2nd Date Update PODCAST: I Love You Gate

you live in the same building to meet somebody. The trick is you wait till they're not at home, you break in, you steal some of their mail, and then you see him in the hallway and you're like, hey, I think somebody delivered some mail to me by accident, and then you strike up a conversation. It even works with TV sometimes, like somehow your TV was sitting out in the hallway. It's in my apartment right now if you want to come get it. Wow, Is that is

that how you did it? Rachel? Well, kind of similarly, but no, not at all. So you didn't break didn't break into the guy's place. I didn't break any laws, but I did, you know, I did put myself out there boring. I was hoping for an exciting story. How'd you meet this dude? Well, he just moved into the building pretty recently, and you know, I found like going up and down the stairs once. But we hadn't really talked more than like a hello or but I definitely

noticed him. I definitely thought he was really cute. And what's his name? His name is Adam. And we actually got a chance to talk because we were both We have these machines in our basement. We have like laundry on site in the building, but they're kind of weird that they don't take quarters. You have to like use these resyllable cards. Yeah, I know, really yeah, Yeah, it's annoying and confusing the first time you view them. And so he'd never used them before. And I just happened

to be doing laundry at the same time. You just happened to drop some of your underwear on the floor in front of them. Let me help you out with your problem. This is not about me and my lingerie. Yeah, And like I accidentally put some of my underwear in his loads so that when he got home he'd be like, well I was worth these. Yeah, that's why I thought maybe maybe it was similar to your male idea. So what did you guys end up doing for your date? It was actually his idea. It was really cute because

we lived in the same building. He was like, why don't we just order an uber since we live in the same place and have it pick us up and we'll just get some dinner and some drinks. Wait, so he's the one that asked you out after all that? Yeah, I mean I was clearly like flirting with him, and he was like, you know, I know we live in

the same building. I could just knock on your door, but I'd love to have your number in case, like I have any questions, right, like he but I knew he was like yeah, And I was like, okay, it was an obvious play to get your phone number. Yeah, okay, So he asked you out and then you guys took an uber to a bar. Yeah, we number to a bar and it started out really great, Like we were in the cab and like the banterom was really good, you know, like we could just kind of like he's

really easy to talk to. It's really funny. He seemed like very relaxed, and I don't remember like what he said but after he said it, I was just cracking up and I couldn't stop laughing. And I don't know why, but the words just came out, Oh my god, I love you more. You're so funny. I love you exactly. But like regardless you guys, I said I love you on the way to the date. That's not a good time to drop. That wasn't like one of those records

scratch moments where everything then drops totally. And then I'm like, I didn't. I didn't really understand why because I was like, oh god, I'm sorry. I mean, you know what I meant, right, And but it was like I could tell it was like really different all of a sudden, like and so then I like, because it was so awkward, proceeded to

like really lean into it. And so, like I've said, I love you, did the uber driver when we got out of the car, just trying to make it a thing that like clearly like it hit a nerve and like it wasn't part of like this thing. Were you just over compensating? No, Yeah, Like I don't know what happened to me, but I like I just really wanted him to know that it was a joke and then I didn't mean it, but like, looking back on it, I do feel like I maybe overdid it, but I did.

I mean, did he get the point that you didn't mean it? Yeah, I mean I think he got it. But at the same time, like I said it like for the third time during the meal, like bringing it up jokingly again, and he didn't laugh. And so that's when I kind of knew, Like oh, and like for me, when that happens, it just makes me like want to convince someone even more than I'm sorry or kidding. And it might have been okay if you would have dropped it after it happened and made your quick joke about

it and moved on. I know. Do you think that's why he's not calling you back? Well, no, actually he did call me. The date went fine other than I love you gate and then he called me the next morning, but I was in the shower until I missed the call. Yeah, and he didn't leave a message, so I was like, oh, okay, I'll text him. So I texted him. I was like, sorry, I missed your call. I was in the shower or winky base um had a great time last night. We

should do that again. What are you up to this weekend something like that, right, And that was like four or five days ago, and I haven't heard from him. Oh really, have you seen him in the building at all? No, because that's always a risky thing at some point. No matter how this turns out, you're going to have to share an elevator or the laundry room again. I just think it's really weird that he would call me and

then not respond to me. Yeah. I mean, you could understand it if after a first date somebody said I love you and then you just never talked to him again. But the fact that he called you in the morning, you see, like I love you, I love you. I'm not like I get it, We're like you know, yeah, but like it really seemed to like affect him. And I think that's why I kept going back to it, because even though I'd apologized once, it felt like it was like hanging in the airstone. I'm like, why this

shouldn't be this intense? All right, Well, we'll play a song, come back, call him and get your second date update. Okay, thanks guys, Okay, hold on rooking Jubil in the morning right in the middle of a second date update. If you're just tuning in, Rachel is on the phone, and Rachel is in love for the first time in her life. Rachel has found love and it's slipped through her fingers and it's not calling her back. And love's name is Adam.

All right, all right, if you missed, Rachel recap her date. She met a guy that lives in her apartment building. They agreed to go out for drinks and dinner, and while they were riding to the restaurant, he was joking around. She laughed and it just kind of slipped out. She

said I love you. And she thinks that's the reason he's not calling her back, because one she said I love you, and then she's spent the rest of the date trying to pour it on that it was a joke and saying I love you to everything and everybody, and just any way she could drop the I love you line, she would do it. And now he's not calling her back, and she's wondering why. I mean, what'd

you like so much about Adam? He was just really easy to talk to you, and he's really funny, you know, like a guy being funny is the most important thing to me. I love funny guys. Okay, okay, I guess playing it real thing, all right, I'm gonna dallas phone of her right now and see if we can find out why he's not calling you back. Okay, okay, here we go. Well, Hi is Adam there? Yeah, this is Sham. Hey, what's up, Adam? How are you? This is Jewil from

brook and Jewil in the morning. Um, hey, hey, what's going on today? Not much? Why are you calling me? Oh? Just checking in? Man? Just you know, No, I don't. Oh, okay, Well, the real reason I'm calling is that somebody emailed us about you and asked if I get you on the phone. Her name is Rachel. She actually lives in the same building as you do. Oh what do you remember Rachel? Do you know Rachel? Yeah? But why are you calling about her? Well, because we do a second and on

our show called the Second Date Update. It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up blowing them off after they email us to see if we can get you on the phone and ask why. So, Rachel's wondering why you won't call her back after your date? I did call her, right, she said that after your date she got a missed phone call from you, and then she texted you back and was like, hey, sorry I missed your call. And then she hasn't heard from you since. Wow, she told you

everything she did. She even told us about the I love you comment. Uh. Yeah, that was pretty embarrassing for her. Is that the reason that you're not calling her back because she dropped I love you on a first date? H No, I actually thought that was kind of endearing. Yeah, because she got so worked up about it. She kept saying it, and I mean I got that she just said it as you know I was saying and I wanted her to move on, but she didn't. You didn't help her at all. And she said after she said

I love you that you guys super awkward. I didn't get awkward after the first time she said it. I got awkward after the fifth or sixth time I said it. Yeah, she told us that she feels like she went a little too hard on trying to let you know that it was a joke. I wouldn't say it was a little too hard. I mean I was trying to get to know her and she just kept saying it, and it just kept getting in a way trying to get to know her. I thought, I thought she was great

and I wanted her to just stop saying it. Girl, she's so awkward about it. Yeah, so is that the only issue? Then? Yeah? I love you. No, No, I knew it was a joke and I wanted to see her again, and that's why I called her. And the call went to her voicemail, and on her voicemail is this other dude? Yeah? He sounds like a real dude. She was like, Hey, what's this is Rachel's phone? Leave a message because she's busy right now. She's laughing in

the background and he's laughing about it. It's like, what weird? Wa? What do you mean? So you're not calling her because there is a guy's voice on her voicemail. It wasn't just a guy's voice. It's the way he was talking and the way she was reacting to it in the background. Don't you think it's just like a voicemail joke that just isn't very funny to you. It didn't seem like it. Who's this dude? And why she laughing like she loved it? You don't know who the guy is? Why don't you

just call her up? And ask her. I mean, I might come paranoid if I call her up and I'm like, hey, who's a dude on your voicemail? Yeah? I can see that, being like I was another dude you seeing somebody else been one day already. But you are being that way since you're not calling her back and you don't know who this guy is. It could be her brother for all you know. You're right, it could be, but it might not be. And it's only been four days. I still haven't decided if I'm going to call her back.

You know what, why don't we just clear this thing up once and for all and ask who the guy is? Because she's been on the phone listening this whole time. What Yeah, Rachel, Hey Adam, Hey Rachel. So I guess I've been explained to do um kind of I guess relief. Um, But the person on my voicemail is an ex boyfriend. Okay, why, good question. I mean, it's really not that big of a deal. I mean, it's just my voicemail. I think

it's really funny. I like the way he's putting on this like douchey, silly voice, and I sound really happy in it. It's just now. It's just it doesn't seem like a time time. You like the way your ex sound and the way you sound happy with him. Look, it's really not that being the deal. I mean, things didn't end badly between us, and I just thought it was funny, you know. But you're but it's over are you? Are you not over him? How long ago did you

break up? We broke up like three months ago. But no, I'm I don't have feelings for him at all. It's just okay, So, yeah, you are clearly not over him if you're going on any date other than me Thnion broke up. Yeah, I went on one, but I wasn't super into him. But Rachel, nobody listening believes that you're

over your ex one person. Oh my god, you guys, Just because I have a voicemail with someone on it doesn't mean that I'm emotionally attached to them over I feel like Facebook friends with their exes, people get coffee with them. It's not I'm not in love with him at all. I don't know, but it just seems like you wouldn't even want to have like hear their voice that often, let alone have that be on your voicemail all the time. Well when I when I listen to

my voicemails, I don't. It's not like an answering machine. I don't listen to it. I don't even think about it. The only people that hear it people call me it sounds. Do you call your voicemail and schossen to it? You know, that is the one thing that I do. And honestly, Adam, I really like you. But we've only been on one date, and like, as we get to know each other, I'm happy to change my voicemail if the fathers it's not that's see what I mean. It's it's not it's not

a big deal for me. It's just like she will just get a little on the spot in awkward right now. You know, I just feel like I don't need to be bringing in my path, but you know it's it's my path. It's like it's just a voicemail. You know, I'm your path in Adam. I mean, she said that she'll take the voicemail down. That's the first step. I'm sure she'll get rid of her photo collages that are in her apartment as well. She said she'd do it after we get to know each other. That's not it's

got to be like, it's got to be done. Hey, Adam, would you like to go out on a second date with Rachel? We will pay for it. No, that was Adam. You don't even give her a shot, man, I mean you've gotten out of relationships. We all have, and after three months it's sometimes hard to let go a little bit. She's ready, man, Yeah, she's clearly not. You say so, it's a no. You're not going to give her another shot. Listen, Rachel. I like you. Um, I like you too. I think

we got along really well. Um, but I think there's some things that you need to examine and once you've done that, hit me up. Okay, So you mean like three months, Adam, six months down the line, Adam, after she's had time to heal. Yeah, you're making a huge mistake right now. I just want to eat food and make out with you and I'll delete my voicemail. It's

not a big deal. Like, I don't know what happened to you, but like, if you have bad experiences with people messing around with their exes or something like, there is no unfinished business and if you feel this strongly about it, there's nothing I can say, come on, Adam, Adam, eat some food and make out. Yeah, that that proposal doesn't fall into your lap every day? Awesome. If I weren't over him, would I be on the radio trying to get a second date with you? Come on? Would

you still have his voice on your voice fail? You could be my new voice now if it makes you feel better. Wow, I'm I'm I'm honored, but I'm gonna have to pass honest the whole time. Come on, Sorry, Rachel, no second date, man. I really thought it was because of the I love you thaying, and now I'm learning

it's because of something bigger. It's because of the I love you thing with your ex broken Jewel in the Morning text in at seven eight, five nine two that says, what's wrong with that guy who doesn't want to eat food and make out? What an idiot? Where can Jewel in the morning talking about the second date update, Rachel wanted to call this dude named Adam. They live in the same building. They went out, had a good time. She thought he wasn't calling back because she accidentally was

laughing at something you said and it slipped down. She said I love you, and then the whole evening. She kept making excuses and trying to point out that it was a joke. When she said I love you, she didn't actually mean I love you. But the problem was he called her for a second date and she still has her ex boyfriend on her voicemail and he didn't want to go out with her again because of that. He can't blame him too much, but she did sound pretty cool about it, like, I'll change it. It's not

a big deal. Yeah, one of those situations. It's a deal, but you don't know why it doesn't feel right. She didn't sound like she was still into her ex at all, but he was convinced that she was not over her ex because she left him on the voicemail. Yeah. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back.