Second Date Update: Adulting Out Of Control

out what happened. Hey, mary Elle, how are you doing? I'm good. How are you all doing? Good? Yeah, I'm interested to hear what happened at the end of your date. But I think we have to go through a couple of things before we get there. Yeah, I think we should probably start at the beginning. Who is this guy? His name is Pete? Okay, and how do you know him? Well? I met Pete threw a mutual friend. We were set up. Oh, okay,

were you excited about that? I was, actually because my friend told me he was a little bit more of like an easygoing, laid back kind of guy, and it was really refreshing to hear, because my last relationship was a little bit more straight edged. So um, it was nice to meet someone who was a little bit more free. I feel like they always do that whenever you get out of a relationship. They're always like, oh, don't worry, he's not anything like the horrible person that you dated

last time. He's the opposite. Yeah, and he was pretty cute too. I saw some of his pictures online, so okay, I was really excited. Okay, So like your ex boyfriend who was a total ug, that's right. I mean, they're hot when you're dating them. But what would you guys end up doing for your date together? So we just met up for drinks and I was actually coming off work, so I thought I would just go straight from work and we could see what happens after that. And so

this was a this was a blind date. You guys hadn't ever seen each other or met prior to this. Prior to no, just like I looked at his pictures online. I don't know if he saw pictures of me, but I'm sure yeah, I just saw pictures. So what was it like when you met him? So I, like I said, I just went straight from work, so I was still in like my work clothes. I didn't get to change or anything like that. When I approached him, I thought he was really cute, but he said something weird to me.

He said that I looked like Chris Jenner, Oh my god, the Dashian of all. Yeah, but there's like four you don't sound old. Noah, Maybe he meant you're well dressed. He actually said, yeah, the middle one. And in my head I'm thinking, like he just throwing out a Kardashian. I don't know, as long as he'd ever compare you to Rob then you're they're all pretty good looking. What do you do for work? Like? What kind of outfit were you in that you look like a Kardashians, Like

big fake fur? Yeah, so I work in an office, so I usually wear like a blazer and some it's not like super work professional professional work pants, but power Yeah, you're looking like a power lady. Yeah. So how did drinks actually go? With him? So the day I felt like was going pretty well. We actually talked about some of our hobbies, which were like he likes to do that stationary bike peloton, Yeah, he likes to do that.

I take boxing classes and some archery lessons and yeah, so I felt like we kind of bonded on the exercise aspect. Was there any exciting parts of the date, because I think that's exciting, Like, was there any like flirty moments or anytime you like cracked up on? Control of peloton? Is flirty? Brook? You? Obviously I've never ridden one everywhere? What's your usual output? I don't know. If you're a peloton rider, then you know. I last week and damn it was hot again. I was asking for

the highlights? An all right, Maria, was anything more exciting than peloton talk happening? I think we were joking around, we were connecting on topics, and so we wanted to keep going, but they weren't. We were both getting hungry and they weren't. They didn't serve food there at the spot we were at. Okay, Yeah, so I live close by and I offered to make him some dinner, and I never yeah, and so I never invite someone over if I'm meeting them for the first time, Like that's

just kind of crazy. But I figured we were hitting it off. He didn't seem weird or anything like that. So I that makes sense too, because like your friend had already vouched for him, right, So there's like a level of trust going into it. It's a little bit different than just a total stranger. Okay. So then I brought him up to my place and I had rice

and like some shrimps. So I just threw something together real quick, and he seemed to like it and enjoy it, and we talked some more and nothing weird was happening. We had some more wine, but then it was getting late and I have work in the morning, so I just said that I should be getting to bed soon. Did he see that as an invitation? Look at Jeffrey's even responsored there. I don't know. I thought opposite. I guess it depends on how you said it. Yeah, yeah,

that's true. Did you say it with a whisper? To bed? Now? As you said it? Power blazer slip one? Okay. I questioned all of your flirting habits, Mary. How did it go? He was respectable and he didn't seem to try anything, and he went home, and I was a little worried that I might have hurt his feeling because I needed to go to bed. You invited him over to your house and fed him. He doesn't guarantee stay the night of first hangout. Have you checked it with your girlfriend

who set you guys up? She hasn't said anything in regards to whether or not he wants to see me again or anything like that. I thought I thought she was a good friend. Yeah, well, fend to him and that could be. That could be. Yeah, I don't I don't even know if they've talked about it. I have messaged him, yeah, and I haven't heard too much back from him. But the stuff that I do here is just seems like a like normal kind of conversation. I

believe in chemistry, vibes, like there's a connection. You can tell if someone's changed their feelings they're about to drop you. Yeah, and you have no idea why? No? Okay, well, let's play a song. We'll come back. We'll call Pete for you. We'll try and get you your second date up date? Okay, Mariol Okay, great, thank you? All right, hold on, second date up date. What can you say to a guy that you're interested in to let him know that you do like him, but you also have real world obligations.

Do you say a I've had fun, but I have real world's obligations and I have to wake up early, reasonable though? Or do you go with option B and say I like you, but I do have to go to bed for work. It is okay if you want to stand and watch. I always choose B because it lets them know that you are still interested. So you're not the watcher, you're the sleeper. Yes, okay, I will sleep so that they're with me until my last conscious moment. They just stand above you. Yeah, it must be easy

to drift off. It's called romance book. Oh but our listener, Maryelle, chose option A and look what happened not getting a call style? Yeah, Maryall, are you regretting that now that you know that there's another option? A little bit? A little bit? Yeah, that's okay. See, these are learning experiences for a lot of our listeners, so you'll know better next time. Yeah, but we're almost ready to call Pete for you. How you feeling here? A little nervous? I guess.

I don't mean to make you feel worse, but I'm nervous for you too. I am. Oh. I mean, here's the thing, Maryall, like you sound so awesome. You saund really nice. You did kind things for him on the date and you have no idea why he's calling back. I feel like maybe you're a little naive and you miss something. And I don't mean to say that in a bad way, but no, I'm just I'm just worried. We're gonna get him on the phone and he's gonna say,

you know, something that might hurt your feelings. I don't know. I thought we connected. I thought we had a lot of things in common. Maybe that's true in your defense, maybe he's literally just busy see you giving you space, you know, a lot of space, like a lot. Yeah, okay, And you know what, maryl If for some reason Pete does agree to go out with you again, I will ask him if he will watch you as you go to sleep, just to make sure this goes smoothly for

the rest of the relationship. That has your back, Marye. That's right. So let's do this. I'm gonna give Pete a call and we're gonna get your second date update. You're ready, ready? All right? Here we go. Hello? Hey is this Pete? This is Pete? Who's this? Hey Pete? My name's Jeff from the radio show Broken Jeffrey in the Morning. How you doing, man Um, I'm Okay, how'd you get this number? Well, we got your number from one of our listeners who's been trying to get a

hold of you. Okay. It's part of a segment that we do on our show called a second Date Update. That's where if you go out with someone and afterwards, if that person isn't calling you back, you can email us and we'll reach out to them for you to help you figure out the reason why. And so, okay. The woman that reached out to us, her name's Mariel. Oh, Marielle. Okay, good, Oh Marielle. Like that a good vibe out of that one, yes,

but maybe not the best vibe. Not the best vibe. Okay. Well, mary Elle told us a little bit about your date, and she felt like there was a good vibe. So obviously there's been a disconnect there and she's been having trouble reaching you and she doesn't really understand why you're not responding. Well, I mean, listen, Mariel's really nice. She seemed super sweet, and I think I even put my foot in my mouth calling her a Kardashian. Hopefully it was the right one, but no, I don't think it was.

She told us about that you went with the matriarchy. See that's how dated. I I have no idea. I just thought she looked pretty and professional. She looked great. I was trying to give her a compliment. Yeah, no's awesome, And she honestly brought it up as a funny moment from a date, not like a low moment from the date. It sounds like you really like her. Well, so, yeah, I mean she seems like a really nice person on

that one. Yea, what I mean, let's get to the reason why you're not calling her back, because that's what she's confused about. Well, I mean, I'm not gonna lie like she has like a paper calendar up on her wall. I mean, like my mother has one of those on her refrigerator at home. Wait, what are you talking about? My mom has one too. Hold on, hold on, yeah, slow down, Yeah, you're saying when you went over to her house, yes, well, so she invited me over and

we had dinner. But as I'm looking around, it's like she's got anti cat collection up on the wall. One of the things that she mentioned was that she has to be in bed by ten pm every night. And I'm not a child. As a bedtime like I like to stay up until I'm ready to go to bed, and then I want to come. You're talking to the wrong crowd. We all do morning radio by nine bro. I don't still quite get it. And those are the reasons you're not calling her back. She's like old. She

has old cat pictures. It's like, you know, you're asking me, do I like my mother? Yes? I loved my mother. Okay, I've got old your mom. We're asking you if you like someone that is a responsible adult. Is what it sounds like to me. Yeah, I like her as a person. I don't know if I see us with anything more than that. There was excuse me, I have something to stay here? Oh yeah, Pete. That's that's Maryelle on the other line. She was supposed to wait till I called

her in, but uh yeah, she's she's there schedule. Yeah, I guess she has things that she's got to do. Um, what is this like? It's to put it back? Yeah, it's a fun radio segment we do. All right, So you're not calling me back because I have a calendar. Well, I mean, when you boil it down that much, it sounds really bad. I think the calendars just microcosm of just maybe your lifestyle and my lifestyle are in different places. You know what, wait, what is your lifestyle, Pete? I

don't understand. I mean, what would you prefer to see on her walls? You know, not paper calendars, an antique cat like an Avengers poster. It's crinkled up with no frame on it. Sure, so, because I live my life as an adult and you don't, this is why you don't think we can hang out again. I don't understand. I mean it sounds like you actually understand about perfectly. Mariel, Like, Wow, she's adulting too hard for you. Pictures are a little much.

Everybody has different interests, Mariel, I mean, like, what are you what are you feeling right now? I'm definitely not thinking about going on a second date with him. I mean he just sounds so childish. Yeah, here's me, Mariel, Like, I haven't even been asking for a second date. I feel like I've been cordial and nice. But I think that if there's a vibe there, then you know we're good to go. But there kind of hasn't been. So we're not say opposite, right, you guys are very opposite

in this case. I'm not really sure. You could have said something more in the text message. I've been texting you and like, I mean, you could have at least said like, hey, this isn't going to work out or something. But you're acting childish and you just want to like string me along or something like that. Yeah, see, that's what adults do. He doesn't know how to do that. Mariel. I feel like we're getting really into the weeds and it's like, I don't think we're even there. Mariel. Yeah,

probably because you're acting like a man baby. I don't really know what to say. I didn't mean they like lie to you. I was just trying to be nice, and I guess I should have been more upfront. Yeah, she's trying to be nice and ghost you and I'll talk to you again. Well, one day you owe someone a million tacks. I don't think you do. But here's the thing, Mariel to her defense, like, yeah, she may have some cat things around her house, but she called a really cool radio station to get you on the

phone radio And that's what I mean. And Mariel mentioned to us Pete that you have a peloton that's an old person exercise machine, but young people can't afford that. That's why it has to be. I'll ride my peloton in my full Spandex gear if I want. That's fun. There you go Spandex to ride your peloton. You got to have protective gear, the helmet at the glove he do whatever fun. You put training wheels on your peloton too.

Oh my god. Okay, well, at this point, I don't know how we could possibly save this, so I'm just gonna ask Pete, would you like to go out on another date with Mariel. We'll pay for it. She could pencil it into her calendar on her wall. I'm going to have to respectfully decline. I think you wanted the day anyway, did you? Marry'all? No, I would not even

consider it. And Pete, I think you're going to have to pay me back for dinner because since this isn't going to work out, you owe me for the shrimp. Oh my god. And I can guarantee you she has a paper receipt to prove the price. Yeah. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,