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Supporting a Traumatized Partner in BDSM & Sex

Mar 03, 2026•31 min•Ep. 63
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Episode description

How can you support a partner with trauma while exploring sex or BDSM safely and lovingly? Learn trauma-informed ways to build trust, create emotional safety, and help your partner reconnect with their body, pleasure, and power.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

  • (00:00) - Intro
  • (00:17) - What Is Trauma?
  • (02:36) - How Trauma May Manifest in BDSM
  • (05:33) - How Trauma Impacts Pleasure
  • (06:14) - How Trauma Impacts Power Exchange
  • (07:35) - How to Support a Partner with Trauma
  • (10:02) - Stage 1: Safety & Stabilization
  • (16:59) - Stage 2: Remembrance and Mourning
  • (18:57) - Stage 3: Reconnecting and Integrating
  • (28:27) - Stage 4: Consolidation and Resolution

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🔗 Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair: https://amzn.to/3J21zNr
🔗 PESI: https://www.pesi.com/
🔗 NAMI Family Support Groups: https://www.nami.org/support-education/support-groups/nami-family-support-group/

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