Today, I’m talking with Rev. Dr. Erin Moniz about her new book, Knowing and Being Known: Hope For All Our Intimate Relationships . We discuss the relational problems she was seeing in her work with emerging adults, the better questions those problems led her to, a rich theology of intimacy, and its implications for our marriages, families, and faith communities. The book releases May 6, 2025 and is available for pre-order now! Buy on Amazon Buy from the Publisher Save on Bookshop! Mutuality Matt...
Apr 07, 2025
Happy spring (2025), Brave Marriage listeners! Dropping into your podcast feed for a timely interview with Dr. Keith & Sheila Wray Gregoire on their new book, The Marriage You Want. Their matched pair survey revealed: -healthy habits for married couples -the importance of sharing mental load -the effect of entitlement on mindset and marriage Pre-order their book on Amazon or order through Baker Books for a 30% discount!
Mar 10, 2025•36 min•Season 2Ep. 143
Hey Brave Marriage Podcast listeners! Dropping in an episode with friend of the show and former podcast guest, Sheila Wray Gregoire. Sheila and her team at Bare Marriage have written a new book for millennial mothers and daughters called She Deserves Better . Their latest book builds upon a lot of the research outcomes they published in The Great Sex Rescue , and answers the question that many are asking the evangelical church which is: “Where do we go from here?” If you’re not familiar with her...
Apr 10, 2023•34 min•Season 2Ep. 142
Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire join us for a healthy conversation about married sex that combines Scripture AND research. If you want to resolve to have better sex this spring, go pre-order their new books (releasing March 15th)! RESOURCE LINKS: The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex The Great Sex Rescue Orgasm & Libido Online Courses Bare Marriage Podcast Sheila’s Sex and Marriage Blog Podcast Editing by: Evan Duszynski Music by: John Tibbs...
Feb 28, 2022•34 sec•Season 2Ep. 141
Carolyn Custis James talks to us about The Blessed Alliance; the real purpose of the marriage between men and women in light of the mission of God; and the Bible as a foreign text set in the context of patriarchy. It’s a conversation you don’t want to miss! RESOURCE LINKS: carolyncustisjames.com Malestrom: Manhood Swept into the Currents of a Changing World Half the Church: Recapturing God’s Global Vision for Women When Life and Beliefs Collide: How Knowing God Makes a Difference The Gospel of R...
Jan 03, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 140
Reverend Erin Moniz and Blake Dean talk to us about why mutuality matters for Christian couples, for the church at large, and how it’s impacted their marriages in different stages. If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to tune in to the Mutuality Matters Podcast, part of the CBE International media network! RESOURCE LINKS: CBE International Mutuality Matters Podcast Podcast Editing by: Evan Duszynski, MA Music by: John Tibbs...
Dec 13, 2021•54 min•Season 2Ep. 139
When read in light of Aristotle’s household codes, Ephesians 5 means something completely different than what we’ve made it mean today. If Christ is the head and collectively, we are the body and bride of Christ, what does this mean for the way we live out our faith, our family relationships, and our fellowship with the family of God? If you’ve learned something new here and are enjoying this series on “Marriage, Mutuality, and Gender Roles,” please leave a rating & review! Podcasting by: Ke...
Nov 29, 2021•32 min•Season 2Ep. 138
Brandon and Haley Weaver talk with us about growing up egalitarian, being introduced to complementarianism in college, and what equality in marriage and ministry look like from their perspective! If you enjoy this episode, please take a quick second to tap the stars below to leave a rating and review! Podcast Editing by: Evan Duszynski, MA Music by: John Tibbs
Nov 15, 2021•49 min•Season 2Ep. 137
In the beginning, God was good . He created us for intimacy, co-dominion, and co-stewardship of His creation. Male-female relationships and marriage may have gotten distorted after the Fall, but in the beginning, it was not so. Listen in to hear what Genesis 1-3 has to say about God Himself; God’s original design for humanity; and God’s plan for salvation following the consequences of sin. You might be surprised to learn what’s actually in the creation narratives…and what’s not. If you’ve learne...
Nov 01, 2021•37 min•Season 2Ep. 136
What is egalitarianism? How is it different from complementarianism? On this episode, we explore what true equality in Christ means for us all, and how it should lead us to mutuality—in the home, in the church, and in the world. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review the podcast! To work with Kensi Duszynski, MA, LMFT, CPC, visit bravemarriage.com .
Oct 18, 2021•29 min•Season 2Ep. 135
What is complementarianism? Where did it begin? What are the practical effects of its teachings on real life couples and Christian communities? And how do we, as Christian couples and communities, do the most good and the least harm when it comes to how and what we teach? Tune in and stay tuned to engage in this conversation.
Oct 04, 2021•40 min•Season 2Ep. 134
What have some of the most popular authors and speakers on Christian marriage had to say over the past 5 decades? We’ll talk what’s good, what’s bad, and what we’ve believed to be true—before questioning our assumptions about what we’ve been taught God wants for our marriage relationships.
Sep 20, 2021•31 min•Season 2Ep. 133
Join me in conversation with Steve and Twyla Lee as we talk about their 47 years of marriage experience, plus 30 years of professional experience as Christians who work in the social sciences. As my first marriage and family studies professors, I had the privilege of learning from them personally and professionally as well. Today, they work with premarital couples all over the US at intentionalrelationships.org . 0 Likes...
Sep 06, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 132
Did you know that the concept of marrying for love is only 200-300 years old? In this episode, we trace the love-based marriage back to its roots in the Enlightenment. Here, we’ll discover the emergence of complementarity as a way for society to promote social order and marriage cohesion in this brave new world, which rocked the five millennia -long foundation of the patriarchal structuring of marriage, family, and society. We’ll also explore the idea that while secular culture abandoned complem...
Aug 23, 2021•19 min•Season 2Ep. 131
We’re starting this conversation with a little understanding of history, how the 1950s defined marriage and split-sphere gender roles as we know them today. Together, we’ll consider this question: If Paul tells us in Romans 12:2 not to conform to the patterns of this world, then why does so much of what we’re taught today in the church reflect the culture of marriage in 1950s America rather than mirroring Christ? Book list and resource links can be found in the full transcript at bravemarriage.c...
Aug 09, 2021•15 min•Season 2Ep. 130
Join Kensi Duszynski this fall as she facilitates a conversation around marital health, relational dynamics, and the proper place of gender roles in Christian marriage. Conversations will take place biweekly. To learn more, visit bravemarriage.com .
Aug 02, 2021•11 min•Season 2Ep. 129
That’s right, folks. I’m pressing pause on the podcast for the moment. Thank you for sharing a small part of your week with me, and thanks for your understanding after listening to this episode! I’d love to leave you with a gift though…because if last year taught us anything, it’s that life is precious, people are not to be taken for granted, and despite the circumstances that are out of our control, there’s still so much we desire out of life. As such, I’ve created a “Reflection & Life Inve...
Jan 04, 2021•8 min•Season 1Ep. 128
New! Stress Management Series to help you (and me) through the end of the year. Based on a talk given earlier this year, Kensi gives practical tools to practice presence and connect with God and others in the process. To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage....
Dec 21, 2020•14 min•Season 1Ep. 127
New! Stress Management Series to help you (and me) through the end of the year. Based on a talk given earlier this year, Kensi gives practical tools and breathing techniques to manage stress and connect with God in the process. To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage even better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage....
Dec 14, 2020•12 min•Season 1Ep. 126
New! Stress Management Series to help all of us through the end of the year. Based on a talk given earlier this year, Kensi gives practical tools to manage stress and connect with God in the process. Sabbath Resources: Breathe, Priscilla Shirer Sacred Rhythms, Haley Ruth Barton Garden City, Jon Mark Comer Sabbath as Resistance, Walter Bruegemann To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week, Evan Duszynski for podcast editing, & you listene...
Dec 07, 2020•12 min•Season 1Ep. 125
If your spouse is disrespectful, and/or you find yourself treating your spouse the same way, then it’s time to set some real relational boundaries for the protection of your mental and emotional health. Below are some questions to ask and next steps to take as you think through setting unilateral boundaries: Identity : Am I relying on others’ praise to fill me up or give me a sense of self? Am I caving in any way to the criticism of others and believing what they say over what God says of me? In...
Nov 16, 2020•20 min•Season 1Ep. 124
Have you ever created or expressed boundaries in your marriage? If not, learning how to create and set boundaries within your relationship may be the key to keeping it healthy. On today’s episode, we discuss setting boundaries around time, space, and decision-making. Here are the questions posed throughout the episode to discuss within your relationship: Time : How do you each prefer to spend your time? Are you and your spouse making it a priority to get the time and space you need to recharge a...
Nov 09, 2020•16 min•Season 1Ep. 123
Three boundaries to consider setting around your relationship toward the end of the year are external circumstances, extended family, and extramarital interests. Action Step: Make this your mantra this week: “My marriage is non-negotiable.” Make a list of any boundary that needs to be set, or that you anticipate having to set through the end of the year. Write down your boundary in black and white, and then read it or communicate it to whoever needs to be told, that your marriage may not only su...
Nov 02, 2020•18 min•Season 1Ep. 122
Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally. Boundaries around your Energy : What relationships bring you life and energy? How can you prioritize these relationships and your time? On the other hand, what relationships tend to drain your energy? Are you in a ...
Oct 26, 2020•13 min•Season 1Ep. 121
Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally. Boundaries on your Time : How do you desire to spend your time? When, and with whom? What pockets of time do you have that you’re unhappy with, or have mixed feelings about, where setting a different boundary may f...
Oct 19, 2020•14 min•Season 1Ep. 120
Do you ever feel like you give and give to others, while your time, energy, and desires are taken for granted? If so, then perhaps some boundaries are in order. Listen in this month to learn what boundaries are in the first place, and how to set boundaries personally and relationally. Questions to Ask Yourself: Are My Boundaries… Clear : Communicated : Enforced : A Good Fit : To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to John Tibbs for the amazing music each week; my husband, Evan, for ...
Oct 12, 2020•18 min•Season 1Ep. 119
Do you know the difference between supporting and enabling? Or what it means to take responsibility for carrying your own load while sharing in each other’s burdens? Listen in to find out - your action step is below: Questions to Ask Yourself: In what ways am I encouraging and empowering the growth and development of my spouse? My kids? What do I find myself doing for my spouse (and my kids) what they can and should do for themselves? How can I take personal responsibility this week to live out ...
Sep 28, 2020•16 min•Season 1Ep. 118
Lasting change requires more than behavior modification. Are you taking responsibility for yourself and the inner work required to make lasting change in your marriage? Listen in to find out. 3 Ways to Know When You’re Acting Out of Deception : You feel like you’re “playing the part,” but you haven’t taken on the new identity for yourself. You’ve modified your behavior, but you haven’t addressed your thoughts or feelings. You feel proud or satisfied when something you say or do elicits YOUR desi...
Sep 21, 2020•18 min•Season 1Ep. 117
You’re responsible to your spouse, not for your spouse. So what does that look like in marriage? How do you do life as a team without taking on too much (or not enough) responsibility? Listen in to learn more. To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to : John Tibbs for the amazing music each week. Evan Duszynski for podcast editing. You, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage....
Sep 14, 2020•17 min•Season 1Ep. 116
What exactly are you responsible for in your marriage? For starters, yourself…not your spouse. Listen in this month to learn how to take responsibility between you in healthy, appropriate ways (less for your spouse and more for yourself). To work with Kensi, visit bravemarriage.com. Thanks to : John Tibbs for the amazing music each week. Evan Duszynski for podcast editing. You, the listener, for tuning each week to make your marriage better. May God be glorified in you and through your marriage....
Sep 07, 2020•20 min•Season 1Ep. 115
