Second Date Update: Escalator Escape

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Second Date Update. There's something I've learned since I started working on this show is not everybody necessarily dates for true love.

It was this show that had to teach you that. Not high school, college.

No experience.

No.

I was very much in the Disney mindset. You go out to fall in.

Love, but I just want to pat the top of your head.

I learned some people date for just the free meal. Some people date because their horoscope told them to. That's actually true. Some people date because their spouse wanted to try opening up the relationships. So now it's a table for three at the Rainforest Cafe.

Why are you at the Rainforest Cafe, Desert Boro?

Sorry?

Those Mango Tango dakeries cannot come fast enough, but they serve alcohol, they sure do. One of our listeners, Jamie, wrote us in her email, saying she had a different reason for hopping onto the dating apps, and I'd like to find out what that is. Jamie. Welcome to the show.

Hey are you Are you ready to shock Jeffrey?

Yes, my whole world is about to be rocked. What is it that made you or who is it that made you get on the app?

I've just been trying to get myself back out there. I've been in a few relationships that didn't work out recently, and so I'm just trying to get my confidence back up. I don't really assume I'm going to fall in love immediately, but you.

Like going through the motions just to like get back in you. Let's go on a day, Let's see what happened.

I don't know that's confidence saying. Are you just waiting for enough compliments to come through before the confidence kicks in?

Yeah?

Exactly.

Okay, So did it work? Were you able to grab some confidence from somewhere?

I mean I did end up matching with this guy named Matthew on Hinge, so I was feeling good about that, and he had some really cute photos. He's kind of nerdy, cute. Look he's wearing glasses like I was into it.

All right, what did you do for your date?

See? Here's the thing, So the first date almost never happened basically. Okay, so we were going to meet up for a happy hour. We get there and I realized I don't know if I can actually coincide or not. Why because the Bari picked is on the second floor and you have to take an escalator there and I have this phobia escalators basically.

You know, like moving stairs.

Well, I got my foot stuck in an escalator. It was traumatic.

And you see those stories of like, I'm sorry, I shouldn't add I should have had my bad. I've heard crocs a really dangerous too.

Oh yeah, sorry, Jamie. Hopefully we're not triggering you with all these stories. We're really not trying to.

Sorry, No, it's okay. I actually fell down one at the Mall of America when I was a kid, but it was going upwards, so I just kind of kept falling. O.

My god, that sounds so painful.

I'm sorry to laugh. It's kind of a funny image, but I understand.

But you're on this date and you have to go to the second floor and you can't find an elevator.

What do you do? Right? Obviously, I'm hesitating and he sees me, and he's like, what's wrong? And I didn't want to tell him because I didn't want to think I was weird immediately or.

And it's your very first interaction, So what did you do?

I just had him hold my hand while I sat on the elevator's step and kept my eyes closed, and we rode up worried about faul.

If you can't see it, it can't hurt you.

Wow. Shame on that bar for not having a handicap entrance.

Somewhere, all right, But you made it to the top of the escalator.

Right, Yes, I did. He helped me off, and the drinks were great. That we had. We ended up having a really good conversation after that. I thought he was just a really nice guy overall.

I don't mean to rush things, but I'm so worried about you getting back down.

Yeah, I ended up taking the stairs down. So yeah, the escalators are much more visible. Found the stairs.

Later after you were at the restaurant, You're like, there's this same Yeah, so sorry, he's going back to the date though. With Matthew, you said it was you were having a good conversation, Like what did you two bond over?

We actually bonded over of planes. Well, like the airline Jet Blue, in particular Jet Blue. Why because it's our favorite and they have the best in flight entertainment. So we just talked about traveling and whatever our experiences and stuff like that.

You can get bed sometimes on a domestic flight to like four airports, I know it's New York pretty much. Hopefully no airports with escalators in them.

Okay, so you both love Jet Blue. You've already like been vulnerable and shared a big fear with him, right.

Yeah, I did. I opened up a little bit about it, and he used to be sweet about it, and at the end of the night he even asked me if I wanted to meet up again, and I was like, yes, definitely.

Oh wow, he went for the second date as immediately.

Yes, but after that they didn't no fall through and so I'm just like, what happened?

And how long has it been since your date on the second story?

It's a week or so.

And he hasn't reached out at all.

No, hopefully his phobia isn't actually following through with the second dates, or he's.

Just looking for first floor restaurants and having a hard time.

Oh, maybe that's possible. And he's like, we could never beat together. So much could go wrong.

I can't take the escalator, you can't take the elevator.

What a tough mash. And hopefully we'll find out what's really going on and we call Matthew and try to escalate this to a second date. I did it, Okay, no more, no more puns as we continue for your second date update right after this hold on second date update. If you'd never heard this story before and I told you a young woman sat on an escalator step holding her date's hand with her eyes shut tight, you'd probably think, Huh, someone's about to get arrested here, soon happening.

But why why arrested?

Well, I'm not going to I'm not going to explain it.

But luckily that was.

Not the case here our listener. Jamie has an escalator phobia, but she beat it going to a happy hour with her date Matthew, and together they bonded over Jet Blue Airlines of all things. You don't hear that one a lot on the first dates. More of a delta guy myself.

Jeff, Yeah, I feel like she's just dropping it in case something goes somewhere and they can get sponsored in a trip down.

Smart. But it did bond them, and Matthew even asked her out again at the very end of the night. Thing is there's been no follow through since, so Jamie has now turned to us asking if we can get involved.

Yeah, and Jamie, you said he hasn't reached out to you, But have you called or texted him? Sorry, not called, That would be gross phobia.

Oh, I haven't. I was nervous because I was just anticipating him reaching out to me, and I don't know, I didn't want to seem obsessive or weird.

I guess a big game of stalemate, like I'm not going to text her.

Probably is. I mean, I feel that's how a lot of dating fizzles out.

Well, good thing. Nothing weird about a radio show randomly calling to his life that you go over totally fine.

He doesn't have a fear of public speaking. I guess we'll find out soon.

Let's see if he even answers. I'm going to dial his number right now. Here we go, Hello, Hey is this Matthew? Yeah, this is he, Hey man, thanks for answering. You're on a show right now, a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

Matthew, good morning.

Hi. Kind of weird.

Yeah, it's probably doesn't happen to you every single day, I'm guessing, but maybe some time we'll see it happening. But we're doing something called a Second Date Update, and we're trying to help out a listener of ours who went out with you recently and she's not heard from you since. Woman named Jamie.

Okay, yeah, I remember that.

Okay, remember cut Jamie imber Jamie.

Yeah.

Yeah. So the deal is we've heard from Jamie about the night that you two hung out, and Jamie sounded like a really cool girl who really enjoyed your companionship when you went to the bar together.

Such a formal way to word it.

Yeah, I'm working on my vocabulary, broke, Yes, I'm sorry. I can dumb it down for the Idaho listeners in your hometown if you want to.

I enjoy your extensive vocabulary like courtship where I come from.

Yeah.

Sure, So that's kind of the situation. We're trying to help Jamie figure out if there's a reason why you two haven't met up again.

I mean I was having a pretty good time with her, Like I was like one hundred percent in, like on wanting to hang out again.

Okay, so when you asked it out at the end of the day, you were being sincere.

Yeah. Yeah, like she was cool. It was it was a good time.

You know, the drinks were good there.

That was your highlight.

The drinks were good there.

You know he was into it. Okay, because so what happened?

Yeah, something must have changed since then?

Well well it was the comment.

The comment?

What comment?

So as we were saying goodbye, I asked her out and I said, hey, this has been really fun. Do you want to meet up again next weekend?

Okay?

She paused for a second, and she goes, sure, why not, my bar is pretty low.

Anyways, whoa, whoa?

Well that had you have been a joke like it? They just landed poorly.

I mean it's she should have been very sarcastic.

Yeah, was she trying to be funny, like like, did you.

Respond to that?

Yeah?

And I was like, what is that supposed to me?

You did? You said that back? Okay, okay, And then she said, I'm just joking.

Right, She goes, don't take it personal. I just got out of a relationship with an eighty year old guy.

What whoa wait, rebounding from an eighty year old that must feel good?

Is that also a joke? I just want this all to be humorous, back to back.

Yeah, it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Oh god.

She basically says the eighty year old broke up with her so he could find someone who lives closer to him.

What wait, she got dumped by the senior exactly?

Wow, what is going good for that eighty year old for having standards?

I mean, it makes you feel better. She wasn't living in the same city as him, so she didn't see I didn't get the.

Impression of the same city I've got the impression like she's three blocks away and that's too far for his hips.

Yeah.

Yeah, on earth would she be in a relationship with an eighty year old man?

That's a lot. I don't judge.

I'm judging you want answers, Alec.

Yeah, okay, so that kind of explains a lot.

And how are you lower than that? I am like offended for you.

Yeah, I mean I felt pretty bad. I didn't know how to respond. And then also, why would I want to go out with her after that?

Yeah? Shouldn't bring any of that up. Not the eighty year old, not the comment.

Yeah, I feel like we should probably ask her about that because you don't know this, Matthew. But Jamie has been quietly listening on the other line, waiting to talk to you. Oh great, Uh yeah, Jamie.

Okay, so you're putting me down just because I dated an older man. No, I'm putting me.

Down because you dated an ancient man who kicked you to the curb.

Oh wow, he's right, yes, absolutely he You cannot say older man when he's.

Eighty Jamie, how did none of this come up when you were talking to us in the first part?

I don't know I didn't think about it. I wasn't talking about my exes. I was talking about the person I wanted to date.

Now, wait, do you actually consider the eighty year old your ex because it just sounds like a deal that didn't break out.

Yeah, no, okay, listen, First of all, he was in great shape, probably better than you actually, And he's very active, and you like to go out and do lots of things. Okay, like you went to the club.

Did you have to change a sentence walls on his walker?

Okay, that's really mature.

Yeah, I mean, honestly, Jamie, the optics or you're just doing it for money. That's the only reason anyone would date an eighty year old at your age.

Well, she says he has a great body.

People, honestly, you could at.

Least go with personality over body.

That's I don't know why I'm getting judged for who I'm dating, Like, it doesn't matter. It shouldn't matter a or religion or whatever, you know, Like, yeah.

Don't come after who she likes. Don't tell us what the old man's religion was, because Brook will go in.

It's very fair to compare and say that the current date is worse than the eighty year old that you just dum dumped by, Like, I'm sorry, that was just me. What if I think it was a joke or not he didn't take it as well?

Well, what if it wasn't a joke. What if he really was a step down?

You don't say that to people joke.

Okay, fine, if he was sixty years old, then it would be okay.

I'm just really not into dating for money thing, but whatever, people need to do dating for money?

Well, what was he rich?

We didn't ask you?

Yeah, I never even asked did she?

Did he have money?

No? He wasn't like rich, Like I mean he was fine.

I mean, yeah, okay, he only had two boats. Brooke depleted his whole four oh one k for.

Nothing to do with that, nothing to do with money.

I mean, I think at the end of this is like you were rude to Matthew, right, you said that you had already why not go out with him? Your bars already low? Like that's a terrible thing to say to someone.

Okay, fair, I was joking, Like I wasn't super serious, like I was having fun on that date. I'm sorry, like I'd just gotten out of something. I wasn't feeling good about myself, So I've made a bad joke.

Okay, okay, and yeah, this conversation kind of got off the rails. It turned into like put downs back and forth, and what we really need to focus on is true love. Okay, how can we save this right now? I mean, Jamie, you said that you were lowering your bar. Maybe Matthew is also lowering the bar too. Jamie, you're the one Wow reached out to our show that's super low in itself. Maybe you're meant to meet down at the bottom of the dating pool.

What are you asking? Are you asking me if I want to go out with him again? You know I don't.

Now there she's joking again. She is Okay, so Amy has now rescinded her desire to go out with Matthew again.

Yeah, I'm good as well. She can have that eighty year old man hold her hand up the escalator okay.

Oh yeah, they're definitely gonna have to take the elevator.

It sounds like he would carry her up the stairs based on how fit she described it, and see both of them in a forever fall an escalator. How sweet rook. Jeffrey in the morning you know, after everything we heard in that call, I just think it's awesome that eighty year olds are still trying to put themselves out there and meet people. That's inspiring.

Yeah, it turned out I was just roasting an eighty year old. Really, it's really impressive on his.

Part gave up.

I mean, it sucks for his grandkids that they're not going to get any of the inheritance. Yeah.

True. You know, well that's what I've learned. You're never too old to try and take risks, especially when you're sliding into a thirty one year old's DM shooting your shot with them. That is bravery as an octhogenarian.

Yeah yeah, look at that. Impressive.

Now you're kind of turned on to hold the phone really.

Far away from the cause in order to do it.

I mean, Brooke, if you're thinking about like the benefits of it as a young woman dating an old man, just imagine if you're in her shoes, combining your rewards card savings with his senior discounts, you two could be ruling the world, eating dinner at three thirty every day for half off.

There is not enough discounts or savings in the world to waste your pretty on an eighty year old.

It's just.

I mean, honestly, unless the eighty year old's super hot, let's agree on that.

Have you ever seen a hot eighty year old?

I'm pretty sure Tom Cruise is eighty.

Even the old Golden Bachelor wouldn't date somebody over sixty. Oh yeah, being creepy too.

Yeah, all right, back off the old guys. That's Brooks territory. Okay, but you can always text, and if you want help with your dating life, older young will try not to judge you. Just email the show. We'll call that person who's not calling you back