2nd Date Update PODCAST: That Sounds Interesting

for a second date update? Right now? What's up Oscar? Hey? Guys, scold up not much. Your email said that you googled how to date or something like that. Can you explain? Yeah, so I've found something out from a friend recently that I didn't know about myself, and apparently a few of my friends, uh feel this way. Um, he said, I'm a boring dater. Wait, how would your friend even know? Because have you have you been on a date with your friend? Oh? Yeah, we've been on double dates and

things like that. Okay, I mean, how did that feel when your friends said that you're boring and that's why you're not successful in dating? I mean, at first, I didn't believe him. I thought, no, there's no way that's true. I think I'm a fun guy. But then after a while I kind of took a real look at myself and I thought, hey, maybe maybe he's right. Yeah, but why would he be friends with you if you're such a boring person? A lot of boring person, just boring dater? Yeah,

the difference. Okay, actually be a good friend. So how did you correct being a boring dater? So, I, you know, did what everybody does. I googled how to not be a boring dater? All right, and did you find out any good information? Yeah? So I found this one article and it gave me three pretty pretty good tips that I wanted to try out. Okay. Number one was be a dating anthropologist, which basically just means observe everything and be curious, to have an open mind, lie about your

occupation anthropologist. So observe thing and keep an open mind. Did you do that? Yeah, it did. That's a really good tip. What else did you do? Well? The second thing it said was it's okay to laugh at the other person's jokes and stories. So I did that. Did

you not feel like it was okay before? Like if someone says it's being funny, I guess before I would have just dominated the conversation a little bit more, not paid attention as much to their You can always judge their comedy too, Like if they make a bad jokes like that wasn't funny, here's why, let me tell you how that joke could have been better. You can always critique their their material, you know exactly all right? What was the third thing that you learned about dating from Google?

The third thing? I thought this is interesting. It said relax and don't be quote fake fun and yeah, it was just means don't try too hard. So I guess in the past I've always tried a little bit too hard, like like saying like we're having a great time, aren't, well, this is a great time, it's amazing something along those lines. Yeah, okay, I mean I imagine it sounds like you get pretty nervous, so you probably clam up and then try extra hard to almost not be yourself, and then it comes off

boring and weird. I think I think it's something like that. Yeah, So how did it all go when you use these tips on your date? It went really well. First we went to a bar, and you know, for some pizza and drinks. Then she wanted to get tacos, so we went to a taco truck instead. And normally I would never do that because you know the reputation that taco trucks have for being dirty. But you know, I wanted to be loose and follow the list. So that's what

we did. Oh loose and follow the list like that, just kind of against each other. But that's cool. Well, hopefully the tacos were at least decent. Yeah, they're okay. Any other notable things from the date, like how did the actual conversation and stuff go? I mean, the conversation went well. We we both talked about our work. I let her talk a lot about what she does, and instead of you know, trying to talk more about myself and force things in, I said things like, hmm, that's interesting.

So I was being the anthropologist And were you actually listening sometimes? You know, I mean, you know where she works, right, Like, at least you heard that piece what she does for a living. I'm pretty sure I heard that. Yeah. And on top of that, I laughed at all of her jokes, even the ones that weren't funny. So you sound like, you're really proud of yourself for this date. I think I did a good job. How did how did the date end? Well, I mean it didn't end with a kiss,

if that's what you mean. I didn't try to kiss her because I just went into it not trying to expect anything. I mean, did you guys make plans or what was the kind of parting words? I said A call her, and I mean she didn't say anything. She just kind of smiled and walked away. Okay, what do you think? Why do you think she's not calling you? I mean, I just hope she he's not cheating on someone else. That's because did you think that maybe she was in a relationship or that you're just jumping to

that conclusion. That's the only thing I can think of. She's a really pretty girl, and you know I followed the list exactly, So I don't know why she wouldn't be into me. Yeah, she's either taken her dead. Those are pretty extreme measures, I don't think, so. I can't think of any other reason she wouldn't call me back. I mean, we had a great time, and I just don't know why she wouldn't want to call me for another date. Okay, Well we'll play a song and then

come back and call her and get your second date update. Okay, sounds great. I really appreciate it, no problem, hang on, all right, we'll do it right after that. Looking cubile in the morning updates if you're just joining us for today's second date update. Oscar is on the phone, and Oscar is quite a bore. That's not what I say about him. I think Oscar's a lot of fun. But apparently Oscar's friends have told him that he's a little

boring when it comes to dating. So he went online and googled how to have fun on a date, and he shared with us that he learned things like be a dating anthropologist, which means to observe everything with a curious hmm. Isn't that interesting mindset. He also said that it's okay to laugh at the other person's jokes no matter what, even if you don't find it funny, and

relax and don't have fake fun. But he's not getting a call back from a girl named Jade, and we're about to get her on the phone and see why. All right, Oscar, anything else that you want to say before we give her a call? I just want to say I really like this girl, and you know, she's really pretty and a lot of fun, and I really hope she picks up when you guys call her. And is it going to be okay if we tell her about your googling and your three tips and trying to

improve your dating self. I'd rather if you didn't. It's a little embarrassing, Okay, So I'll start with that, then I'll start with that you have a good date. All right, Here we go. I'm dialing her fund of her right now? Hello? Hi, is this Jade? This is she? Hey Jade, how are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. From what Brook and Jewel in the Morning. It's a radio show. Okay. Sounds like you're wondering why I'm calling. Yeah, I'll explain. We do a segment on our show. It's

called the second Date Update. So we got an email about you from a dude that listen to our show. His name is Oscar. Okay do you know Oscar? Yeah? Okay, Well, Oscar emailed us. He told us a little bit about your date, and he also says he's really interested in seeing you again, but you're not answering any of his phone calls or text messages. He's interested in seeing me again? Yeah, did it not seem like it? Not at all. Really, he said that you're really pretty and funny and he

was really into you. Okay, Uh, maybe you guys are talking about a different Oscar than I have no idea. Really, maybe if we were, that would be an amazing coincidence that a guy named Oscar emailed us to call a woman named Jade had your phone nubrenn. It's a different Oscar. I don't think so. I think it's probably the same guy. I mean, I thought he was very cute, but I didn't think he was very into me. Why why didn't

you think that? I mean, basically, God, Honestly, everything I said in the conversation he responded with, m that's interesting. And it just it just felt like he was mocking me. You know. Really, I assume, like I, you know, I know what it's like dating in this time, and like he's probably seeing other people and whatever. Maybe I just didn't, you know, pique his interest. It just didn't feel like

he was genuinely into me. Really, that's interesting. You know, it sounds like you talked to him, because that is exactly what he was saying. We did. We talked to him about your date, and he was really trying to pay attention to you, believe it or not, even if he was trying to pay attention to me. At one point, I went up to the bar to get us another round of drinks, and this other dude came up and started very like obviously hitting on me, and I thought that,

you know, I'm on a date. I figured Oscar would probably come up and try to stop that, but instead Oscar did come up. However, he was trying to encourage me to give that guy my number. What Yeah, So I was like, clearly he's trying to get rid of me, you know, trying to paw me up on somebody else. So that surprised me because he said you liked you a lot. I don't know why you'd be on a date though, and be like, yeah, go ahead, man, get

her number. It. Yeah, I don't know. He was passing me around, so I like, he kept checking his phone. I don't know it just I was not getting vibes that he wasn't all interested in me. Okay, well let's see if he was actually interested in you, like he says he is because he's on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. Uh, okay, Oscar, are you still there? Hey? Yeah, Jade, I don't know how this happened. I don't really know who whoa whoa whoa

whoa whoa whoa? What is going on right now? Jade? I understand why you feel that way, and I promise I have a really good explanation. Okay, I'm super confused right now, but sure, I'm I. Let's hear the explanation. When I when I kept checking my phone, I had written down how to be funner on a date, so I was checking that to see how to be funner

on a date. You were checking to be how to be funner on a Yeah, my friends told me that I'm a boring date, so before our date, I googled how to be better on dates, So I was checking the list. You actually kept checking your phone to make sure you were doing it. I don't know. I just I get nervous on dates, you know. I felt like I had to just keep reminding myself. Yeah, but that still doesn't explain all the other weird stuff that you

were doing on the date. I mean, for example, she said that a guy came up to her at the bar and was hitting on her. The old Oscar would have jumped in and immediately gotten aggressive, but the new Oscar just plays things cool and tried to go with the flow and let it happen. So going with the flow is allowing me to pick up other men on a date. I guess it's just what was happening. So I just kind of went with it. You know, it doesn't sound like allowing you. It sounds like he was

your wing man in that situation. I didn't want you to actually go out with him. I just thought that if I played it cool, go with the flow, and I thought that you would think, oh, he's pretty cool and fun, and you know, you would like me more if you if you if I encourage you to get another dudes' phone number, you might like me more, you know what I mean. I just I needed to look like I was an easygoing guy, and an easy going

guy would just let her give out her number. You you shouldn't encourage your date to be seeing other people like especially not on the date. And I just look, you're a nice guy. I don't understand. Why can't you just be yourself on a date. Well, because then I would be boring. Why would you say that? Well, like, all right, for instance, when you said that, I kept saying,

isn't that interesting what I was doing? The list said to be a dating anthropologist, so I was trying to be curious, and I know you thought that I was trying to mock you, but I wasn't. I was just trying to be a dating anthropologist, right, But if you had no response to anything I was saying besides, hm, that's interesting, that doesn't make for a conversation. That just makes for me saying something and you ending the conversation

by saying it's interesting by adding anything to it. I know it didn't seem like I was listening, but I really was. But that's not how conversations work. Well, the list said that you would react in a positive way to all this, and you think that I was cool and laid back, and apparently that's not what you're thinking. Hmm, that's interesting, Jane, I mean joking aside, like he was doing something to try to make a date really go well and it obviously backfired. Like do you have any

sympathy for him at this point? I mean, it makes a lot more sense now, Like I finally get what he was doing, and he is cute, but I would like to know what he's really like, you know, and not just some list okay of what do you think they should be? Like? Well, perfect, then why don't you go out on another date with him? Jade? Would you like to go out with Oscar again? We'll pay for it. Listen, Jid,

before you answer, you can date the old Oscar. The old Oscar is still around, the old boring Oscar change. So I am very very interested to see who you truly are, because I do think you're a very attractive guy. But if we go out again and another dude hits on me, I do not want you to encourage that, Like I want you to shut that down and be like, no, this is my date. You know that I feel like you want to be with me. I can definitely do that. Actually, I'm I'm much more aggressive than I was on our

last date. I might actually hit the guy this time. Does that make it better? Jade? If ye don't need to do that, middle ground, go somewhere in the middle. There he got it, so no punching, but also don't let him give you his numbers. That what you're saying. Yeah, that sounds great. Perfect, All right, Well, congratulations Oscar, you got a second date? All right, guys, thank you so much. Yeah, and I'm looking forward to getting to know the real

you and not a dating anthropologist. M isn't that interesting? That was a joke, right, that was a joke. Yeah, okay, okay, making sure in the morning text in at seven eighty five nine two, it says, never believe what the Internet says. Yeah, I agree. Talking about today's second date update if you missed it, Oscar wanted to call this girl named Jade. His friends told him that they think he's a boring dater and that's why he doesn't do very well when

it comes to dating. So he said, he went online and googled how to have fun on a date and took some notes. We called Jade and she said that Oscar didn't seem genuinely interested in her during their date because he kept checking his phone. His response was that he was checking his phone because he was looking at his notes and his phone for how to respond her so that he could seem interested. And I guess he kept saying, hmm, that's interesting. After like everything, she said,

because the Internet told him too. I will say, you know, I like that he put some effort in, but his notes were literally listen to someone and be engaged in conversation, like why do you have to keep checking those? His notes should have been like, don't look at your phone too much, don't stare at your phone the whole time. The worst part is even when another guy came over and hit on Jade, Oscar actually encouraged the guy to

get the number. He said he was just trying to seem cool and laid back, so weird that she thought he wasn't interested. After explaining that all, Jade did agree to go on a second date with him. Hopefully this time he leaves his notes at home and doesn't encourage her to go out with another dude while they're dating. We'll see how that goes. Remember, if you want a second date update, just email the show and we will call the person that didn't call you back five