay, we're obviously attracted to each other, but don't know each other well enough to say anything. Yeah, so we'll talk about avocados. Did he ask for your number? Then he did? So tell us about your date when you guys actually went out or was the whole date at the grocery store? No, we just went on a coffee date. It was nice.

He took me to this little, like independent place I hadn't been before, and I thought it went really well. We had a lot of like easy flowing conversation. We both have like a few different weird jobs. He works as a professional dog walker. Those guys are impressive. And I work as a clown. That's awesome. Currently work as a clown. Yeah, I currently worked as a clown. I mean that like currently, like this morning, I'm not dressed in clown clothes right now. I've never met a clown before.

Did he think that was really cool? Yeah? He thought it was fun. I told him some like funny stories about things that the kids say, and he's told me like silly things that his dogs have done. And yeah, I wish I could have been there for your conversation. Yeah, it was great. So you guys bonded over your jobs, yeah, or weird jobs? Okay, it was nice. It was really nice, and he was just like a good guy. If everything went really well, why do you think he's not calling

you back? I'm not really sure. The only thing that I could really think of was that I said that I wasn't necessarily interested in getting married anytime soon, and I wonder if maybe he was like, that's like what he's on his mind. So we're just in different places. How did you say it though? Did you harp on? It was the whole thing, like, oh God, and I'm not interested in getting married ever? No, no, no, no. I wasn't like my parents do any jobs and left

because they all love me. I wasn't like weird the reason I don't want to give married had a bad example of love growing up. Yeah, Like, I wasn't like a crazy person. I was just like, I have a lot of things I want to do in my life before I settled down and get married. Did he seem awkward after you said it? At the time, I didn't think of him as being awkward, But looking back on it, I'm like, hah, I said that, and then I don't

know how he feels about it. Is that because he quickly changed the subject or something, and I'm just not really exactly I don't quite have a handle on it. Yeah, it doesn't sound like it's too bad. You might be overthinking that a bit. How many times have you try to get a hold of him? Twice? I texted him the day after our date and he texted me back and was just like, oh, I'm really busy this weekend. And then I texted him the next week and he didn't text me back at all. Okay, so you haven't

heard anything from since that second text. M all right, well we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update. All right, Okay, thank you, as anyone else broken jubile in the morning. Second date update Cool now to win a one thousand dollar cash Create one eight sixty six Moving ninety two five. Chelsea is on the phone with us and today she wants

to call a guy named Greg. They met at the grocery store, bonded over some avocados, ended up going out for coffee, and now he's not calling her back and she has no idea why. Chelsea, I have a really good idea for you. Actually, what is it? I say? You don't do the second date update Okay. I think a better idea is to go back to that grocery store every single day and wait by the avocados, just like, pull up a chair next to the avocados until he comes up to buy some, and ask him to explain

himself in person. That's a good idea, holding two avocados and weeping over them. Exactly everybody going to the store. There's a sad avocado lady. Again, imagine his surprise when he walks up and sees you camped out by the avocados. Love that. He'll definitely go on another date with you. Then. All right, well, never mind, I'll see you guys later. All right, I'm about to dial the phone of her right now. Any last thoughts before we get him on

the phone. No, I don't think so. I'm ready. All right, I'm gonna dill the phone of her right now. See if we get your second date update. Hello, Hi, can I speak to Greg? Please speaking? Hey Greg? How are you? This is Jewbil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Sorry with that. This is Jebil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning, the radio show. How are you? I'm okay? What's this about? It's a segment we do on our

show called the Second Date Update. Basically, if somebody goes out on a date and they get blown off, they email us and ask if we can get the other person on the phone to find out why. The girl that you went out with her name is Chelsea. Okay. She told us a little bit about how you guys first met at the grocery store. She helped you with avocados, and then you asked for number, and you guys went to coffee. Yeah. That uh, definitely happened. Okay, Um, did

you not like her? Because it sounds like, from the tone of your voice right now, it sounds like you didn't really like Chelsea very much. No, no, no, it's not that I don't I didn't like her, just a weird phone call to talk about a date. Yeah, for sure, I get that. Um, can you tell us a little bit about it? Though? She really wants to know why you're not calling her back. Um, I guess I couldn't tell you guys about it. Thank you, man, I appreciate it.

So she told us about your date and said that in her opinion, everything went great, but she hasn't heard from you. Can you explain the date to me? A little bit in your words. And yeah, she was really nice and the date was going really great until she basically just got a little weird. She said something I just I couldn't really shake it, and um, I feel bad, but yeah, it was just a little weird. Was it about not wanting to get married any time soon? Because

she felt like that might be the issue. Really, that's that's why she thought I didn't want to call her back. Yeah, she thought maybe you were a guy that was like, look him to find a wife right away or something, and that scared you off. Oh my gosh, Um no, that was not what scared me away. Um. I don't

really even know how to say this. We were talking about our jobs and things that make us interesting, and I told her that I was a professional dog walker, and then she started saying things that made her interesting and like I worked part time as a clown, I worked in the medical industry part time, I'm a swinger, and I do calligraphy, and back up a little bit exactly. That was my exact reaction. I was just so taken

her back, and so I asked her. I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, you you're talking about like swing dancing, right, and she said, no, you are thinking about the right thing, and I and then she just tried to keep going and I could not drop it, like completely change. Oh my god, that's not something that you usually casually drop in a conversation, like yeah, I walked dogs, and then I have sex with lots of people, and then also she loved it

with Calligah. For God's sake, I couldn't even I couldn't change the way I looked at her after that the rest of the date. So you're not into dating swingers? No, I mean it's not something that I actively seek. I definitely looking for a long term monogamous relationship. And I mean she just said it so casually it didn't seem like a big deal to her. I couldn't stop thinking about. I was like, what if I take her home to my parents and she wants to sleep with my dad.

I guess I've never thought about that before. Yeah, but I guess if you're dating a swinger, you bring her home, some fun things, interesting things could happen. It weirded me out, and she's a sweet girl, and I feel bad, but I just couldn't brop that after that. That's understandable. Greg Greg, I also need to tell you something. What's that? Chelsea is actually on the other line listening right now. What Yeah, Chelsea, are you there? Yep? How's it going, Chelsea? Ah? I

guess I'm just like, why didn't you say anything? You could have? We could have talked about it. You could have asked me questions. I would have been like, no, I'm not a psychopath who's going to try and sleep with your father. I didn't know what private questions to ask you about that. You've just said it so causually a nonchalant like I've never met a swinger before, and it totally shocked me. Okay, first of all, you've definitely met one before. They just didn't tell you about it. Yeah.

And second of all, never having met someone doesn't mean that they're bad. You know, there's I didn't think of it as bad. I don't think you're a bad person. I just just honestly not the lifestyle that I'm into. And I'm sorry I wasn't up problem with you about pat appabate? Chelsea? Do you always bring it up in that manner on first dates? Not necessarily, but at the same time, I think it's better than like bringing it on somebody after going out for a while where they

have all these assumptions. Yeah, like you guys are out of the way in the beginning and be honest, and then that way if they do freak out, then I haven't gotten like, yeah, that's a good way to do it until you guys are like a couple of months and you're like, Okay, it's finally time to meet my friends. Oh and by the way, you're gonna have to have sex with all my friends, right, But again, you wouldn't ask you Well, it's just ignorance. I don't think any

of us really understand the swinging lifestyle. I've never been a part of it. It's always interested me. I think it's really cool. Yeah you're willing to do that, but I don't know anything about it, so that's just what I assume. I think what's surprising to me is that it didn't cross your mind that that could be a potential reason why he's not calling you back. Well, yeah, no, I guess it didn't because he didn't really have a

reaction to it. Like I told him all that stuff and he was like, oh, a clown ah, Like yeah, I just didn't want to focus on that because it made me totally uncomfortable. I didn't I didn't know what to say about it. I guess I appreciate the fact that you've said it on the first date, and yeah, but I couldn't let it go. I mean, I think that the thing is that it's more about options than anything else. It's about the fact that you're not like, we have to do this and you have to sleep

with these people. But you're like, Okay, well do we want to meet an augamist right now? Sure? Do we want to swing right now? Sure? Do you want to go on a date with someone else right now? Sure? Like twenty years from now, when you're bored with the sex with your current partner. That doesn't mean you have to break up. It means you have other options. Greg, I'm gonna ask you a question, and I'm gonna beg you to say yes to this. Okay, would you like to go on a second date with Chelsea? I will

pay for it? Yeah? Um, you know you know what, honestly, you like, maybe I could be a little more open minded and I would like to go on a second date. I would awesome, really actually very surprised if you just said that. Yeah, Chelsea, are you cool with going out on another date with Greg? Maybe tell him a little bit more about your lifestyle so we can understand it more. Sure, it's only to help spread the gospel of consensual non monogamy,

essential non monogamy. Like that, it does? All right, well, awesome, let's send you guys out again. All right, it's great. I got this great restaurant you go to. You put your keys at the door in a bowl broken jupil in the morning. Maybe