2nd Date Update PODCAST: You Gay or What

find a new safe word. One of the longest words in the English Dictionary, flossinas in the hill of hilification. Try to use that as a safe word. You screw up one syllable. It's going to take a long time for things to stop. And Dan is on the phone right now for a second date update. He tried something new for his first date, but now he's not getting a call back. What's up, Dan? What's up? Hey? Guys?

How are you? I'm cool? Man? All right, well, not totally all right, because you're not getting a call back from a girl you really want to go out with again. But before we get into your actual date, what's her name? Amanda? Amanda? All right? And where did you meet Amanda? You've heard that thing called tender. Yeah you're a funny guy too. Yeah, never heard, never heard of it. I don't know. We do these second at updates all the time. First time

anybody's ever mentioned tender. Someone just told me about it. So I was like, oh, you know, I'll get up there. I'm more of a match dot com guy. But they were like, tender is really the way to go? And wait, so are you serious? You didn't really you hadn't really heard of tender before. I mean I had heard people talking about it, and I was like, uh, okay, okay, so to actually try it? All right? So you met her, no idea. It's a whole new world. It's a lot

different than match, isn't it a lot of different than match? Right? But yeah, we is all the swiping stuff and like I don't know, like we matched and there's that moment or oh my god, maybe this and we were like chatting like I don't know, two weeks or whatever. We're trying to Yeah, it is a while, but like you know, I asked like the five questions, like you know, what's your favorite with your favorite tackle, what's your favorite sports team?

And you're not short on details, You're not short on details, Dan, and that's what I like about you. You make sure you get everything in. Let's just get to the date. Not to rush you along, but we we you know, we're up against the clock here. Yeah yeah, I know, I know you're excited about tender, but let's get to what you guys actually did. Your email said that you did something that you haven't done before with a girl.

And what exactly was that? If you can say it on the radio, Well, she said, hey, you might if I pick a place, and I was like, oh, no, that's cool, and she goes, yeah, there's this great bar. The drinks are like a little on the cheaper side, so it's it's really casual, and they've gotten music. And like, again with the details, did what did you do you make sure you get you like sold it? And I was like yeah, okay, fine, And we get to the place and there was a rainbow flag out fry. Okay,

so it's a gay bar. Yeah. She was like, hey, it's a it's she brought me to a gay bar and I was like, whoa, I've never been to a gay bar, but what rock are you living? Understand? I didn't know that you could just sort of like go to a gay bar to hang out if you weren't gay and check, yeah they're not. Yeah. They're actually one of the groups in America that's pretty inclusive, like pretty understanding of people that want to like hang out. You know.

I think they've had a lot of people tell them they can't go places, so they're pretty cool with anybody showing up. Yeah I know that. Now. Did that freak you out? No, it didn't freak me out at all. I just like, I'm not gay, so I didn't know like if I had to act a certain way. Yeah, we got that. Yeah, you can just go be yourself. Were you? Yourself? Is the reason you're not getting a call back because you were all weird. I actually I felt freer than I'd ever saw them in a while.

It's like really cool, like we were dancing, but then um we decided to like sit down and talk for a while. And people kept coming up to her and they were like, who's this tall drink of water And I've never heard that before. I was like, I'm a drink of water, Like, I've never never heard that before either. Yeah, that's a pretty common thing people say, Oh, so Dan, did you act mystified the entire time you were there, because I would say that would be a turn off

for me. And no, I wasn't mystified. I was just and I was smiling a lot, like it was cool. I was having a good time. So like, eventually the bar was getting a little rowdy, a little too loud and crowded and so um, we just decided to just head out and we were walking back to her car, and I don't know, I was just like, it's good. I felt pretty free and I kissed her her okay, oh nice, Yeah, did she enjoy it? Yeah? She kissed me back, and I was like, hey, I've had the

best time tonight. You want to do this again? And she said yeah, like resounding yes. And I reached out the next day and I was like, hey, I had had a great time. I even put like a little gay flag emoji on the text. I thought that was kind of cool because we were at a gay bar. But whatever, and then nothing, and uh, like the blue bubbles went to green bubbles and I was like, oh wait,

I think I got like blocked. Wait she blocked your number. Well, I don't know, you know how sometimes here give your blue bubbles turned to Green Bubbles. Does that mean you got blocked? I've never been. I just thought it went off I message. Yeah, I don't know. We well, like, we've got so much information here to work with now, Dan, I don't I don't want to get into all that, sure, but we do know that she's ignored you since your date. Please, I don't like to use the word ignored, but yeah,

she's been ignoring me. And Okay, honestly, I had like a much better time than I expect that I was going to at at a gay bar. It was pretty cool. Well, okay, we'll give it a shot. Let's try. Okay, all right, I'm gonna I'm gonna play a song and then we'll come back and call her and get your second date update. All right, cool? Okay brooking jubil in the morning up

right in the middle of a second date update. And if you're just joining us, Dan is on the phone and the world is basically a whole new place for Dan all the time. It sounds like, if you miss the first part, Dan met a girl on tender. It's the first time he's really used tender and they went out to a gay bar. Was her choice, but he was just surprised because he'd never been to a gay

bar before. I didn't have any judgment. Just the whole thing was very interesting to him and it would open up his eyes to that lifestyle and how they have bars just like normal people. I know he was freaking out about it. But anyway, they hung out there then left. He had end up kissing her before she got in the car and went home. But now she's not talking to him at all. We're gonna see if we can find out what went wrong. And you can't think of

like any awkward moments, Dan, That's the thing. During this ghosting period, I was like, did I did I say something weird? Did my breath smell? Did I smell like? And I can't think of anything, and I'm just kind of weirded out by it all, you know. All Right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you. Okay, I'm gonna dial her phone number right now, right on. Hello? Hi is this Amanda? Yeah? Hi? Who's this? Hey Amanda? How are you? This is Jewel from the radio show

Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Kay. Are you familiar at all? I think I've heard of it before, but I don't listen to radio very much. To be honest, that's fine. That's how we like it. We like people who have just heard of it and not listened, so that you don't really know how to judge us, you know what I mean. We prefer people just kind of know of us, but don't really actually actively listen to our show. So it's nice to meet you, Amanda m Yeah you too. Can I ask why you're calling me? No, yes,

of course you can. Yeah, that's all. I just want to see if you're familiar at all with us. Man, I'm calling you because we got an email about you from somebody who listens to our show. Oh really, yeah his name is and oh okay, yeah, yeah, you went on a date with Dan h. But now you're not talking to him and he's wondering why. Um, is this like a normal thing you guys do. Yeah, yeah it is.

We do a segment our so called the Second Date Updates, where if you go out on a date with somebody and then blow them off, they can email us to call you and figure out what happened. And that's why Dan emailed us. All right, did he maybe come across as ignorant? I guess you would say, he seemed really baffled by a lot of things like Tinder and gay bars, and like maybe he said something that he shouldn't have. No, we had a good time. He's a great guy. Actually

really Okay, so you had a good time. He was a great guy, but you don't want to talk to him anymore? Yeah, why come on? That doesn't give us a lot. I mean, it's kind of weird to tell you guys about it. Can you and not even us? Can you tell us so that we can tell him, because he's the one that's really curious. I mean, I'd rather you not tell him. Why is it something that he did? Kind of all right, I'll just I don't

know how much he told you guys. But we went to a gay bar and some of my friends were there, a few gay friends, and they're one hundred percent sure he's not straight. Oh really, Like all of them collectively thought that, yeah, yeah, and they're never wrong about this stuff. Okay, So you don't want to go out with him on another date because you think that he's not interested in you. Yeah,

that's what I mean women in general. Yeah, I mean he seemed interested, and at the time I didn't actually think so, But the more I have been thinking about it since then, the more I agree with them, and I think he's probably gay. I feel like, if he is gay, he doesn't even know he's gay yet, because, yeah,

he seems pretty oblivious to most things in life. Yeah, that's that's what they were saying, is that he probably has no idea, but he he was just way too comfortable, Like he said it was the first time he's been to a gay bar, but he was like singing and dancing, and like, don't you think maybe he was just cutting loose, Like I don't dance in normal bars, but anytime I've been to a gay bar, for some reason, the dancing takes over and I'll get hammered to dance. I don't

know why. And he did say that he had felt more open and comfortable there than he has Yeah. Maybe ever, Yeah, at the time, I just thought he was having fun and like we were having a fun time together. But like, for example, my friends pointed out like he was in the bathroom grooming his hair and like just being really

meticulous about it. Obviously I didn't see that, but they were telling me about it, and they were saying, like his mannerisms are like kind of typically gay or a feminine you know, yeah, but does I mean it sounds like they're even playing into the gay stereotype at this point, you know, yeah, I know it sounds like stereotyping, but like they were very insistent that they are all in agreement. He is not straight. Every single one of your gay

friends thinks that's dude is gay? Gang. Yeah, they were like five of my friends there, five gay guys I know who all agree. Why wouldn't you go out on another day with them and just I don't know, find out the water. I just don't want to get involved. If he's like discovering something about himself, I don't want to complicate that anymore than it already is. You know what.

We talked to him, and he did sound like he was discovering a lot of things, Like he was the way that he even talked about being that he was like I felt the most free. So, I mean, I don't know if I can necessarily argue with you, maybe he is, but you don't want to go out with him again just in case he's all of a sudden realizing that he might be gay. He's a great guy and we could be friends, but I just don't want

to get romantically involved with him right now. You know, Well, maybe you can talk to him about being his friend, because he's actually on the phone right now listening and wants to talk to you. And oh my god, I'm so sorry, Dan, I did not know you were listening. Yeah, I'm a little confused here. Um, I think so. I think that's the whole point of the phone called Dan. No, I mean, Amanda, I don't know how to say this, but I'm I'm not gay, Amanda. I think your friends

are mistaken. I think they're the ones that are a little confused because I'm I'm super straight, like like super duper Look, Dan, I'm really sorry. I'm not trying to call you out or out you on the radio, but I just am going by what my friend said. Your friends were so cool, like I would trust them also, but not about this, Like we like totally hit it off. And I mean if I was gay, would we have like that kiss? Was that? That? Kids kind of rocks, right? Yeah?

I mean but bang eyes can kiss well too. That doesn't doesn't mean anything, but but they usually kiss guys well. I mean, I will say I don't think that you're being fair. Like he's saying he is attracted to you, and that's all that matters. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, even if, even if down the road, he's attracted to me, right now, he's attracted to you. Wait, I'm sorry, hang on, Uh yeah, I'm not attracted to men, so I'm not I'm not gonna like become attracted to men. Okay, Well

what about my friend with the tattoo. You're like holding his arm like admiring his tattoo for I don't know, like five full minutes. WHOA. The ink work on his arm is spectacular. The shadowing is amazing. I've been wanting to get like a really rad tribal for a while, and Charlie's work was really rad tribal. I don't think he's gay, Amanda. You had a good time with him, You had fun. You guys shared a great kiss. I feel like you're letting your friends ruin something that could

be really cool. Ye. Like I said, he's saying he's attracted to you and he likes tattoos. One of them said, Seante, you stay and look. I don't know what that means, but I was like, I'm cool. I'm gonna hang out. Okay, so what I don't know. I have no idea what you just said, Dan, or we're even trying to explain. But Amanda, will you go out on a second date with Dan? We will pay for it. He's telling you that he's not gay, even though your friends say he is.

I'm not gay. I'm not gay. I guess if you guys are paying for it, I'd be open into that we can hang out. But I feel like I'm gonna need some convincing that you're actually not gay. I am so down to convince you that I don't should be with a man, but I want to like hang out with you. Yeah, I'm not convinced, but hopefully, Amanda, you'll be convinced. Congratulations, Dan, you got a second day. Seantey you stay y, Yes, Shantell you stay. Congratulations Broken Jewel in the morning,