Brooking Jewels. Second date update Today, a listener named Justin is on the phone for a second date update and his email said that he's shocked he's not getting a call back because apparently doesn't happen very often for Justin. So Justin's up, man, how are you? Hey? How are you guys doing? Not too bad? So your email said that, well, what's the girl's name? Who isn't calling you back? By the way, Erica? Erica? All right, so you said that Erica isn't calling you back and you're shocked by that.
You'll get a lot of people blowing you off. Is that? Yeah? Pretty much? What are you like? A model? Well, I mean I'm I'm a bartender, a former male model. Oh god, you are just like a huge red flag, that's what you are, sir, Like I don't even know you and I wouldn't date you. Yeah. But also, if you're a bartender former male model, I believe you. You You don't you don't have a lot of people not call you back.
So what do you think happened? You know, it's funny, I've I've guarantee you trying to call me for a second date update, but I just probably never picked up. Oh you think she's trying to get a hold of you too, No, not this one, but I'm I'm sure there's been other girls I've been trying to get a hold of me to you guys, Oh all right, well maybe, man, So you date a lot, obviously, you know I've ghosted a lot of woman in my life. Okay, that is not that is not something to brag about. Okay, no, no,
I'm not bragging. I'm just telling you, guys, it's not easy having a relationship. Everywhere I go and just get a lot of intention. And you know, until I met this girl, Erica, we just connected. Where'd you guys meet a toy? I just met her up in tender Okay. I didn't realize how cool she was until we started talking. She had a brain. That's good, that's good. Most people do have brains, but some don't use them very well. I will agree with you on that. So you liked
her because she had a brain. Yeah, there was just something about her when I met her, you know, and there's like, you know, there's there's more to a physical body. There's more you're saying. But yeah, so there's more to this girl, Erica than just a physical body, and I'm assuming most of the people you date it's only a physical body thing. You know. There you are, yes, yes, you're absolutely Okay. So she's rare for the kind of girls that you date. Normally, the girls that you date
you guys just hook up. But you actually liked her and want to see her again. Yes, she makes me want to be a better person. Look, I'm not interesting to anyone else, you know, I really love to see this girl again and try to connect with her some more. I feel like we're witnessing your personal growth right now, and I'm i just in a few minutes i've known you. I'm already proud. Oh oh, thank you. Well, tell us
about your date with Erica. How did it go? It was kind of embarrassing from the moment that I picked her up. As soon as I picked her up and she had in my car my modeling portfully just slipped under the seat and she picked up look at it and we started talking about death stuff. Okay, So did you come on, man? You play be real. You planted your old modeling portfolio in the car so she would see it and know that you used to model. It was not like that, but it was it was embarrassing.
That's so embarrassing. I hate when people see my old modeling, like, oh my, oh no, how could I ever come back from this? From I was back when I only had a six pack. Now I have an eight pack. Yeah, you're humiliating. Were you able to recover? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I mean it was I think I'm at a good impression. Oh my god, that was awkward for you and when that happened. But did you recover from that? And what did you actually do for a date. Well, we went
out to dinner. I wouldn't really had a reservation for anywhere specific, but then she said suggesting places, and there's places as you mentioned that, I just couldn't go. I had to say no, why why? I was trying to avoid a cat flight. You guys get my drift, all right. So you've hooked up with other people there, and you didn't want to walk in there and have them get upset that you were on a day servers hostess servers. Oh, you're kind of an infamous bartender in the industry. People
know me. Yeah. Did you give her that reason or did you just say I don't like the food there? Yeah? I was just like you know what, the waiting time, the food, anything that just came to my mind. Okay, did you find a place that actually worked, Like, go a few cities over, maybe take a plane a few thousand miles away, around somebody that you didn't sleep with. No, no, no, Eventually we find a place where I honestly didn't know anyone. Okay,
So we sat down, we were having a conversation. We started worrying, and then the waitress I was taking care of us, and she she just started giving me the eye. Oh gosh, are you sure. I feel like any woman makes eye contact with you and you immediately think that No, no, no, totally, guys. She really just started getting the Yeah. She was looking at me up and now like I was a piece of meat and I wasn't even doing anything. It was effortless. Hey, guys, A year ago, I would have been all up in her,
you know. But now you know, I'm taking this check and she hasn't return my my tech and I thought we had an amazing night, you know. After I dropped her off, I gave her a kiss and then I went home. I totally could have gone in, but I didn't want to pick that approach. Practice some restraint there, ye, And why do you think she's not calling you back? Then? Maybe I played it too cool. I waited two days to call her back. Oh I do hate that, you know,
Like I feel like that's such an old school rule. Okay, Well play a song and then come back and call her and find out what it is with your second day update. All right, okay, okay, brooking jubil in the morning date. Right in the middle of a second day update. And if you're just joining us, Justin is on the phone and just met a girl named Erica, and he really liked her because, unlike most women that Justin knows, she had a brain. Weird, Yeah, she actually had a
brain and that's what he liked about her. Because Justin, I guess, has never had a problem with the ladies. He's a bartender, former male model, says he's hooked up with a lot of people, but it's always just been about body relationships. I think was the term that he used. But anyway, he wants more than just a body relationship with Erica and she's not calling him background and see we can get on the phone and find out why.
All right, Justin, you're ready, let's do it. I don't know how to say this softly, but your confidence kind of goes into just the incredible amounts of ego at times. Do you feel like that happened on your date. I was trying really hard not to be super confident. Yeah. Maybe that's it. Maybe she doesn't want a humble guy because he sounds all right. Most girls say, yeah, I'm a dollar fun of her right now? Okay, okay, all right, here we go. Hello him, speak to Erica. This is she.
Hey Erica, how are you? This is Jewel from the radio show Brooke and Jewil in the Morning. Hi, Hi, I'm fine, good me too. I'm all right. You didn't ask, but I just told you. What's going on? I don't know what's going on? What is what is this? Why are you calling? Well broken? Jewil in the the Morning. It's a radio show, and we do a segment on our show called the second Date Update. It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up not calling them after, they can email us to
get you on the phone and ask what happened. And we actually got an email about you from somebody who listens to the show. What Yeah, Yeah, kind of crazy. Got any guesses. No, been out on a lot of dates recently. Well no, but I mean it wouldn't be like Justin. Oh, yes, it would be Justin. Justin emailed us and told us a little bit about your date, but he also said, God, you got to be kidding me. No. He also said that he's been trying to get a
hold of you and you won't text him back. No, I'm not calling him, and why well, I'm not gonna lie. It was a fun date. He's an interesting guy, he's good looking, so those are all really good things. Yeah, I mean overall, the date was fine but interesting. I mean, there was a few weird moments. But I don't know no specific reason why you don't want to see him again. I do have a reason, but I don't know that I feel comfortable sharing that. Okay, Well, like, is it
a personal reason for you or is it something about Justin? Both? Both? Okay? Okay, Well Justin. You know, whenever anybody does these, we always tell them that they need to be willing to hear whatever the other person says. So Justin is willing to hear anything bad that you might have to say? Well, it's just that he seems to know too many people, you know, because I wasn't sure how I've felt about the date, So then I showed my friends his picture.
It's like they all knew him, knew him really well, Okay, like they've hooked up with him or yeah, I'm not talking about one of the girls. Like three of them have hooked up with him. Wow, that's a lot he gets around. Wow. Yeah, he's I mean, he told us that he's never had a problem with women. But he also said that he liked you so much that he can only think about you and doesn't even want to think about any other girls. But apparently your friends might
think about him. I haven't solid group of friends, and I can't be the fourth girl and my girl group to hook up with him. That's just crazy. I mean, when we talk to him, it sounded like he wants more than a hook up from you. Yeah, like he felt like he had an awakening of how he should really be in a relationship after he met you, and I find that hard to believe. You. I don't know,
I was kind of convinced by it. Well, he didn't say he wanted to grow or yeah, I mean, it sounds like he can get a hook up whenever he wants a hook up, and he's putting in a lot of effort to get a hold of you. If he just wanted to hook up, he could have had that already with somebody else. Yeah, he seems to have a good history of it, so you definitely, So that's what it is. You don't want to be the fourth girl in your friend group who has hooked up with Justin.
Obviously he sleeps around a lot, and I don't need that, so I think it's best just to not call him. Okay, that seems pretty straightforward. Well, Erica, I do have to let you know this before we let you go. Thank you for being honest, And now I have to be honest because Justin is actually on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. So we've kind of yeah, we've also hung out with Justin a bit. Hi, Erica, Hi,
all right, listen. Yeah, I haven't met any friends. I don't know who they are, but most likely it's the truth. I mean, or any of them waitresses, hostesses, bartenders, got a type of he just keeps lessening careers, teachers, nurses, luten. I'm not gonna lie. I was that guy but you know, I'm not just trying to get you in bed. You can do that with anyone pretty much. But I'm interested in you. They all know you from last year, all
of them, Oh, Dan, last year and Justin. Don't you think that's weird if we slept with all my girlfriends? This is weird. Yeah, Look it's true. I'll admit it. I'll be the first one I met it. I'm not recovering male skank covering. I feel like he's self aware. That doesn't help your your mission here. I mean be the first one I met it. I hooked up with a lot of girls, probably every state, maybe maybe forty five fifty. But I want to change. I'm acknowledging the
kind of person that I've been. I would love to change because of you. We had one date, and now you suddenly want to change because we've had one date. I hardly believe that. Wow, Eric, I'm being honest with you. Look that night I almost had a booty, almost made that phone call, but I didn't. I can't stop thinking about You're so not helping yourself here, Eric. Think about it if the tables were turned, Like what if some guy didn't want to go out with you because of
a couple of dudes. You more more that you slept with, Like, you would be really upset about that, because you're also more than just who you hooked up with in the past. Yeah, but I'd still see that It would be awkward that his friends have seen me naked. Yeah, or it's easier to bond. I mean you could look at it too. I have to ask a question justin do you think you like her because she's the only girl that doesn't call you back? Nah? Man, this girl she has a brain.
You're very smart, you're funny, you get my movie references. You're killing me small as you're killing me. That was really dorky. Look, Destin, it's nice that you say all these things and you feel it sway about me, but it just doesn't change that you've been with my friends like that. I mean, if we were to go out, we could have sex for like six months, because I'd have to know that you really really fell in love with me. Who about that? Holy? Six months? Are you serious?
Like serious? Yeah? I mean like no booty calls, no nothing, six months have just holding my hand in a kissing knight. You need a freaking cleanse. Oh wow? Wow. All right, well that is strange. Anybody, Erico, would you like to go? Maybe I shouldn't even ask Erica at this point. Now, Erica, would you like to run a second date with Justin? We will pay for it if he agrees to not having any sex for six months? Okay, Justin's your turn?
Oh Justin, Now I feel like she's just testing you, trying to put the test find out how woke you really are. Now you know what kind of personally I know you do? Who do that to me? I mean six months? She said? Six months? Yes she did, six months. I know that probably hasn't happened to you since your teens, but that's hap a year. You're not gonna explode. You're not gonna explode. You'll be fine. I mean you will
at some point, but not the way. And I can't think of any other way to prove to my friends that it's okay we date, because you'd have to prove you know that you really care about me. Oh just imagine after six months, how amazing deffortin to be six months? Yes, we've been over that, Justin. We've been over that a bunch. Now six months? Can you wait? Six months? You'll get your second date if you can abstain for six months.
I mean, I'm just throwing this package you, I mean negotiooting like six days, six dates, so we're talking six months. I mean, you just said that you want to change, and that you've never met anyone like me, and that you made it sound like you do anything. There any times that I can get back to you on this, all right? Yeah, profess this, Erica. You you've blew Justin's mind. Yeah all right, well yeah, Justin, use some time to think about it and then update us on if you
guys actually go on a second date. All right, gotcha? Six months Jesus, yes, six months broken Jupil in the morning.