2nd Date Update PODCAST: In A Van Down By The River

the catcher. Either way, you're gonna have a good time. Those There are some famous sayings from baseball, and I bring them up because the guy on the phone for a second date update today his name is Matthew, and he met the girl that he wants to call at a co ed softball game. What's up, Matthew? How are you? I'm pretty good? How about you? Guys? Pretty good? Were you the pitcher or the catcher that day? I'm mainly

bats and h you know, play third base. But man, your email said that you met the girl that you want to call. Her name is Tricia. Yeah, yeah, she's real sweet, okay, And it says here you met her at a co ed softball game. How'd that work? Yeah, she was on the opposite team. M Yeah, so that's you know, a little extra charm as well. Uh, let me guess she was pitching to you, she struck you out, and then you threatened to fight her. How softball friendly

softball games go? Yeah, physical violence is that how it went down. It was more like when we all went to the bar, then you threatened to fight her. There was no fighting. No, okay, no fighting during the game or afterwards. It's different than any co ed sports league that I've been involved in. There's always a at some point. But so you met her at the bar, yes, yes, and had you had your eye on her like all game? Oh yes, all game for sure. What what about her

stuck out to you? Oh? I mean her her legs just go on for days, you know, one of those girls with legs all the way up to her. But yeah, so she was really good at the game, and on top of it all, she seemed like a genuinely cool Rick.

So how did you approach her at the bar? Well, I mean I grabbed her a drink and you know, said congrats for whooping her ass, and you know, then we just started talking about how long we had been playing and then one thing led to another and I ended up getting her number and we said it day to go hiking. Was the hike? Oh it was great. She met me where we were going to start out. What'd you say? I mean, I heard you. I was

just like, what nice she met you? They're awesome. She met you where you're gonna start that's better than you at the end of the trail, I guess. And she was just as awesome as the first time you met her. Absolutely, Like she did great on the hike and we were able to talk. We weren't winded or anything. And I mean at the end, like when we said goodbye, like I didn't know, if you know, a kiss was feeling out but and I mean she was real sweaty. I

was real sweaty. I didn't know, like we kind of just had a quick hug, but like it was still like you felt that connection there and we made plants for about a week later to go out again. Oh so you guys had a second date. No, see, like a day before she texted to cancel. She needed to cancel for some reasons. But so I don't know. And now it's like now I haven't really heard from her, so kind of feel blown off. Have you tried to

reschedule that date that you had planned? I mean, yeah, I sent one or two texts just saying, hey, sorry, scheduling didn't work. Is next weekend good? You know? And I I didn't really get an answer from any of that, can I ask? I mean, just looking back at the time you guys spend together between like the softball game and the hiking, do you think that she also thought of this as a romantic date. Well, I mean, I would hope it would be kind of obvious because I

asked for her number. I said I would love to get together. Like to me that that sends a pretty clear signal of like, hey, I'm interested in you, right, you know, even if like things go slow or whatever. You know what I'm saying. Right, So, how long has it been since you've heard from her? It's been over a week since I talked with her, and she hasn't responded to the two texts I sent. Oh, just a sweaty hug at the end of the hike, that's all you got. Yeah, yeah, right, Well play a song, come back,

call her and get your second date update. Okay, thanks man? All right, hanging rooking jubil in the morning update. I gotta say I'm skeptical of you, Matthew Am I suspect, yes you are. For what. Well, we do a lot of these second date updates, all right, and everything always sounds normal until we get the person on the phone,

and then something weird comes out. Okay, Now, you said that you met this girl at a co ed softball game, you went to the bar after, asked for a number, and you guys went on a hike and had a great time, and nothing weird happened. That is all true. Okay, Well, if I call her and I find out that you've been going to all of her games since then, dressed up like no, no no, no, no, no, no no, buddy, I will be I will Okay. That thought did cross my mind, but I denied it. I didn't want to be a creeper.

All right, good. I picked you in the stands like an NFL quarterbacks mom with her name on your shirt, sitting there like go tri shot, that's my girl. So, oh my god, you promise me you haven't done that. I have not done that. All right, he still doesn't trust you. Still, Still I'm a little weird of you. I'm gonna dial the phone of her right now, though, and get her on the phone and find out why she's not calling you back. Okay, Hello, Hi is Tricia there? Yes,

this is she. Hey Tricia, how are you? My name is Jubil and I host a radio show called Brook and Jewel in the morning. Okay, I'm calling because one of our listeners sent an email about you. His name is Matthew, and he's sending us an email saying, you guys are supposed to go out on a date and then you stopped responding to him, and he wants to know why he's sent an email about that. Why would he do that? Because he liked you and he would like to go out again, but you just stopped talking

to him. So he thought maybe we could help him out and figure out the answer. Look, I am not comfortable discussing us. If it's something way too personal, you don't have to tell us. But if it's I mean, he wants to know he liked you a lot. You got to put yourself in his shoes. You know how frustrating it can be if you feel like you connected with somebody and then they drop off. I mean, yeah, I get that. And he's a good guy. I totally got that sense from him. Okay, so if he's a

good guy, then why aren't you calling him back? Look, he was really cool. He's just not marriage material? Why is he not marriage material? Did you guys get into that conversation on your first date? No, No, we didn't like talk about it, but like you could just tell from the date you see immature or something. I mean, well, like here's where I am. I am not getting any younger and I absolutely want to get married someday and

he's just not going to be that guy. That is really quick judgment to make after meeting someone just one time. Actually we hung out twice. Oh okay, so two times is enough for you to know that now you know everything about him. How can you possibly know that he's not marriage material after two hangouts? Because after the second time we hung out, he took me back to his car and his car was full of stuff, like piles and piles, And are you saying that it was just messy,

like there was like garbage and stuff in it. Well, like I didn't know, so I had asked. No, I was like, what's the deal with all your stuff? Are you moving or something, and he said no, And he said that he lives out of his van. He lives in his van. Yeah, and he does it by choice. What do you mean? I like, it's not that he's hopeless, it's that he wants to be homeless. Yeah, he chooses this. Really. What did he say to you to make you think that?

He said, Look, it's this really great situation. I choose this. I feel it's better, I'm saving money. And I would look in there and there is a mattress, there's a juggle water hot plate. It's really weird. Normally, when you see a van with a mattress in it on a first date, that's a good sign. So you're saying you didn't want to see him again because he lives in his van. No, I don't know. I've been going back and forth over this, like for the past few days

because like, he lives in a van. H. So you're saying you don't want to move into a van. If you guys ever got more serious, No, well, no, I don't know. That's the thing. You don't know if you want to move into a van, you might be willing to move into a van. No, I definitely don't want

to live in a van, like that's the problem. But I mean, don't you think, Okay, greanted, this is a kind of an odd situation, but he has like a regular job, right, He has a really good job, and he makes like a ton of money, is to say of it. All, Right, so the guy just likes to live in a van. We seem really in love with his a living situation. And if that's the kid, I

don't want to mess with it. You don't want to make the guy give up his house, you know, exactly, his green Vand well, Trisia, I do need to let you know that Matthew is actually on the other line listening, maybe in his van right now, and he wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, Matthew there, Oh yeah, yeah, hey, Trisia. Oh my god, I am not in my van. Just to clarify, I'm I'm in my office. I'm at work

right now. Well that's good now. Yeah, I'm just really surprised because like when we went out, I mean, you you seem to think it was really kind of cool what I was doing. Yeah, I said it was cool when I was looking at it, because I didn't just want to tell you it was weird. Right off. They Oh, now you're just one eighty on this, So I'm just I'm confused, Matthew, think about it. I mean, how could a girl see a van? I think I want to

stay the night with him. I'm not sure where I'm going to go to the bathroom if i have to go. But since owning a van and living out of it is awesome, I have this freedom that everybody else is dreaming about. I say, all this money, it keeps going in the bank when everybody else is spending and going into debt on these houses that we can't afford, and they're never in because they're always at work all day

for them. I mean, what's the point of it. The point is to actually have a place where you could hang out, not something that you can like drive from point A to point B like your home, traveling everywhere. That means I can hang out everywhere, Trish, hang out like the world is my home, and Trish, I'm not living in the stone age with this. Like I've got WiFi, you know, I can run things off this generator, like I have electricity. I have the basic things that I

need and stay connected with the world. I can work remotely if I want to like he's got it all figured out. Trisha. It just sounds weird to me. I never pictured my boyfriend living in a van. But it may be fun, Trisha. I mean it's definitely an adventure. Yeah, that's that's the word for it. It is an adventure. That would have been trying to tell you. I don't know, man. I mean, you have a great personality, You're a really cool guy, but the whole living in advancing is just

a giant turn off for me. Just give it a weekend, Trisha, Like, can you're going on a luxurious camping trips two nights and I will convince you. I promise two nights. That is a big ask, sir. So you want me to spend two nights in your van when we've only been on one official date together. You're the one who was thrown around the marriage word of you know, needing to find marriage material. So like, two nights is not going to kill you. I mean, I say two nights is

a drop in the plank. In that case, Tricia, would you like to go out with Matthew on a second date? We will pay for it. I mean, I guess the date would be two nights in his van. But whatever, would you like to go out with him again? You know, I'm still kind of on the fence about it. I am going to say no to two nights in the van. I'm just up to hanging out with him again. Okay, so you'll go out on a date with him, but you won't sleep in the van. Yes, I will go

out on a date. I will not spend the two nights in a van. Well, congratulations, Matthew. That's a successful second date. I can work with that, all right, So you guys go out on your date. Matthew, you try to convince her that living in a van is better than living in a house. And I wish you both luck. Tricia, freedom is in our future. You got a text it at seven eight, five nine two about the second day update that just says business in the streets, road trip

in the sheets. Kind of makes sense if you missed today a second date update, Uh, Tricia. This dude met Tricia at a co ed softball game and then they went on a hike and she wasn't calling him back. So we got Tricia on the phone and she said that he's not marriage material and the reason why is because he lives out of his van. Yeah, it's by choice. He's not homeless. He has a great job and makes a lot of money. But I guess this dude, his name's Matthew by the way, lives out of his van

by choice. Yeah. He says he does it because he's saving a ton of money and he has a lot of freedom. Yeah, and he's not tied down by any houses or anything like that. He can just move his van around wherever, just like a lot of people do. Look up hashtag van life all over the place. Man, I'm sure. And I guess they did go out, though they agreed to go out uh with She said she'd go out with him, but turned down his offer for

two nights of staying in the van. So she doesn't want to stay in the van, but she would go on another date, mostly because he probably has a lot of extra money to spend or something. I just want to warn her. I dated a guy who lived in his car, and after we broke up, we got in a fight and he refused to leave. He just parked in front of my house. And then I had another guy show up the next day to go on on a date with him. He's like, hey, there's some guys

sleeping in the car in front of your house. I'm like, yeah, I don't mind him. I don't know, that's weird. I don't know. I am home. Yeah, your home's actually in my way right now. Yeah, you're hard to get rid of when they can just move their house right in front of your house. Yeah, good luck to those two. Uh they continue their relationship. Maybe he can actually stay in her house once in a while, like an RV

year a Winnebago. Yeah. Remember, if you want to do a second day update, all you have to do is email us and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Ninety two point five