Second Date Update: Double Booked Dating Fail

I still don't you know too much? Well? One of our listeners says that she knows that she made a huge mistake in one moment and she's regretting it today. That's why she's asking for our help. Her name's Jessica. Jessica, Welcome to the show. Hey guys, Jica. Before you let us know, I just want to say, sometimes it's good to only have one giant bad thing go wrong, because at least went wrong. Yeah. Did you have a sushi conveyor belt incident too? There was no sushi involved. Good

tragedy avoided. What happened with this guy what's his name? How I went out with Vince? Kay? Okay? And how do you know Vince? How'd you guys meet? It was online so it was kind of you know, like a first sort of blind date online and it was good. It was it was it was nice. We had a really good vibe and all right, well we'll play a song, we'll come back. We should hear more about it. Huh. I mean were you were you shocked that it was going that well? I totally was. I you know, I

had kind of low expectations, but I don't know. He was just it was humble and cool and fun and we're having a good time. The problem is, so because I have these low expectations, I kind of sort of accidentally double booked myself that night, oh like with another date or with a party or something. No, it was another date. Oh girl, Sosa why too in the same night. I just figured we'd we'd eat and we're like, okay, thanks, that was fine by and then that would be it.

Because that's kind of been my experience. Was Vince aware that you had two dates going on that night? He was not. He was nut And you know, looking back, I mean that's the moment like I should have canceled because I lost track of time and when I realized I was like twenty minutes away from the second date, and I was like, oh shoot, So I had to wrap things up really fast. He was like, oh, we're done, and I was like, yeah, I'm so sorry, I gotta go.

And I then mote him some money for the like half a bill, you know, because I didn't want it to be like thank good bye. Why did you actually leave before the bill came well, like it had just gotten there. Yeah, but like you didn't let him like walk you back to your car or anything like that. No, I had to run. Oh man, oh yeah, just as a guy having to sit there and watch your date like bolt on you yeah, before you were even finished, like totally paying the bill and then they veno you,

which is feels it like business tripsactioning right. Yeah. And I think, I mean, I think he could tell that something was going on because he was asking me, are you okay? Like did I did I do something? Or oh you know when I was trying to tell no, no no, no, it's not you, You're great, this is good. I just becoming personal came up. I gotta I gotta run. I feel like I would almost prefer a girl to sneak out on me, yeah, rather than like collect herself frantically

be like okay, sorry, I gotta go. By no, you just reschedule. You should have been honest and you said the luck I have something going on. I want to give you my full attention. You know, it's like a job interview. You don't want the person interviewing and being like, Okay, just tell me about yourself real quick. I gotta go, I gotta come. Yeah. Based on your profile picture and your interest, I had very very low expectations. I never ever thought this was gonna go like this. But yeah, sorry, by.

And the thing is, I'm guessing the second date went terribly because we're not calling the second date for a second date update, we're calling the first dude. Oh yeah, what happened with guy number two? Yeah? Guy number two was a no show? Oh? I bet you. I bet you felt I would feel so foolish at that point, Oh I did. I waited an hour at the bar for this guy, and I just felt like a bigots full. And so after my hour of waiting, I texted Vince and I was like, hey, so I cleared that up.

If you're still out, I'd love to hang out some more, kind of trying to smooth it over, and he texted me back l ol. Oh yeah, yeah, oh he is a yeah, and that's all you guys have talked since. Yeah. I tried texting him one other time and he didn't respond, so I was just like, Okay, I'm gonna leave it alone. I don't want to pesture him, but I'm feeling really really bad about it, and I you know, I'm hoping it's something that I could kind of come back from.

I don't know. If you tell him the truth, it makes you sound bad, like, hey, I'm only calling you back because this guy stood me up, I think. But you can explain it as like you made a mistake. He's dating, like he gets it, like it's hard, it's hard to make decisions. It always feels like the more you date, the more options you'll have or something. I don't know. I don't want to date to leave me for another day. Yeah, I mean nobody would. But do

we have to tell him that part? No, that's why you don't Okay, Well, I think we're gonna go in planning to not tell him. Yes, But you know what, if it slips out, then it slips out. You do this every once in a while, somebody wants what they can't have. Yeah, and if he thinks that she's wanted by a lot of other people. That's not necessarily to play some games. I don't know. Maybe we should say

it wasn't just one extra date. Maybe it was twenty extra dance and the other guys could match up to Vince. They were all rich and famous, that's right, and Vince was better than all of them. We're gonna play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Vince, and we'll try and get your second date up date. Okay, Jessica, all right, all right, hold on second date. You know, the saying is nice guys finished last. Yeah, but that's not always true.

Sometimes they don't even get to finish dinner before the date ducks out on you for a hotter guy out. Sorry for the low glow there, Jessica, but that is what she did to a great dude that she was with named Vince. She had to leave early to go meet up with another guy, and what happened other guy know showed Yeah, any thing is Jeffrey. If you liked Vince Moore, you would have booked his date second. Yeah, you know what I mean, Like, you wouldn't have put

him first. She went in with those low expectations, so Jessica, I want you to know we are going to try our very best here, but even though we're enjoying ourselves, we have another phone call book with a possibly better hotter listener in ten minutes, so we're gonna trying to make this quick. Okay, all right, well really really please if we can not tell him about the other date, okay, okay,

so why did you leave? Then, I mean we're going to have to tell him something family emergency, right like it made it a family emergency and we just met. He doesn't have to know those he fails. Yeah, okay, well, what's the detail? Grandpa's sick? Like she said she didn't have to know the details. He doesn't need to do what if he asks, like, oh my god, family emergency? Is everyone? Okay? What do we say business? Okay? Talk about my family? Yeah? All right, all right, we'll get defensive.

We're aggressive, vague aggressive. All right, We're ready. We're gonna dial Vince's phone number, try and get your second date update. Here we go, Hello, Hey, is this Vince? This is him? Who's this Evans? My name is Jeff from a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. What's up was awkward silence. I freaked out. Okay, we're all here, what's going on. Great, it's a segment, yea, it is an awkward segment that we do. It's called a second

date update. We're calling on behalf of one of our listeners who went out on a date with you. Her name's Jessica. Oh yeah, Jessica. Okay, she really liked you really. Yeah, I know, it doesn't seem like she liked you because she left the date in such a hurry. But that's just one of the things that she does when she really likes the guy. Uh, she gets nervous and panics and leaves. It's a problem. Oh so, so she told

you guys what happened. Yeah. Yeah, she give us a little recap of it, and she and she actually felt bad about it. Yeah, I mean, she she thought us she didn't want to have to leave, but she didn't really have a choice family emergency. Um okay, yeah, I don't know. I just kind of doubt that's really the case. I mean, she texted you later, she said, just to let you know that she was like still interested. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

she did. She did texting me later. She wanted to like me back up right, and we heard you texted back kind of snarky, just lol. Yeah, I mean I said that because she really seemed like she had better things to do and she had somewhere else more important to be. Like, we were having a great time, we were eating, and she pretty much ended it in the middle of us eating and left. But that's not really fair to her because it could have been something that

was totally out of her control. Oh really, So, I mean, you guys talk to her. So what did she say was out of her control? She know, she made a commitment that she had to follow through on. Yeah, okay, yeah, this sounds really general and vague, but yeah, do you have a problem with that? Yeahgan aggressive, I don't know. I just mean it's it's kind of hard to believe considering the way that it sort of ended. Like, I don't know, I just feel like, so you say that

you think she's lying. Yeah, well, I mean, this is the thing, like, and you know, I'll be completely honest with you guys, but I've had some trust issues from the past, and everything when we were talking seemed pretty good, the way that everything sounded, and she seemed pretty straightforward, but my trust issues kind of came into play, and I just wanted to sort of see like where her

head was at. So I actually had one of my closest friends, who is you know, he's basically a model when he is a model and looks, you know, really good looking dude, and so he actually matched with her, and I had asked him, like, you know, why don't you schedule sort of like a date for the same day. I know this is crazy, and you know, it was like putting it all out there, but this is kind of why I feel so just really disappointed. Second, you

already knew about the other date that she had scheduled. Yeah, so he reached out and she already had a date scheduled with me. Kid, dude, you set a trap for her. Well, I didn't know that, to be honest, she would be that thirsty to hop on it. Come on, if you had a model that matched with you and wanted to go out the same night, you're not telling me that you wouldn't book her. Still, I actually would have just canceled the other date and gone out with the models.

Are you two dates? You wouldn't want to? Like, yeah, because then it kind of just felt like a pity date. You know, Yeah, I don't like this. That's low, man. I just think that you're missing an opportunity, Like if you could give her some grace here, like you may actually find somebody who you really connect with. And like, the reason why I put the test out there was because she put on her profile. She's tired of the game, she's looking for something really meaningful, and I felt like

we were aligning really well. I did, and that was why I was like before I even how serious are you? Or are you just another girl who puts it on her profile but really just wants to you know, I feel like maybe there is some truth to what she's saying there, because she clearly wants to connect with you, because she's actually on the other line listening this entire time. That doesn't help trust is shoes. She wants to talk to you right now. Man, Wait, she's listening to this

whole thing. Yeah, don't you trust her now? She's right there? Jessica, Hi, awkward? Yeah, how's it going, Jessica? Not great? I feel really bad that I couldn't figure out like what I needed to do in that moment and make a better choice. But I feel really bad for you and those trust is shoes and the mind games, and that's wow, that's a lot. There's so much on both sides. Like I think you both just hang up before we even get into this. I'm just too much. I'm not embarrassed at all what

I did. If anything, I feel like it gave me clarity on sort of what you're where you stand, on what you're looking for. And I mean, I get it, I get why you're you're feeling bad, but like at the end of the day, like you could have easily just not gone on that date, or you could have canceled it, whatever you chose to do that that's totally fine.

You were set up. I know that's a little embarrassing, but I just like, you don't have to waste I don't think that you can gauge in one date like what someone's all about and if they're really serious, Like I owed you nothing. But I feel bad that I couldn't make the choice because I don't know. I wish i'd been more decisive. But I can be decisive right now and tell you that absolutely we don't need to fother with it because that's my games. I'm not interested.

You're already cutting it off now, I can totally appreciate that, And to be honest, if it wasn't for the fact that you texted me back after you were stood up, asking to hang out again like that same night, I totally would have met up for a second date, because you know, i'd just feel a little about it. But the fact that you text me back right away just kind of showed like how it felt into you. It saynt I was into you. I mean I didn't want

to be the one not showing up. I didn't want to be the no show because that sucks and I know what that feels like. So for whoever the other guy was, I didn't want to be that person. And when he didn't show up, I was relieved and I was like, cool, maybe Vince is still down, Maybe I can fix this. You guys are both making it. That's a valid point on Jessica's part. I can see where she's coming from, and she's probably obviously like like she said,

not interested, which is totally fine. I honestly don't have any hard feelings toward her. If I saw Jessica in the street and we said hello and talked, great, you just sound a little aggressive, like I should just go out and like let your guards down a little bit. Jessica, are you not going to apologize to Vince for ditching out in the middle of the day, Well, the end of the date, paid for half the dinner, like it was the end of it. It's not like she'd left

in the middle, like he should apologize for her. Did apologize, He was like, I'm sorry if I set you up for the trap, but you were the one that scheduled another date right after me. Oh, it's not a real enough none at all. He said, I'm proud of what I did. Was this male model friend up to anyway? I haven't heard of, Jessica apologize once. I don't feel like I need to apologize. I did not lie to him. I told him I needed to go. I didn't owe him anything. Yeah, and it's not your it's not your fault,

Jessica that his friend was hotter. Yeah, and it wasn't about the friend being a hotter you guy, kitty. It sounds like we're not going to be able to get another date out of this for anybody, But did we at least learn an important life lesson from it all? Yeah? Online dating is a waste of time. Close. This show is a waste of time. But you know, thanks for

playing Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. You know, sometimes in these second date updates, you can feel the ships start to sink and we can try and bail it out and try and save it, or sometimes there doesn't really matter. It's going full Titanic. This is gonna sink no matter what, and we just have to. Yeah, chalk it up to a bad day. That was definitely this second date update. There is no chance. But I'm pretty sure she's going to hit up his hot roommate again.

Oh you know, the buddy did him a favor for a second. But yeah, I mean he didn't want a date or so. No, I mean she's going to do that just to spite him. Maybe maybe, but it'll still be good for her. She may even play the long game, like just marry her friend, marry his friend, go all the way up to there just to rub it in his face up on the altar. That's kind of weird how specific you're thinking the ship sinking again. Get off

the ship, jeff I'm jumping overboard. Anyway. If you ever want to get a second date update, you can always email the show, we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back