Brooking Jubil in the morning second date update. I'm calling today's second date update love with the side of broccoli cheddar. It does sound good, and that's because the girl on the phone to do a second date update today spend her first date at the most romantic of restaurants, Panera Bread. Yeah, it's amazing. How all you have to do is say broccoli cheddar and we know exactly where you're talking about.
It doesn't get sexier than Panera, especially when you're waiting for your food and they give you that little vibrating device, tell you when it's ready, and it lights up and vibrates, and just sit there for a few minutes and enjoy the vibration before you get your soup. What's up, Diana, how are you? Hello? Oh my god, what's going on? Well? I wanted to tell you guys about what's been going on and see do you help me? Okay, So you had a romantic date at Panera Bread and you did
something with a vibrating thing. I mean that's how Jubil set it up. Any Way, what do you even call that thing? I don't know. Yeah, I just call it pleasurable. Okay, So tell us about your date. I understand you were throwing shade at panera, but I liked it. I'm in college. I thought it was a college appropriate first date. It is, I mean, and when you're talking about casual dunning, it's pretty expense and stuff. That's true, and he paid so nice? All right, sweet, So tell us a little bit about
the dude. What's his name? His name is a J. And where do you meet him? We met in a study group. Oh my god, college kids still really do meet people in real life. We do. There was it a study group? App Yeah, but that's genius. We should make that, all right. So what do you like about AJ? I noticed him in our first study group, and like, I thought he was interesting and funny, like he was making people laugh or whatever. But I was getting everything
in the study group. I felt really prepared. But I could tell he was struggling, and I was like, great, I can like help him out and spence more time with him. So I just kept staying and everybody else was sort of falling off and leaving the study group, and that it was just the two of us and we worked together and he was like starting to get it and we had a good time, like we were talking and stayed pretty late, and then a few days later he asked me to have lunch. That's so exciting.
Were you so excited? I was so excited, Like my heart skipped a beat and I was really excited. And I mean I kind of was conflicted because I actually did have class, but I decided that I really liked this guy and decided to skip class and go to lunch. Yeah, So how was your date? It was good. We talked about life and like where we came from, and you know, all those things that I feel like you're supposed to
talk about on the first date. And it went really well, and he actually at the end invited me to a party that he was going to the next night. So you ran home and tried on every outfit that you have in your closet and decided nothing was good enough, so you went to the store and bought something new. Totally. Yeah. Yeah, I like definitely asked all the girls my stority like
what to wear, and like we put together outfits. And so then the next night, which was the party, I was ready and waiting for his texted information and I ended up waiting in my room all night for him to text and he never texted me, never texted you at all. No, no, oh, and I bet you look so good. I felt really cute. It's like the worst, and then you have to explain to every single person that you live with, like why are you still home? Exactly? They helped me get ready and then it just like
never happened. It was so awkward, and I'm guessing you haven't heard anything from him since either. Well no, because then the next day I texted him being like what happened, like what's up? And he just never responded. The thing is you have to make it seem like to him like, well I had other plans anyway, even though you didn't, and you ended up waiting the whole time just to save a little bit of face. I know something, And like, what makes it even more awkward? As we have class
together tomorrow, that's I was going to ask. I was going to ask if you saw him, since you guys are in that same group and everything. So it's like not even that I want something to keep happening, it's that I actually have to keep seeing this person, and so I want to get it worked out before. Yeah, do you do you know anybody else who is at the same party, I don't think. So it's like group of people that I'm not friends with yet, so you couldn't get like a rapport on if he showed up
alone or not. No, Like, of course, I'm worried that he got there and hooked up with someone right away and totally forgot right. Do you have any idea why he would blow you off like that? Though? I really don't think I did anything. Like We've just met and I've only been like very accommodating. Yeah, right, And I just keep thinking back to our data Panera, which I feel like went so well, and I just feel confused. Okay, cool, We'll play a song and then come back and try
to get answer with their second day up date. Okay, okay, all right, hang on rooking Jubile in the morning, right in the middle of a second date update and if you're just joining us. Dianna is on the phone and she wants to call a dude named aj. They actually are in college together. They met in a study group and then they had their first date at Panera Bread. She said she enjoyed it a lot, and then they made plans to go out to a party. She got
all ready to go, but he never texted her. Also, to make matters worse, they have their class tomorrow, so she's probably going to see him and she wants to get this all sorted out beforehand. And Deanna, I really hope this works out for you to do. I too. I really had a good time with him. I like him.
I think he's a good guy. I hope. You know, in a few months, you guys hang out and then you're calling home from school to talk to your parents about a pregnancy scare or something like that, you know. But sweet, yeah, I'm looking forward to a pregnancy scaring your future, and I think it's going to start right here. So I feel good about this. Thanks. Why aren't you angry at this guy? I'd be pissed. I am, like, we definitely have to talk about this. It was rude,
for sure, but I'm open to understanding what happened. All right, all right? Cool, Well I'm on a Dallas phone of right now, and see if we can figure it out for you. Okay, thanks? All right? Here we go slow? All right? Is this aj? Yeah? Who's calling? What's up? Man? How are you? This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the morning. I don't know what that is. Um, it's a radio show. It's called Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Oh okay, why are you calling me? That
is a good question. I'm calling you because we actually got an email from one of our listeners about you wait like me specifically, like you sure the right AJ? I'm pretty sure it's the right AJ. Is this the AJ that went out on a date to Panera Bread with a girl named Diana the other day? Oh? Yeah, yeah, yep, that's why we're calling. But how do you do you know that from the email? How do you know that? I know that because we do a segment on our
what's called the Second Date Update. It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up not calling them back, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask what happened. So Dianna emailed us because she told us you hung out, went to Panera Bread and you were supposed to pick her up to go to a party, but you never texted her. That's kind of weird, she emailed a radio station about our date. Yeah. I think it's more weird
that you left her just stranded. Man, Like, why would you commit to something and then not follow through. Even if you weren't going to go to the party with her, why wouldn't you just shoot her attacks and say, Hey, I'm so sorry, it's not going to work out. You know, I'm not really comfortable talking about the details of our date on the radio. Well, when you say the details of your date, it doesn't sound like you guys really
did much right. You're at Panera bread. Yeah, we talked and it was okay, But I don't want to air out her dirty laundr or anything. But he freaked me out, a little freaked out. Well, all right, if you don't want to air out her dirty laundry when we do this segment, everybody who agrees to do it knows that they might hear something that they don't want to hear. So she has agreed to have her dirty laundry aired. You're one hundred percent sure it's fine. I have clouds
with this girl. Yeah, I'm one hundred percent sure it's fine. We've done thousands of these things at this point. But she knows that she could hear something that she might not want to hear. Well, we were at Panera, just chatting, you know, regular date stuff. But then she mentions that this is her first date like ever? Yeah, first date ever? Ever? So what she's in college. It's not like you're talking about a forty five year old woman. But still, what
a date? Ever? Yeah, I know it's kind of surprising. Wrong. No, there is not anything wrong. It could just be that either she didn't meet somebody, maybe she's been really shy, maybe no one's ever even asked her. Do you know her excuse for that being her only first date a day? I don't know if she has an excuse or not. It's just in my experience, I don't like going on dates with girls who've never been on a date before. Why well, from my experience, afterwards to get really clingy
and attached. I guess they over romanticize me or something. But you know, I'm in college. I'm not ready for that kind of commitment, you know, and that much cleanness. You say in your experience, have you had a lot of first dates with people who have never had first dates before? I mean, I guess back in high school. You know, people are younger, don't really have that kind of stuff in their wheelhouse yet, can wait? Hold up? Though, I feel like you're throwing out a huge stereotype about
people who are dating virgins. Basically, actually, she could actually be a virgin too. She's never been on a date. Yeah, and that's bad. Yeah, don't go down that road. Yeah, she's like nineteen years old. Give these kids a break. I'm just saying, don't be here first, because it is. It's the worst. Like, it's not only worse in the moment, but then after you have to deal with the aftermath of being her first. It's not fun. I agree with you on that age, No, all of you. That is awful.
AJ What did she do on your date at Pernia that made you think she was cleany? Besides just telling you it was her first date? Ruin nothing much. She just very excited for a first official date, and that just you know, give me flashbacks to other first dates. And I was like, I don't know if I want to go down this road. Why so why blow her off there? Why not, like at least tell her that you weren't interested in seeing her again? Well, you know,
it was just a first date. You know, if I'd been dating her for a while, it would have been extra rude. But you know, once this semester is over, I might not see her again, you know. So wait, No, it's rude to begin with, to make someone think that you have plans and then never follow through. Like that's rude. Well I can't text her after her first date ever
and say, oh, well cancel that. That would crush her heart even more, you know, crush her heart even more than than making plans with her and then leaving her to sit home and wait for you. I don't know. I mean she thought I got into a car accident or something like altered it? Total reality are you living in right now? AJ? Like you need to be respectful and kind with other people's heart, and you're not doing
that at all. Man. I really don't know what to say or because I don't want to hurt her feelings where I think we should give it a try, are you? Yeah, I'm not. I'm not sure. Okay, Well you better get sure because she's on the other line listening and wants to talk to Wait what she's on the other line? Yeah, yep, she's there, Dianna You there? Hey? Oh, Hidiana, Hey, hey j Yeah, I definitely heard everything you said. Well, at least you know how I feel. I can't. That's just
my experience. In the past, you know, uh huh, you think I'll send you like eight thousand text messages or something after one day to Panera potentially, you know, you really don't think very much of me or sounds like women and girls in general. No, it's not not anything like that. It's just my experience in the past with you know, girls that they're not as experienced, and then they kind of think a little too much of me right away. So you think just because I haven't been
on a date, that I don't have experience. To be honest, I just don't know you that well. So I just exactly that's exactly what he did. He made a ton of assumptions. Not having been on a date or been in a relationship actually means that I am much more independent than it sounds like you are. I'm just in college, you know, and I just I'm not really ready for something super serious, super quick, you know, and meeting parents
and all that stuff. It's just experiences my past. It's just amazing that we're going to go to t Nara and then I'm going to be like, hey, you need to meet my family. I mean, aj I like you. I thought we had a really good time and it's really too bad that you actually have so many assumptions about women, that you're clinging too, and that you can't be open to other options, and that somebody actually is really independent. You said right there, you said you like
me after one date. Is that enough information to really know you like somebody? I don't know. C Danny, you're being a little too clean. You're saying that you like him just after like one encounter, you know, totally. I mean, like emotional intelligence is really cleaning. I am really not shocked that this dude was the dumbest dude in your study group. What'd you say it on me? Aj? You were the one who wasn't getting it in the study group, and I was happy to hang out with you longer
and make sure that you got it. And you did. You totally got it. Oh, she's really proud of you. I'm not some idiot with drool coming out of his mouth or something. Well, I didn't say that. Another assumption. Yeah, I kind of implied it. But another assumption right there. No, that he was talking about you. Yeah, no, he didn't. I definitely thought that I liked you, and I did.
I thought we were having a good time and I was really open to dating you some more, but honestly, after this conversation, I think I know more about you. And since it's not gonna work, oh, let's make sure and ask officially, AJ, would you like to go on a second date with Danna? We'll pay for it. I know she just said she doesn't want to, but I'm hoping that you'll change your mind if you say yes. I feel like she got really worked up over just
one date in one you know, miss Pex. You know I think do I sound the dead cleaning, but that that's that signs of cleanness right there, being so worked up. The clingy girl just denied you before you were even able to say no. Yeah, well it's mutual. Well sorry Danna, no second day. But it sounds like that you're okay with that totally. AJ. I know your deal. Wish you the best of luck. I hope you don't make assumptions
about women in the future, though. Don't worry. I Dane and one day they'll be a guy that's cool with your whole deal. I don't think he's too broken up about it. And Jake, God, you're such a true broken jupil in the morning