Second Date Update: Dine and Ghost

One of our listeners wrote in. He said he unintentionally left his date hanging for about fifteen minutes, and when he got back he had to deal with the consequences. So let's talk to him about it. Joseph, Welcome to the show. Hi, guys, thanks for having it. Okay, Well, fifteen minutes doesn't sound that bad. I guess it was more like maybe twice men. Okay, Well, why don't we start at the beginning. Why don't you tell us about the girl? What's her name? Okay? Her name is Tyra? Tyra? Okay?

And how did you meet met her on a dating app? Okay? And you know, I don't really know what it is but I don't match with a lot of people on these dating apps. Okay, but I matched with Tyra, So I was really excited about that. That's awesome, cool, that's great news. Man. So was there anything special that stood out about Tyra or just that she responded and that's okay. She didn't even have a profile pick man, just one of those like gray silhouettes she responding. I was really

surprised and I got a message. Okay, okay, okay, that's good. You can get you say you were obviously really excited about this date. Yeah, very much as calling you back totally. So what did you guys end up doing? Well? We we went out for dinner and drinks, and I was a little nervous. What was it like when you first showed up at the restaurant? Well, I was a half hour late. Oh why, that's really late. Yeah, we're not judging. It's not a judgmental way. It's like, oh no, what happens.

I'm kind of judging. That's pretty bad. I'm feel really bad. I wanted to go home to change, but I guess I didn't manage my time and you were late I got there. I mean, were you able to give her a heads up or was she upset about it? She was nice. Actually, I think I wasn't able to give her heads up, but she was very nice when I got there. Oh so I thought that was a good save. Yeah, no offense. She has every right to be a little like, excuse me, Yeah right, I'm not mad, but I think

it's disrespectful. It's like saying that someone's time is you know, not as it's not worth as much as your every day Yeah. I think obviously the clothes that you chose were very important, and that's probably why she was so happy. She was like, wow, I'd be mad if you didn't look so damn fly. Right, wear that shirt? That's right. So I actually did look damn fly that night. Okay, all right, Jesus, that's the confidence. So how did that

dinner go? I went good? When good? We talked about normal stuff, and we were talking about life and family and where we see ourselves in five years. You guys got deep. Yeah, and that's good that you had like a chemistry because you were able to keep conversation going, and that you're comfortable with each other like sharing like that type of vulnerable information. Absolutely all this is sounding really good. But take us to the moment where you

left for fifteen or twenty minutes. Okay. After we talked, the later brought the check and I went to pay, and I realized I forgot my wallet in my car. Okay, okay, Well he's obviously not very organized. Not as an insult, I'm not either, but like, you're late. You don't manage your time, right, you just changed your pants and the other pants I understand. Man, So well, why did it take you fifteen minutes to run out and get your wallet? Well, I didn't realize my car was further away than I saw.

It was about a half a mile away. Unfortunately, Oh my god, my god. Yeah. I told her I'm not leaving. I'll be right back. But when I got back, she was gone. Oh, She's like, this is the second time you left me? Hang and did she pay the bill too? Or did you no? The waiter was there, and he was he looked at me like, what are you doing? Yeah? Pretty much? Okay? Man, So how long ago was this? That was about a week ago, okay? And what kind of contact have you had with her since? Not? Absolutely not.

She hasn't texted me or she hadn't called I even went back onto the dating site and I try to send her a message that way, and she didn't answer that either. Yeah, hoping you actually help me. Yeah, yeah, we're definitely gonna help. But before we do, what outfit are you wearing right now? I'm wearing black doctors and a T shirt. All right, Look at that's interesting because I'm not wearing any pants. I was going to say something, so I just think it's these are important details that

we need to know before we call. You don't have your wallet though, Oh no I do, jose You just can't see it anything. So you know what, Let's play a song. We'll come back, get my wallet out for you said, I'm vibrating. Anyway, we're gonna we'll come back and we'll call TI or try and get your second date out date. Okay, that's really gross, but thank you. I can't hold on. Bad news, guys, I've been looking. I can't reach my wallet. Oh my god, I need

someone with smaller hands. Election Yeah, when we're down to this employee. But more bad news, one of our listeners, Joseph, isn't getting a call back after his dinner day. He showed up thirty minutes late. And after the meal, he realized he forgot his wallet in the car had to run and go grab it, but he parked half a mile away from the restaurant, so by the time he got back his date, Tyra had already bounced, and he's tried apologizing to her via text in the app, but

has not been able to reach her since. And I'm just hoping that he hasn't ghosted us since we started the second date up that Joseph, are you still there? Yeah? I'm here, Okay, good, I'm just like I said, this is the only person I matched with. I mean, we had a couple of mishaps with being lighted and the wallet, but I would like to see her again. Okay, you think everything has been great? No, I think what he's saying is that there's a lot of pressure on this

one because this is his one match. This has to work. Okay, Well, if this doesn't work out, do you have her home address? No, there's other ways, That's all I'm saying. I'm not a creep, Broka, I'm just saying options, That's all I'm saying. Anyway, We're going to give Tyra call and see if she answers. You ready, to do this man. Yeah, yeah, we're rooting for you. And what what size are your hands? Okay, well, we'll worry about that later. Let's just let's call Tyra first. Hello. Hey,

I'm looking to speak with Tyra. It's a she. How are you? How are you? Tyra? You are so polite. Um. My name is Jeff from the radio show broken Jeffrey in the Morning. Wait you men to say it again. My name is Jeff and I work on a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. So we're out here too. Oh okay, hell to do you? Actually you do? Did I run something? Well? No, I don't think you won. Why did everyone ask that? Yea, yeah, no,

that's all right. But we were hoping to talk to you because we're trying to do a second date update right now. Oh boy? Okay, yeah, so you know how those work. We've had somebody to reach out about you after they went on a date with you. Can I know who it is? Well, his name is Joseph. You remember Joseph? Oh? Anybody? But sorry? Oh no, obviously Joseph has reached out and he told us about the time that you guys spend together and we know that there

were a few issues about the date. What did you think? How did it go for you? Well, I really don't want this on the radio if I have a choice, But can I just say dude has issues more issues than Sports Illustrated Oh forever. I mean that he's bad with time management, Like he told us that he was like thirty minutes late showing up and more like forty But okay, oh, I can't believe you hung around. Well, you know what, it's not a big deal because I'm not good with time either. I just happened to be,

you know, one time that day because I was excited. Yeah, like, I'm on time for dates too, but I'm not on anything else. He was really complimentary. He said that you were super kind about it when you when he finally did show up, Oh yeah, I mean it happens. Stuff happened, and he was telling us that he had a really great time having dinner with you and that you guys had a really nice conversation together and had a lot

in common. No, because I'm like, oh, it's just so cringey, guys. Okay, so the time thing was a big deal, but not a big deal. But I was a little angry, but I could get over there. Yeah right, So which part was cringey to you? So crazy? What the hell is going on? Part was we started eating and this mofo is a carpet? What do you mean? A copycat? Have you ever heard of mirroring? I felt like I was being mirror Like mirroring like when when you try to

behave like the other person. Okay, that's part of like attraction, Like people do that to try and build attraction with each other. Yeah, oh really, I ordered whine. Do you order the exact same white wine? So I'm like okay, And you know, like me, I'm greedy, so if you get something different, I want to take your stuff the same thing as me. What is fun about that? But sometimes, like maybe he's like nervous. Right, let's let's give it

the benefit of the doubt. Here, he's nervous. You hear somebody say something, You're like, oh, actually that sounds good to me too. I'll take that too. But every single thing, come on, guys, Yeah okay. So first of all was the wine, and I'm like okay. Then I ordered lasagna and he ordered lazaka. Oh he did mention that he got lasagna and it was really good. But he said that he was really into it, and he didn't mention

that he was just copying you. Yeah, okay, but I really really really wanted the lasagna, so I pretended, and then after he ordered it, I said, well, maybe I'll get the shrimp and he said, oh, let's take a look at that. Let's take a look at that. No, So I ended up going back to the lasign here because I'm like, Okay, he's just gonna go where I go, so and I will get what I really want. I mean, I mean, I got the Willie's. It was so creepy.

I mean, there's that really a reason not to call somebody back, though, But I don't want to live like that, like hol on, how does this stance go? I know? I mean, you listen to our morning show. He listens to our morning show. You're on the phone. He's on the phone right now and wants to talk to you, right No, no, no, no, no, yeah, that's Joseph. You're there, man, Yeah, I'm here. Tyram. I'm blown away by all this. I had no idea that's how you saw me. No, no, see,

Tyra was blown away first. Now you're just mirroring your emotions. Correct, I'm mirroring your emotions. Are you saying you had no idea you were doing that? Bro? No, I had no idea I was doing that. I admit I was a bit nervous. I wasn't deliberately trying to copy whatever she

was doing. Yeah, it was my own appreciate that at all. Like, you just gotta do what you you know, whatever you want, Like you didn't have to get to lasagna, and you even looked at something else and you went back to the lasagna because that's what I was getting, Joseph, you can't do that. Well, I figured you'd like the lasagna so much, you know that you could just eat all yours and then you could then have some of mine. Oweet thought, No, you would have to be there. It's

not Actually it was too much. I ask you. Is that why you left at the end of the day without Like, I mean you kind of ghosted him at the end, right like I thought you left because he left you sitting at the table for twenty minutes by yourself. Well, it was everything. It was a whole combo platter. I mean, he was late initially. Then it was the mirroring the copycat crying, and then you left me again. And then I'm sitting there thinking he wasn't going to come back.

I didn't know why he wouldn't come back, but I was like, I am not getting stuck with this bill. So I was out. I was coming back. I had every intention of pain. I just needed to get my wallet. I'm not a copycat. I mean, do you like do you like going bowling? I do like going bowling. That I don't want to go with you. Oh wait, maybe he was going to say he hated bowling, which is a totally different opinion. Now I'm scared to say what I like because I know he's gonna like it too.

I don't even want to say what I like. I want to ask him first and see if he likes it, and then I can tell you what I do. Go ahead, Joseph, say something. Say something that you like. I like going skiing, I don't like. Okay, this is perfect. Who knew we were looking for uncommon ground. I should clarify. I used to like skiing, but I'm not too crazy about it now that I'm the last like twenty seconds. It's kind of it's a coincidence. I do kind of see it now.

I mean, you don't want to fully commit. I guess she doesn't like something. I g I think it was. She's saying, it's really attractive for a man to have his own likes, his interest, you know, to have his own personality, and you should feel really secure in those about yourself. Yeah, well, Tyra, I like you. Was cute. It was, and that's why Tyra, we really her. He's marrying me again because I like me too. You're hard, You're a hard one to win over. Well, yeah, everything.

We would like to send you guys out on another date and we'll pay for it. Tirah. I'm a good guy, a bit nervous, you know, a little different from you, and you know I like to show you that. If you let me take you out on another day, I would like the phone a friend. Can we be your friend? I say, go for it. He's not crazy, he's not doing it to be weird. Oh, he's not crazy. But I think I'm going to pass. Joseph. I think you're a nice guy. I just don't think you know we're

a compatible low But I wish you luck. That's fair, Joseph. I also think that you're a nice guy. Well, I want to wish her luck, but she's just gonna say I'm copying her hard circle. You're in Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.